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The questioner confesses that he has no motivation to study, but it seems that he has to study. What an exciting opportunity for growth! What should he do?
[Situation analysis]
When we grow up, we often find that there is so much to learn, and we don't know where to start. But that's okay! After learning one thing, we worry that we haven't learned another, but that's just because there are so many amazing things to learn. We can't learn them all at once, but that's okay too!
It's so easy to fall into this kind of mood! And then, before you know it, you're belittling yourself for not acting or for being "incapable."
So, how do we break out of this emotional cycle and get moving?
A self-deprecation
In psychology, there is an amazing effect called the Pygmalion effect, which is also commonly known as the expectation effect. This effect shows that we can become whatever we want to be, thanks to the power of expectation!
So, when we think we are incapable, we often act like we are incapable, thus convincing ourselves that we are indeed inferior. But here's the thing: when we encounter the next problem, we will once again feel that we may not have the strength to solve it. And guess what? We can change that! We can break out of this emotional cycle and get moving.
And there's more! We haven't even started trying yet. You have every right to believe you can achieve your goals. So, before we even start, let's believe in our ability to collect and absorb information effectively and act on that belief!
B. Lack of a sense of achievement
This is something we can easily overcome!
A sense of achievement is a major source of happiness and one of the motivations that drives us forward. It's one of the best feelings in the world! Part of our self-doubt comes from the lack of a sense of achievement. This is because the sense of achievement is largely due to the fact that we have achieved a goal or accomplished something.
This accomplishment is a huge source of positive feedback, telling us that we have the strength to achieve our goals and strengthening our affirmation of ourselves.
However, there's another reason we might not achieve our goals: we have too many things to do at once! We may set our goals too high, so that we don't have any waypoints to gain a sense of achievement along the way. But there's a simple solution: we can set smaller, more achievable goals. This way, we can gain a sense of accomplishment along the way, and we'll be more likely to stick with our goals until they're achieved!
So, if we set big goals without refining them, we might lose the wonderful feeling of accomplishment we get from achieving small goals. And that's a shame! We should definitely keep up with our small goals to keep that wonderful feeling alive!
C. Fear of missing out
The incredible pace of change in today's digital world brings with it a fascinating challenge: how to collect and process all the information that's out there. It's a thrilling time to be alive!
The fear of missing out (FOMO) is a common problem in today's society, where the Internet is developing extremely rapidly.
Since there's so much new information coming at us all the time, it's natural to worry that we might be missing something, not keeping up with the latest trends, or not understanding the latest buzzwords. But it's also a great opportunity to learn and grow!
Similarly, this explosion of information can also lead to a build-up of redundant information and difficulty in distinguishing between true and false information. But don't worry! Sorting and categorizing this information can consume a lot of our time and energy.
The world is constantly evolving, and new information is always emerging! This means we get to repeat the three steps of "search, identify, and categorize" over and over again. It's a great opportunity to engage with new ideas and information.
New information will one day become old information, just like new clothes that will be called outdated styles after a few months. Whether or not to follow trends and whether or not to pursue new information depends on personal views. And that's what makes it so exciting!
But when this affects our lives, we should stop and think: is it worth it? Absolutely!
We could try understanding new information in a different way: we could wait until we come across something related that interests us, and then find out more about it. This has the advantage of gaining new knowledge, spending time on something that interests us, and knowing what's new in our field of interest.
As for other areas that don't interest us, we'll deal with them when they arise. No one will say anything if we occasionally slack off a bit – and we won't do that anyway!
Gathering information that will be encountered, choosing a fixed time to read and absorb it. Both refining the big goals and gaining a sense of accomplishment in the process, giving yourself positive feedback and confidence to continue.
There's no better way to reduce internal conflict and increase motivation to learn than to take action!
You can never go wrong by taking action! And you can always change course while you're doing it. Constantly thinking about what you might encounter and thinking about ways to deal with it is a sign of being well prepared.
But, to fear the perceived enemy, to think that one is inadequate, to believe that one can do nothing well—this is simply not true!
We may find that our reluctance to perform a particular task or duty is driven by the following factors:
It's time to conquer your deepest insecurities!
It's time to conquer your worries about uncertainty!
The erroneous belief that "I can't do it."
But you can!
* Ambiguous values.
Let's dive in and explore this one together!
* A jam-packed schedule that keeps you on your toes!
Let's make sure you're getting enough quality sleep at night!
It's time to start building those intimate and supportive interpersonal relationships!
And there are other factors too!
Once you've identified the factors affecting your learning mood, you can start making changes! With constant self-awareness and subtle changes, you'll be amazed at how things can change for the better.
We really hope these methods help you!
You can do it! Change takes time and patience, but you can do it. Don't worry or be afraid. Many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems, and you can get through this too!
The world and I are with you, and we're here to support you every step of the way! I wish you an early solution to the fog in your heart and the discovery of your own most comfortable state.
A huge thank you to everyone who has liked and commented on my posts! I wish you all peace and joy!
Comments
Sometimes when motivation is low, setting tiny, manageable goals can help. Just start with something very small that feels achievable, and build from there. Also, finding a learning buddy or a community can make the journey less lonely and more enjoyable.
It's okay to feel unmotivated sometimes; it happens to everyone. Try to connect your learning to a bigger purpose or a personal passion. This connection can reignite your interest and give you the push you need to begin.
Consider changing your environment to boost your mood for learning. A new setting, even just rearranging your space, can refresh your mindset. Additionally, rewarding yourself after completing tasks can create positive reinforcement for your efforts.
Reflect on what specifically is blocking your drive. Is it fear, perfectionism, or something else? Once identified, address these issues directly. Maybe talking to someone about them or writing them down can clear some of the hurdles you're facing.