Unfair annual performance, always lingering in your mind? Want to quit but lack the courage to do so?

Hello, question asker.

You know you have a right to be heard and that you have been treated unjustly.

You should get credit for all the work you do.

Your boss doesn't think you're the busiest, but people in other departments do.

The evaluation model you think you should have in your mind—more work, more pay—is different in the eyes of the evaluator. Your leader's evaluation also takes into account their own interests.

Help the leader with a project and you'll benefit too.

Accompanying customers fishing and winning customers is beneficial to the company and to me.

As you mentioned, the stronger your performance, the weaker others will appear in comparison. This is especially true of leaders. The better a subordinate performs, the more they will feel the pressure. And as other colleagues give up some of their own performance to the leader, in the end it is the leader who gets the chance to perform, the leader gets their own performance, and the subordinate gets the promotion and pay rise.

You can get what you want more easily by making sure others get what they want too.

Let the leader get what he wants. It will be easier for you to get a promotion and a pay rise.

I don't know precisely what situation the leader was referring to when he said he didn't know how to speak or what had happened.

From what you just described, it's clear you did a lot of work.

If you complain or say the wrong thing in the wrong place, you're basically saying you haven't done anything at all.

For example, it's not about you. If someone gains a customer but offends another colleague's customer, it's bad for the company. They should take the blame.

You can do it, and you can express it. Making those around you feel comfortable is a skill.

And you can practice this.

You have your own merits, and you should recognize the merits in others. You need to recognize more of the contributions others make.

Praise others more, and be good at spotting the bright spots in others. Your popularity will only get better and better.

Keep a gratitude journal every day. Write about the happy things you feel.

You should also recognize the help you receive.

I am confident that this will be of assistance.

Hello, question asker! I hope I can help you with the following points, based on what I have read in your question and what I understand to be your confusion.

Firstly, with regard to resignation, it is only when you are immediately considering taking that step that it can truly be considered a change. If you have not yet taken any action, it may be more accurate to say that your heart is inclined to remain unchanged. In such a case, it may be helpful to simply allow the situation to unfold as it may, in order to gain a better understanding of how to make adjustments in the future.

It might be unproductive to dwell on it. External evaluations seem to be important to you, but you may lack recognition, especially from authoritative leaders.

Secondly, it is not uncommon for those who are more active in their roles to receive less recognition than those who take on fewer tasks. If you would like to change the evaluation result, it may be helpful to gain a deeper understanding of the leader's evaluation criteria. Following the criteria will be different from doing it blindly.

It is often the case that work needs to be distributed, and it is not always possible to do everything oneself. If you take on everything, you may find that you are unable to do everything well. If you are in a leadership position, it is important to do a good job of leading, and if you are in a business position, it is important to do a good job of business. It is not realistic to expect to be good at everything. If the leader gives you a bad evaluation, you can accept it with humility and consider which aspect you have not done well and whether it is possible for you to improve it.

If you feel that you have the heart for the position but perhaps not the strength, you might consider switching to a job that you enjoy more.

Hello, question asker!

After working hard for a year, you were given a B, which affected your promotion and salary increase. This is upsetting for anyone, especially during the Spring Festival. It's a happy time of year, and to hear something like this is disappointing. You're about to crack, and I can imagine how you feel. I'm here for you!

On top of that, I saw that you got a B for the first six months of the year, which made you really depressed for the second six months. You weren't able to get recognition for your high performance in your three positions. I really don't like seeing that. I also saw your negotiations with your leader. I give you a big thumbs up for being brave!

Sometimes, though, we don't have much power or influence. If you feel like you're beating your head against a brick wall, maybe we should just stop for now. This egg is still the same nutritious egg, so why risk our own lives and let us be crushed to pieces?

It's not a big deal if you don't get a promotion or a pay raise right now. You've got to believe that gold always shines. We're in this situation now, and since we can still get results, I think we'll be OK after we've adjusted. If we're not treated fairly by our leaders even though we've done particularly well year after year, other people will see it too. If it's still like that then, we'll definitely demand an explanation.

My feeling is that we should first figure out why ourselves. There's a transition period. Why do I suggest that you have a transition period? Because I can see that you said this platform is not bad, and although you said that you may earn more after changing jobs, I think it is better for us to prepare more. In other words, during this New Year, you can continue to do this job, and then pay attention to the surrounding environment to see how much is suitable for our work, just in case.

