What if you have no hope for the future, no courage to face it, and no courage to face it?

Good morning, My name is Yan Shiqi, and I am honored to have the opportunity to answer your question.

From your written account, it appears that you are experiencing feelings of escape and anxiety due to a lack of security and uncertainty about the future.

Please advise on the best way to deal with these emotions.

Please refer to the following suggestions:

Identify an area of interest and commit to investing the necessary time and effort to excel in it.

The presence of interests can, on the one hand, facilitate a sense of focus and engagement, which can help to mitigate current anxiety. On the other hand, when individuals devote themselves to their interests, they can gain a sense of accomplishment or confidence.

This interest can be reading, running, handicrafts, or any other activity that you find enjoyable.

2. Attempt to broaden your perspective.

I would like to suggest that you read Zhang Defen's book, "Meeting the Unknown Self," which provided me with a great deal of courage when I was experiencing helplessness and anxiety after giving birth.

The book asserts that there is no one else outside the door, and I would like to extend that same assertion to you: there is no one else outside the door, just yourself.

You may wish to consider joining interest groups, networking with like-minded individuals, and exchanging ideas about life and aspirations. This could be an effective way to gradually expand your social circle.

3. Develop your ability to exercise willpower.

Indeed, willpower can be enhanced through exercise.

First, begin with small tasks and commit to completing one daily task, such as going to bed early or getting up early.

Engage in these activities for a period of one month, six months, or a year to develop your willpower.

Provide yourself with encouragement and motivation when appropriate.

I am confident that you will be able to discern the changes in yourself, becoming more gentle and powerful as a result.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

Hello there, my lonely friend. From what you've told me, it seems that in terms of personality, you're an introvert who enjoys living in your own world and is reluctant to go out and socialize with people. Even when it comes to getting along with friends, you're passive and wait.

In terms of learning, you didn't do so well on the high school entrance exam and ended up in a less-than-stellar high school. This has led to some pretty low expectations for the future, and a bit of fear and apprehension about what the future might hold.

Because of the fear of the future and your perception of your own capabilities, you're reluctant to grow up and leave home. You even imagine being able to go back to 2020 or 2021.

Wishes are great, but we haven't yet developed the technology to "travel through time and space." We may not want to, but we have to move forward.

In life, we look at what we can do to make our lives a little better.

First, accept yourself. We're all unique individuals.

You paint your personality in a pretty negative light.

You tend to be somewhat withdrawn, indecisive, dependent, and weak.

Maybe it's the influence of your family and the environment around you that makes you feel like an introverted and unsociable personality is bad, like not actively contacting friends is bad, and like not having an independent opinion is bad. We're all imperfect, and we all have shortcomings and deficiencies.

Maybe it's the influence of your family and the environment around you that makes you feel like an introverted and solitary personality is bad, like not actively contacting friends is bad, and like not having an independent opinion is bad. We're all imperfect, and we all have shortcomings and deficiencies.

But remember, everyone has their strengths. Even someone with a challenging past has something valuable to contribute.

What are your strengths? What are your best qualities?

What are your strengths? What are your best qualities?

You dwell on your flaws and try to reject yourself, feeling worthless and terrible. This negative mindset makes it difficult to envision a bright future.

You think that because the future needs to be created by oneself, there is no future for someone as "bad" as you.

Try to focus on what you have, accept yourself, and acknowledge both your shortcomings and your strengths. This is the best way to figure out where you want to go.

If you want to make changes in your life, you have to start by understanding and accepting yourself. This means emphasizing your strengths and avoiding your weaknesses, or emphasizing your strengths and complementing your weaknesses. This way, you can make changes in the present moment and improve your life.

Second, address irrational thinking.

You think the situation is pretty rough right now.

Your grades in the recent exam were not so great, and the high school you are currently attending is not one of the best.

I don't have any independence at all, and I'm not very confident.

The future is wide open.

All your concerns are focused on "I have a bad personality, bad abilities, bad grades, and a bad school," and then you simply conclude that "there is no hope for my life," and even fall into a "fear of growing up and leaving home."

Your concerns are focused on your perceived shortcomings, and you even fear "growing up and leaving home."

This is actually an irrational way of thinking that overgeneralizes and is pretty damaging. Our fear, anxiety, and panic are not caused by how bad the current situation is, but by these irrational thoughts.

This is actually an irrational way of thinking that overgeneralizes and is extremely bad. Our fear, anxiety, and panic are not caused by how bad the current situation is, but by these irrational thoughts.

Where is the future? It's not just about tomorrow or the next day or even next month. It's about what kind of university you get into and what major you choose three years from now, what kind of job you get after graduating from university seven years from now, what kind of friends you make, what your workplace is like and what your lifestyle is like ten years from now, your personal development, your family and marriage fifteen years from now...

Where is the future? It's not just about tomorrow or the next day or even next month. It's about what university you get into and what major you choose three years from now, what job you get after graduating from university seven years from now, who you hang out with, what your workplace is like and what your lifestyle is like ten years from now, your personal development, your family and marriage fifteen years from now...

Where is the future? It's not just about tomorrow or the next day or even next month. It's about what kind of university you get into and what major you choose three years from now, what kind of job you get after graduating from university seven years from now, what kind of friends you make, how your career develops and what your life is like ten years from now, your personal development, your family and marriage fifteen years from now...

Where is the future? It's not just about tomorrow or the next day or even next month. It's about what university you get into and what major you choose three years from now, what job you get after graduating from university seven years from now, who you meet and how your career develops and what your life is like ten years from now, your personal development, your family and marriage fifteen years from now...

The future is still a long way off. When things are at their worst, there's still plenty of time to make changes.

The future is still a long way off. As it stands, there's still plenty of time to turn things around and improve the situation.

You can always make your life better.

Take a deep breath, acknowledge those feelings of fear and dread, try to adjust and sort out these irrational thoughts of your own, and see if those feelings of fear and dread have eased.

