When seeking help from others, I start to procrastinate again. Always passive, could it be procrastination?

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

I am fortunate to have seen you ask for help, and I am here to support you. I applaud you for recognizing that you are unable to take the initiative when you want to ask for help and for choosing to come and ask for help.

Awareness is the first step to change. When dealing with others, especially when asking for help, presenting a passive waiting state is not the behavior of a proactive helper.

Your state of mind reflects your internal inferiority, lack of self-confidence, and lack of acceptance of yourself. You cannot accept and face the fact that you have to ask others for help. You think such a self is weak, incompetent, and terrible.

Let me be clear: you have too many internalized self-rejections, low self-esteem, and lack of self-confidence. You have created overly perfect expectations and illusions of yourself. You want to be omnipotent and omniscient, which is obviously impossible. Everyone has their own limitations, and everyone has their own shortcomings and deficiencies. This does not mean that you are weak and incompetent. It just means that you are not good at certain things. This is human nature, and everyone is the same.

You must learn to fully accept yourself, including your shortcomings and areas for improvement. This does not mean you are worthless or inadequate. You have your own strengths and capabilities. What do you think?

Appropriately expressing your vulnerability in a relationship and expressing your desire for support is a sign that you are strong enough. This is not a nuisance to others; it gives others the opportunity to show themselves in their area of expertise. Others will feel valuable because they are needed. Asking for help in a relationship appropriately will not affect the relationship; it will enhance it.

I am Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you.