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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, original poster.
Your girlfriend was born into a poor family, which has had an impact on her. You understand and sympathize with her, which shows you are a responsible person with a strong sense of empathy.
The original family has a big impact on a person's growth. If the original family gives too little or too much love, it can cause psychological problems in the child. These problems can continue into adulthood and affect life, work, and the workplace. You are a kind boy who has always been responsible for your girlfriend. Even if your girlfriend has done something that hurts your family, you sympathize with her and have been with her for six years. I applaud you!
If we ignore ourselves and our loved ones and always take care of our girlfriend's feelings, it will harm us and our family. You may not feel this harm now, but it may affect your relationship in the future.
Your girlfriend seems to be emotionally affected. If she can't regulate herself, take her to a professional for diagnosis or see a counselor. This can help her recover and grow. It will also help you and your family.
Next, take care of your emotions and don't over-empathize with your girlfriend's. This causes vicarious trauma and gets you caught up in her emotions. You can see you have a strong sense of awareness and can look at your girlfriend's problems from a third-party perspective. Detach yourself from her trauma and emotions. You are great!
If your girlfriend has always been like this and you have always let her, it's not right. She'll do whatever she wants without knowing right from wrong, and it'll ruin your relationship.
If your girlfriend can't improve, you'll feel tired. Then you can choose to leave. This is your choice. Adults must take responsibility for themselves. We can't be responsible for other people's lives. So if you can't improve your girlfriend's situation or you're tired, you can also choose to leave. Your girlfriend's life needs to be healed, faced, and become happy by herself.
No matter what you choose, you need to face it from your heart, care for yourself, and take responsibility for your life. Learning to make yourself happier is not selfish. It's about taking responsibility for yourself.
This is my view. I hope it helps.
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I can see how deeply you care for your girlfriend and how much you've both been through. It's tough to witness someone you love in such pain, especially when it feels like there's little you can do to help. Over the years, I've grown spiritually from being with her, but the emotional breakdowns are taking a toll on me. She has so many triggers, from memories of her childhood to feelings of inadequacy compared to others. When she lashes out or cries uncontrollably, I feel lost on how to comfort her without making things worse.
It's heartbreaking to watch her go through this, and I empathize with her struggles, yet I'm at my wits' end. Her outbursts are becoming too frequent, and it's affecting our relationship as well as those around us. I want to be supportive, but I also need some guidance on how to handle these situations better.
This situation is incredibly draining, and I worry about her wellbeing as much as my own mental health. I've tried to be understanding and patient, but the constant emotional turmoil is overwhelming. We've shared six years of ups and downs, and I wish I knew how to bring more stability into our lives.
Sometimes I feel like I'm walking on eggshells, unsure what might set her off next. The way she reacts during these moments, accusing me or my family of selfishness, leaves me feeling guilty and inadequate. I wonder if there's something more constructive we can do to address her pain instead of letting it consume us both.
Seeing her cry and scream breaks my heart, and I want to find a way to help her heal. Perhaps seeking professional help could provide her with the tools to cope with her emotions and prevent these episodes from happening. I just hope she'll be open to getting the support she needs.