What if you have a desire to share with someone, but have to suppress the idea?

Upon reading the host's description, I am struck by a sense of familiarity. I am naturally inclined to share my thoughts and feelings, particularly with my husband. However, he often perceives my discourse as excessive and burdensome.

In essence, my objective is to engage in discourse with another individual.

I have also experienced this form of distress.

Firstly, I utilise a method of self-expression to demonstrate my existence, otherwise it appears that the other individual is unable to perceive me.

Secondly, it is my hope to establish a method of communication with the other individual and to achieve a connection on a personal level. To this end, I engage in prolonged discourse.

Thirdly, it is my hope to express myself as much as possible, and it is my further hope that the other person will understand me and accept both my positive and negative characteristics. I endeavour to demonstrate these traits as much as I am able to.

Subsequently, my husband also became irritated. He was unwilling to engage in conversation, and I became despondent and silent. I sought solace in online activities in an attempt to find a sense of purpose.

Subsequently, I came to recognize that I was excessively idle. Consequently, I began maintaining a record of my verbal expressions and thoughts. Instead of expressing them verbally, I opted to utilize writing and drawing as alternative forms of expression.

It is not inherently problematic to have an urge to express oneself. Frequently, as we engage in discourse, our thoughts become more coherent, and we are better able to articulate our perspectives. The crucial step is to exercise self-reflection before expressing oneself, ensuring that one's thoughts are well-considered and articulated with clarity. This approach enables the articulation of ideas in a concise and meaningful manner, which is more likely to resonate with others.

Another issue with nagging is that it often assumes a preachy tone, which people tend to find unappealing. It can be perceived as a form of condescension, akin to being told, "You're lacking in intelligence; do you require further instruction?" This is a particularly irksome aspect for men.

Subsequently, I provided a summary of the aforementioned points. When I have a message to convey, I engage in a process of self-reflection, distill the core elements, and then disseminate the information. This approach facilitates a more receptive response from others.

It is my hope that by sharing my experiences with you, I can provide some inspiration or assistance in some way.

Dear Questioner, Thank you for your inquiry. Best regards, Kelly

My name is Kelly.

I have carefully reviewed your written communication and believe this is a common challenge many of us have faced.

As the old adage goes, "If words don't flow smoothly, there's no need to say more than half a sentence." When we are willing to share and engage in conversation with the other person, and you consider him a person you can trust, it also demonstrates that you are a candid individual.

If the other party is annoyed, it is not your responsibility. It is simply a matter of not having had sufficient opportunity to establish a rapport with them.

This situation can be attributed to the fact that you have different personalities or that you will have a better chance to get to know each other better next time.

This is an ideal chance to develop and enhance your skills. It will encourage you to reflect on the situation and become more aware of how you can improve.

Anthropologists have noted that individuals who do not engage in a certain amount of daily communication may experience a sense of suffocation. Additionally, research indicates that women tend to communicate more frequently than men.

There is no issue with engaging in lengthy conversations. We will identify an appropriate individual with whom to converse next time and continue the discussion until late at night.

[Regarding the sharing of information]

I have been on Yixin for more than half a year. Prior to that, I experienced feelings of loneliness due to my inability to empathize with others and communicate effectively. In fact, prior to our marriage, we discussed a wide range of topics. However, following our marriage, he gradually reverted to his previous state of comfort, and our respective hobbies have diverged.

Subsequently, I discovered that a significant number of individuals share similar characteristics. Yixinli offers a multitude of mutual aid communities, as well as access to counselors, providing opportunities to connect with others.

Subsequently, I also gradually came to understand myself. I enjoy sharing because we all crave recognition, understanding, and attention from others. It's akin to how I felt as a child when I felt neglected by my parents. I crave intimacy and am also grateful that my husband told me that although we are married, we both need to maintain our independence and leave some space for each other.

His words prompted me to reflect on my own thoughts and behaviors. I subsequently established connections with numerous individuals on various online platforms.

There are numerous psychological communities that provide a platform for individuals to connect, engage in activities, share their thoughts and feelings in writing, and gain insights into their own selves.

Best wishes for success in his future endeavors.

It is inevitable that we will encounter numerous individuals and friends throughout our lives, each of whom will play a role in our lives for a limited period of time. It is important to recognize that no one can remain in our lives forever. It is beneficial to express gratitude to those who have made a positive impact on our lives, as this allows us to gain insights into ourselves and communicate our innermost thoughts and feelings.

Given that you already have a romantic partner, I suggest extending your best wishes to him.

Furthermore, you will embark on a new phase of your life.

Internet relationships are inherently unstable, and the level of intimacy is often limited. It is possible that he is simply seeking a companion for the time being.

It is important to note that communication requires reciprocity. Therefore, even if he is willing to chat with you, you may lose the desire to share a lot if he has a girlfriend now.

Professor Hong Lan has shared a speech.

The tendency for women to engage in more conversation than men is attributed to functional differences in brain structure, which are influenced by physiological factors. Studies have indicated that women's brains contain higher concentrations of language proteins than men's, leading to a natural proclivity for more extensive verbal communication.

Therefore, excessive talking is not an inherent disadvantage.

Please find below a few suggestions for your consideration.

1. Cultivate a broader network of contacts, engaging in conversations on a range of subjects.

2. Develop a personal reading list and identify your own leisure activities.

3. You are invited to communicate and share with us on Yixinli.

You are also encouraged to continue asking questions, as many of our teachers will be available to respond to you here.

Best regards,

My name is Kelly.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my love and appreciation for the world and all its inhabitants.

Hello, landlord!

Hi, I'm letmefly, and I'm here to help you and get your feedback!

The host shared a story about a secret crush. While it didn't have a happy ending, it was still a fascinating tale. I'd like to send the host a big hug to show my support.

The landlord's connection with the other person came from social media, but initially it was your company. Now, however, the situation seems to have reversed, and you are the one who wants to talk more! This may indicate that the landlord may not have many real and reliable friends in the real world. Or put it another way, this kind of relationship is different because this kind of relationship already has the meaning of liking or love, so naturally it may not be relieved in the usual way.

Teacher Chen Haixian said something really interesting. When we face loss, we always start with the end, just like the landlord. At the end, we break away from our old relationships, goals, and environment. Before a new relationship is established, we will enter a period of confusion. During this period of confusion, we will feel pain and life will seem to be at a standstill. But I also like what Teacher Chen said:

During the period of confusion, it may seem like nothing has happened, but it is actually very important! During this period, old meanings are slowly being cleared away, and new meanings are slowly growing.

But the landlord must believe that after a period of confusion, something amazing is about to happen! The landlord will usher in their own rebirth. Or maybe even a new life!

At this time, we will find new meaning and purpose! Rebirth requires an ability to embrace change, as well as the ability to let go of previous experiences.

Sometimes, only by acknowledging the loss can we truly let go and start again—and that's a good thing!

I really hope this helps! I'd absolutely love to hear your feedback, likes, and follows!