Weak communication and comprehension skills, not sure what kind of work to look for? Can you help me sort it out?

Hello, questioner!

From your description, I can tell you're a sensitive soul. I'd love to know what made you contract tuberculosis, rather than answering your question, because the body knows the answer to all life's doubts. I don't know if your body was inherently weaker, and you always feel like your personality lacks a little fire. Have you ever thought deeply about these questions?

I highly recommend reading the book The Body Knows the Answer by Wu Zhihong. It's a fantastic way to gain a deeper understanding of what your body is trying to tell you!

You seem sensitive, delicate, timid, and depressed. When things happen, you prioritize other people's feelings. I'm not sure if my judgment is correct, but I think you should take the MBTI personality test first. All changes must start with understanding yourself. Maybe you don't think you have enough understanding ability, and you have set a lot of self-limitations for yourself. But you can change that! High sensitivity is also a kind of talent. It's just that over the years, you have been limited by timidity and inferiority, so you haven't seen your own talent. You haven't practiced and studied hard enough to develop your talent. But you can!

As the saying goes, sharpening the knife does not delay the firewood cutting. Since you have already taken the first step to taking care of your body, why not take the next step and start taking care of your mind as well? All changes must start with the mind. I don't know if you have a family in real life or if you have children. If you don't have too much financial pressure, I highly recommend that you seek long-term psychological counseling. A stable and sustained counseling relationship is the most powerful support for people to undergo transformation.

If you are under financial pressure, you can choose to educate yourself on the amazing Yi Xinli platform! There are so many people who are as confused as you are, and they will ask questions just like you. You can learn about the rich and colorful human nature and inner world, and see the different perspectives of the answerers on the questions. There are also many free courses on the platform, which are all spiritual food for self-growth!

My name is Zhang Huili, and I'm a psychological counselor. I've grown on the Yixinli platform, and my life has undergone tremendous changes for the better. I'm also using what I've learned to help others, which is incredibly rewarding. Based on your experience, you've probably passed the age of 30. I wish you an early life free of confusion!

From your description, it is evident that you are aware of your shortcomings and perceive yourself to be inadequate, which subsequently leads to feelings of helplessness and depression.

As a psychotherapist, I would like to discuss my understanding of this issue from a psychological perspective. This perspective is based on three key concepts: knowledge, emotion, and will. When our cognitive abilities are insufficient, we experience negative emotions such as "I can't do this" or "I'm not good at that." Additionally, self-deprecation, self-negation, lack of motivation, and weakened willpower can also lead to failure.

Let us consider an alternative perspective. What are your strengths? What activities do you engage in that bring you joy, and for how long have you been engaged in these activities?

It is evident from your description that you have a logical and meticulous mind, and that you think clearly about things. You have plans and summaries, which are all valuable resources.

Furthermore, those who have been engaged in a particular pursuit for an extended period of time often exhibit the capacity to persevere, demonstrate perseverance, and possess the willingness to work diligently and reflectively. They frequently exhibit a robust sense of self-awareness and a high level of psychological mentalization.

It is essential to gain an understanding of oneself, to identify one's strengths and weaknesses, to fully utilise one's strengths, to study assiduously, and to modify and adjust one's shortcomings. Only through this process can one become better, accept one's imperfections, and begin from the fundamentals. This is a process that can be undertaken by anyone.

It is possible that your personality traits are introversion, low self-esteem, or social phobia. This is not your fault, and it is closely related to your upbringing and your relationship with your parents in your original family. Children who are not affirmed, seen, or paid attention to from the outside are internally self-denying and self-deprecating, internalizing external evaluations and always feeling that they can't do anything well. When you can connect your internal subjective assumptions with external objective facts, it is also a way of integration, and you will not look at yourself and what you do in a one-sided way. This process takes time. The world and I love you, and you have to learn to love yourself. Adopting another perspective that appreciates yourself will enable you to discover that you are also great, regardless of the work you do. With effort, we can learn anything.

It is also possible to achieve great things. Let us strive to do so.

Good morning. Based on your question, I believe it can be divided into two parts: 1. Understanding yourself, and 2. Identifying suitable work. I see a clear connection between these two questions: first, I need to understand myself well enough to determine what kind of work suits me.

