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What if you have a mental illness yourself, but your parents just won't believe it? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

Not long after starting high school, I lost interest in going to school and felt like I was uninterested in everything. Accompanied by my father, I went to an authoritative hospital for a diagnosis and was diagnosed with mild depression.

I was prescribed some medication to aid in my treatment, and I went for follow-up visits once a month while I was still out of school. It's not long since the start of the second semester of my senior year, and everyone in my family suspects that I'm faking my illness and that I've already recovered.

I communicated with the teacher at school and wanted to go back to school, but I felt that I wasn't yet well and the doctor had increased the dosage of my medication. But I didn't dare to contradict my parents.

What should I do?

Elsie Perez Elsie Perez A total of 1231 people have been helped

Good morning, my name is Evan and I am a counselor trained in cognitive behavioral therapy.

From the description, it is evident that the questioner is experiencing pressure and a desire for understanding from his parents. In many cases, when expectations differ between parents and children, the child tends to accept the demands of the parent.

I appreciate the challenges you're facing. Depression is a prevalent mental health concern that necessitates professional intervention and support.

It is a complex and sensitive situation that requires careful navigation, given the involvement of family members and the demands of school, as well as the need to address one's own health.

If the individual is diagnosed with mild depression, it is crucial to seek treatment. Concurrently, it is essential to respect the individual's feelings and thoughts.

It is crucial for parents to accept the depression of the questioner, as this can have a significant impact on the questioner's studies. It is essential that the questioner understands the nature of depression and its impact on them.

As the question was posed on this platform, I will also offer some brief advice here.

It is important to understand depression. This can be achieved by learning about the condition from reliable sources such as the National Health Commission and other reputable scientific websites. Additionally, it is possible to request a consultation with a primary care physician, who can then contact the relevant parties, including parents or school officials, to provide an explanation of how the symptoms are affecting the individual and how they are impacting their ability to focus on their studies.

There are numerous ways in which teenage depression can manifest. Symptoms may include feelings of indecisiveness, fatigue, anger, or excessive sadness.

Furthermore, the individual's academic performance may be impacted by symptoms such as a lack of motivation, difficulty concentrating, and memory loss.

It is important to communicate honestly with your parents. Schedule a meeting with them to discuss your concerns and the challenges you face in the treatment process.

It is not uncommon for family members to misunderstand due to a lack of understanding. Providing information and educating them may help them better understand the situation. Be sure to explain the doctor's diagnosis, the progress of treatment, and the subject's personal feelings.

It is important to communicate to the relevant parties that you are not feigning illness, but rather require time to recuperate. Additionally, presenting the doctor's diagnosis and medication prescription can enhance the persuasiveness of your case.

It is advisable to seek support from family members who can attend follow-up doctor's appointments. This allows the doctor to explain the condition and treatment plan in person, which may help family members to understand and accept the situation more readily.

Furthermore, the questioner may wish to consider seeking the assistance of a psychological counselor, who can provide more professional advice and support. In addition to the support of doctors and family members, the questioner may also wish to seek help from friends, teachers, or psychological counselors.

It is sometimes the case that sharing one's feelings with a trusted individual can help to alleviate a sense of burden.

It is advisable to maintain communication with the school, particularly with your teacher or school counselor. This will ensure that they are aware of your situation and that you receive the support you require. You should present them with the diagnosis statement from your doctor, which will help them to understand your current condition.

The school may be able to provide support or adjustments to help the questioner adapt to school life more effectively. You may also wish to request assistance from the school in communicating with your parents, which could help to improve the situation.

It is important to maintain a reasonable balance between study and rest. While on leave, it is still possible to engage in learning activities, such as easy learning tasks or reading, according to your interests and physical condition.

It is also important to ensure that you have sufficient rest to avoid overworking. In addition to medication, self-care is a vital aspect of your recovery.

Adopting a healthy lifestyle, including regular rest and work, a balanced diet, and moderate exercise, can all contribute to improved mental health.

Maintain a positive outlook. Despite the challenges you are facing, believe in your abilities and value. Depression is a common mental illness that can be gradually recovered through active treatment and self-adjustment.

The subject will encounter difficulties in communicating with their parents. It is recommended that the subject prepare themselves positively, raise the issues they want to know about, and tell their parents that they want their support. It is important to stay positive and believe that you can get through this difficult time.

Depression is a disease that requires time and appropriate treatment to recover. The individual experiencing the condition has the right to make decisions regarding their own health. While the expectations of family and school are important, one's own physical and mental health should not be ignored.

Before making any decisions, please take into full consideration your actual situation and needs. Do not allow external pressure to override your feelings and needs.

If you are not yet prepared to return to school, it is advisable to seek guidance from a professional to develop a personalized recovery plan.

It is my hope that this response will prove helpful to the inquirer.

We also recommend the following related books:

The book, "Depression Self-Help Handbook," provides readers with self-help methods to gain a deeper understanding of depression and find a suitable relief method. By reading it, readers can learn practical skills to cope with depressive symptoms and improve self-awareness and emotional management skills.

"Rewiring the Brain" is an invaluable resource for understanding depression and offers a plethora of straightforward and practical strategies for combating this condition. By grasping the intricacies of the brain's functioning, individuals can more effectively modify their thinking and behaviors to alleviate depressive symptoms.

"Reasons to Live" is a book written by the author about his personal experience with depression and anxiety. It offers insights and strategies for overcoming depression. The book's content may resonate with the reader, demonstrating that others have faced similar challenges and achieved positive outcomes.

The stories and experiences in the book may provide inspiration and courage.

Additionally, the questioner may find value in reading "The Anxiety Self-Help Handbook," which offers self-help methods to alleviate anxiety symptoms. This book may prove beneficial for individuals experiencing depression and anxiety concurrently.

