What do you want to do? Why do you feel like doing nothing?

Hello, I'm Teng Ying, a psychological counselor.

From your question, I get the sense that you feel like life is meaningless. You mentioned that reading is something your parents and society expect of you, that work is a necessity, and that making friends is because of the need for social interaction.

If you're doing these things for these reasons, I can see how you'd feel this way.

Take a moment to reflect.

I'm not sure how long you've been feeling this way. Have these thoughts affected your life, apart from just being in your mind?

For instance, do you have trouble sleeping or eating because of these thoughts? Do you lose interest in reading and work or even refuse to go out because of these thoughts?

Have you talked to anyone about this? For example, a family member, friend, or counselor?

Have you talked to anyone about these thoughts? For example, a family member, friend, or counselor?

Have you found talking to be helpful?

What's the connection between these thoughts and other factors in your life? For instance, do these thoughts go away when you do something else?

What's the connection between these thoughts and other factors? For instance, when you do something, do these thoughts go away or even disappear?

And in what situations or circumstances do you find yourself thinking these thoughts more often?

Think about these questions carefully. They might seem simple, but they can help you understand your current state of mind.

Think about these questions carefully. They might seem simple, but they can help you understand your current state.

If the problem has been going on for a while and is affecting your work or studies, and you don't have anyone else you can turn to, it's probably a good idea to go to a specialist hospital for a diagnosis. A professional will be able to give you a clear picture of what's going on and help you get back on track.

It's time to adjust your mindset.

The preceding words may make you feel a little nervous. It's likely that you're just not in a good mood these days, and these feelings have just come up. We can try to adjust our state of mind.

We all have an inner self, which some people call the inner child. It might be helpful to observe your inner child and ask yourself if he is satisfied with himself.

How does he see himself? Does he feel important?

How does he feel about himself? Does he feel important?

Do you think he feels loved and cared for?

You can also ask him what he cares about most and what he expects from the future.

If you're struggling to connect with your partner or understand their thoughts and feelings, it might be helpful to speak with a counselor or listener. They can provide guidance and support to help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner.

It's only when you find your true self that you can truly understand your purpose in this world. I hope you're on your way to discovering who you really are!

This is an excellent question, and one that is worthy of consideration. Allow me to share my personal perspective on the matter.

1. Learning is a requirement for parents and society. It is important to understand their motives. As required by parents, there are two common reasons:

From my own experience, I can attest that reading extensively allows one to interact with individuals and communities that differ from one's immediate circle. This exposure leads to a greater level of support based on the other party's understanding and emotional connection.

I have learned that it is important to adapt to circumstances and not to be overly rigid in one's expectations. Given my own experience of having read very few books and having suffered a great deal and worked very hard as a result, I am keen for my children to avoid taking the same path.

In reality, the only viable option is to allow your children to alter their destiny through the pursuit of education.

In terms of social expectations, it is important to consider the relationship between individuals and society. People play a dual role as both creators and participants in society, and it is not feasible for them to exist independently (except in specific circumstances, such as being marooned on a desert island or cut off from the world, in which case, survival would be a significant challenge).

In summary, it is to enable people to pursue a better life.

It is human nature to avoid hardship and seek pleasure and satisfaction. Therefore, if you do not attend school, do not learn about the outside world, and try to understand the history of human civilization in just a few decades, it is not a realistic expectation.

Are you inquiring as to why you should leave if it is so challenging?

The rationale is straightforward: to sustain life and enhance it.

Furthermore, your reading is ultimately for your own benefit. All of your thoughts, ideas, and doubts are based on your existing knowledge or your own perception.

Do you believe that reading is an ineffective use of time?

2. Work is a fundamental aspect of life.

You have only addressed one aspect of the matter. Work is undertaken for the purpose of earning an income and ensuring one's survival.

The other aspect is the realization of personal value. Many individuals are employed in various roles and work diligently to achieve their goals. Sometimes, we observe individuals working extremely hard and realizing their personal value.

If reading is about improving one's quality of life, then work is about sustaining it.