I'm not sure what to say about your second question. You said your leader said you weren't suitable for sales, but didn't you say earlier that you were doing quite well at sales? You said you want to change and you know you need to change. If that's really the case, we should calm down because we've already found the problem and we want to change our bad habits.

Now that we've identified the issue, we'll keep working on it. What about us? When we're doing business, we can make some progress compared to before and speak more. This is our small goal. As long as we can speak two more sentences and show a little more expression this week than last week, that will be our greatest progress.

Let's start with this small change. I believe you will get better every day. You can do it! The world and I love you!

Good morning. You have invested a great deal of effort in your work, taking on three positions simultaneously and achieving quantifiable results. However, these efforts and achievements have not been acknowledged or rewarded with a promotion or a pay increase. Instead, you have been rejected and suppressed by your leader. It is not difficult to imagine the impact this has had on you.

In particular, when one observes a colleague who is adept at catering to the boss's needs and receives superior compensation despite their work being of a less exceptional quality, it can lead to feelings of injustice and resentment.

In the workplace, it is reasonable to expect that performance should be linked to income to a certain extent and that hard work and ability should be recognized. When these expectations are not met, employees may feel that their value has been devalued and that their efforts have been undervalued, which can lead to feelings of self-doubt.

A sense of competence and capability is a valuable asset, as these qualities and abilities are not contingent on the assessment of a leader, nor will they be undermined by the actions of a leader or the environment. They are intrinsic resources. However, instances of unfair treatment and leadership suppression can result in a constant state of psychological depletion, which in turn affects one's capacity to make decisions and initiate change.

Moreover, the decision to change careers is seldom straightforward for most individuals, as a natural inclination towards apprehension and trepidation towards uncertainty and risk is prevalent. The status quo, despite its imperfections, offers a sense of stability and certainty, which provides a sense of security and control.

However, change inevitably entails the unknown. Doubts about the possibility of improvement, the likelihood of success, and one's own capabilities can collectively impede determination and action.

An understanding of the reasons for our difficulty in making decisions can facilitate greater self-acceptance and reduce self-criticism for hesitancy and excessive deliberation. In the context of work-related decisions, it may be beneficial to postpone making decisions for a brief period while prioritizing self-care.

One may begin to care for themselves in their daily lives through the implementation of straightforward exercises. These include the performance of a 15-minute mindfulness meditation session in the morning and evening on a daily basis, the release of stress through the maintenance of an emotional diary or the communication of feelings with a trusted friend when experiencing depression at work, or the performance of physical exercise in accordance with one's time constraints. These activities have the potential to enhance positive physical and mental experiences.

Even if one does not invest a significant amount of time in self-care, the mere perception of having done so can lead to feelings of increased control and energy, which in turn can enhance one's ability to navigate the challenges of life and work.

Subsequently, consider your desired future outcomes. In addition to seeking a departure from the status quo, what are your prospective career trajectories? Envision your desired career state in the subsequent year, two years, three years, and five years.

What changes or preparations might be required to achieve this state, what effort are you willing to expend, and what risks are you willing to assume? If you are unable to decide whether to terminate your employment for the time being, you might as well undertake a trial period of three to six months. During this period, you should seek alternative employment opportunities, adjust the time and energy commitments in your current position (a more balanced work-life arrangement does not entail inactivity), set aside time to acquire the skills you desire, or simply enrich your personal life.

Upon the conclusion of the trial period, a decision can be made as to whether to continue with the current position or to pursue other opportunities. It is possible that new ideas and feelings may emerge during this process.

Hi, I'm Coach Yu from Xin Tan, and I'd like to talk about this topic with you.

First, let's talk about emotions. Emotions are made up of unique experiences that are subjective, external manifestations, and physiological arousal. Each emotion may be an unmet internal demand. When we miss the opportunity for a promotion or pay rise, we feel sad; when we lose a treasured possession we have had for many years, we feel angry.

As the questioner wrote, at the end of the year, I got a B for my performance review, and I broke down when I saw it. I suffered for months afterwards. As they say, it's not lack of resources that causes suffering, it's unequal distribution; it's not poverty that causes suffering, it's restlessness.

After a rough year, no one would be happy to face this.

We can ask ourselves what we think when we're told we haven't done well after raising an objection to our supervisor. What emotions and feelings does that bring up for us?