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Mia Sophia Harris Mia Sophia Harris A total of 1496 people have been helped

Thank you for your inquiry. I will address your question from the following points:

Firstly, if you are simply disinclined to attend school and your parents have sought a diagnosis of depression, I believe this is actually detrimental to your physical and mental wellbeing. It may be that there is no underlying issue, but once you are diagnosed with depression, it can become a significant burden, leading you to perceive yourself as unwell. Not attending school cannot be equated with depression, and this distinction is crucial.

I believe this is a result of a lack of respect and understanding from your parents.

Secondly, as you are already in high school, there is no legal restriction on compulsory education. Therefore, the decision to attend school is yours to make. However, as you are currently a minor, your parents, as your legal guardians, still have legal guardianship obligations for some of your actions. They feel that they need to do this for you, so you can accept or refuse. You will need to take responsibility for this decision in the future.

3. The length of time it takes to return to school is determined by your physical and mental state, not by your parents. Therefore, the issue now is how to communicate effectively with your parents. You can seek assistance from the school's psychological counseling services or your teachers and express your thoughts in a forthright manner.

Furthermore, the parents' insistence on your return to school stems from their genuine concern and affection for you. However, their approach may be perceived as somewhat misguided and controlling. You have the option to accept their perspective or express your disagreement in a manner that aligns with your values and preferences.

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Jasper Collins Jasper Collins A total of 5354 people have been helped

Hello, I am Bai Li Yina, the person who responded to your question. I hope that my response can provide some warmth and help.

The questioner shared that he was experiencing mild depression and was still undergoing treatment. However, his family believed he had already recovered and wanted him to resume his studies. Despite the increased dosage of medication, he felt he was not yet fully better. He was uncertain about returning to school and was grappling with feelings of doubt and fear. What would be the best course of action?

[Situation analysis]

Depression can have a significant impact on one's life. It is admirable that you are willing to actively cooperate with treatment. You are doing a commendable job, so it is understandable if you feel some unease. Let's take a moment to examine the reasons together.

1. Family support is very important. After being diagnosed, taking a leave of absence from school and staying at home represents the care and support of your parents for you. They love you very much, and they are naturally concerned about your future. They want to ensure that you have the best chance of success in school and in life. As people who love you, it is understandable that they have these concerns.

2. Good communication: It can be challenging for parents to convey their anxiety to their children. It's natural to wonder if you're already better and if you can go back to school.

These words, which were full of their expectations, were conveyed to you in a way that made you feel uncomfortable. It's possible that they were doubting you, but it's also possible that they were just worried about you.

[Questions to ponder]

1. During the period of actively cooperating with treatment and taking a leave of absence from school to stay at home, how are you feeling? Do you think this kind of life will last for a long time?

2. You are welcome to communicate with the attending physician during every treatment and follow-up visit. Could the increase in medication indicate a more serious condition? Did the doctor say this, or is this just your assumption?

3. Would you like to go back to your old school life? What does resuming school mean to you?

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I understand that expressing your true thoughts can be difficult, but avoiding the problem is not the solution. Your parents are taking you to therapy every month and are willing to suspend your schooling until you recover. You should trust their love for you. If you don't feel completely better and are unsure whether you can return to school, it might be helpful to speak up about your doubts. You could go to the attending physician to confirm it and discuss your concerns with an authoritative person.

It is understandable that nobody wants to get sick. However, if you do, it is important to be prepared to face it. If you feel you lack the confidence to overcome it, it may be helpful to communicate with your doctor, family, and friends in a timely manner.

It would be beneficial for you to try to find out the real reason why you are hesitant to speak up. You may feel wronged and aggrieved, but it is important to refute these feelings. You could consider asking your parents what they think the reason is for you pretending to be sick.

If you have been cured, it may be worth asking yourself why you are still taking medication. It can be helpful to ask yourself reasonable questions, communicate constantly to get the results you want, or to clear up your doubts. A heart disease needs a heart medicine to cure it.

You may find it helpful to express your thoughts in a brave way, as a way of healing yourself.

It is my hope that the above methods will be helpful to you.

It might be helpful to remember that change takes time and patience. It's natural to feel worried or afraid, but many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems.

You are not alone in this. I am here to support you and I hope that you will find a solution to your problems soon.

I am grateful to those who have taken the time to like and provide feedback. I wish you all peace and joy.

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Julianna Shaw Julianna Shaw A total of 9511 people have been helped

Hello!

Depression is really tough. It's like you lose interest in everything.

It's so hard to understand what someone is going through when they're depressed. It's often seen as laziness, cowardice or even feigning illness, which is so unfair. When people don't understand, especially parents, it can make them feel isolated and even more uncomfortable and powerless.

I give you a big hug from afar, hoping you can feel some warmth.

You just started your first year of high school, but you've lost interest in everything. Your father accompanied you to the hospital, and you were diagnosed with mild depression.

You were taking medication as part of your treatment plan, had regular check-ins with your doctor, and took time off from school. It's important to remember that staying home and taking time off from school is also a form of treatment.

It's so great that your parents are being so supportive! It seems like they're really understanding and on board with your needs. Your dad took you to the doctor and agreed that you should take some time off school, which is really thoughtful of him.

Parents are eager to help their child get better. It's been a while since you've been able to go to school, and your studies have been put on hold. Understandably, your parents are feeling anxious.

On the other hand, they don't know much about depression. Since you don't seem to be suffering from any symptoms and you've been taking medicine for a few months, they think you should be better. They're eager to send you back to school, but they're also a little suspicious. Also, parents may be questioned by many relatives and friends who know even less about depression. It can be hard to keep up with the latest information about mental health!