It is challenging to gain a comprehensive understanding of oneself. Many individuals seek guidance from assessment scales and career planners, such as the Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), the Enneagram test, the Holland career assessment, and others. These tools are based on a specific understanding of the individual to develop a strategic direction. They can provide a general understanding of an individual's preferences and aptitudes.

From my perspective as a counselor, I would prioritize the first question. From your final description, I perceive a sense of powerlessness and inferiority. However, merely acknowledging this is insufficient for me to understand you or help you understand yourself.

It appears that this sense of powerlessness may be the primary challenge that requires immediate attention. Additionally, from your description, it seems that you are focusing on your objective experience, and there seems to be a lack of consideration for your personal capabilities.

I would like to inquire as to whether you have considered your future career aspirations and the types of work you enjoy.

Our possibilities are shaped by our desires. Just as we know that Edison was not born to invent the light bulb, we need to work in a place where we are "willing" to work at least. However, I do not believe you have lost your motivation. Otherwise, any simple job would be satisfactory for you, and you would not have asked this question.

Let us return to the original point, which is that as you gain a deeper understanding of yourself, you will be able to identify a wider range of potential career paths.

I hope you will find further assistance in psychological counseling.

The questioner displays many commendable qualities.

My name is Kelly Shui.

Your question demonstrates a number of positive attributes.

It is evident that you possess the qualities of responsibility, patience, and attentiveness.

The work experience process over the past 14 years has been a challenging one, requiring patience, concentration, and cooperation from individuals. The entire process is completed independently by the subject.

A responsible person is the most reliable employee, and the process itself, though tedious, fosters patience, attentiveness, and other valuable skills.

In light of the aforementioned considerations, it is my personal opinion that the following advice should be heeded:

A person of responsibility will perform well in any position; thus, the questioner should consider gaining a more diverse work experience.

For example, one might consider a change of position. In my observation, many young women in the workplace tend to feel that they lack the requisite capabilities after graduation. They often ascribe to themselves a label of introversion, suggesting that they are unsuitable for other roles.

2: If one is able to perform the duties of one's current position in an exemplary manner, it would be prudent to consider assuming a more challenging role within the organization, such as a sales position, which may offer greater financial compensation. Sales can be an excellent avenue for training and developing individuals' comprehensive abilities.

3: It is recommended that you explore your potential by, for example, switching to a management position, learning human resources management, and using your spare time to recharge.

[Know yourself]

I frequently inquire of myself in life, if I were to have the option, what would I most desire to do?

What type of work would be conducive to my happiness?

What kind of life do I aspire to lead?

What characteristics would an ideal self possess?

Furthermore, it is essential to consider what one hopes to see when reflecting on one's own self.

As previously stated, my initial position was that of a clerk in a design institute. I would pose the following question to myself:

I inquire of myself, "Do I like this kind of life for the remainder of my days?" I then respond to this question in order to ascertain my true preferences.

I am not satisfied with this situation. What are your preferences?

I enjoy engaging with others.

What, then, are the jobs in the company that involve more contact with people?

The two fields are human resources and sales.

I subsequently enrolled in a course of study in human resources, with the expectation that I would be able to earn a higher income through hard work.

Given my recent transition into a sales role, it is crucial for me to have a well-defined objective, one that aligns with my personal interests and that I am willing to pursue with dedication. This approach will facilitate my self-discovery and enable me to gain a deeper understanding of my strengths and preferences.

Indeed, it can be argued that individuals are best positioned to understand themselves and their responsibilities. The capacity to take responsibility for oneself is arguably the greatest responsibility one bears in life.

In 2016, I was introduced by a classmate to a company as a merchandising clerk. I was previously unaware of the distinction between the roles and assumed that I was fulfilling the responsibilities of a merchandising clerk.

It is evident that the question owner has established a positive rapport with his colleagues and has also garnered their trust and assistance. The question owner employed the term "dazed."

For the purposes of this discussion, I will assume that:

1. The question owner exhibits trust in his classmates, yet there seems to be a lack of clarity regarding the specifics of his work.

As previously stated, it is crucial to assume responsibility for one's own actions. This entails a process of self-reflection and questioning, particularly regarding the job introduced by a classmate.

