Why can't I do as well as others, no matter how hard I try? I want to give up studying.

Hello, dear child. I think there are just a few little misunderstandings that you need to sort out for yourself, and there are also a few contradictions in your own perception as you've described them.

The good news is that you can still be considered excellent before the sixth grade of elementary school! This means that your learning ability and grades are still good. However, later on, you might feel that your learning ability is not quite where you'd like it to be. This is totally normal! You might feel like you need to study hard in order to reach a normal level.

This aspect is a bit contradictory, but it's totally normal! For courses, the difficulty of learning will definitely be more challenging. Think back to the knowledge of the first grade and the first year of junior high school, right? So in the future, when you reach the first year of high school, it will definitely be more difficult than the first year of junior high school. This is totally inevitable, but you've got this!

However, the good news is that learning ability is constant and may even increase! Let's look at an example from the past. How long did it take to do 100 addition and subtraction problems within 10? Let's say it took 5 minutes. Now, if you are given 5 minutes, you can not only do 100 addition and subtraction problems within 10, but also 100 multiplication and division problems with two-digit numbers! The difficulty has increased a lot, but your learning ability is not just a little better than before.

As we go through school, our learning ability builds up, but unfortunately, motivation can sometimes decrease. The transition from primary school to junior high is a great example of this. It's totally normal to feel like you used to be able to learn something in ten minutes, but now it takes twenty minutes to understand it. When this happens, it's important to recognize that your motivation might be waning, and you might need to give yourself a little boost of confidence.

It's really important that we understand the ratio of this span to learning ability.

Let's take a look at an example together. The difficulty span from first grade to second grade is 2, from second grade to third grade is 2, and so on. But the span from sixth grade to first grade is 4. At the same time, the learning ability is 2 from first grade to second grade, 3 to third grade, and so on, and 7 from sixth grade to first grade.

It might seem like 7 is greater than 4, but in fact they are different. The span is an accumulation on the original basis. In the first grade, it is 2+2+2+2+2+4=14. So what does learning ability 7 need to be equal to 14? It needs to be combined with time and additional factors.

We all have different needs when it comes to spending time and effort on learning. You made a great point about how some people can learn while playing. We'll talk more about how playing while learning can be a great way to learn later on.

There are so many great ways to learn! Some are better for you than others. With the right method, you can learn more and work less. It's a skill!

If we don't discover the skills or don't know how to apply them, spending more time is a silly way to do it. But it is also an effective way!

If twenty minutes isn't enough, we'll spend forty. We'll always learn, my child. You have the ability to achieve excellence, and I know you will! Once we've got a good foundation in junior high and our learning ability has improved, high school knowledge will be as easy as elementary school problems now.

Spending more time doesn't just mean spending more time. We all know that. Spending time without results is "wasting time." You can read a book called "Deliberate Practice" which talks about the importance of spending time in the right way.

Use that one hour of effective study time to offset those three hours of ineffective "fake study" to solve that pesky problem of "sitting at the desk every day during the winter vacation, but with poor results, not much review, and now in retrospect, I realize that I actually did very little."

The second is, "No matter what I do, I can't match the scores that others get from playing."

Our external perception is something we can control ourselves. Isn't that great? We can even have two thoughts about this perception!

It's true that some people are just naturally smarter than us. They listen to the teacher for 40 minutes a day and then they play for the rest of the time. They can learn everything the teacher says and writes in the book. We commonly call these people "academic prodigies." There is also a type of genius who can learn just by reading. We call them "academic gods." These two types of people, how many do you see around you? Are there any in your class? Let's just say the top three in the class. Then what makes the majority of the rest of the people smarter than us?

This is something else to think about. They don't learn while playing.

Instead, they study secretly when we are not looking, which we call "internal roll." At school, everyone plays hard when everyone is there, and studies hard when they get home. But when they communicate with you on WeChat or tell their classmates the next day in class, they say, "I played games all night and almost didn't finish my homework in time."

So you really think that people who play all night do better than me, who study so hard for exams?

Don't worry about whether these two ideas are realistic. Just take your perception of "the reason why others are doing better than me" as it is, and then see if you also need to make an effort. This can help you understand why "I'm not as smart as others."