Take a deep breath, acknowledge those feelings of fear and dread, try to adjust and sort out these irrational thoughts of your own, and see if those feelings of fear and dread have eased.

Third, your future happiness and stability depend on your own actions.

Once you've had a chance to calm down, let's look at what you can do to change the situation.

Maybe you were too caught up in the moment to see what you could do to change things. We'd like to know what you've done to improve your situation, get better grades, and become more assertive, stronger, and independent.

Maybe you were too caught up in the moment to see what you could do to change things. It's not clear what you've done to try to improve your grades, become more assertive, or become stronger and more independent.

One reason we're generally prone to disappointment and even despair is that we never believe we can change the status quo and create our own future.

Everyone has incredible potential. Think about the stories of inspiring people. Even those with disabilities can create a bright future for themselves. You can do it too!

Our current disappointment and despair are due to the fact that we don't have clear, reasonable goals and a plan of action to achieve them.

Our current disappointment and despair are due to the fact that we don't have clear, reasonable goals and a plan of action to achieve them.

Once you know what you want to achieve, you can start taking action. This will gradually improve the present situation, and you'll start to feel more hopeful.

How to set goals and develop an action plan is a pretty big topic. There are lots of different things to think about, like setting long-term and short-term goals, using the SMART principle, being realistic, and not comparing yourself to others.

If you need help, you can learn some methods and techniques for setting goals.

Aristotle also had some tips on how to live a happier life:

Use your talents and strengths when you're doing things.

Set goals for yourself. Don't just set them at a level that meets your basic needs. Set them higher, with a greater sense of purpose. This could be to help or achieve something for others.

Do what's good, right, and worthwhile for you. We call this "intrinsic motivation" today.

When you attach other expectations to what you're doing, it can give you an inner drive. For example, you feel good when you help others or you start from scratch and turn your ideas into a successful business.

④ It's up to you to decide what's good, valuable, and meaningful for you. Do it on your own terms and take responsibility for your choices.

Forcing yourself doesn't lead to happiness, and forcing yourself to change doesn't work either. There's a lot of evidence that emotional experiences are more likely to make you happy than material possessions.

A summer outing with friends is a much better way to spend your time than buying a picnic basket.

The status quo may not be ideal, but if you keep moving towards your goal, taking one small step forward every day, you'll get closer to it eventually.

You have to believe in yourself and you can do it. And you have to have hope for the future. You have to build that hope little by little.

Let's do this!

Hello, colleague! My name is Shushan Wenquan, and I'd like to help you learn to be your own spiritual gardener.

From what you've told me about your personality, interpersonal skills, studies, past, and future, it's clear you have a nuanced understanding of yourself, as well as concerns and anxieties based on this understanding. I want to say that although it's challenging for ourselves and reality to be as good as we imagine, it's not as bad as we imagine.

Maybe if we look at it from a different angle, we'll find a different side of ourselves and a different path forward.

First, I suggest you think about whether your self-judgment is fair and find out why you think that way. Then, you can change your perception of yourself.

As you mentioned, you're an introvert, don't actively make friends, lack assertiveness, and have never traveled alone. It seems like these are all seen as flaws or problems in your personality, social skills, and experience.

I'm not sure where you got the idea from. Was it from comparing yourself to your classmates, or from feedback from other people?

I think it's worth noting that the points you mentioned may also exist in other people, at least they are obvious in me. I also once thought it was a problem, but then I realized that strengths and weaknesses actually exist together.

We should look beyond the shortcomings and focus on the strengths too.

For instance, introverts tend to have higher self-awareness, a deeper understanding of themselves, and are often better at thinking and writing. Your self-awareness and confused questions reflect this. I don't think that an average 16-year-old can observe and reflect on themselves in such a detailed way.

People with a smaller social circle can, to a certain extent, have deeper friendships. As for your comments on "having an independent opinion" and "going far away," this may have something to do with your family's education.

And it's never too late to start improving yourself at 16. So I suggest you think about whether these judgments about yourself are correct.

Where did this come from? Can I look at myself in a positive light?

Secondly, accept the reality and face your concerns head-on. As they say, it's easier to accept what you can't change and work on what you can.

Next, recognize the reality and face your "fears and concerns" calmly. As the saying goes, it's easiest to accept what you can't change and change what you can.

So, what are some things we just have to accept?

First, accept that you're getting older. It's inevitable, whether you like it or not.

It's inevitable. What we need to do is embrace it with an open heart and enjoy the bittersweet taste it brings us, which is the taste of life.

Second, leave home. Our parents have created a warm home for us, allowing us to live a carefree life for the first ten or so years of our lives.

But just like a bird with wings, one day you'll have to fly out of the nest and build your own haven. We also need to hone our skills and find our own piece of the sky. What you can do now is start with the little things in life and work on improving your abilities in all aspects to boost your self-confidence.

Believe in yourself. If you do what you love, you'll be twice as happy. If you face your fears, they'll be half as scary. Look at your past and present with fresh eyes. Give yourself the strength to take action. You'll see that the future is full of possibilities.

I hope you'll soon find the lovely and powerful you and create the future you want with courage! The world and I love you!

Hello, question asker!

It's tough to give you advice on your current dilemma in just a few words. Even so, I hope you'll take a moment to read my answer. I'm here to support you and explore some options when you're feeling uncertain about your future.

[An egg is broken from the outside, but life is broken from within]

During adolescence, we all have to figure out who we are, what we can do, and what we want to do. You're sixteen, so you're just starting to explore this. Your body and mind are developing rapidly, and you're no longer the little primary or junior high school student you once were.

You've brought up this confusion on the Yixinli platform, and it's also a reflection of your thinking and approach to this life theme. It's not easy for every adolescent student to break away from their previous habits and adapt to the changes brought about by growing up.

