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What is the psychology of someone who always says, "If you were me, you would have killed yourself a long time ago"?

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What is the psychology of someone who always says, If you were me, you would have killed yourself a long time ago? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

One of my depressed friends often tells me, "If you were me, you would have died long ago and would no longer be here," "I'm much worse off than you," and "What are you depressed about?" I want to know what kind of mentality is behind these comments.

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Perhaps it would be beneficial to do something useful.

It can often take a long time for people who accuse others to grow.

It would be beneficial to take responsibility for one's actions. Being blamed for something can lead to reflection on how conversations with others might be approached differently.

We may say we want to protect ourselves, but in reality, we do a lot of things just to feel a little more secure.

If you feel that you can gain protection from someone by competing with them through your words, it can make you feel more comfortable. However, this approach may not necessarily lead to further progress.

Perhaps it would be more beneficial to consider ways of proactively developing wisdom rather than demanding from others. When demanding from others, it's important to recognize that we're not doing anything to contribute ourselves, but rather hoping to fixate on others and exploit them.

A good mood is certainly a positive thing. While it may not be productive to fight for one's reputation or to engage in unnecessary conflicts, a positive mood can bring a great deal of comfort.

While it may be possible to achieve the simplest victory by taking the cheapest advantage, it is important to recognize that there are often more effective ways to proceed. Attempting to do otherwise may result in a sense of futility.

From our experience, we have learned that our time is best spent on things that are truly worthwhile. It is not wise to seek out small advantages at the expense of our greater virtues.

If the ability to be economical with one's words is the extent of our capabilities in life, it suggests that the intense competition in society may not be entirely a result of individual actions.

If there are many other areas of society that require hard work, or that require others to work hard, then it may not be the best use of resources to take advantage of this situation.

Ultimately, it is important to recognize that we are all competing for the same resources.

It seems that everyone is trying to get as much as they can. They believe that if they compare themselves to others and criticize them, they can save face. As a result, they continue to insult others, work hard to improve themselves, and try to compare themselves to others. They think that staying isolated is a long-term solution, so they keep themselves away from others, take the money they can get, and try to improve their abilities.

This is simply the reality of our society.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to avoid closing yourself off in this way, as though you were running away from something due to intense competition.

In order to survive in today's competitive world, people often tend to narrow their interests and preferences to a single aspect, which can sometimes lead to a lack of variety and a sense of stagnation. If this continues, progress may be slow, and there might be less motivation to take on new challenges. This could potentially result in a feeling of stagnation and a lack of motivation to try new things.

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Dahlia Crown All things are easy that are done willingly.

I can imagine how tough it must be to hear those kinds of comments. It seems like your friend might be expressing a deep sense of despair and possibly feeling like their situation is insurmountable. They could be projecting their own struggles, thinking their problems are far greater than anyone else's.

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Pilot Davis Life is a question and how we live it is our answer.

It sounds like your friend may be in a really dark place and using these statements as a way to express their pain. Sometimes people who feel this way believe that others can't understand their level of suffering and might be trying to convey the depth of their distress.

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Sara Iris An honest man's path is strewn with the roses of respect.

Your friend's comments reflect a possible belief that they are isolated in their suffering. This kind of talk can indicate that they're seeking empathy or simply want someone to acknowledge just how much they are hurting inside.

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Holden Davis I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have.

When someone says things like that, it might come from a place of not wanting to burden others with their issues. Your friend could be minimizing their own feelings by comparing them to what they perceive as lesser problems in others' lives, which is a very unhealthy mindset.

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Lee Anderson The reward of diligence is a crown of laurels.

Hearing such negative selfcomparisons from your friend suggests they may lack perspective on their own value and resilience. They might benefit greatly from professional support to help them see beyond their current emotional state and recognize their worth.

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