What should you do when you lack inner strength and are spiritually impoverished?

Greetings. The question author perceives a personal connection with you through your words. Initially, I extend a gesture of warmth and support.

From the questioner's description, it can be seen that the questioner is extremely rich in internal resources and longs for happiness. However, when something happy occurs, it is not as fulfilling as the questioner had hoped, and they repeatedly engage in contemplation, which may be a form of repetitive negative thinking.

It is my hope that the response provided below will prove beneficial to the reader.

The difficulties experienced by the questioner prompted me to consider the concept of "inferiority complex" within the field of psychology. Individuals with this subjective belief often have high expectations of themselves, leading to a sense of dissatisfaction when they fail to meet these standards. This can result in a feeling of an unfillable void within, and a tendency to consider giving up. In such cases, there is a perceived lack of strength and resilience.

The question thus arises as to how one might cultivate a sense of positivity and empowerment.

1. Accept and like yourself:

Consider the objective you wish to attain, the rationale behind your pursuit of it, and then methodically divide the goal into smaller, more attainable steps. Focus on the process of achieving the goal, not the end result. This approach will help you to consistently enhance your inner strength. Even if the outcome is not as you had hoped, it is important to learn from your mistakes, adjust your expectations, and accept that you are imperfect.

2. It is beneficial to engage in a hobby and to adhere to it consistently.

It is also occasionally necessary to adopt a more rigorous approach to self-evaluation. When confronted with circumstances that are disagreeable or challenging to accept, it is essential to demonstrate resilience and determination in the face of these difficulties. Only through persistent challenges can one develop the strength to confront reality.

3. Positive self-affirmation and self-monitoring of positive affect:

It is recommended that one record the things one has done well today, which are small blessings, and that one constantly affirm to oneself that one can be happy, giving oneself positive thoughts.

For example, one might consider reciting the following affirmations each morning upon rising and each night before retiring: "I possess resources, I am valuable, I am qualified, and I have dreams."

4. It is recommended that the reader peruse "The Courage to Be Disliked." Many reviewers have attested to the exceptional quality of this book, which they believe will impart a profound sense of inner strength to its readers. It is strongly suggested that the reader take the time to familiarize themselves with this book, as it offers a unique perspective on psychological concepts.

The world and I extend our love to you.

My name is Yixin, also known as Xiaona Xinxiang.

Many people may also share your thoughts, thinking that what other people have must be the best in the world. They are always restless about what they cannot get, which means they are eager to find the perfect fit! It's like eating from a bowl while looking at a pot, always thinking that only other people's food is the most delicious.

But other people's things are not necessarily suitable for you. You may have other things to deal with, and you may also have things that you desire. In any case, when you think that you will become like that when you have it, you must be prepared—and you can be prepared!

You can break through the feeling of spiritual poverty! All you need is inner strength.

I don't feel very happy, but everyone else is good at everything!

When others wear beautiful, limited-edition Hanfu, they look absolutely amazing!

Suffering

Don't be discouraged!

What other people have, if you get your hands on it, doesn't necessarily mean it's a perfect fit for you. But that's okay! We can't compare ourselves to others and follow their lead too much. We must have our own convictions.

Life's veins and arteries separate, so find your own true path and blaze it!

Other people's life paths are different from yours — and that's a good thing!

When you feel unhappy, it's a great idea to reflect on your thinking!

There may be some thoughts in your mind that think what others have is good, and that others are very happy. But don't you want to show off your glamorous side as much as possible?

If you like, you can also find a style that suits you and post it in your circle of friends for everyone to like. Your current thinking has already taken some steps in that direction, and it keeps slipping into the scope of other people. But don't worry! You can easily change this.

It's as if you can only follow in the footsteps of others, but things don't always go as planned. This is an opportunity for you to discover what you really want and what's truly right for you.

And you have also wasted money. This kind of torment may come from the thinking of internal friction, that is, feeling bad about yourself, inferiority complex, and all kinds of shortcomings. But don't worry! When you feel that nothing is good, you can simply explore and seek from the outside world, which makes you lack focus.

You are already very tired. So you need to reduce the tossing and turning afterwards. The good news is that happiness does not necessarily come from the outside world. You may already have a lot without realizing it. I highly recommend that you undergo matching psychological counseling and also take the inner animal archetype psychological test to let yourself understand your inner true character flaws and calmly improve yourself.

ZQ?

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm modest and consistent.

If you don't have inner strength, you're going to be lacking in the spiritual world.

From what you've said, I can tell you're a bit confused.

Know yourself.

In your description, you said you'd considered buying Hanfu because you liked how it looked on other people, but when you tried it on, it didn't feel right.