Once you're ready, you'll be able to move on to the next stage of life.

[Home can be a protective shelter or a battery charger]

From what you've written, it's clear that your home is a warm and nostalgic place. You don't want to leave home, so you don't want to grow up either. You even hope that you can go back to last year or the year before, when you had more time to stay at home due to the pandemic. Such a wonderful home can shelter you, but at the same time, it also makes you "completely incapable of being independent," because when you are at home, you only need to rely on the home.

When you're young, your family can be your protective umbrella, always looking out for you. But as you grow up, your family should become a source of support, so you can leave home and explore the wider world.

[Starting a change with just 5% is enough]

In the text, you mention several areas you'd like to change. In terms of interpersonal relationships, you currently have few friends and you're relatively passive. In terms of independence, you rarely go out on your own. Your academic performance is unsatisfactory, the current school environment is not good, and you're relatively weak and withdrawn. It sounds like you have a lot of negative feelings and dislike about yourself. This kind of dislike for yourself is actually very common during adolescence. You don't need to break with your current self because there must also be many strengths in you that you may have overlooked.

Next, you just need to start making small changes. For example, you could invite a classmate to hang out during the summer vacation, or say hello to a classmate you rarely interact with after the start of the next semester. You could also do some housework you can do at home by yourself.

I hope the person who asked the question had a great summer and is ready to take on the new semester with confidence!

Hello, I get it. You're afraid and feel helpless about the future. But today's you is shaped by all the choices you've made in the past. And the future you will be shaped by all the choices you make from today on.

First, the future you're worried about is still a long way off. After all, today you're only 16, and most kids in society don't start working until they're about 22. There's still time. As long as you're willing to change, there'll be plenty of opportunities.

Next, I'd like you to imagine what will happen when you're 22 and looking for a job. Will you get one, or will you be rejected? If you're not happy with the 22-year-old you, think about what you can do to avoid that situation. After all, you're only 16 now, so you can prepare in advance.

I hope you can give it a try. Grab an A4 sheet of paper and list the problems you encounter on one side until you run out of ideas. Then on the other side, write down what you can do to avoid such situations. You might find the solution you're looking for.

Finally, believe in yourself. You're more capable than you think. For example, asking a question here is something that many people wouldn't do. You've chosen to ask a question on the platform to solve your own problem and you've also chosen to offer a reward to increase the chance of solving the problem. This is your ability to solve problems that you're not aware of.

Once you can take your own deliveries, take a break and think about how you can help the elderly who don't know how to use the self-service lockers. Or, when you go out to pick up your deliveries, take out the rubbish and throw it in the bin. Don't underestimate these small things. As long as you start doing them, you'll find that your abilities will grow unconsciously. Come on!

If you can, it'd be a good idea to get some help from a professional counselor. They can help you figure out what you need to do to move forward.

Hello, classmate!

It's perfectly normal to be a loner, not keen on initiating contact with others, a bit weak, and not wanting to grow up.

There is no single standard for being a person. Nature needs everyone to be unique so that we as a species can cope with various environments and survive.

You are making a huge contribution to ensuring the human species has enough diversity to survive when you are different from the crowd. It doesn't matter how different you are. Just accept and embrace yourself for being that way!

Then, answer the question: "What should I do if I have no hope for the future and no courage to face it, and I dare not face it?"

From the previous discussion, if you accept and accept yourself, then because you think that your "no hope for the future, no courage to face it, and no courage to face it" has actually made a huge contribution to the human species, your question of "what to do" now becomes "what can I do to make a greater contribution"? In other words, your question becomes:

I have no hope for the future, no courage to face it, and I dare not face it. I have made my own contribution in this way and have received some recognition, but I want to make a greater contribution. What should I do?

I'm sure you can think about it again.

Best wishes!

I wish you growth!

Hello!

I'd really love to know what things and details from your childhood made you feel so unhappy as an adult.

You're feeling anxious, unsure, and a bit helpless. You really want to calm down, and it seems like the best way to do so is to go back in time, to turn back the hands of time every year.

Have you seen the movie "X-Men: Days of Future Past"? It's about changing the future by going back in time. Isn't it interesting how even if you go back in time, the focus is on "changing the future"?

Right now, it seems like you're taking a little break. Lots of people think about slowing down at different stages of life, and that's okay! Try to be kind to yourself as you navigate these thoughts.

Staying still can give you a sense of security, which is great! But you might find that this sense of security is difficult to maintain because society is moving forward, even if there are occasional setbacks. But don't worry, it will eventually move forward!

Not wanting to grow up doesn't necessarily mean you're being protected enough. It's more like you're not being empowered. I'm here to support you in exercising your independent thinking skills if you're willing to give it a try!

It's totally okay if you don't want to leave the house right now. Why not pick up some books for yourself when you pick up your delivery?

You can choose from British classics, philosophical works by French and German thinkers, Chinese classics, and American novels. There's no right or wrong way to choose books, and it can be a very enjoyable thing to do slowly.

So, when you pick up a textbook, you might just find that the content is anything but boring! Let's dive right in and discover the wonderland!

I'd love for you to let books be your faithful companion and listener!

To be left alone, you just need to develop an increasingly strong inner core, my dear.

You are not useless or not good enough. You are absolutely amazing just the way you are! You just haven't really tapped into the amazing potential that your inner energy gives you to be a more brilliant and glorious version of yourself.

Every day, try to give yourself a little more love and kindness.

Don't worry, dear. Life finds a way.

Hello, friend!

I empathize with your pain because I was once a similar person: inferior, withdrawn, and not very independent.

You say you feel hopeless about the future, that you don't want to grow up, and that you are afraid to face the life that lies ahead. Let me tell you, you're wrong.

I want to be clear that everyone has had such fears. But we must grow up, leave the protection of our parents, go out into society on our own, and face the storms of life.