We can't really compare with the top students and academic superstars who have their sights set on Tsinghua University and Peking University. We might not be at their level, but we can still compete with most other students and aim for the 211,985 universities, which is just as good as being excellent!

Third, there are other things going on in our lives that can affect our learning. My family knows that I am sensitive and always encourages me, but yesterday my mother said, "You were like this in elementary school and you still can't compare with others. I was at a loss and even wanted to give up learning."

Have you found the heart of the matter? You know yourself well and you know your family knows this too. You know your family has always been understanding, but it was a comment from your mother that made you think you didn't want to study.

It's like when you're taking an exam and you don't write a single word, knowing that you'll get zero points for a blank answer sheet. But when the result comes out and it says you got zero points, it's really tough to take. It's a feeling.

I know your mom cares about you and wants you to succeed, and I really appreciate that. But I think the real issue here is that you might not be taking the right approach to learning.

So don't take your mom's words the wrong way. She's just trying to encourage you! Think back to how she supported you when you were struggling and up until yesterday. I think you should thank her for being there for you. Your mom loves you and wants you to succeed. She's just worried about your mental health, which is totally understandable. That's why up until yesterday, she wasn't trying to upset you.

On top of that, it's also a practical issue when it comes to grades.

It's totally normal for online classes to not be effective at first. You're not alone in that! What we really need to focus on is learning the exam-specific knowledge points, not necessarily taking the best classes.

There are two main things to focus on: the basic knowledge and the test knowledge. Once you've got those two down, you'll be all set to ace the exam!

It's time to get organized! One of the great things about being in the first year of high school is that the content is still based on elementary school knowledge, which you can review. Another advantage is that you still have more than two months before the high school entrance exam, so there's no need to put too much pressure on yourself. Take some time to organize your learning goals and priorities for each subject. Divide them into three categories: what you know, what you don't remember well, and what you don't know at all.

I know it can be tough, but try to focus on three categories to learn. That way, you'll make sure you don't forget what you know, review what you don't remember well, and do more exercises. You can even learn again the theoretical logic of what you don't know at all!

The other option is to follow your situation and focus on the subjects you're not so good at. We'll figure out where our priorities lie together!

For example, you can choose whether to focus on the arts or the sciences. It's totally up to you! Just start with the subjects you are best at or most interested in.

First, build up your confidence in your studies. Then, learn subjects that are relatively uninteresting to you and that you are not very good at. You can also be a little flexible with your goal setting. For example, if you like the subject you are good at, set the big goal to be excellent and try to get a high score. If you don't like the subject you are not good at, you can guarantee to pass and set the big goal to be good.

We're aiming for that target college entrance exam score! That's the total score for all subjects. As long as we get it, there's no big deal (a great score of 100 or a not-so-great score of 30).

You're lucky to have the support and understanding of your family, and your mom's words show that she's really hoping you can get back to studying. You could ask your parents to help you out, for example by supervising your studies and keeping an eye on external factors that may affect your studies.

Once you've developed a new study habit or are back in school, you could also ask your parents to set a study plan for you. As long as you're meeting your daily goals, you can enjoy some playtime, too!

There are two ways to supervise. If you are motivated enough and want to recover, you can use the first, coercive method. There is no negotiation, and you will be "kept under guard."

The second approach is more moderate and seems to suit you better. It involves setting up a reward and punishment system. If you complete the plan or make progress, you can be rewarded with entertainment or your parents can cook you a nice dinner. If you don't complete the plan, not only will you have fewer opportunities for entertainment, but you can also be forced to eat nutritious food that you normally don't like because you're a picky eater. I know you can do it!

(This can be determined according to your situation. If you're not picky eaters to begin with, you can arrange for yourself to do household chores or something like that. Try to use positive punishment as much as possible so as not to affect your physical growth needs at your current age.)