Depression is a tricky thing. It can be hard to spot, even when it's right under our noses! Take a cold, for instance. We can see the tell-tale signs: nasal congestion, a runny nose, a red and sore throat, a hoarse voice, a fever, and a cough.

Depression is a tricky thing, isn't it? It's silent, invisible, and intangible. This can make it hard for family members to understand and take it seriously. It's so important to get the right treatment, but it can be a challenge.

Your dad goes with you to the hospital and makes sure you take your medicine and go back for follow-up appointments. This shows that he has a lot of faith in your illness and doesn't doubt it at all.

I can also understand that as a father, you are worried about your child's future and anxious about your child's illness. I'm sure you'll be just fine! Since you were able to take your child for tests, prescribe medicine and follow-up appointments before, then now will your father also seek the advice of a professional doctor and resume your child's studies?

You feel like you're not quite better yet, and the doctor has increased the dosage of the medication. You might be right in feeling like your depression hasn't improved yet, and the doctor has increased the dosage of the medication.

You're so scared to contradict your parents. You know they love you and want what's best for you, but you also have concerns. You're worried that going back to school might make your depression worse.

When you go back to school, will your teachers and classmates see you in a different way?

When it comes to depression, most people agree that a combination of medication and psychological counseling is the way to go. A good psychological counselor will really understand you and be there for you in a way that no one else can.

If you have your own psychological counselor, you can try to have your counselor communicate with your parents. This might help them to trust and understand you more. You can also go to a follow-up appointment with your father. The doctor might be able to give you some advice on returning to school. This could be more in line with the actual situation of the illness than what you and your parents imagine.

If you resume school and then your illness worsens again, please don't hesitate to tell your parents. I'm sure they will take you to the doctor again, get you the treatment you need, and take you home again.

I know we really hope this won't happen, but if it does, it would be great if you could come up with a plan to stop things getting worse.

The world loves you, and you should love yourself too!

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Douglas Douglas A total of 7240 people have been helped

Good day, I am Gu Daoxi Feng Shou Lu, the Heart Exploration Coach.

It is unfortunate when individuals in our lives who we trust the most do not trust us in return. I empathize with your situation, and I would like to offer you a hug.

It is important to note that the parents' generation may not have the same understanding of mental illness as they do of physical illness. Mental discomfort also has its own particularities, which can make it challenging to judge. It is therefore understandable that the questioner's parents are unable to understand more.

The criteria for evaluating the questioner's parents' health status may be straightforward and objective, such as assessing their mental well-being, dietary habits, and sleep patterns. When they perceive the questioner to be in good health, they may have the impression that the questioner has already recuperated, which is a common and understandable phenomenon.

The questioner's recovery may depend on the parents' ability to present a convincing conclusion. It may be challenging for the questioner to feel objectively in this situation. One potential solution is to have the doctor re-diagnose, which could help align the questioner and parents' consensus.

It is important to consider whether environmental or emotional factors may be influencing the situation. When we are unwell, we often feel a sense of injustice and a need for care. Additionally, we may seek more attention from our parents. Being aware of these factors could assist the questioner in opening up and adapting to the new environment.

Is the current feeling of unhappiness due to a lack of trust on the part of the parents? Or is it due to their decision to let the child go to school?

It is also possible that the questioner is reluctant to attend school. By becoming aware of the underlying causes of your emotions, you can gain a different perspective.

The questioner is unhappy about the doctor's decision to increase the dosage of the medication. Does the questioner resist or accept this state of affairs? If they accept it more, it may be because they want to avoid the uncomfortable school environment.

It is important to note that external forces can only be supportive in nature. Recovery will be accelerated if the questioner is willing to engage with the process. It may be helpful for the questioner to assess whether they are resisting or looking forward to the school environment.

It would be beneficial to gain an understanding of the reasons behind your parents' actions. It is likely that their primary motivation is concern for your future, rather than dislike. They may be hoping that you can secure a better future and more opportunities through studying. Would this way of thinking help you to understand your parents' feelings?

Please consider whether it might be feasible to attend school and become integrated into the academic environment. What are the potential consequences of following your parents' advice and returning to school?

It may be the case that you continue to take time off school as you are currently doing, but what if you were to become accustomed to it? Would that not be a more favourable outcome? By considering both sides, you may feel less anxious, and your parents will be aware of your current situation.

As Adler observed, difficulties often originate from interpersonal dynamics. The questioner's anxiety stems from a genuine concern about his father's opinion. However, the questioner's condition may not necessitate a confrontation with his parents, and the doctor's guidance is crucial in this matter.

I would like to suggest the following reading material: "The Power of Empathy," "The Courage to Be Disliked," and "A Thought Turned."

Best regards,

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Blair Jameson Frost Blair Jameson Frost A total of 1566 people have been helped

If you find that your parents don't believe you have a mental illness, it can make you feel helpless and confused. Here are some suggestions for how to deal with this:

1. Know the difference between your and your parents' positions: They may not believe in your illness because they don't understand how severe it is. They may want you to get back to normal as soon as possible, but that doesn't mean they don't care about you.

It's important to try to understand their concerns from their perspective.

2. Give them the lowdown on what depression is and what you're doing to treat it. Share your doctor's advice and opinions so they can learn more about your condition.

3. Get a third party involved: If your parents still have difficulty accepting or understanding your illness, consider getting someone else involved, such as other family members, relatives, and friends, or a counselor. They may be able to help you communicate effectively with your parents and provide support and advice.

4. Stand your ground: If you're sure you haven't recovered fully, you have the right to defend your situation. Talk openly with your parents about your feelings and thoughts, tell them you need more time to recover, and continue with the treatment recommended by your doctor.

5. Get your doctor's support. If your parents are skeptical about your condition, you can invite them to go to the doctor's appointment with you. The doctor can explain your condition to them and explain that more time and treatment is needed.