3. While one may choose to avoid social interaction, the reality is that complete isolation is not a viable option. There are numerous avenues for social engagement, including with family members, romantic partners, and individuals with shared interests. Social interaction plays a crucial role in fulfilling an individual's need for security, love, belonging, and respect, and is an integral aspect of life.

Furthermore, socializing can help to alleviate feelings of loneliness and isolation.

As you currently possess this asset, you are unable to envisage the impact of its loss.

People tend to avoid situations that may result in pain or failure, and they are often fearful of the potential consequences of such outcomes. As a result, they often attempt to circumvent these scenarios.

If reading is about improving one's quality of life, and work is about sustaining one's existence, then socializing is about acquiring the resources necessary for enhancing one's quality of life.

If you require further information regarding the reasons behind human existence, I have published an article which you are welcome to peruse. If you are unable to access the article, I will provide a brief overview of its contents. The fundamental reason behind human existence is the avoidance of death.

The article provides insight into the underlying motivations behind the fear of death.

I believe your current confusion is a positive sign. It is an opportunity for you to progress, a stepping stone towards a breakthrough, and a chance to embrace the darkness before dawn.

I am confident that you will succeed in becoming a better version of yourself.

Hello!

You are at a crossroads.

These words show me a child who has stopped and looked around. He is in an unfamiliar place and doesn't know where he is, why he is there, or where he is going.

Everyone has had such moments. They think about their lives, break away from their routine, and see that their lives seem unfamiliar. They feel lost and don't know how to spend the rest of their lives.

Confusion and helplessness can make people depressed and unable to express their feelings.

Confusion is the start of a new beginning.

Many people live busy lives without ever thinking about it.

You have reached a new turning point in your inner growth.

The future may seem uncertain, but this moment has already pointed you in the right direction.

The future is something you experience, think about, and discover in the present.

Do parents and society really require reading? What was your best experience reading?

What was the hardest part? What would you think about reading if there were no parents or society?

What is reading mean to you, and what have you gained from it?

Sometimes you socialize with friends because you need to. What about the other times? Do you have friends you feel happy and at ease with?

Why do we interact with others? You do it because it gives you something. What is it?

You ask, "What do I really want to do?"

This is a broad question.

It can be the meaning of life.

It can be as small as a tasty meal, a sunny day, or a splash of color.

Start with the little things in life. Experience the moments in life. Stay close to life. Clarify your mind and determine your feelings from the smallest things. Handle things according to your mind. Your senses will become more acute. You will be more with yourself. You will feel like the master of your own life.

When you have big problems in life, you can think about how you feel and what you want and make good choices.

Awareness is the first step towards growth. Best of luck on your path of awareness. I hope you will paint a beautiful picture of your life.

Hello!

I often ask myself the same question and have been looking for an answer. As I get older, I'm starting to understand it.

The questioner doesn't know why he lives. Is that right?

As others have said, there is no answer. I hope the questioner finds this helpful.

Let's talk about what life is about.

I grew up searching for life and meaning. When I was young, I asked my father why people live.

My father said, "Study hard and don't think too much."

People of that generation struggled to survive. For them, eating a full meal was happiness, and living was a luxury. They never had to think about why people live.

This is a question that can only be asked after basic needs are met. Once our basic needs are met, we start to pursue spiritual abundance.

I also looked for answers in books. The Buddhist master Nan Huaijin said, "Everything is empty. Everything will eventually return to nothingness."

Life has no meaning. The Buddha teaches people to practice Buddhism and transcend the cycle of rebirth.

Schopenhauer said in "The Wisdom of Life" that life is like a sailboat. You row towards your goal, but a gust of wind blows you back. It sounds like you have to work hard and rely on fate.

This answer is also a bit weak.

A story goes like this: a beggar and a rich merchant are both sunbathing on the beach. The rich merchant convinces the beggar to work hard to make money. The beggar asks, "Why do I need to make so much money?"

The rich businessman replied, "With money you can go on a beach holiday." The beggar retorted, "I'm on one now."

I used to agree with this story. Why do people work so hard for something that will eventually disappear?

Lie down and relax.

I spent most of the year at home doing nothing. Every day, I was driven by desire, pursuing happiness. I did nothing but play mobile games, eat, drink, and go to the toilet. After living like this, I was trapped in a quagmire of desires. Every day, I was dizzy and overwhelmed.