You're still young, so don't think about it. Study hard, and you'll figure the future out later.

I'll tell you about my own experience. I was an introvert, withdrawn, and weak from an early age.

As a child, I was scolded by teachers, beaten by my mother, and isolated by my peers.

These painful experiences left me with a lack of love and low self-esteem.

The turning point in my life was when I graduated from junior high school. My only good friend told me to become more cheerful in high school and make more good friends who are cheerful, optimistic, and motivated. And I did.

I followed her advice and made a few good friends.

When I graduated from high school, my best friend told me to get out there and join more clubs in college to expand my social circle.

After going to university, I broke through my limits and joined clubs that interested me. I no longer limited myself to my small dorm room.

My changes have also led to my roommate joining some of my clubs.

I gained more friendships through changes in high school and college with the encouragement of these two good friends!

Dear friend, you can make more cheerful friends like me. Let them help you rebuild your confidence, get out of loneliness, and create a wonderful life.

I know you're going to have a happy future with lots of friends to help you and lots of happiness!

I am unsure how to assist you. I advise that you pursue professional psychological counseling, yet I also perceive your issue to be more significant than mine was initially.

From your description, it is evident that you possess an exemplary capacity for active listening. If you have engaged with various psychological hotlines, you will be aware that the quality of listening you describe, which involves focusing on a single individual, is also uncommon among hotline operators. The majority of listeners attempt to disregard their own internal thoughts and emotions in order to fully attend to the caller.

In addition to listening and psychological counselors, the ability to listen is applicable to many jobs, particularly those that require a relatively introverted and non-proactive demeanor. Occupations such as doctors, logistics receptionists, police officers, customer service representatives, and community workers may be well-suited to individuals with this skill set. These occupations may serve as the objective of one's current studies. For instance, I encountered a doctor during my prenatal checkups. Despite her demanding schedule, she demonstrated remarkable attentiveness to the concerns of pregnant women. Consequently, I subsequently sought only her for prenatal checkups.

Thus, if one considers listening to be one's strength, this represents a significant advantage that distinguishes one from the average individual.

Secondly, if the educational institution is of a poor standard, this is an unfortunate but unavoidable reality. It is crucial to have a clear understanding of one's own capabilities and limitations. A small proportion of individuals from disadvantaged backgrounds may only have access to an ordinary or substandard high school, while many more may not even have the opportunity to attend high school at all. If one is unable to gain admission to a high-quality university, it may be necessary to consider alternative options, such as a less prestigious college or vocational school.

It would appear that there are numerous colleges and universities offering medical degrees. It is worth considering where we might go from here, regardless of the circumstances.

In conclusion, the most crucial issue of not being independent can be addressed through counseling. If one aspires to be more than an ordinary individual, it seems that the only viable path is to fortify one's inner self through various methods. Among these methods, counseling is a relatively expedient and accessible approach. Other methods, such as sports, conversation, learning, and so forth, are also beneficial, but my experience has been that counseling can effectively address both the symptoms and the underlying cause.

As a result of the new functionality on the Yi Xinli platform, users can now pose questions in a gradual, step-by-step manner. This allows them to engage with the platform in a more active way, participating in book clubs and group activities while also exploring the option of consulting with a therapist when they feel the need.

It is imperative to have faith in oneself, as this will facilitate gradual improvement in the future. If one were to invest ten years in becoming a more accomplished individual, by the time this period has elapsed, one would be in their twenties, with numerous subsequent decades in which to pursue a fulfilling existence with a positive outlook. This would undoubtedly be a highly beneficial approach.

Best wishes to you!

Reading your description, I feel like I'm seeing myself from the past. You are exactly how I was a decade ago. I was so weak and helpless, and I was even bullied by my classmates. At that time, my life was a straight line between school and home. I had never been to any big cities, and the only time I went on a trip gave me very bad memories. My grades were not ideal either. I only got into a junior college when I took the college entrance exam. At that time, I was just like you, afraid of the future.

Let me tell you about my current situation. I live alone, I can go wherever I want, I'm not rich but I don't lack money, I don't feel bad about eating what I want or buying what I want, I can keep a clean and tidy home, I can make desserts and all kinds of delicious meals, and I've become a pretty good adult who can take care of myself. I've retained the innocence of my youth, I have a lot of toys, and my relationship with my parents is getting better and better. In terms of love, although it hasn't gone very well, I still have plenty of good memories. Recently, I've also made a lot of good friends at work.

Now that I've had a chance to reflect on my previous concerns, I realize that dwelling on them was unproductive. It's akin to "the worry of a man in Qǐ." In reality, the adult world isn't as harsh as what we often hear on the internet. When I reflect on it, all those negative stories about chicken soup I've encountered are likely people who don't want to embrace a positive mindset making up excuses for themselves.

If you change your perspective, you'll see the world differently. Think about the cat by the road: people who like cats think it's cute, while people who've been scratched by a cat think it's the most annoying animal in the world. So whether you have a good future or not depends on how you view the things you experience. I recommend the heartwarming American TV series "Full House" to you; it might give you some inspiration.

I'd also like to commend you for having the courage to face your inner self and share your confusion with others. You've already made significant strides on the road to happiness by seeking help. This requires a high degree of awareness and courage.

I'd like to leave you with a quote I like: "The best way to predict the future is to create it."

I wish you the best of luck. The world and I love you. ?

Dear young lady, After reading your confession, I am prompted to inquire whether societal expectations are a significant factor in your accelerated maturation and subsequent apprehension about the future, particularly at the relatively early age of 17.

You are an introverted individual who is not inclined to initiate contact or ingratiate oneself with others. You are reserved and unassuming, yet if someone makes the first move to engage in conversation, you will demonstrate your loyal and attentive nature. If you encounter someone who complements you, she will recognize the compatibility between you.

It is this author's belief that studying and living with one's romantic partner will enable the individual to end their life of "never having been out on their own."

