What should I do if my roommate stole my diary, yelled at me, and depressed me for half a year?

Hello, classmate. I can see from your description that you're going through a rough patch. It's totally normal to feel like this sometimes. I can also see that you usually suppress these emotions in your heart, slowly digesting and tolerating them yourself through methods such as keeping a diary. It's not easy to directly express your feelings in interpersonal relationships. The diary, as a way of self-digestion and a private domain, is your space, your private base for digesting your pain.

And when your classmates violated your privacy and used the content to further accuse and confront you, you still chose to endure and even apologize. I know this was really tough for you, and I'm so proud of you for being able to do that.

I'm not here to judge who is right and who is wrong between you and your classmates. I just want to give you a reference perspective, which is to ask you to pay attention to the characteristics and patterns of your own emotional expression and rights protection in interpersonal interactions. Perhaps this pattern is an internal reason for the continuous accumulation of painful emotions, until one day it becomes unbearable.

It's often tough to change others directly. But you can change how you interact with people by understanding and changing yourself. This will slowly influence how things develop. I know the process you've been through has been heartbreaking. But I also want to tell you that this could be a chance to better understand and develop yourself.

We really think you'll benefit the most from this opportunity for growth if you go to the school's psychological center and make an appointment for psychological counseling. Let a professional help you face your pain and get to know yourself better. If it's the end of the semester and the school's counseling is suspended, you can also make an appointment with your teacher for counseling next semester.

The summer vacation is a great time to chat with your family and friends. It's a wonderful way to soothe your emotions and expand your perspectives.

Life is full of twists and turns, and it's so precious! Life experiences are dialectical, too. You know, opportunities for growth are also born out of suffering. So, find some trusted family and friends, or a counselor, to face it together with you.

I really hope this is a valuable growth experience for you!

Dear Sir/Madam, I am aware that you have experienced difficulties in your relationships with your roommates. It is understandable that you have expressed your resentment towards them in your diary. However, your roommates have found this and made it public, which has caused you to feel humiliated and hurt. It is natural to feel ashamed in this situation. I empathise with your situation. Best regards, [Name]

I am concerned about your well-being. It is evident that you are experiencing depressive symptoms. Your school has a school doctor or psychologist who can assess your need for medical treatment. If you are suffering from a mental illness, early intervention can lead to recovery. It is essential that you take responsibility for your own physical and mental health. Your physical and mental health is of the utmost importance.

It is not uncommon to experience disagreements with colleagues. Their actions were unacceptable, and it is understandable that you have negative feelings towards them. You expressed these sentiments in your diary, which is your personal space and not related to your professional relationship with them. You did nothing wrong.

However, I observed that the individuals in question accessed your personal diary without your consent and subsequently disclosed its contents, which constitutes a violation of your right to privacy. This has caused you distress.

You have made the appropriate decision to distance yourself from those who have caused you distress.

However, given the severity of the incident, it is understandable that you are currently unable to move on from the hurt you feel. Their actions have had a significant negative impact on you, affecting your self-esteem and reputation.

Everyone has the right to privacy and to keep certain information confidential. It is highly inappropriate for such information to be made public. You have been the victim of a violation of your rights, and you are under no obligation to apologize to the perpetrators. In fact, they should apologize to you for invading your privacy.

Each individual has the right to express anger and opinions within reasonable limits. You are free to write anything you wish in your personal diary.

It is important to learn to stand up for your rights, protect yourself, and fight for your own interests. You may also wish to discuss this with your trusted teachers to gain their perspective. Sometimes we become overwhelmed and struggle to find a way forward. Over time, this matter will gradually fade away. I hope you can distract yourself more and focus more on the present and the future. It would be beneficial to remove the disturbance as soon as possible. I am here to support you.

Hello, I'm Fly Free, your Heart Exploration coach. I'm here to listen to you and help you.

I can see you're upset about your diary being read. Your classmates' actions make you angry, and I can see you're scared.

Breathe. Let me hug you. There are always solutions. Let's look at the problem.

1. Understanding and preventing bullying in schools

You are not at fault. Your classmate is. It's okay to vent in your diary after being scolded.

A diary is private. You write it for yourself.

Keeping a diary is a good way to get rid of negative emotions. It avoids conflict and angry behavior.

They read your diary and showed it to others, which is bullying.

"School bullying" is when someone in a position of power hurts another person on purpose. It can cause physical or mental harm.

It can take the following forms:

1. Physical bullying is when someone hurts you or takes your things.

Verbal bullying is when someone hurts you with words. This can be by teasing you, calling you names, or making fun of you.

3. Social bullying is when you intentionally cause problems between classmates. This can include spreading rumors, sharing secrets, damaging someone's reputation, isolating them, and excluding them.

2. Use the law to protect yourself.

The new law says schools must report serious bullying to the police and education authorities.

The Law on the Protection of Minors says schools and kindergartens must have a system to stop sexual abuse and harassment of minors. Schools and kindergartens must report these crimes to the police and education authorities. They must also work with these groups to deal with the crimes.

The following points require your attention:

1. Stay calm. Bullies are cowards. If you act strong, they'll back off.

Call for help and attract attention.

Tell your teacher and the school what happened. Your "diary" is understandable and forgivable, so don't exaggerate.

3. Your safety is the most important thing. You can try to stop the other person with words, or you can use conversation and the environment to get away from the situation.

Don't provoke the other person.

4. Don't start fights with classmates at school. Get help from teachers if you do.

5. Tell your parents about any intimidation you experience.

3. Get your parents' support.

You said you tried to make things better by apologizing, but it didn't work.

Your attitude is important. Don't let them think you're weak.

What help have your parents given you?

Your parents understand and support you the most. They can also give you more protection. Tell them what's going on.

If your parents blame you, they don't understand how school bullying affects you.

I suggest you get professional help to come out of this incident's shadow. You are in control, not those bullies!

Even in the worst situations, there is a positive side. Every experience is valuable. This experience is a reminder to be careful what you say.

Keep your diary at home. Your parents won't tell.

Be careful when making friends. Talk to your parents if you have any problems.

I hope this helps. I love you.

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Good day, classmate. I can discern the confusion you are currently experiencing.

You are experiencing interpersonal problems. I would like to offer you a warm embrace once more.

To avoid a repetition of this error, it would be advisable to secure your diary in the school locker and refrain from bringing it back to the dormitory.

It is important to note that even if one places their diary in their bag, it is still possible for their roommates to locate it, despite it being their personal property.

Despite having relocated from the dormitory, the incident has resulted in psychological distress. It is advised that you consult with the school's resident psychologist, whose services are provided at no cost.

As an alternative, one may also seek assistance from the professional counselors available on this platform.

A 50% discount is available for students who utilize the platform's counseling services. To qualify for this discount, individuals must complete a form and submit a current student ID.

In regard to the suicidal ideation you have articulated, it is this writer's recommendation that you contact the national crisis intervention hotline.

It is my sincere hope that you will be able to find an effective solution to the problems you are facing as soon as possible.

This is the extent of my advice for the time being.

It is my sincere hope that my above answer will prove both helpful and inspiring to you, my esteemed colleague. I am the answer, and I study assiduously each and every day.

At Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to all and wish you the best.