Dear child, I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

From what you've shared, it seems that you've been feeling less confident about your abilities since the sixth grade of primary school. It's understandable that you've had some challenges with homework and feel like you've been struggling to keep up. It's not uncommon for students to feel this way when they transition to junior high school, especially when they realize that they're not as advanced as their peers. It's also natural to feel that your foundation was not as strong as it could have been. During the last online class, you felt that you had difficulties in all subjects. It's not unusual to feel this way when you're trying to catch up. It's also understandable that you didn't review much, given the circumstances. It's not easy to stay on top of everything when you're facing challenges. When the exam came, you still didn't know the answers. It's understandable that you felt discouraged. It's not easy to feel like you're not measuring up, especially when you've been trying your best. It's also not uncommon for students to feel this way when they're trying to catch up. Your mother's comments about how you were like this even in primary school might have been a bit harsh. It's natural to feel like you're not measuring up when you're trying to catch up, especially when you've been trying your best. It's also not uncommon for students to feel this way when they're trying to catch up. It's important to remember that you've been trying your best, and your family has been encouraging you. It's also not uncommon for students to feel this way when they're trying to catch up.

It's understandable to feel like you can't compare your test scores to others and want to give up. It's natural to question whether you have to try so hard to catch up with the normal pace.

I sense that you also want to learn effectively and become an outstanding student, but you feel that there are many difficulties, that you find it hard to catch up with others, that you lack confidence, and that you don't know how to close the gap. I can understand why you find it so difficult.

If I might offer you a suggestion, it would be this:

Perhaps it would be helpful to believe that you can catch up with the normal pace, give yourself positive psychological suggestions, and encourage yourself more.

There are many experiments in psychology on beliefs, all of which seem to indicate that beliefs can have a significant impact on our lives. When our beliefs are positive, it often leads to positive outcomes, while negative beliefs may result in less favorable circumstances.

For example, the Rosenthal effect suggests that expectations may influence outcomes. It's possible that what we get may not always align with our desires, but rather with our expectations.

If you expect something confidently and really believe that things will go well, then they will likely go well. Conversely, if you believe that things are constantly being hindered, then these hindrances may arise.

It would be beneficial to consider the value of positive beliefs. Having positive beliefs and attitudes, maintaining confidence, and believing that good things will happen can be helpful. These positive beliefs may contribute to positive behaviors, which could potentially lead to positive results.

We tend to expect ourselves to become what we want to be, and we will continue to work hard in the direction of that expectation. Over time, we may find that we are able to live up to that expected self. However, if we always feel that we are not good enough and that we cannot do it, we may find ourselves stuck in a place of stagnation, unable to make any progress.

It would be beneficial to adjust our beliefs to include the idea that we can become top students. Believing that we can gradually find effective learning methods and a positive state is also a valuable approach. It can be helpful to remind ourselves of this belief by repeating positive affirmations such as "I believe I can," "I believe I can do it," and "I believe I can learn well."

2. By letting go of comparisons with others, identifying areas of yourself that could benefit from improvement, and then making targeted efforts to fill in the gaps and strengthen those areas, you can gradually become more confident in your studies.

Everyone has a different learning rhythm or area of expertise. Some students are visual, some auditory, and some kinesthetic. Generally speaking, visual children tend to benefit more from traditional teaching methods, as they often learn by looking at the blackboard, the teacher, etc., which can make it easier for them to remember what they learn. Auditory children are particularly good at learning through sound. They are especially sensitive to sound, so they may have a lot of fidgety movements during class, but they will focus their attention on what the teacher is saying.

Children with a kinesthetic learning style may benefit from learning through contact, such as drawing and crafts, which could result in a slower response time in class.

It is not necessary to compare ourselves with others. It is more helpful to understand our own learning style and then combine it with other strategies to develop our strengths in learning. If you are a visual learner, reading more could be beneficial; if you are an auditory learner, listening to more relevant materials might be helpful; if you are a kinesthetic learner, drawing mind maps could be a useful technique to improve your learning efficiency.

In addition, it would be helpful to identify areas where we could benefit from further support. For instance, if we feel less confident in our pinyin skills, it might be useful to revisit this topic. Similarly, if we feel we could benefit from more exposure to idioms, we could consider ways to enhance our understanding of them. If we feel our vocabulary in English could be more extensive, we could explore ways to memorize new words more effectively. By identifying these areas for improvement, we can tailor our learning approach to ensure we make the most of our time and achieve our learning goals.

3. It may be helpful to set reasonable learning goals that suit you, which could potentially lead to increased interest and enjoyment in the process.

It is important to remember that setting unrealistic expectations for ourselves can lead to feelings of frustration and a sense of inability to achieve our goals. It is therefore crucial to set achievable targets that we can work towards through our own efforts.