We can also ask ourselves what we think when we learn that our colleague in charge of the East District has received an A. What are your thoughts on that?

We can also ask ourselves what we want when we think about lying down or change.

If I were to quit my job, what would I want? And if I could ask the conflicts and depression that are stuck in my chest, what would they say to me?

It's important to remember that emotions aren't good or bad. When we're aware of negative emotions, we can ask ourselves, "What am I worried about? What does this remind me of?"

When we start to accept our emotions and let them flow, we're less likely to engage in distorted behaviors caused by emotional suppression. We can also try to record what our feelings are at the moment.

Your writing is just for you, so feel free to write about your feelings honestly. This will help us understand where your emotions come from and what impact they have, as well as help us figure out the root cause of the problem.

Now, getting back to quitting your job, it doesn't matter what stage of your career you're at, people will always have doubts, "Is this really the right job for me?" Even executives and elites from the world's top 500 companies often think about changing careers and quitting to further their studies.

Since getting this evaluation, the questioner has been thinking about resigning, but knows that's not the solution to the underlying problem.

But when we start thinking about the word "resignation," it can really get under your skin. It not only affects your work performance, but also makes you think about it from time to time, affecting your mood. As the questioner said, it's a conflict and a dilemma.

If we really want to resign, we should ask ourselves if we're "chasing" or "running away." If the reason for our resignation is "running away" rather than "chasing," we'll often run into similar workplace issues in our new workplace and fall into the strange cycle of constantly resigning and constantly looking for a job.

If you're looking to advance your career, improve your quality of life, or just need more time and space, then you should consider resigning, even if it means leaving without notice.

Finally, let's talk about the present. Life isn't always as good or as bad as we think it is. We all hope for a promotion and a pay raise, and that our efforts will be rewarded. But reality is often not ideal. The more we think about it, the more we will become entangled, and the more anxious we become, the harder it will be to accept. Try to accept your true self, accept the current situation with an open mind, and don't be too hard on yourself for your setbacks.

Take a good look at your strengths and weaknesses. Use your strengths to your advantage and work on your weaknesses one by one. If you're not sure how to talk to people, start with family and friends. If you're new to business, you can still explore business opportunities in the Eastern District, even if you were transferred last year. Sometimes it's not that things are too difficult, but that the results are too slow in coming.

Of course, we can ask for help because if something bothers you, it can be tough to overcome it right away. Try to find a family member or friend you trust and who has always given you positive support to talk to, to express your feelings and accept them.

If you think it would help, you can also ask a counselor or join a support group. It's important to face and accept your inner shadows so that negative thoughts can slowly start to disappear.

Ultimately, we need to enrich our inner selves and discover our unique value. As the questioner wrote, I know I need to make some changes this year. It's important to have an ordinary heart, because an ordinary heart is a calm confidence, and confidence is a firm ordinary heart.

I'd highly recommend reading "The Biography of Su Dongpo."

Hello! I'm Gu Daoxifeng, a heart exploration coach, and I'm excited to be here!

After reading the questioner's description, it's clear that many people in the workplace are facing similar challenges. I totally get where the questioner is coming from. Let's give the questioner a big hug!

There's a colleague in our company who, in our opinion, has room for improvement in the workplace. He's not the fastest, and he could be more efficient. But he's a great guy! He's liked by his leader. A colleague of mine once asked me a question: why does the leader like this? My reply at the time was that when operations are stable, leaders also need emotional value. This colleague is great at getting along with others and also satisfies a certain expectation of the leader. But after all, this is the way a minority of people work. If the whole company worked this way, the leader's attitude might be different.

From the questioner's description, I can feel the questioner's grievance. What the questioner may care about is not the evaluation itself, but the impact on salary and rank after the evaluation, which is actually a fluctuation in material interests. But if this constraint is removed, would the questioner still care whether the evaluation is A or B?

Maybe not—but who knows what the future holds?

Let's dive in and explore the composition of the value of the position! We'll look at the value to the leader, the value to the upstream department, the value to the downstream department, the final transformation results of the value, and the representativeness of the value.

Now, let's talk to our leaders!

It would be great to know whether our contribution meets the leader's performance indicators, whether it solves the leader's most urgent needs at the moment, and whether it provides emotional value to the leader. Try talking to your leader, and you may have some deeper insights!

