Hello, questioner!
From what you've said, I can tell you're feeling pretty uncomfortable. But you're also really good at noticing this discomfort and describing it, which is a great start to finding a solution.
You mentioned that you've been feeling depressed for about ten years, and it came back in January. I'd like to ask you to think about what you were feeling before that. Before all this happened, how did you calm yourself down?
From what you've said, it seems like you've been trying your best, but there are just so many things on your plate right now that it's hard to catch your breath. It's understandable that you feel a bit powerless and like there's no hope. I'm here to give you a warm hug if you need it.
But I want to tell you, when we're overwhelmed by a lot of things and don't know how to breathe, you can speak up bravely, and that's also a kind of change. Because sharing is therapeutic.
All problems are our resources. As long as we don't give up, we'll find a way through one day. It's normal to have negative emotions. No one is always happy, and no one is always immersed in negative emotions. There will always be so many things that make us happy. What do you think?
I don't know how you've managed to persevere over the past ten years, whether by seeking professional counseling or by doing other things. When you encounter this uncomfortable feeling again, my first suggestion is that you can seek out a professional counselor to talk to and work with. They will use professional techniques to dig deep into the root causes of our past, adjust our perceptions, and provide a safe and inclusive environment where we can grow with strength.
Second, if you want, I suggest you release this feeling of powerlessness through exercise. If you can't run, you can also walk fast or slow. Because during exercise, the brain secretes dopamine, which produces a sense of pleasure and helps us get rid of uncomfortable emotions. It will also help us to look at the flowers, trees, and blue sky while exercising.
Then, look for positive experiences. As I mentioned earlier, nobody's happy all the time, and nobody's immersed in uncomfortable emotions all the time. When we feel this sense of powerlessness and want to change, we need to actively look for the things that made us happy in the past, the things that can make us feel happy, pleasant, and comfortable. We can do this through meditation, so that this comfortable feeling can spread throughout our body and give us strength.
I'd like to suggest a book called "The Brain Code of Happiness." It helps us fill our brains with positive experiences so we can spend less time weeding and more time planting flowers. It's not just about eliminating negative emotions, but also about having more positive experiences.
I know you might feel a bit powerless right now, but it's okay. Take a moment to close your eyes, open your arms, and embrace yourself. Remind yourself that you can do this. We all have the ability to solve our own problems and manage our emotions. So, take a deep breath and know that everything will be fine. It might be challenging at first, but if you persevere, you'll be surprised at what you can achieve.
I know you've worked hard to face these uncomfortable emotions. My advice is to avoid them and create a protective shield for yourself. Everyone feels differently about the same thing, and they may think they're doing it for our own good, but they don't really understand us. It's not our fault, and it's not their fault either. It's just that in communication and life, we'll have a lot of beautiful misunderstandings. When you become aware of these uncomfortable emotions, try to accept and love yourself more. This is the key to a happy life.


Comments
I can relate to how overwhelming everything must feel right now. It's like all these challenges have just piled up, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling this way. Facing unemployment, health issues, family pressure, and the stress of moving—it's a lot.
It sounds like you've been through an incredibly tough time. Sometimes when everything hits at once, it feels impossible to cope. But please know that there is help available and people who care about you. Maybe reaching out to someone could make a difference.
I'm really sorry you're going through this. It seems like you've had one thing after another without much of a break. Depression can make everything feel even heavier. Have you thought about talking to a professional for support? They might offer some relief or coping strategies.
Your situation sounds incredibly challenging. It's clear you're carrying a heavy load. When I hear about what you're facing, it makes me wonder if there's a friend or family member who could step in and help lighten the burden, even just a little bit?
I can see why you might feel so overwhelmed and stuck. Sometimes life throws too many things at us at once. Perhaps finding a small step forward, even if it's just reaching out for help, could be a start. You don't have to go through this alone.