Should you find the task agreeable, it would be prudent to embrace it wholeheartedly.

In the event that the task is not to your liking, would you be inclined to decline participation with your classmates?

In order to take responsibility for oneself and love oneself, it is first necessary to learn to be aware, think independently, and then make a choice. The most important factor is one's emotional state and the decision made.

2: Upon discovering that the position was not aligned with your preferences, what actions did you take?

For example, it would be beneficial to engage in dialogue with your classmates to gain a deeper understanding of their perspectives and to facilitate a constructive exchange of ideas. It may also be helpful to openly discuss your feelings to gain clarity and to identify potential areas for improvement.

3: Based on the text provided by the questioner, it is evident that the individual in question possesses clear and competent work abilities.

You demonstrated proficiency in both your initial and subsequent employment.

The questioner can therefore be encouraged to develop greater confidence and trust in themselves.

4: There is no inherent problem with your work ability. You may wish to consider adopting a more bold approach in order to be yourself, although it is possible that you may still experience some degree of uncertainty in this regard.

5: Through personal growth, the questioner can identify a counselor with whom to discuss their authentic thoughts, potential, and the possibility of repressed emotions.

[Sudden tuberculosis, forced to leave work for recuperation]

In light of the questioner's mention of physical problems, an investigation was conducted to ascertain whether there might be an occupational correlation.

Tuberculosis is associated with various occupational settings, including the silicon lung in the dust industry. Individuals with silicon lungs are at a markedly elevated risk for developing tuberculosis. Those engaged in nursing work are ten times more likely to develop tuberculosis than the general population. Consequently, prevention is a crucial aspect of maintaining good health.

In conclusion, the occurrence of tuberculosis causes significant distress to individuals and can also impact their physical health.

To avoid tuberculosis, it is advisable to avoid chronic fatigue or mental stress, maintain a reasonable diet, engage in regular exercise, and enhance one's natural immunity.

This information was sourced from the Internet and the working environment was evaluated.

Ultimately, the objective is to improve one's quality of life. Given this, it is reasonable to assume that the questioner is relatively young and therefore capable of engaging in more complex thought processes.

It is recommended that, at this juncture, each individual offer a different suggestion, after which the questioner may reflect on the matter independently.

An illness can result in a loss of confidence. It is recommended that the questioner be embraced and encouraged to believe in themselves. It is important to recognize that the individual was previously able to perform well and can do so again in the future.

One should refrain from self-labeling. An individual's abilities, comprehension, and communication skills are subject to change based on their personal growth in various environments and the demands of their chosen career path.

Individuals are capable of adapting to their surrounding environment.

It is recommended that the questioner read the article entitled "High sensitivity is a gift."

I extend my best wishes to you.

I extend my affection to the world and to you.

Dear Question Asker, It is a good idea to consult career planning issues on a psychological counseling platform.

We will then examine suitable positions and development plans in the context of career planning in human resources management and your vocational aptitude test.

First, recognize your own strengths and weaknesses.

Identifying one's own strengths and weaknesses is a challenging task. However, scientific measurement methods can assist in understanding these aspects. When recruiting talent, we analyze the position's requirements, develop a key competency model for that role, and utilize corresponding measurement tools for specific abilities.

For example, the 16TF, MBTI, management potential tests, occupational aptitude tests, etc., can be used to identify the types of roles that align with your strengths and abilities. There is also a comprehensive test in a password book from many years ago called "Discover Your Strengths" that can be utilized to ascertain your suitability for specific roles.

Finally, focus on professional development.

Regardless of the nature of the work, it is essential to approach it with a focus on professional growth. What level of competence do we possess in this role?

The first level is to have a clear understanding of the position's responsibilities and requirements.

The second level is demonstrating competence in the specific work of the position, coupled with a reasonable level of work experience.

In addition, I am proficient in the work, efficient, and well-versed in the processes and methods involved.

The fourth level is, "I am proficient." I am highly proficient in this role, I am adept at streamlining work processes, and I am well-versed in imparting skills to others and leading teams.

The fifth level is "I create." In this position, I can develop a solution that is superior to the one initially envisioned by the boss, and that exceeds their expectations.