You indicated that you wish to return to the past two years because you require additional time at home and more opportunities to avoid social interaction. While remaining in your comfort zone may provide a sense of security, it can also result in feelings of being confined. This may lead to an increase in introversion and timidity, and a further intensification of your apprehension about the outside world.

Did you indicate that your reluctance to leave the family home was due to your enrollment in a boarding school? Or, did your family members express a desire for you to attend a boarding school for reasons related to work?

Has your internal fear evolved from a fear of interpersonal relationships to a fear of a lack of survival skills? If so, did you and your family receive prior notification of this boarding school?

Please describe the dormitory environment at the school. How many students are housed in a dormitory?

Please clarify whether you are permitted to return home on a weekly basis.

I am eager to receive your feedback.

Hello!

I'm a mindfulness coach, and I believe learning is the greatest gift the body can receive.

From what you've said, I can tell you're feeling pretty disappointed, despairing, worried, afraid, in pain, and overwhelmed.

You don't have much hope for the future, you're not very courageous, and you don't want to grow up. I'm not going to go into detail here, but I'll give you three pieces of advice to think about:

First, I suggest you try to accept your current situation.

It'll also help you feel a bit more at ease, which will give you a clearer idea of what to do next.

You said you've been introverted since childhood, don't have many friends, don't have much of an opinion, aren't independent enough, don't want to grow up, and you know you're weak. You think about the past every day but still don't want to grow up and leave home. Your situation is understandable. If you were someone else, you'd probably be in the same situation. No one has the courage to face the future alone because people avoid what they don't want. When you know you don't have an opinion and aren't independent, you don't want to leave home and you're afraid to face the future. You've been introverted since childhood and don't have many friends. You have to accept your current situation and "see" that fearful self who is weak and doesn't want to grow up or leave home. This will give you mental energy to think about other things. Otherwise, your mind will be filled with negative emotions.

It's also important to allow yourself to understand and accept yourself so you can make changes in your current situation. It might sound contradictory, but it's true because change is based on allowing for no change.

Secondly, I suggest you take a rational look at your own situation.

Rational thinking can help you understand yourself and reality better.

To take a rational approach, you need to do two things:

It's important to understand that you'll eventually grow up and leave home.

Simply put, your "separation" from your family is unavoidable. Every child needs to take responsibility for their own lives, and the supporting role of the family will gradually diminish until it disappears. Family members cannot stay with you forever.

Second, try to see yourself as you would a child growing up.

You'll come to understand that you'll definitely grow up and leave home. You may still find this difficult to accept because you're worried that you're not independent enough and don't have what it takes to face the future. At this stage, it's important to learn to view yourself with a developmental perspective, because you're still young and have plenty of time and energy to improve and perfect yourself.

It's important to recognize your strengths and not let self-doubt get in the way. Everyone has their own set of skills and abilities, and you are no exception. From what you've shared, I can see that you have a good command of the English language. Your decision to seek help shows that you're motivated and ready to take on challenges. So, you have a lot to be proud of. Believe in yourself and you'll find the courage to face the future.

Once again, I suggest you focus on yourself and think about what you can do to become more independent and stronger.

For instance, you can observe how those independent and assertive classmates around you operate, learn from them, and also have a good chat with them to learn from their experiences, which may also help you grow.

You can also have a good chat with your parents and other family members. Tell them what's on your mind and get their advice. It'll probably help you feel better. They might also be able to give you some tips on how to become more independent.

You can also try to look at things from a positive perspective when you think back on the past every day. This will help you learn from your experiences, which will in turn help you grow and become stronger.

You can also work on your own weaknesses, accept what you can't change, and change what you can. When you focus on becoming a better person, your mood might even improve. You need to invest time and effort into growth, including your academic performance, because improving your learning ability is also beneficial to your future development. In short, you need to know that you can do something to improve the current situation.

Once you start taking action, all those negative emotions will start to dissipate. Sometimes, taking action is the best way to combat negative emotions.

I hope this helps. If you want to chat further, just click on "Find a coach for an online conversation" at the bottom and I'll be in touch.

Hello, classmate! Sixteen is when a flower blooms.

Adolescence is the period between childhood and adulthood, usually between ages 10 and 18. You are in this period now.

The confusion, pain, and powerlessness you describe are mostly related to your mental state. There's no rush; let's talk about it slowly.

Adolescence is a period of rapid physical, biochemical, endocrine, psychological, and behavioral changes, mainly due to sexual maturity.

Adolescence is a period of physical and psychological weaning. Children leave their original family and eventually enter society as independent individuals. You say that you have always been very introverted. Even if you have friends, you only pay attention to them.

You don't have a strong opinion, but you know how to respect others and pay attention to them. This is your politeness and your need to be noticed.

Many students have problems with puberty. It's normal to feel confused and uncertain. It's also normal to feel like you haven't left home yet. Going out is a way to communicate with society. Puberty is a confusing time. You seem like an adult, but you're not. You want to be independent, but you're afraid of losing your family. As you mature, you'll learn from your parents, teachers, and classmates. You'll seek new partnerships. You don't have the energy to face changes yet. Do you feel uncomfortable talking to your classmates?

If you overcome this discomfort, you can surpass yourself. You started at kindergarten, went to elementary school, then junior high. You've come this far on your own.

You're older now, so you should be stronger.

I think your junior high school entrance exam result has made you avoid people. One exam can't decide your life path. You still have many choices.

You had a setback in 2012 when you got a poor score on the high school entrance exam. This led to you going to a relatively poor school.

If you're afraid of the future, you might think you'll never be able to face life as an adult. But you've grown up and have the experience and ability to grow up. How can you retreat to your mother's arms again?

Avoiding the pain of growing up is a sign that you are unable to take on adult responsibilities. Everyone has to grow up and fulfill their own mission by solving problems.