It's important to seek professional help and focus on your own recovery. Don't give up easily, because recovery from mental illness takes time and regular treatment.

It'd also be a good idea to try to communicate better with your parents so they can understand you better.

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Nicholas Nicholas A total of 3337 people have been helped

I know it's a tough situation. I can understand that you're feeling a lot of different things right now.

It can be tough to face the family's lack of understanding and external pressures, especially when you're dealing with your own feelings. First of all, I want to let you know that your feelings are valid and deserve respect.

Depression isn't something you can just act like it's not there. It's a real, treatable mental health problem. You're already on the right path, and medication and follow-up visits are great steps.

I'd like to suggest a few specific ways to help you cope with this situation.

The importance of communication:

Find a good time to have a long talk with your parents (when they have time, at least an hour, they may not be able to listen to you attentively when they are busy, and you should also be understanding). You can tell them how you really feel, including that you're not interested in school, not enthusiastic about life, and how you're currently being treated.

You can also mention that you really want to go back to school, but you need time to adjust to ensure you can adapt better after returning.

Set small goals with your parents. You could do some easy household chores every day or learn a little something new. As you progress, make the goals more challenging and do more. This will show your parents your progress and help you feel good about yourself.

It's also a good idea to get some support from people outside the family, like school teachers, counselors, or friends you can trust. They can give you different perspectives and help you communicate better with your parents.

There are even websites that offer a 15-minute phone call with a professional teacher for just 10 dollars.

Just a heads-up: Take the meds as your doc says and let him/her know how you're feeling at each follow-up. If you have any issues, speak up!

If you have to take a day off, you can do it on your own. We're adults, and we can handle it. Also, this medicine isn't good. It'll slow you down and make you dependent. You probably just have a minor psychological problem, so don't rely too much on medication.

It's important to pay attention to your feelings during this process. If you feel like you're not ready to go back to school, then your feelings and judgment are important.

Don't let outside influences push you around.

I have a friend who went through something similar in his first year of high school. He found that by talking openly with his family and setting small goals, he was able to gradually regain his interest in learning and enthusiasm for life.

He's now living a great life after graduating from university. Your situation can also improve if you stick to the treatment, pay attention to your feelings, and actively seek support.

Remember, your health and feelings are the most important thing. Don't be afraid to share your thoughts and feelings, while also respecting your family's concerns.

I hope these suggestions are helpful for you.

It's up to you whether you take it or leave it, but if you need more help, please feel free to PM me and I'll do my best to help.

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Ferdinandus Ferdinandus A total of 7812 people have been helped

Hello! It's great that you're seeking medical treatment for your mild depression. Taking a break from school and spending time at home is a great idea, but it can be tough when your parents don't understand. It's natural to feel lonely when you feel misunderstood.

You may not feel secure in yourself, but you can! You can start to open up again.

Your parents don't believe you because they don't know enough about depression and think you're just having a bad mood or being rebellious during puberty. But you can change that! You can tell your parents about your situation, try to communicate with them, tell them your true thoughts, and let them know that depression is not a trivial matter and needs to be taken seriously. If they don't believe you, find someone else you trust to help persuade your parents. You've got this!

At the same time, you can adjust your mentality, actively cooperate with treatment, and do more meaningful things in your spare time, such as reading and exercising. This will help relieve anxiety, teach you to self-regulate, and keep you in a good mood. Communicating more with friends and classmates around you will also help you maintain a good mood.

If you're not interested in anything, it might just be that you're in a period of confusion and haven't found what you really like yet. Don't worry! You can calm down, think carefully about what you like to do and what you're good at, set a goal, and then work hard towards it. Depression is not a terminal illness, and as long as you actively cooperate with treatment, you will definitely recover. So don't worry and don't be afraid, just face reality bravely!

I'm rooting for you! I hope you can recover soon, go back to school, and become better and better in the future.

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Abigail Green Abigail Green A total of 8859 people have been helped

Dear host, My name is Xian Xianren, and I'm a psychological counselor. I specialize in counseling adolescents on a range of mental health issues. I hope my answer helps you feel a little more at ease.

After reading your message, it seems like there are a few things going on that are making it hard for you to feel like you're on the same page with your parents. Let's take a look together and see what we can do to help.

First, a doctor at an authoritative hospital assessed your symptoms and determined that you are suffering from mild depression. I'm so glad you're getting help! Did you have a chance to chat with the psychologist?

The good news is that if you're in the early stages of depression, a combination of psychological and physical techniques might be a great way to start. If you can identify the root cause (or trigger and core reason) through this combined treatment, it can often help to alleviate the symptoms after a period of time (usually around 3-6 months).

Second, the more you understand depression, the easier it will be to find your way out.

Depression can come from so many different places. It can be caused by academic pressure, interpersonal relationships, family environment, and also the level of development of one's own personality (character) and the ability to cope with events, emotional management, and so on.

Of course, if the depression is too strong and causes some physical illness, then we say that moderate intervention with medication is appropriate. However, it's important to remember that neurotic problems still need to be resolved slowly, from the surface to the depth. It's not a one-size-fits-all approach, and medication shouldn't be used to control non-drug-related problems.

Third, after taking a little break from school, it might be best not to rush back to the classroom just yet. You can talk to your parents about your thoughts and plans, and they'll be happy to hear from you.

After reading your message, I could tell you were feeling a bit scared about arguing with your parents. I can understand why! There might be a few reasons why you're feeling this way. Maybe there's a bit of an imbalance in the way you communicate, or maybe your parents are a bit more forceful in their language. Either way, it's totally normal to feel isolated and helpless in these situations. The good news is that there's a solution! You can discuss with your parents whether you can find a professional psychological counselor to arrange a three-person family counseling (consultation) for you. This will give you a chance to talk through your feelings in a safe and supportive environment. It'll also give your parents a chance to understand your perspective better.