Ultimately, your goal should be to achieve your personal and professional goals.

Regardless of our current position, the majority of us are not engaged in work that aligns with our preferences. We are typically performing tasks that are required of us, rather than those that we are passionate about.

The ability to achieve success and make achievements in the things we like is a common aspiration. To achieve this, it is essential to first recognize our strengths, identify our interests, and align our professional goals with our personal passions.

Finally, if you remain in a position for more than ten years, you will undoubtedly achieve success.

To return to the original question, regardless of one's personality type, there are work roles that align with one's strengths and areas of expertise. If social interaction is not one's preference, financial or technical roles may be more suitable.

All of these roles are immersive, and the prerequisite is that we love life, love ourselves, and love our work. With these attributes in place, success is inevitable.

Dear questioner, I can sense that you may be experiencing some uncertainty about your abilities and potential areas of work. It seems that you have identified some personal qualities, such as perceived weaknesses in comprehension, communication, and sensitivity, which may be influencing your perception of your capabilities. It's understandable that this can lead to a sense of confusion about what kind of work you can do well.

Let's work together to clarify any confusion.

I'm curious about where you got the impression that you "don't have a good understanding, are weak in communication, and have a high sensitivity." I'm not sure if these labels are your own or if someone else put them on you.

Secondly, I believe your written expression abilities are commendable, and your organization is clear. From your description, I was able to grasp the meaning you were trying to convey. Someone who is able to clearly and logically write out a problem should not have a poor understanding ability. This shows that your writing abilities are still quite good, and you are still very serious about your work.

Third, in 2012, you were unfortunately forced to leave work due to illness and recuperate. However, in 2013, after you recovered, you were able to get back up and look for work. You demonstrated great resilience in the face of difficulties and setbacks, and you were able to adjust your mindset to quickly overcome them.

Everyone needs to take a break sometimes. It's important to relax, rest, and recuperate.

Fourth, your long tenure in a basic position demonstrates your reliability and the company's confidence in your work.

If I might offer some advice, I would say that…

Perhaps it would be helpful to remove the labels you have placed on yourself, such as "poor comprehension," "weak communication," and "high sensitivity." This could allow you to get to know yourself and define yourself in a more accurate way.

Secondly, you seem to be seeking guidance on the type of work that would be best suited to your skills and interests. It would be helpful to have a clearer understanding of what you enjoy and aspire to do. Taking the time to reflect, learn and gradually identify a path that aligns with your goals could be beneficial.

3. It would be beneficial to take good care of yourself and care about yourself. This will allow you to take responsibility for yourself, which may lead to others loving you even more.

Fourth, to engage in your ideal work and to identify areas for improvement, it is important to have confidence. Having confidence will enable you to perform well in a variety of industries.

I hope you find these suggestions helpful. I'm always here to support you. With love, Your consultant, Liu Qi

Dear Sir/Madam, I am Goodbye Crush. I am pleased to have seen your request for assistance. It is evident that you are experiencing some confusion regarding the types of work you are capable of doing. You have expressed concerns about your comprehension abilities, communication skills, highly sensitive personality, and difficulty identifying suitable roles.

Let's work together to clarify the issues you've raised.

1. Know yourself.

In the title, you state that you "lack comprehension, are weak in communication, and have a high-strung personality." I am unaware of the source of this self-perception, as it was not expanded upon in the question. It is therefore difficult to ascertain whether this perception accurately reflects your true self. My views are based on what I have observed.

The applicant demonstrates clear organization.

From the description of the problem, it is evident that you possess excellent written communication skills and an ability to organize information in a clear and coherent manner. From your description, I was able to grasp the meaning you were trying to convey with ease. Given your ability to write about a problem in a clear and coherent manner, it is unlikely that you have a poor understanding of the subject matter.

Demonstrates courage in the face of adversity and challenges.

In the 21 years since your illness, you were forced to take a leave of absence. In the 22 years since your recovery, you were able to resume your job search. You demonstrated resilience in the face of adversity and were able to adapt your mindset to overcome challenges.

You have demonstrated loyalty and responsibility throughout your professional career.