I know you're going through a lot right now. You want to be independent but also want to stay close to your parents. It's normal to have setbacks in growth, like with exams and friendships. It's important to talk to your classmates and build good friendships. But you might not know how to help with big issues. It's good to talk to your parents and get help when you need it.

I'm proud of you for seeking help. It shows you're strong and know how to ask for help. This is an important quality for young people today.

You've taken the first step. With your teachers' help, you'll set sail on your youth journey. Go for it, classmate.

Hello, original poster.

Let me give you a hug!

You don't accept or approve of yourself.

You used two words: "fear" and "scared," which made the future seem unreal.

What kind of growth experience did you have in your early years?

I don't know. Are you a boy or a girl?

How did you discover you were a coward in first grade?

I'm curious. Did you grow up with fear and dread?

What motivates you?

Have you ever thought about it?

Fear is a powerful force.

Fear can save you from a hostile environment!

From what you fear:

First, fear of losing real life.

Second, fear of the future.

Third, fear of being unable to cope with changes to tomorrow's familiar environment.

Every day is a tomorrow.

The earth will keep turning, and you will keep growing.

You need to understand:

Your fear can protect you.

Survive!

This fear is human nature. It's in our blood.

I don't know what other relatives you have, but it seems you have a good relationship with them. Otherwise, you wouldn't say you don't want to grow up.

This fear of growing up is about family and security, but also about leaving home and starting a new life.

Your fear is separation anxiety.

Take your time and you'll grow up!

Believe your family and friends will support you!

I'm counselor Yao. I'll support you!

Hello, topic master! My name is Nan Fenglin, and I believe we can meet a better version of ourselves here.

I'm saddened to see your words. It's remarkable that at such a young age, you're already contemplating how to navigate the future. I'm surprised to hear you feel worthless.

Perhaps there is more to the situation than what is expressed in your writing. It seems that you don't think you're worthless, and you're open to thinking and exploring.

How might we best navigate an uncertain future?

It might be helpful to accept your imperfections.

From what you have shared, it seems that you are an introverted person who sometimes struggles with making decisions and has experienced some academic challenges. It's understandable that you might be feeling a bit down about this. Let's try to put ourselves in your shoes for a moment. In today's world, your introverted nature might actually be a strength that sets you apart from others. Many children who enjoy spending time alone often have a remarkable ability to concentrate. It might be helpful to take a closer look at yourself and see if this is true for you as well.

Perhaps you've been focusing on your shortcomings a bit too much and could benefit from recognizing your strengths as well. After all, nobody's perfect. And if there really were such a person, it's likely that they would also experience anxiety.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that because he is afraid of making mistakes, and because he believes he is perfect, every mistake will be magnified.

2. Consider speaking to yourself

You mentioned that your grades in the middle school entrance exam were not as high as you would have liked and that you attended a school that may not have been the best fit for you. However, the middle school entrance exam is behind you, and it is unlikely that anyone will ask you about your score in the future.

On the other hand, when you graduate from this relatively underprivileged school and successfully enter university, the people around you will praise you and say that you have worked hard and have a talent for it. It is perhaps not so important to dwell on how bad we used to be, but rather to recognise the ways in which we have changed and grown during those challenging times.

It might be helpful to try to live the present well. When you look back on it in the future, you may find that you thank yourself for this time, rather than blame yourself. You might like to have a good spiritual communication with yourself and explore your own inner world.

It would be beneficial for you to have many close friends in your life. You are so sincere with others. "Even if I have friends, it is others who initiate conversations with me, and I will only focus on one person." Even when you are chatting with friends, you will not be distracted. You are so sincere, and you are actually not as bad as you say you are. The current predicament will not last long. When we are tired, we will stop. There are always ways to solve problems.

I hope my words have been helpful. The future is full of unknowns. If you are feeling lost and unsure of your direction, it might be helpful to stop, take a moment to look around, and ask yourself what you truly want. Having problems is not the worst thing that can happen. There are always more solutions than problems. You have the power to choose.

I believe that you have the potential to become the best.

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I'm reaching out because I have a question for you.

From what you've shared, I can tell that you're going through a challenging time. I can also sense your loneliness and helplessness in your words. While I'm not sure of the specifics, I can see that you're aware of and thinking about yourself in this difficult situation. You want to overcome the difficulties and face the future with courage.

I am deeply touched and inspired by you.

If I might offer you three pieces of advice and feedback in light of your current situation, I would do so as follows:

1. You are currently experiencing the second decade of your life, which can be a challenging time. Psychological research indicates that this is a period when it's common to feel lost and uncertain about one's direction. Many individuals face similar challenges during this age, and it's important to recognize that these are normal experiences. The key is to do your best and then allow time for positive changes to emerge. Many people find that they gradually become more cheerful and bright after navigating this age.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to look forward and move forward. By moving forward with determination, we can all grow. I would also like to tell you not to be afraid or hesitate, and that by growing up, we can

2. Regardless of what the past may have been, it is important to look forward and move forward. By moving forward with determination, we can all grow. I want to encourage you not to be afraid or hesitate, and to remember that by growing up, we can all become what we want to be.

3. Believe in yourself. While this may still be challenging for the younger you, you can always be mindful of your trust in yourself during difficult times. This is also very important for you. You don't have to force yourself, but you can try.

I would like to extend my best wishes to you, hoping that you will find the courage to be true to yourself, persevere in your endeavours, and that the sun will always shine after the rain. I truly believe that you will become the person you aspire to be.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to try to keep an open mind.

Could I perhaps make a suggestion?

From the main poster's narrative, it is evident that the group leader is an introvert, unsociable, and lacks a positive and enterprising mindset. From a psychological perspective, it can be concluded that a mild anxiety has developed.

You lack self-assurance and are apprehensive about facing life's challenges independently.