Another great thing about getting help from a third party is that you can get more objective and powerful support.

Fourth, your school teacher might have suggested that you think about your own energy assessment, and we think that's a great idea!

I'd love to explain why we say energy assessment, not ability assessment.

It's so important to remember that when our inner energy is low, it can really affect our ability to concentrate, persist, communicate and learn.

This causal relationship is like sowing seeds and then reaping the harvest.

I know this might be a bit overwhelming, but I'm here to support you every step of the way. If you ever feel uneasy or panicky, please don't hesitate to send us a private message. We're always here for you!

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Parker Parker A total of 7747 people have been helped

Hello, I'm Jia Peng, a student. Would you like to talk? I'm here to help.

From what you've said, I can relate to my own high school experience. I was also diagnosed with mild depression and accompanied by my parents to the hospital for an exam, but they never admitted this until I finally recovered. There's a generation gap between my parents and us, and many people are still unprofessional when it comes to publicizing depression.

People are often scared when it comes to depression. You mentioned that your family suspects you might be faking your illness, so it might be a good idea to go to the hospital for a comprehensive exam and use the results to prove it. Of course, you can also seek appropriate psychological assistance. It might be more effective for a professional teacher to talk to your parents than for you to explain it all by yourself.

You've just started high school, and everything needs to be adjusted, which is a difficult process. Do you feel like you haven't yet recovered? Is it physical or mental?

Write down your thoughts and see if you can find a solution. It doesn't matter whether you go to school or not. What matters is your physical and mental health. You can try to focus on the good things around you and cultivate positive emotions, which will have a certain therapeutic effect on depression.

I'd also suggest reading "The Power of Self-Care" to learn how to look after yourself effectively. All the best!

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Dear classmate, My name is Duo Duo Lian, and I'm here to support you!

I've decided to take a break from school for a while. I'm not sure what I'm interested in right now, but I'm excited to find out! My dad and I went to a great hospital to get some advice. They said I might have mild depression, but they're going to help me get back to feeling like myself again!

I can totally relate to how tough it is for you. Your parents are pushing you to go to school, and they even think you're faking your illness. It's a challenge, but you've got this!

In the parents' generation, they had their own needs, but they were simple: they wanted to eat and wear warm clothes. They had no needs, so they couldn't meet their children's needs either. But you can explore your true inner thoughts!

You don't want to go to school and you're not interested in anything. That's okay! We all have days like that. The important thing is to find a way to channel your energy and focus on something else. Maybe it's getting along with your classmates or managing the pressure of schoolwork. Whatever it is, you can do it! You're the expert on solving your own problems.

You are so filial and want to make your parents proud. At the same time, you want to be yourself and live your life on your own terms.

We all have those days when we just don't feel like doing anything. But that's OK! It's important to take care of yourself and treat yourself sometimes. Life is here to be experienced, so go out there and enjoy it!

Have you been lonely for a long time, carrying it all by yourself? When things happen, your parents can't understand you, and you have to bear everything alone. But you can also talk to good friends to relieve the internal pressure and let your emotions flow! Just like your request for help on the platform, I applaud you!

What are you worried about, what are you afraid of? Since you have suspended your studies, then go out there and enjoy the state of suspended studies! Having the courage to stay at home is also a kind of ability. You are braver than those children who force themselves to go to school. Suspending your studies is also a way to accumulate energy. You have done nothing wrong. Go out there and enjoy your free time to the fullest!

You are going through a lot right now, but you can get through it! You are facing the expectations of your parents, the pressure of your studies, and the comparisons around you. You are feeling anxious, which is why you are confused. You are not alone. Here, many people will be there for you and support you!

Parents want their children to be healthy and happy, and they want you to go to school so that you can have someone to keep you company, so that you can integrate into a group, so that you can change your environment. They can't solve your confusion, and they can't see your loneliness. But you can! You can be filial to your parents by living your own joy and being brave and true to yourself.

Everyone has their own destiny, and they can only be the best they can be! You can let go of your burdens and your parents' expectations. That is their wish! At their own pace, they walk into nature and just enjoy being alone with themselves during this time.

It's absolutely amazing to be young! You can afford to make mistakes because through this experience, you will explore more possibilities and move away from the negativity and judgments of others.

I wish you the absolute best!

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Hannah Victoria Quinn Hannah Victoria Quinn A total of 7108 people have been helped

Hello, let me describe what I see:

1. You don't want to go to school.

2. Go to a hospital for a diagnosis, a depression certificate, and medication.

3. In the first year of high school, your parents want you to go to school.

4. The doctor has increased the dosage of the medication.

I give you this response:

1. Talk to your parents about school. Tell them about your studies, classmates, and teachers.

There may be some friction, but you should express your true thoughts.

This is good for you and for talking with your parents.

2. You will have conflicts with your parents when you want to do something. Be brave and face them.

You will also face conflict at school.

If you can't face a conflict, avoid it. You'll never grow up.

The most important thing for teens is to become independent.

3. When we think about a conflict, we imagine different things.

This makes it hard to form relationships and deal with problems.

When you really face it, you'll find the conflict is not a big deal. You can take a few scoldings or just keep quiet.

4. Talk to your homeroom teacher about your illness and medication. He can also give you advice about school.

It may be better than talking to yourself.

5. Trust yourself and others.

Trust me and trust yourselves.

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Felix Collins Felix Collins A total of 5005 people have been helped

Hello, question asker.

I'm Tao Zhugong, your mental nurse. From what you've told me, it seems like you're feeling pretty helpless right now. I just wanted to give you a big hug and tell you to hang in there. I'm sure you'll be able to overcome this and communicate with your parents amicably soon enough.