For instance, if you are currently in the 15th position in your class, it might be challenging to reach the top level all at once. However, if you set a goal to move up 5 places this semester to reach the level of 10th place, it is still a possibility that you can achieve it through your own efforts. What steps can we take to move up 5 places in our studies?

It would be helpful to identify the specific tasks you need to do in Chinese, math, and English. You might consider breaking these tasks down into daily steps, such as reading a summary every day, memorizing 10 words, or doing 5 pages of mental arithmetic. It's important to ensure that the tasks you set for yourself are realistic and achievable with dedication. If you find a task challenging, it might be helpful to adjust it to a level that you can complete. Once you've mastered these tasks, you can gradually move on to more challenging ones. It's also beneficial to provide yourself with feedback and rewards after achieving your goals. This can help motivate you to keep studying and accumulating.

I truly believe that if you continue to work hard and make progress, you will eventually reach your goals. By the time we are in the third year of high school, you may even find yourself at the top of the class, which is an admirable and commendable achievement.

I'm sure you can do it. Best wishes!

Good morning, My name is Jialan, and I am contacting you today to discuss a few issues that I have noticed.

After reviewing your account, I would like to share my views and suggestions, which I hope will be of assistance to you.

We will begin by listing your frustrations.

Upon reaching the seventh grade, it became evident that my elementary school foundation was inadequate, resulting in significant challenges in my academic performance.

During the winter vacation, I engaged in daily study sessions at my desk, but this approach proved ineffective.

After taking online classes, I realized that I needed to reinforce all subjects.

The discrepancy between my previous academic performance and my current difficulties has led me to consider abandoning my studies.

It is not possible to achieve the same score as someone who has played while taking the test, regardless of how hard one tries.

Secondly, we will analyze each of these in turn.

Upon reaching junior high school, we recognized that our elementary school foundation was inadequate. What solutions did we consider at that time? There are at least three or more solutions to every problem. Let's discuss the basics. The first year of junior high school marks the beginning of the junior high school stage. This is an opportune time to address our weaknesses. List the specific and clear areas that require strengthening on an A4 sheet of paper. Complete one by one, marking each one as you do so, and provide yourself with a small reward to encourage you to continue moving forward.

If time is spent without achieving results, it is likely that the method is ineffective and the effort is wasted. To illustrate, if I need to get a glass on a table three meters away but only walk within two meters, the movement and time will be futile.

It is not necessary to remain at your desk for the entire duration of your homework and revision. However, it is important to work efficiently. List your tasks, divide them into specific and clear sections, and then allot an equal amount of time to each section. When you complete a task, take a fixed 5-10 minute break and then move on to the next task.

During online classes, it is essential to take immediate notes on any points that are unclear. These should be reviewed as soon as possible after class. It is also beneficial to prepare for the next online class by noting down any points that are unclear. These can then be researched during the online class, which will enhance the learning process.

The previous top student must have maintained their status because of what you did. Please review how you studied when you were highly effective, how you understood the knowledge points, how you absorbed the knowledge points, how you took notes, how you reviewed, and so on. Please list these methods and add any additional methods you now feel are good and effective for thinking and learning. You are also welcome to seek assistance from external sources. Please do not hesitate to ask for help. It is important to learn from each other and to facilitate the flow of knowledge.

It is true that there are individuals who consistently engage in leisure activities throughout their academic careers, without postponing their studies for examinations. However, through meticulous observation and inquiry, we can discern that they do not merely engage in leisure activities without any regard for their studies. They live in the moment, playing to their heart's content without concerning themselves with their studies or homework.

They are fully engaged when doing homework and studying, enjoying the fun and sense of achievement that learning brings. They travel through their studies, thinking and absorbing the motivation to learn before relaxing and playing. This is what is meant by combining work and rest.

Finally, discuss your stress and anxiety with your parents. Share your feelings, your desire to perform well, and your expectations regarding their support. Then, experiment with different learning methods to identify the most effective approach for you. Take a moment to calm down and resume your studies. Remember, you only need to be yourself, compare only with your own performance, and give yourself encouragement and praise as long as you have made some progress today compared to yesterday. Seeing your progress, you can become the best version of yourself.

Once our state is optimized, we can then benchmark against others, identify areas for improvement, and retain our strengths.

I would like to take this opportunity to wish you a happy new year, happiness, and good health!