This life of "doing whatever I want" is not ideal. I feel like a slave to my instincts. Life has no meaning, but I don't want to live without meaning.

We shouldn't ask why people live. The world is asking us, and we can answer.

Life has no meaning. But we can give it meaning. We want it to have meaning. We each interpret our own life in our own way.

Let's talk about the question "I don't know what I want to do?"

I've also thought a lot about this. I was a good child, so I rarely got to make my own choices. My parents told me what to do.

Even if I have options, I'm influenced by what others say. Over time, I lose track of myself.

If you don't know what you like, you can't figure out what you want to do with your life. I envy friends who know what they like and don't hesitate to take action.

Some people fall in love with something over time, while others fall in love at first sight. It may be a gift to know exactly what you like. People's preferences are often influenced by their environment.

Some people have to take one path, but they can give it their all and find joy in it. Some people try everything and find out what they don't like.

Some people want fame and fortune, others want stability, and some want beautiful experiences. There is no right or wrong. In the end, it's all meaningless.

The most important thing is to accept yourself, hear your own voice, and pursue what you want. Hard work doesn't always pay off, but I don't want a dream-come-true self. I want to pursue an ideal life and constantly strive to improve.

Don't be a slave to your desires. Gain basic spiritual freedom.

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There is a book called "Personal Development for Smart People." It gives great advice on people and life. The questioner can read it.

People should admit their desires. I'm not talking about physical desires, but rather admitting and accepting what you like and love, regardless of criticism. Most people know what they want, but are unwilling to admit it.

If you're afraid to face your preferences, how can you take action?

It's worth reading.

I hope the original poster finds the answer. :)

Good morning, host.

I'm here to help and would love to hear your thoughts. Let me fly.

The original poster posed a question that is not easily answered. There are two types of questions. One type has a standard answer, which we call a fact-based judgment. For example, "Peking University is in Beijing," which has a right or wrong answer.

It is challenging to provide a definitive answer to this type of question, as it often involves a value judgment. This is a value judgment question, where the answer may vary depending on the individual's perspective. For instance, if I were to suggest that Peking University should be relocated to Shanghai, it is unlikely that there would be a single, universally accepted answer.

Let's take a moment to distinguish between these two types of problems. It seems that the original poster is experiencing some confusion about what kind of life is meaningful. Perhaps the meaning of the word is that everyone's definition of the standard is different, just as our definition of what a happy life is also differs.

Perhaps it would be helpful for the landlord to consider his own goals and priorities. There are likely a few key considerations, but it's important to recognize that everyone's standards may differ. This is intended to serve as a reference for the landlord. There are some activities that we would likely engage in even if there was no financial incentive, or even if we had to pay for them. This is probably an area where your personal preferences align. There are also instances where the opinions of others may not be as relevant, as long as you are able to find happiness within your own choices.

This may be something you enjoy.

How might one make their life meaningful? Psychologists believe that the meaning of life for most people comes from two aspects: work and relationships. We do see that some work seems to outsiders to be very difficult and tiring, but there are people who enjoy it. For example, our beloved Professor Wei, who enjoys exploring the world of mathematics. Most of us may not often feel the joy in it.

On the other hand, there are relationships, especially parent-child or intimate relationships. We often hear lyrics like, "What's the point of winning the world if I lose you?" or "Love the country more than the beauty." Such stories often evoke a sense of wistfulness, yet at the same time, we also know that many people will always say in post-incident interviews, "I was on the verge of giving up at the time, but when I looked back and saw the look in my child's eyes, I knew I couldn't give up."

It would be preferable for the host not to be in a relationship or have children at this time, as they may not yet have the experience to fully engage with some of the emotions involved.

In response to the current situation of the host, I believe there will be a suggestion. The host listed several things that are done for other people. Then, the host can spend most of the 24 hours of the day living at the original pace, and set aside half an hour for themselves. You tell yourself that this half hour is your own, that you are living for yourself, that you can listen to music, daydream, or go online, but the difference is that this is living for yourself, and of course you can write something.

I hope this can be of some help to the original poster and provide them with some feedback and attention.