So, right now, we need to figure out what really motivates us to buy Hanfu. Is it because we like it, or because we think others look good in it, so we buy it to wear ourselves?

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Any reason is good for anything. It's the reason that helps us understand what we love. So it's a good idea for the questioner to reflect on themselves.

Give it a try.

To have a rich spiritual world, we need to support it with long-term hobbies. If you don't have any, you can choose to cultivate them.

Take a good look at your own personality and choose a field you love. Each field has its own circle, and with a circle you can have a group of like-minded people, and you can persevere.

To become your best self, you've got to understand yourself. And there's nothing wrong with breaking through in your field of passion and making achievements.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, your coach, Fei Yun.

It's okay to feel confused, helpless, and powerless. It's hard to find motivation to work hard and struggle, and it's tough to see a path forward. You spend every day feeling torn between different emotions.

Let's start with a quick hug and then take a look at what's on your mind.

1. When you see your internal conflict, turn to internal cultivation.

Internal conflict is when your mind is at odds with reality. It's like two little people fighting all the time, draining your energy.

We all have limited energy, so where is the energy to do other more worthwhile things?

As you mentioned, it's nice to see Hanfu worn by others, but it's not as impressive when you get it for yourself. Repeating the same choices over and over again is a kind of internal depletion.

Internal friction is like a tap that hasn't been tightened, drip, drip, drip, draining your energy day in and day out.

The best way to deal with internal depletion is to focus on self-development.

Here's some advice:

1. Stay focused on the present.

Taking action helps to reduce anxiety. Think about the players on the field and the audience in the stands. The players don't have anxiety, but the audience does because they're not taking action.

I've found that living in the present is the best way to deal with anxiety.

2. Focus on yourself:

Turn your energy inward and focus on your own growth and maturity through learning.

A person who is rich within will also be rich in outward appearance.

2. Energy conversion method:

It's easy to be happy. Learn to focus on what you have, not what you don't have. For example, you see someone wearing Hanfu and you envy them.

What they don't know is that in other people's eyes, they're also envious of you.

If there's a glass of water that's half full in front of us, some people will say, "Luckily I still have half a glass of water," while others will say, "Why do I only have half a glass of water?"

One is complaining, the other is being grateful.

If you focus on what you have, you'll be grateful and happy.

If you focus on what you don't have and complain about it, you'll just end up worrying more.

Complaining doesn't just fail to help you get more, it also causes you to lose what you already have. This is what's known as the Matthew Effect. When you complain, you're setting yourself up for a whole load of trouble.

Psychology teaches us that if you focus your attention and energy in the right place, you'll get the results you want.

For instance, if you have a folder labeled "useless," it'll naturally collect all kinds of useless items.

If you focus on failure, you're more likely to fail.

The world is made up of people and things, and people determine the flow of things. So, if you can express your gratitude for what you see/have, things will flow to you, and conversely, you will lose what you have and more.

If you want a happy life or more wealth, you need to adjust your focus and focus on the things you want.

I hope this is helpful to you. The world and I love you ?

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Dear question asker,

It seems that you have raised the term "spiritual poverty" and are aware that internal conflict may prevent you from truly being happy. This suggests that you are willing to observe yourself and consider ways to protect yourself.

If you are open to living for yourself, you may gradually develop inner strength.

From the story you shared, it appears to be a series of psychological experiences triggered by a Hanfu, with some conflicting emotions and feelings, as well as feelings of inferiority and pride.

If I may enquire, where did the news of the limited edition Hanfu originate?

Perhaps it is not necessary to care so much about the word "limited edition" if someone else mentions it.

If you were to wear a piece of clothing that you really like and that brings out your beauty, and it were different from the type of clothing you would normally wear, how would you feel?

It is important to be able to see beauty, and to learn to appreciate others. However, it is also crucial to learn to appreciate yourself, and to understand what you truly want.

Could I perhaps inquire as to what might be the most suitable for oneself?

It's similar to the Louis Vuitton bag. I recall that one year, Faye Wong wore it when she went out, and it became quite popular. Many people were inspired to copy it.

Faye Wong purchased a product she liked based on her financial resources and status in the music industry. For ordinary people, however, it might be worth questioning whether it is truly necessary to change bags every day to commute to work.

Perhaps you have your own perspective on this matter.

You may have seen someone else with a limited edition item and decided to purchase it for yourself. Working hard to earn money and buying items on your wish list for yourself is also a form of self-motivation.

Ultimately, if you discover that it's not what you truly desire, it may lead to a sense of emptiness within.

I encourage you to enrich your life by exploring areas that truly capture your interest. I recognize that there is a wealth of knowledge about Hanfu, and I hope that you will share your style more often to help disseminate traditional culture.