There is a misconception in your cognitive system that you are incompetent. This has led to a negative mentality of simply muddling through.

These factors contribute to a tendency toward complacency in your thinking and reluctance to invest additional effort. You would rather devote more time to worrying than to making changes.

This is not conducive to your future growth. Through this short exchange of text, we aim to provide you with an understanding of the issues you face and how to adjust your state of mind to better navigate life.

1. Do not make excuses for shortcomings.

It is important to address shortcomings head-on and to actively work towards change, rather than seeking excuses and remaining passive.

I have consistently demonstrated a tendency to be somewhat reserved since childhood. Even when I had friends, I often found myself gravitating towards them, while they took the initiative to engage with me. I have not developed the capacity for independent thinking or forming strong opinions. At the age of 16, I rarely engaged in activities outside of my immediate social circle, and my social interactions were largely limited to obtaining deliveries.

Take a moment to reflect on your current situation. You have identified yourself as withdrawn, indecisive, and rarely socializing with others. Have you considered that these behaviors may be a result of your natural disposition?

Have you determined that you are not suited to navigating life independently?

This outlook is unproductive and dismissive. The optimal mindset is to strive for personal growth and adopt a cheerful and positive demeanor.

In today's business environment, social skills are an essential asset. By recognizing your personality flaws, you can work to address them and enhance your professional image. The 5G era has brought about significant advancements in teaching resources, offering new avenues for skill development.

Mobile phones and apps offer a cost-effective way to gain valuable insights into socializing. I recommend exploring relevant courses and dedicating time to their comprehensive study.

It would be beneficial to communicate with others more often and adopt a more sociable approach. This will have a positive impact on your future career prospects.

Many skills are not innate, and much can be changed through hard work. It is important to believe this and to create opportunities for yourself to learn and improve.

As you make incremental progress, you will gain the confidence to make further improvements.

Secondly, it should be noted that a strong academic performance is not the sole determining factor in success.

Many people are influenced by their surroundings to believe that academic performance is the sole determining factor in their future success.

It is a common misconception that poor academic performance equates to a lack of future opportunities. In fact, this is not the case.

I took the high school entrance exam in 2021 and received a disappointing score, which led me to attend a relatively underperforming school. I had minimal expectations for my future and was overwhelmed by the prospect of adulthood and the responsibilities that came with it.

Everyone has their own set of skills and abilities, some individuals may possess a greater range of talents, while others may have fewer. However, there is always a place for one's unique abilities in the professional landscape. It is essential to identify one's strengths and leverage them to the fullest extent possible.

If feasible, leverage your strengths in a professional capacity. This approach aligns with a positive outlook on life, whereby your abilities contribute to society and generate financial rewards.

Don't allow a poor academic performance to preclude your future success. Even if you fail at school, it doesn't mean you can't succeed in the future.

Identify your strengths and build on them. I am confident that you will achieve results in the near future.

3. Eliminate the negative self-denying mentality.

From your account, it is evident that you have already begun to view yourself as a failure, and that you have allowed this perception to take hold subconsciously.

I must commend you on your progress in self-acceptance. However, I believe there is room for improvement. True self-acceptance entails not merely accepting one's shortcomings, but also maintaining a forward-thinking mindset. It is not enough to merely accept one's limitations; one must also strive to overcome them.

I have limited independence and a weak personality. I came to recognize this when I was in the first grade.

You indicate that you lack independence, yet you do not specify that you are disabled. However, it is worth noting that many individuals with physical disabilities in society are able to live independently.

They are both striving to maintain their livelihood. You possess the capacity to live independently, so why do you doubt your ability to do so?

If you lack the requisite abilities, you should endeavor to develop them. Through continuous learning, you can gain the abilities necessary to live independently.

Rather than adopting a negative outlook, identify reasons why you are unable to live independently and remain at home.

4. Accept the past and move on. Do not allow it to impact your future decisions.

I currently reflect on past experiences on a daily basis. Even if I had the opportunity to revisit 2020 or 21, I would not choose to pursue growth or transition out of my current living situation.

As you have not provided a detailed account of events, I am unable to conduct a thorough analysis. However, I believe that the experiences you have described must have had a notable psychological effect on you.

You may then wish to consider the following three aspects. It is then possible to learn to let go.

Ultimately, it is important to recognize that the past is over and that it is not productive to allow past events to impact future decisions.

Please describe any negative experiences you have had in the past. Do you believe these experiences could have been different with different actions on your part?

2. What key insights have you gained from past experiences that you can apply to future endeavors to avoid unfavorable outcomes?

3. Can the consequences of past events be modified or compensated for through future efforts?

In conclusion, it is important to note that individuals must inevitably mature. You will eventually become

An independent individual must learn to navigate life and society without the support of their parents.

It is essential to develop an independent mindset and approach life with a positive and enterprising attitude.

This is not just for your own benefit, but also for the benefit of those around you who care about you. It is therefore important to be resilient. Regardless of what has happened in the past,

It is imperative that you do not allow past events to negatively impact your future.

Your decision to seek advice on the Yi Xinli app indicates a positive and enterprising outlook, along with a desire to improve your current circumstances. I encourage you to maintain a positive outlook and approach life with courage and resilience.

Hello, questioner!

I'm Xiaobai, and I'm here to tell you that you can live your best life! I'm not worried about anything, and I'm excited to help you take away your worries.

First, I'd like to give you a big hug! I'm so excited to share some of my views and suggestions with you.

Let's dive right in and take a closer look at the specific issue the questioner is facing. Let's interpret it, analyze it, and see what we can do to help!

I have no hope for the future, but I'm excited to see what it has in store for me! I just need to find the courage to face it. What can I do to build my courage?

I've always been a bit of a homebody since childhood. Even if I have friends, they're the ones who initiate conversations with me, and I love that! I'm not the most independent person with a strong opinion, but I'm working on it! At the age of 16, I've never gone out to play by myself, but I'm excited to start!