It would be really interesting to find out whether the management cost of oneself is relatively high in the eyes of the leader, and whether one's ability and temper may make it difficult for the leader to manage. It would also be great to find out whether one is worried about one's position in the workplace, leading to a sense of guarding against and suppressing.

The company has chosen your leader for a reason! While it's not easy to say no, understanding the leader's style could help you make the most of the situation.

To the upstream and downstream departments,

It's undeniable that there are things that are dedicated to solving problems for junior staff and don't fall within the scope of the leadership's big picture. But that just means there's an opportunity for you to show your value to the leadership in other ways!

But if you really go for it, you'll make an impact on those collaborative departments that support each other. This may be a battle of responsibility, and it is not a matter of who can ignore it and do nothing in front of the leader.

Let's talk about the amazing, quantifiable value of things!

We always say that heroes put out fires! That's because heroes can quickly eliminate the problems that are visible to the naked eye and solve the urgent problem.

However, the important things that prevent minor problems from becoming major ones are not unimportant. It is just that the leader was unable to realize the severity of the problem after it had broken out, so it was overlooked in the process. This is not the fault of the question asker, who is doing a great job!

Let's dive into the influence of corporate culture!

The bottom line is what counts! Sometimes hard work has nothing to do with credit. The questioner may indeed have done a lot, but if what they did is not what the leader wants, their efforts may not be easily seen. The questioner is not particularly good at expressing themselves, but that's okay! We can help them bridge the gap. Please allow me to give the questioner a hug.

It may be difficult for us to change the environment, but the questioner can try to ask themselves how to get the result they want to the greatest extent!

It's time to understand your leader's expectations and exchange feelings and expectations with them! From the questioner's description, it's clear that the leader wants a business-oriented employee. The questioner has the chance to meet his expectations and show him what they can do together!

~It's time to clarify your career goals and competitiveness! If there's no room for you at the moment, why not consider looking for a better company that suits you better? Let the leader regret alone that he didn't retain your talent!

It doesn't matter how amazing the platform is if the leader doesn't give you a chance, so it's time to take control! The questioner can assess the difficulty of changing the leader and themselves, and then get to work reorganizing their own behavior.

~Focus on the present! Don't let your mind run away with you. You've got this! Start with small goals and gradually break out of your comfort zone.

You can do it! Try to reconcile with yourself. Not all stepping out of your comfort zone will lead to a good result, but expanding your comfort zone will expand your territory. You might try to first determine your direction and then slowly adjust.

There's an online saying that I just love: "It is said online that the moats of a career are: transferability, weak substitutability, and the ability to bring value." I think it's absolutely true! And it's so inspiring to see how trying to create your own career moat can help you gain a foothold in the long run and reduce the impact of current emotions.

I'd highly, highly recommend reading "5% Change," "A Single Thought Turned Around," "I'm Really Great," "Cognitive Awakening," and "Upward Management." They're absolutely amazing and will really help you break through that deadlock!

Wishing you the best!

Hello, questioner! I am June Lai Feng.

From reading your narrative, I understand your feelings: confusion, anxiety, injustice, etc. It is common to care about what others think, but you don't need to lie down or reduce your efforts because of it.

You must consider your decision to resign carefully, as it is a major career decision. Your anxiety stems from the absolute nature of cognitive errors.

It is a fact that feeling unfairly treated in a year-end performance review can trigger a complex range of psychological reactions.

First, there is cognitive dissonance, which occurs when there is an inconsistency between an individual's expectations and the actual outcome. This causes psychological discomfort. When a person feels that their efforts have not been fairly evaluated, they may feel anger, disappointment, or frustration.

Now is the time to calm down and change your perception. Fairness is relative. There is no absolute fairness, just as there is no absolute stillness.

It is affected by various factors. Different people or groups often have different interests and goals, which makes achieving absolute fairness difficult in some cases.

Everyone's understanding and perception of fairness differs depending on their values, experiences, and backgrounds. Fairness usually involves the distribution of resources, but resources are limited while people's needs and desires are unlimited.

Therefore, when allocating resources, choices must be made, and these choices are often influenced by various factors, such as power, wealth, and influence. These factors complicate and make it difficult to achieve fairness.

It is also essential to consider individual differences when it comes to equity. Given that everyone possesses unique abilities, opportunities, and backgrounds, it is challenging to evaluate and treat them all equally.