The main issue I see with the helplessness in this article is that the parents don't seem to understand the current situation, which is causing confusion.

The questioner is looking for a quick fix to get out of this confusion. I think the best place to start is building a better, more intimate relationship with their parents.

1. Believe that our parents love us.

Parents always love us, and friendly parents get along.

The questioner mentioned in the text that they're afraid to contradict their parents. This shows that the questioner is afraid of their parents, but we can also look at it in a normal way. Since childhood, we've had an image of our parents in our hearts as tall and in charge of decision-making. However, as we grow up and become independent, we can gradually learn to communicate with our parents as equals. We can try to start with small things, express our own views and ideas, and slowly build up our confidence.

2. Be open and honest with your parents.

You can talk to your doctor or a friend about your current depression to figure out where you stand. That way, you'll feel more confident when talking to your parents. If you're still scared, you can practice what you want to say or run it by someone you trust. That'll help you feel more confident. The most important thing is to believe that your parents love you and want you to grow up happy and healthy.

2. Look after your body and emotions:

No matter where we are—at school or at home—our physical and emotional health is the most important thing. We also need to learn how to take care of our physical and emotional health. If we need help, we can look for professional support, like talking to a psychologist or counselor. They can give us more specific advice and support.

3. Find something you're interested in and learn more about it.

We're still in the learning stage and will go to school in the future. If we can talk to our parents about our current situation, we can also talk to them about learning in the future. That way, they can give us advice on how to face learning. At the same time, we can also see if we're not interested in certain courses or learning methods, or if it's because of the pressure of learning. We can share what we're going through at school with our parents, try to find new ways of learning with our parents or teachers, and listen to their suggestions and ideas. We can also find interesting learning resources, study with our classmates, or try different learning environments. In addition, we can think about our interests and hobbies and see if we can combine them with learning, which will make learning more interesting. If it's because of too much pressure from learning, we can try to arrange our time reasonably, make a learning plan, and rest and relax appropriately.

I believe that our parents love us. Communicate with them sincerely and honestly. Find an interest in learning. I hope my advice can help you. I am Tao Zhugong, your little mental caregiver. I hope the questioner can believe in themselves, believe in their parents, and quickly get out of the predicament.

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Luke Luke A total of 5361 people have been helped

I'm here for you, and I want you to know that I understand what you're going through. It can be really confusing and hurtful when your family suspects that you're faking your illness. The truth is, depression is a real mental health problem that requires time and professional treatment to overcome.

I've got some tips to help you cope with the situation.

1. Talk to your doctor: Stay in close contact with your doctor and tell them how you're feeling and what your family thinks. Your doctor can offer professional advice and help you explain your condition to your family.

2. Express your feelings: Find an appropriate moment and try to communicate your feelings honestly with your family. Let them know how depression affects you and what your real thoughts are about your recovery.

3. Seek support: Find someone you can trust, such as a relative, friend, or counselor, and share your difficulties. They'll be there for you with emotional support and advice.

It's also a great idea to educate your family about depression. That way, they'll have a better understanding of the illness. You can suggest some relevant popular science articles or books.

If you're feeling overwhelmed or like you're having trouble communicating with your family, it might be helpful to seek the support of a professional counselor or therapist. They can help you navigate these challenges and work towards a solution.

Remember, looking after your physical and mental health is the most important thing. Don't ignore your feelings, OK?

You can always talk to me, sweetheart. I'll always be here for you, no matter what.

Please, don't ever hesitate to talk to me. I'm always here for you.

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Olivia Claire Thompson Olivia Claire Thompson A total of 3035 people have been helped

It's totally normal to feel a bit confused and helpless when your family has doubts and is pushing you to go back to school. In this situation, it's really helpful to try the following strategies to deal with the problem:

First of all, remember that you know your own body best. It's totally normal to have doubts or feel pressure from others, but try not to let them sway your judgment. You're doing great!

If you don't feel like you're fully recovered, it's really important to keep up with your treatment and rest as much as you can.

Secondly, it's really important to try to communicate with your family in depth. You can choose an appropriate time to sit down and talk to them frankly.

It's so important to explain your condition, the progress of your treatment, and the doctor's recommendations to your family so that they understand your true situation. At the same time, it's also really helpful to listen patiently to their concerns and opinions and try to reach a consensus.

If you're having trouble communicating with your family, you might want to think about inviting a family member or a professional counselor to help you out. They can give you some helpful advice and suggestions to help you understand each other better and support each other.

It's also a great idea to stay in touch with the school. They'll be able to support you and help you stay on top of things. You can let them know about your illness and treatment, and ask them to be as understanding and helpful as they can be.

If you can, it would be great if you could provide the school with a relevant certificate from your doctor so that they can better understand your situation.

And finally, don't forget to take care of your mental health. Depression is a disease that requires time and patience to treat, so take it easy and don't rush back to school.

It's also a great idea to try some self-care techniques during your treatment. These can include doing a little bit of exercise, getting a good night's sleep, and finding something you enjoy doing in your free time. All of these can help to lift your mood and ease your anxiety and depression.

You've got this! The most important thing is to keep up with your treatment and believe that you can overcome depression. Even though things might seem tough right now, if you respond positively, seek support, and persevere, you will absolutely get through this difficult time.

It's also really important to learn to look out for yourself and your feelings. Don't let other people's opinions or pressure get to you.

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Ophelia Ophelia A total of 982 people have been helped

It can be challenging to navigate your parents' doubts and lack of understanding about your mental condition. In such a situation, you might find it helpful to try the following steps to cope:

1. It might be helpful to try to communicate more deeply with your parents and explain your feelings and symptoms. You could also provide some information about depression to help them understand that it is a real mental health problem that requires time and appropriate treatment.

