Unable to find someone truly capable of companionship, suddenly find it hard to express the solitude that is so uncomfortable?

Hello, landlord! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

I totally get you. We all have to face life alone at some point and learn to keep ourselves company.

How can you keep yourself company, my friend?

Accompanying means being there for you, lifting you up when you need support and encouragement, and helping you see your shortcomings in a new light so you can be brave.

It's so important to remember that companionship isn't just about other people. It's also about having a good relationship with yourself. Many people find it tough to be alone and don't know how to keep themselves company. It's a really important topic in our lives.

And we can do so much more!

1. Stay active and keep exercise as your best friend!

I know it can be tough to find the time to exercise, but I really think you should make the effort! Not only will it help you to relax your body and mind, but it'll also help you to improve your physical fitness. When you're exercising, you can feel the strength of your body and the joy in your heart. Through exercise, you can help yourself to feel good in your mind and body again!

2. And another great way to keep yourself company is to write!

Writing is a wonderful thing. It has a healing effect. Expressive writing is writing that is done by someone who is feeling a bit down. It helps them to feel better. It is different from other types of writing. These include literature, plays, novels, etc. These are written by people who are feeling happy.

It's totally okay to just let it all hang out on paper! You don't have to worry about whether your handwriting is perfect or if the logic of the content makes sense. Just let your feelings flow out of you as much as you can.

3. Make sure you spend lots of time surrounded by nature!

We humans come from nature, and we are part of nature. It's so simple, really. When we go into nature, we naturally feel relaxed and happy.

When you have a moment, take a walk in nature, go on a trip to a faraway place, see the natural wonders that have always existed, feel the craftsmanship of nature, and feel the ordinariness and greatness of life. You can also go to a nearby grove, sit for a while, walk by a stream full of birdsong and flowers, climb a hill with a hundred flowers in bloom...

When we feel connected to nature, it's as if we're part of something much bigger. We're ordinary and extraordinary at the same time, and we're small but unique. Being in nature and with nature will make you feel relaxed, and your mind will soak up the power from nature, giving you a boost of vitality.

4. Keep painting as your best friend!

Painting is also a wonderful way to heal your heart and mind. When you immerse yourself in creating a painting, you'll feel your heart growing calm and harmonious. You can also use painting to help you heal by creating special mandalas, which can calm your mood. For example, "The Secret Garden" is a great choice.

5. Make books your friends!

Books are wonderful things! They contain so much wisdom, as well as the life experiences and insights of the authors. It's so important to find books that make you feel comfortable, because good books can really heal you. When you read, you can gain so much enlightenment and peace. It's amazing how much it can help you to know how to act!

Of course, we can also listen to books, such as the books in the Yixin Reading Club, as well as audio recordings of courses and articles that interest us. These are my absolute favorite things to do when I'm alone! These courses, books, and articles really give me the best company.

6. Surround yourself with your hobbies, my friend!

There are so many ways to enrich your life and keep yourself busy! Do the things you like, read your favorite books, learn an instrument, join a club, go hiking, go running, paint, meditate, grow flowers and plants, make tea, cook, learn to bake, walk the dog...

Accompanying is so much more than just one thing. It's a rich and varied experience!

Let's talk about work!

If you're feeling a bit lost and uncomfortable at work, I'm here to help.

If we do work that interests us, we can do it with pleasure and even enjoy it! And if you have a particular skill that you can use at work, you will achieve good results with that particular skill.

If you find a way to combine your interests and skills, your career path will be a breeze!

People love spending more time on the things they like! And the longer they devote their attention to them, the better their skills become. For example, someone who likes to paint will naturally spend more time on it, and gradually become better and better at it.

And guess what? We love doing the things we're good at! So, we'll love them even more.

Let's say you're a great cook and your family loves your delicious dishes. You'll feel happy and be excited to spend more time cooking. When you focus on activities that make the most of your skills, you'll enter a state of pleasure and excitement, which we often refer to as "flow."

If you're feeling unsatisfied at work or even dreading the daily commute, it might be time to consider a change.

It's so important to take your interests and skills into account when changing jobs.

It's also good to remember that our family members and friends will often give us realistic advice about our work, which might not always match what we want to do. So, it's important to remind yourself before making a decision that you are the one who will do the work, and no one can replace you. You are more suited to an area that you are interested in or that you are good at.

If someone says, "I haven't thought about my interests," don't worry! Just try thinking about the following questions:

What kinds of activities make you feel really alive and full of energy?

I'd love to know what subjects you enjoy reading or watching in movies!

What are you chatting about that just makes you feel good?

What were you really passionate about when you were a kid?

Your greatest interests might just be in your answers!

Don't forget that work is a way to express your self-worth, and your skills are a great way to do that! For example, skills such as negotiation, painting, photography, and writing.

I hope this is helpful for you! Just a quick note to say "Best regards" ?

I understand your loneliness and difficulties because I'm in the same situation.

You want to make friends but find it hard, and you feel that human nature is complex and that many people are not trustworthy. This is because you are suffering from "basic anxiety."

I'm going to introduce you to the psychological concept of "basic anxiety." It was proposed by the American psychologist Abraham Maslow. It basically means that a person believes that most people in society are hostile towards them.

One important reason for basic anxiety is the fierce competition in modern society. Let's be real, most of the people on your WeChat list are too busy to care about others, let alone share their hearts with you.

If you think it's hard to find a friendly person, it's largely because of the social pressure that has caused many people to be unfriendly. Don't blame yourself for being too introverted or demand that you find good friends in a very short period of time.

Join some interest groups, like a gaming group (if you play games, that is). Even if you can't confide in your group friends, you can still increase your sense of belonging and reduce your feelings of loneliness through socializing. Then find some kind people you used to know and chat with them. You won't have to worry about not finding friends.

I am an introvert, and I have close friends. You can find yours too.