I took the high school entrance exam in 2021 and got a poor score, so I went to a relatively poor school. I have no expectations for the future, on the contrary, I am very excited to see what the future holds! I am afraid that my current life will disappear when I become an adult, and I don't want to grow up.

I have absolutely no independence and my personality is very weak. I realized it when I was in the first grade, and now I think about it every day. But you know what? Even if I could go back to 2020 or 21, I don't want to grow up or leave home.

?‍♀️About no hope for the future

The truth is, most people have this kind of energy! Don't be afraid, just keep your feet on the ground and go forward. In the current environment, enrich yourself and maintain a good attitude!

Life is long, and it's going to get better and better! All you have to do is put in the hard work.

You're going to be amazed at how much your true value and what's meaningful to you will grow. You'll be blown away by how much progress you'll make every day when you set a goal and work towards it every day. You'll be inspired to challenge yourself and discover your own strengths and value. You'll have so much hope for the future because you'll be excited about every new thing you discover and explore.

Many people face the challenge of feeling uncertain about the future. I choose to embrace this challenge by focusing on doing my best in the present. I believe that by putting my energy into taking care of things in front of me, I'm paving the way for a brighter future. Every effort now is a reward for myself in the future.

I believe in you! Don't let a pessimistic attitude hold you back. If you don't have confidence in yourself, you'll never achieve your goals. You have to rely on yourself, and others can help you along the way. They can't solve all your problems for you, but they can support you in achieving your dreams!

Once you put your mind in the right place, you'll be amazed at how your views on things can change! Of course, it all depends on you. I'm excited to give you some suggestions to get you started. My words may be a bit harsh, but I hope you don't mind!

‼️ You can do it! Have hope in yourself. Only children who work hard will reap success.

It's totally okay if you're not independent yet! You can definitely develop it later.

?1. Get started with the small things! Do the smallest things well, think about how you can improve, and think about how you can deal with similar things in the future.

?2. Be brave and try independently. If you have a problem, you can totally solve it on your own! Just analyze it more, and even if someone else ends up helping you out, you should still look at the flaws and differences in your own thinking.

?3. Continuous accumulation. Independence is not easy, but it's worth it! You'll gain invaluable life experience, knowledge, and finally, tacit knowledge that you can summarize and apply to your advantage.

?‍♀️Now, let's dive into the exciting topic of growing up!

The best time is the time you can't go back to, and the best future is the future you can't reach! There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be a child to a certain extent!

If you can retain the innocence of a child and remain a child for your entire life, then I think that is an absolutely wonderful thing! It means that someone is doing their very best to protect you from the darkness and danger of society.

This is so fortunate!

But if reality forces us to grow up, then we can't escape the problem by saying, "I'm still a child and I want to stay a child forever!" Because each of us has our own responsibilities, no one can live life as they please!

If we are lucky and have someone to protect us, then let's just be a child! It's the best! If we are not so lucky, then we have the chance to learn and grow up and try to be a good adult!

‼️ You can be a child who can bear the love of thousands, and you can also be an adult in armor!

?‍♀️Keep up the great work! Every stage has its own challenges, but remember to look up at the stars. The future is going to be amazing!

?‍♀️In summary, I'm thrilled to share some of my views and suggestions with you. I hope they're helpful!

Wishing you the very best!

I'm Xiaobai, and I'm absolutely thrilled to be here! I love the world, and I love you!

I would like to extend a 360-degree embrace.

Upon reading your question, I noted that the final two sentences were particularly noteworthy. It is evident that you are reluctant to embrace adulthood and the subsequent transition of leaving the familial home.

As a 16-year-old high school student, you will soon be required to take the college entrance exam. Following this, you will experience a more ritualistic separation from your family. At the same time, you will also become an adult in the legal sense at the age of 18. As the college entrance exam draws closer, you may experience an increase in anxiety. You may even create a situation that prevents you from leaving home, for example, by failing the exam.

You indicate that you have been markedly reticent since childhood, and that you lack knowledge regarding your upbringing, your parents' relationship, the atmosphere at home, and so forth. However, the circumstances you currently face have instilled a profound sense of confusion, despair, and an absence of the courage to confront them. Consequently, you are reluctant to assume the responsibilities associated with adulthood and are even more averse to leaving the familial home.

In psychology, this phenomenon is referred to as regression, which denotes a sudden loss of mental capacity in an individual who has previously demonstrated maturity. This loss of capacity renders the individual unable to cope with the demands of independent living, necessitating the assistance of others.

However, it is not feasible to undergo the process of maturation in a single day. It is evident that the individual in question is undergoing this process, and it is clear that they will eventually need to leave the familial home. In the event that the family is financially secure and the parents are tolerant, it is possible to cease the process of maturation and remain in the family home indefinitely.

For the majority of ordinary people, however, the process of maturation entails a structured progression through educational, professional, and other social and economic roles.

The question thus arises as to the optimal course of action.

One potential strategy is to temporarily refrain from engaging in the aforementioned behaviors on specific days of the week, such as Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, while continuing to address the aforementioned concerns.

On Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays, one may engage in the process of maturation and assume the role of a 16-year-old. This may entail focusing on the present, studying, reading books, and engaging in activities typically associated with that age group. With the advent of summer vacation, one may also engage in the pretense of studying while simultaneously engaging in leisure activities such as playing basketball.

On Sunday, one may opt to remain in a youthful state of mind or to feign the process of maturation, contingent upon one's prevailing emotional disposition.

Naturally, the decision of how to allocate this time is at the discretion of the individual.

One might attempt to ascertain the emotional response that this action will evoke. It must be acknowledged that the actual result is uncertain.

One might suggest that an experiment be conducted.

I frequently identify as both a Buddhist and a pessimist, though I also experience periods of motivation and positivity. I hold a deep affection for the world.