Everyone has different experiences, emotions, and prejudices, so it's only natural that perceptions of fairness will differ.

Understanding this helps us view the world more tolerantly and motivates us to work towards creating a more just and equal social environment.

Second, it can trigger feelings of impaired self-esteem. Individuals may question their own worth and abilities, especially if they see performance evaluations as an important measure of their success.

Long-term damage to self-esteem inevitably leads to negative self-perceptions and a loss of motivation. Long-term negative emotions inevitably lead to burnout and resignation, affecting an individual's overall well-being.

It can also lead to feelings of mistrust, especially if the individual perceives the assessment process as biased or opaque. Mistrust will damage relationships with leadership and reduce one's own loyalty and engagement with the company.

If you are very concerned about achievements or the approval of others, then you will undoubtedly feel the impact of evaluations.

It is crucial to let go of negative emotions that constantly nag at you. You must realize that evaluations are not always accurate or comprehensive. Paying too much attention to them will only cause you unnecessary stress and anxiety.

Rebuild your sense of self-worth. We often determine our own value and abilities through the opinions of others.

If you are uncertain about your self-image, you will become more dependent on the opinions of others for your sense of self-worth. If you place a high value on achievement or the approval of others, then opinions will have a greater impact on you.

Discover your strengths, values, and goals. Through self-reflection and self-exploration, you can become confident in your intrinsic value and less dependent on the opinions of others.

Don't take criticism personally. It's just someone else's opinion. Everyone has different perspectives and standards, and criticism doesn't define you.

Focus on your internal motivation and interests, not just trying to gain the approval of others. Find something you love and work hard at it.

However, being concerned about evaluation is not a bad thing. It can motivate you to keep improving and growing. Find a balance so that evaluation becomes a driving force for you, rather than a heavy burden.

You want to quit, but you don't have the courage to do so.

You must consider other aspects of your job before making the decision to quit. Think about the content of your work, opportunities for career development, and the working environment. These factors are important for your overall satisfaction.

You must also consider factors such as your financial situation, market conditions, and personal career plan to ensure that you are fully prepared. Do not allow an unfair evaluation to deny your own value, and believe in your own abilities and potential.

Make the choice that is best for you based on your own situation and values. It's perfectly normal if you need more time and to think it over.

You want to quit, but you lack the courage. You're afraid of the uncertainty of the future, worried about not being able to find a new job, or that the new job may not be as good as the current one. You lack confidence in your abilities or market competitiveness, and you're afraid of not being able to succeed in your career.

This is simply a sense of discomfort brought about by changes that make people hesitant.

It is crucial to understand the reasons for resigning and the objectives you hope to achieve through this decision. If you have made the decision to resign, take the step courageously. Changing jobs is a common part of career development. Find the right environment for yourself and you will experience personal growth and job satisfaction.

My narrative will help you.

The world and I love you, and I guarantee you happiness!

Good morning, my name is Xin Tan and I am coaching Fei Yun. Life is a beautiful journey, not for appreciation, but for blooming.

The results of the year-end appraisal evoke feelings of annoyance. This result, including the verdict passed down by one's leader, is akin to a "magic spell," prompting the individual to believe that they are undeserving, unqualified, and unsuited for their role in sales.

1. Limitations: Trust can impede one's potential and even one's lifespan.

As previously stated, you have gained some insight, yet when confronted with specific circumstances, you find yourself unable to progress.

Let us begin by examining a few of the limiting beliefs that you have expressed.

(1) The appraisal result represents an evaluation of the individual in question. It is important to note that the appraisal result is only an overall evaluation of the individual's work performance at a specific point in time.

The evaluation system itself is limited in its scope. It is akin to the ranking of students in an academic examination, where there is a natural hierarchy of performance.

There is a certain proportion to the units ABCD. For leaders, they must also consider the relative merits of each option and make an overall assessment. How can absolute fairness be achieved in this context?

(2) Is work truly about promotion and pay raises?

One might inquire whether this is indeed the case.

You have indicated that you are assuming the responsibilities of three individuals while receiving inadequate compensation. This suggests that you retain a sense of responsibility and a comprehensive perspective, yet you are currently experiencing an emotional state that has led to confusion regarding your life plan and direction.

The motivation to work is derived from a multitude of factors, both external and internal. External factors include income and promotion, while internal factors encompass the pursuit of a sense of self-worth.