You were employed at your previous company from 2006 until your retirement due to illness in 2012. Your ability to remain in the same position for five years demonstrates your loyalty and commitment. Despite the company's size, you maintained a positive attitude and did not disdain it.

Your long tenure in a basic position demonstrates your reliability and the company's confidence in your abilities.

2. What type of work is best suited to my skills and experience?

To identify the best course of action, it would be beneficial to consider the following aspects:

Firstly, it is important to remove the labels that you have placed upon yourself.

It is time to remove the labels of "poor comprehension, weak communication, and high sensitivity" and re-evaluate your abilities. Everyone can only see the self they want to see, and the existence of labels constantly interferes with your vision and prevents you from seeing your true self.

Secondly, consider the type of work you aspire to do.

It would be beneficial to ascertain your preferences regarding work. However, you have not yet indicated what kind of work you like or what kind of work you want to do. It would be advantageous to consider this. Ultimately, one has control over one's destiny. It is possible to take the initiative to choose and shape one's career in a way that aligns with one's values.

If you are unsure of your career goals, focus on excelling in your current role and exploring other job opportunities within your company to identify potential interests.

Finally, what skills must be developed to achieve your ideal position?

It is our right to imbue our lives with the meaning we desire. However, it is also our responsibility to prepare ourselves for the life and career we aspire to. There is often a discrepancy between our aspirations and our capabilities, and it is precisely these gaps that guide our efforts.

If you wish to pursue a career in sales but feel your communication skills could be improved, you may wish to consider undertaking professional training with a teacher or learning resources on your own. With the right approach and determination, there are always ways to overcome challenges.

I hope the above is useful to you.

Hello, I am Xin Tan, Coach Fei Yun.

First of all, I want to give you a hug because you were forced to leave work to recover from tuberculosis. Use this "gap period" to reflect on the past and plan for the future.

Meanwhile, due to a difference in understanding of the term "document clerk" between you and your classmates, you have been doing "general affairs" work for five years: recording orders, communicating and coordinating with others, and being on call for random tasks assigned by your boss. This is foolish.

This makes you feel under pressure. You feel unable to do your job properly because the work processes and management are not standardized. You also seem to dislike dealing with people.

We need to discuss which type of work suits you.

1. No effort is wasted.

Dear, I want to be clear that your work experience in 2014 or 2016 is valuable. You may gain something from the work process, or you may have to pay a price, but these valuable experiences will all become references for you when you take on a new job in the future.

There is no such thing as a "perfect person." You lack self-confidence and recognition, but these are not true weaknesses. In fact, they are strengths.

If a job requires strong execution and is highly standardized, your personality traits will be an advantage.

Regain your confidence and courage. When you encounter difficulties or setbacks, don't dwell on them. Instead, say, "This is temporary." For example, you might say, "I just haven't found the right job for me yet." Or, "I just haven't mastered the ability to communicate effectively with others yet."

You'll notice that "for the time being" has given you a new sense of motivation and energy, rather than the previous feeling of defeat.

2. Explore yourself and find a job that suits you.

There is no such thing as "bad" work. There is only work that is not suitable or that has not yet found a better solution. Let's take a look at how to find work that is more suitable for you.

First, explore your interests, abilities, personality traits, and values. If you're an introvert who dislikes dealing with people, prefers hands-on work, is highly responsible, and is willing to help others, you can engage in some standardized work, such as that of a watchmaker.

Use the Holland Vocational Interest Test to help you with this. Based on your self-described personality traits and past work experience, you will likely be classified as C (conventional: you like working with data, have an aptitude for matters or numbers, and complete various details under the direction of others).

Additionally, there is the R, realistic type, who prefers to work with physical objects, machines, tools, plants, animals, and the outdoors.

I am a thinker and researcher. I have artistic abilities, including an appreciation for music, creativity, and intuition. I am a social person who thrives in collaborative environments. I am an enterprising leader with strong management and persuasion skills.

We can decide and change some things, such as our attitude and learning ability. We cannot change other things, such as the management style and the level of the unit and leader.

Give yourself more praise. You only gain high approval from others when you approve of yourself. Use your rest period to properly evaluate your previous work experience and you will discover many highlights and advantages.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you. The world and I love you. ?

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