2. It might be helpful to invite your parents to accompany you to the doctor's appointment, so that a professional can explain your condition and treatment plan to them. This could help to ensure that they have a better understanding of the situation.

3. If it is feasible for you, you might consider seeking the support of other relatives or family friends. They could potentially assist you in communicating your difficulties to your parents or provide some support and understanding.

4. Self-advocacy: While it may be challenging to engage in a disagreement with your parents, it is important to learn to speak up for your own health and well-being. You can express your needs and feelings in a gentle but firm manner.

5. It may be helpful to work with your doctor to develop a clear plan for treatment and recovery, and share it with your parents. This could help them see that you are actively dealing with your condition.

6. Show your parents the positive progress you are making in your treatment. This could include things like attending therapy sessions, following your doctor's orders, or engaging in helpful activities. This can help them see that you are trying to improve your situation.

7. Patience and understanding: It is important to remember that parents may have concerns about their child's future, often driven by a combination of love, worry, and misunderstanding about mental health issues and the unknown.

It would be helpful to be patient and give them time to adjust and understand.

8. **Take care of yourself**: It is important to remember to take care of yourself during this process. Following your doctor's advice, maintaining healthy habits, and finding activities that help you relax and relieve stress are all key to your well-being.

It is important to remember that your health and well-being are of the utmost importance. While it may take time to gain your parents' understanding, we encourage you to continue working towards your recovery and happiness.

If you feel you are under stress that you cannot handle, you may wish to consider seeking professional help.

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Jacqueline Iris Cooper Jacqueline Iris Cooper A total of 6641 people have been helped

Hello! I give you a 360-degree hug!

From what I can see, you're a high school student with mild depression. Your parents and teacher think you're doing great and ready to go back to school. You're not quite back to your old self yet, but your doctor thinks you're making progress.

If you can visualize your illness as a dog, a cat, an elephant, a rag doll, an alien, a pen, etc., your illness will stand by your side! But your parents, teachers, and doctors won't see it. They might not think it will affect your studies, or they might not be able to work with you. But you know it will! You hope that your parents and teachers can also see the illness standing by your side and take it seriously. You hope they'll pay attention to it!

However, no matter how hard you try—taking medicine, missing school, not being interested in things, etc.—it is not enough to make your parents see that you are sick. But there is hope! They may see that you are inseparable from your illness, but they only see you, not your illness.

It's possible that they don't see you, but only your studies, and see you and your studies as one.

You want them to see you and your illness! You said that you wanted your parents to believe that you had a mental illness, but you probably want them to see you through your illness.

But it seems that you have no other choice at the moment. I believe you have tried your best, and I know you can do it! Despite your suspension from school, visits to the doctor, taking medicine, and increasing the dosage, your parents still don't believe that you are really sick. But you know what? I do! And I know you can prove them wrong!

But you really need this illness! Psychological counseling believes that illness has a function.

That is, illness takes on some of the functions in our lives, and we can benefit from it. The good news is that although being sick is hard, being sick can bring us certain benefits.

For example, if you have a cold and a fever, you get to take it easy and relax. You also get more attention!

When I was little, I got sick once and laid in bed. My parents bought me delicious food and called me by a more affectionate nickname. At that time, I thought, wow, I can be really gentle and get more attention from them when I'm sick. At that time, the family's conditions were not good. I was the eldest child, with younger siblings, and my parents were very busy, so I needed to take care of my younger siblings. Everyone was also very poor, and there was nothing delicious in the countryside, so I couldn't eat it at all. But I made the best of it!

When I got sick, I made an amazing discovery: there are actually advantages to being sick! I told my parents that it would be incredible to be sick all the time.

From then on, I knew that being sick had its perks! After studying psychology, I learned that this is a fantastic secondary benefit of illness.

Of course, this is not to say that you are pretending to be sick. It allows you to look at your illness from a different perspective. You can think about what your parents would do if they really believed you were sick, and what kind of different behaviors they would exhibit. For example, they might take special leave from work to be with you, allow you to not do something, or allow you to do something. You could even make some kind of outrageous request! Or maybe your parents were fighting, but because you were sick, they stopped fighting to take care of you. You can use your illness as a variable, and with this variable, your family, your parents, will change in those ways that you want to see.

Think about it from another perspective. If you were cured, you wouldn't need to take medicine, you wouldn't need to see a counselor, you could go to school normally, your academic performance would be stable, and you would have good relationships with your teachers and classmates! What would your parents do? Think about it. What would they do? These things may or may not be related to you, but there are definitely some things that you cannot accept or that you are afraid of.

These are helping you to see the amazing secondary benefits you get from being ill, so that you can more clearly understand what you want and what your core needs are.

But now you are really sick, the doctor has diagnosed it, and you are taking medicine. Your parents and teachers want you to go to school, and this requires you to take real action.

You don't want to argue with your parents. You are still a high school student, and you need to rely on your parents for a living. In this situation, how can you feel better? Let me tell you my opinion!

First, imagine that your illness is getting better! Your parents don't believe you now, saying that you're faking your illness and that you've already recovered. But you know what? They probably think you should be able to go to school, and you can!

If you went to school, they'd see that you're committed to getting better and that you're ready to go back! I think you should try going to school as a way to show your parents that your illness is improving and that you're trying hard.

But don't pretend to be completely well. Go to school and make your daily life regular! Go to school regularly, attend classes, and wait for the end of the school day.

And of course, you get to decide whether to listen in class or not. You can be in the classroom, but your mind can be elsewhere. If you are willing to listen, then listen a little! If you are not willing to listen, then observe other people or just daydream.

After a period of time, you can review the situation. You can talk to your teacher and explain that you are not feeling well, but you are able to go to school normally. However, you are not confident about your grades. You can give your teacher a heads-up and hope that your teacher will not set expectations for your grades, especially if your previous grades were not bad. This is an excellent opportunity for you to take control of your situation!