(3) When confronted with circumstances that are perceived as unfavorable, individuals may consider alternative options, such as resignation or attributing responsibility to external factors. This behavior can be seen as a form of escapism, whereby individuals attempt to circumvent the necessity for accountability.

In the event of an issue arising, it is imperative to consider the extent of responsibility that can be attributed to oneself. Even in instances where one is not directly accountable for the outcome, there is often the potential to exert influence through the implementation of corrective measures.

The decision is always within one's control. If one is reluctant to assume responsibility, pursue a different position or occupation, yet continues to adhere to established patterns, the result will be a continuation of the same trajectory with no discernible alteration in the outcome.

There are numerous additional limiting beliefs, which will not be enumerated individually here. It should be noted, however, that it is not any particular person, object, or word that truly traps us; rather, it is our inner beliefs that do so.

It is a fundamental tenet of psychology that beliefs determine our emotions, which in turn influence our behavior. Consequently, if one alters one's perspective, the world will immediately seem wider.

It is recommended that you familiarise yourself with the concepts of "A Change of Heart" and "Lifetime Growth" in order to develop a growth mindset and gain a broader perspective.

2. Replace the phrase "seeking outside" with "cultivating inside."

It is beneficial to be motivated and pursue progress. You are not content with receiving a grade of "B," and you proactively communicate with your leader to provide feedback. Why not attempt to communicate with a different mindset?

In lieu of questioning the results, it would be more beneficial to ascertain the leader's perception of A. This allows for personal growth and improvement while simultaneously demonstrating to the leader one's high emotional intelligence and effective communication abilities.

One might inquire as to how an individual's value and life can be defined by an examination or a single person's words. It can be posited that if one has effective communication with their leader, they will also have effective communication with their customers.

One need not prove oneself to others; one can merely demonstrate that one has the right to choose and that one can change. As the adage goes, "Gold always shines," but the quality of that shine depends on the purity of the gold. Similarly, the efficacy of an "instant result" depends on the height of the pole.

It is my sincere hope that the above will prove to be of some assistance to you. With best wishes, [Your name]

Should you wish to continue the communication, you are invited to follow my personal homepage, entitled "Heart Exploration Service."

Your frustration is understandable. How can you make a choice that suits you and analyze it more rationally?

Factual level:

1. You assume significant responsibilities and undertake a substantial workload.

"I am responsible for the work of three positions, one of which is a leadership role, and I am also mentoring a junior colleague. In addition, I am responsible for training new employees. Furthermore, I was assigned to an external assignment this year, which presented a significant challenge."

2. Work results are significant.

"I was able to bring back twice as many business opportunities as the Eastern District, several times more than the other districts, and the Eastern District market was even better than my district." You can work well and have outstanding abilities.

The negative experience was as follows:

1. The year-end performance evaluation is a B.

This resulted in the unfortunate consequence of not receiving a promotion or a pay increase this year, along with a reduction in my year-end bonus, which is a matter of significant concern for me in my professional capacity.

2. Comparing yourself with colleagues in the Eastern District gives rise to feelings of unfairness.

The colleague in charge of the East District received an A and high praise from the leader. In your opinion, this is because this colleague assisted the leader with projects and accompanied customers fishing, which is not his actual job. Furthermore, his behavior was evaluated as the worst because he can talk nonsense and lie casually, and the leader can accept it.

It is difficult to accept a colleague who behaves in this way and receives a higher evaluation than you, which causes disappointment.

3. Negative feedback from the supervisor.

"My leader has consistently indicated that I am not suited to sales because I am not adept at communication. He has also suggested that sales requires a specific skill set, implying that I should consider alternative career paths."

The leader has assigned you a significant workload, has been critical of your performance, and has expressed reservations about your abilities. This leader may simply have a negative impression of you. Is that an accurate assessment?

[Your dilemma]

1. The company platform is satisfactory, but the company is reducing its workforce and there are no other positions available.

2. You believe the position will provide a challenging opportunity for professional growth.

3. You believe that a change of employment will not address the underlying issue.

4. You believe that the remuneration offered by alternative employers will be significantly higher than your current salary.

In listing the sticking points, were there any new discoveries?

Please describe your expectations of the workplace.

You have indicated that your primary motivation for remaining in your current position is the prospect of a promotion and a pay increase. Should these not materialize, you have indicated that you would consider leaving your current position.

If you believe that a promotion and salary increase are the most important factors in your career value ranking and that your salary will be higher elsewhere, what is causing your indecision?

2. What is the core issue you aim to resolve?

(1) The leader's evaluation?

The leader's preferences are perceived as unfair and cause significant frustration. There is a sense that abilities and hard work are being overlooked or even dismissed.

The leader's evaluation directly affects your performance and potential for advancement. Is it possible to influence this evaluation?

(2) Your approach to work

On the one hand, you are aware of the type of person your leader prefers, similar to the colleague in charge of the eastern district. Conversely, that style of work is not aligned with your strengths and likely not a priority for you. You believe in relying on your true abilities.

However, the colleague in question benefited, which led to the belief that self-change was necessary. This must have caused significant distress, as it was not the desired outcome. As a result, there was a period of depression in the second half of the year.

The underlying issue is that you do not fully accept yourself. You also aspire to become a more communicative and diplomatic individual, but you are currently holding yourself back from achieving this.

What is the solution to this fundamental problem?

1. Accept yourself.

You have stated that you are unable to perform well in areas outside of your expertise. However, your exemplary work speaks for itself. Do your beliefs align with reality?

Is being a good communicator a prerequisite for success in business?

You accept the negative feedback you receive at face value, allowing it to define you. Is this an example of being passive-aggressive?

2. Conduct a review of your work.

It is important to remember that work is only one aspect of life. There are two main objectives that people may have in their careers: material benefits, such as promotion and pay rise, or recognition of their value.

Or both.

Are you familiar with the feeling of "wanting but not being able to have"? Does it occur in your professional life from time to time?

Please describe the connection you see between this and the previous item.

Do you feel this strongly about this, and is it related to some experience of growth?

3. Personal Development

It is important to note that other people's opinions and external benefits are not something that can be obtained simply by desiring them. When we improve and grow, all the gains are ours alone and have no bearing on the external world.

"Gold always shines," and your contributions will be recognized. Colleagues in other departments also see your hard work. What's more, even if no one sees it, you are responsible for your own success.

It is important to allow yourself to feel fulfilled, as being alone can be as beneficial as being surrounded by others.

If one is preoccupied with a particular concern, it may be indicative of a degree of self-absorption. It is possible to release one's ego and forgive. In order to foster a loving and suitable relationship or career, it is essential to develop the capacity to truly love others, adapt to people and situations, and correct one's energy field.

To truly love others is to wish and give others happiness, and to do so for everyone, regardless of their status or circumstances. Psychologically, one should accept and forgive, or let go of the ego and forgive. If there are mistakes or shortcomings, then one should be able to correct them. Everyone has the right to happiness. People can bring each other spiritual comfort and even joy. It is beneficial to love and accept others and oneself, to tolerate shortcomings and deficiencies, and to be kind at heart. That is, one should not despise or reject ordinary people, nor should one be jealous or intolerant of outstanding people.

If one does not resonate with the magnetic fields of others, it can result in the accumulation of negative energy, which may manifest as emotional distress. To foster positive relationships and careers, it is essential to cultivate genuine affection for others, adapt to their nuances, and align one's energy field with that of compatible individuals. Sharing one's experiences, thoughts, and interests with others, both in person and online, can facilitate the formation of connections and the discovery of compatible relationships and opportunities.

Furthermore, it is important to embrace a positive outlook on life and to appreciate the smaller, more mundane aspects of existence.

Negative energy can have a detrimental impact on one's health. To maintain bodily comfort and wellbeing, it is recommended to engage in comprehensive body massage. The head massage encompasses the forehead and face, which also possess meridian pathways. It is advised to perform deep and firm manual massage, utilize a firm massage comb on the head, and refrain from pressing the stomach on an empty stomach.

If one is experiencing negative emotions or thoughts, a lack of comfort and health, numerous challenges that are difficult to overcome, interpersonal conflicts, relationship or family problems (magnetic field problems), or even difficulties in school or career, it is likely due to an excessive focus on oneself and a buildup of negative energy. As one becomes more self-centered, their magnetic field becomes misaligned with that of others. It is essential to learn how to genuinely care for others, adapt to different individuals and circumstances, and align one's energy field to prevent or reduce negative emotions, resolve conflicts, enhance interpersonal relationships, and better address the aforementioned issues. If necessary, one can also assist those around them in their growth and transformation.