Second, you can do some sports, such as basketball, running, boxing, etc. Sports are a great way to connect more deeply with our bodies and ourselves, and they'll make you happier!

Third, I highly recommend that you seek psychological counseling! You are taking medication, but psychological counseling is also very necessary. You can try the school's psychological counseling, or you can call some free psychological hotlines. Each province has a dedicated institution that provides public welfare services.

I am often both Buddhist and depressed, but I'm also an occasionally positive and motivated counselor! The world and I love you!

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Crystal Crystal A total of 2986 people have been helped

You have been diagnosed with mild depression, but your parents are unable to comprehend the situation and believe you are faking. I believe you must be experiencing significant distress, frustration, and a lack of control. You have indicated that you do not feel better yet, and I am confident that your feelings are genuine. Could you please describe the emotions you are experiencing?

Please describe the nature of the emotional and physical discomfort you are experiencing.

It is challenging to alter the beliefs of parents unless they can personally experience the same physical and emotional discomfort as the child. This requires them to put themselves in the child's shoes and consider the situation from their perspective.

Knowledge is typically derived from the body's senses, including sight, hearing, smell, taste, touch, and thought.

It is unlikely that you will be able to influence your parents' feelings about themselves and their bodies. Consequently, it will be challenging for them to alter their perceptions of you.

If you experience a change in your emotional state, it will affect your thoughts and perceptions.

Additionally, perception can be influenced by certain authorities.

The doctor has diagnosed you with depression, but your parents believe you are faking it. The doctor is an authority figure, and your parents do not accept the doctor's opinion. Have you ever considered your own perspective on the situation?

In regard to the medication you are taking, can you perceive whether it is having a positive effect on your condition?

All experiences have the potential to facilitate growth. The body and mind are vast and complex realms that warrant further investigation.

If we are able to achieve a state of mental calm, we will be able to discern the most authentic voice within. What factors contribute to feelings of depression?

Please describe the source of depression.

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Freya White Freya White A total of 4851 people have been helped

To be frank, the circumstances described by the original poster are not uncommon. Many of us have been questioned by our parents about various matters, both significant and minor.

The primary challenge for the original poster is not how to communicate with their parents to gain their trust, but rather to identify and address the underlying issue. The parents' distrust is an obstacle to progress, rather than a solution in itself.

It is essential to identify and address the underlying cause.

The original poster did not provide much detail about the circumstances that led to his depression. However, I can infer the probable causes. Regardless of whether the causes are academic or interpersonal, the focus is on how the original poster is coping.

It is important to note that school life is not necessarily a happy experience, and the author is aware of this fact. However, the most effective way to improve one's mindset is to engage in activities that distract you from your current situation and focus on things that interest you.

If you enjoy gaming, then engage in that activity, provided you do not engage in any illegal or unprofessional behavior. If you enjoy reading, then do so, provided you do not engage in any illegal or unprofessional behavior.

It is not always necessary to adhere to prescribed standards. Attempting to do so may result in a futile pursuit.

Each individual has a lifestyle that is well-suited to them. As long as it appears appropriate on the surface, it is of no consequence.

It is important to remember not to go to extremes. While it is necessary to appear to comply with the expectations of others, it is also essential to maintain your own independent identity.

I hope you will consider adopting a more open-minded approach.

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Cameron Douglas Baker Cameron Douglas Baker A total of 1064 people have been helped

It's not unusual for parents to have different perspectives. The generation gap often stems from differing upbringings and experiences.

Unless they're the same age, went to the same school, and have the same friends, it seems unlikely that anyone can fully understand you, even if they're your loved ones.

It's a good idea to get help from a counselor, but it seems like you're not totally on board with doctors increasing the dosage of medication. If you have the chance to chat more on the Yi Xinli app, you might just get some advice from an older person you look up to!

As you grow up in this new era, it's important to accept your own thoughts and not reject them. You should also try mindfulness meditation. Everyone around you is saying the same thing, so you need to think about what you really believe. At this time, you have to be a little self-centered and ask yourself what you care about the most.

I'd like to tell you about a friend's daughter. She was also in high school and had to deal with a stressful learning event. She had to take a break from school to recover. She was worried every day and also saw a counselor. Later, her father listened to the opinions of many people and supported her transferring to a technical secondary school with less pressure. The teachers encouraged her along the way, and as a result, she started to smile again, her self-confidence grew, and her academic performance improved. In vocational high school, the teachers encouraged her to continue her studies, and she is now already in college.

The protagonist of the story has had a bit of a rough time, but it can serve as a reference for you. What exactly affects your schooling? Mental health is just as important as physical health. If your attention is diverted, you won't be able to listen in class.

It's always good to talk to someone who supports you and understands you. Whether it's a classmate, teacher, doctor, or counselor, sharing your thoughts with someone you trust can really help.

I hope you have a healthy day.

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Dinah Miller A forgiving heart is a heart that refuses to hold on to poison.

I understand how tough things are for you right now. It's really hard when your family doesn't fully grasp what you're going through. You should try to find a moment to sit down with them and explain how you feel, maybe even with the help of your doctor or a counselor who can speak to your condition.

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Jacobson Thomas Life is a gift that keeps on giving.

It's frustrating when people around you doubt your struggles. Perhaps you could share more about your experience with them, showing them that recovery is not just about feeling better but also about managing triggers and maintaining mental health stability. Sometimes it takes time and understanding from both sides.

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Queenie Jackson A successful person views failure as a chance to prove their mettle and move towards success.

Facing such skepticism from family must be incredibly challenging. Consider reaching out to a trusted teacher or school counselor for support; they might be able to facilitate a conversation between you and your parents, helping them see the importance of respecting your treatment plan and the pace at which you heal.

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