Why can't I keep friends? Is it my problem? Am I really that bad?

Dear questioner, Hello!

I read your post and it really resonated with me! It's like I'm seeing another version of myself in the world. When I was at school, I was always so passive and tried to please others because I didn't even have the ability to actively please others. Once someone was nice to me, I would be doubly nice to them because I didn't have any charm to offer. But people need to have friends! At school, there were so many times when we had to cooperate, so I couldn't always be alone. Society is just like that, and it's really not how we want it to be, but it's also so exciting!

Once I entered society, I discovered that my social skills had improved. But maybe I'm just like you, a kind person who will always be upset and question themselves when someone leaves them. Maybe we have some problems, and maybe our social skills are not as strong as others, but please believe that God is really fair. When He closes a door for you, He will open a door! There is no other way except to improve yourself.

It's so important to analyze why. Most of the time, it's because of our ability to converse. You'll find that people with strong social skills are able to talk fluently and are especially good at it. This ability is actually not difficult to master. Learn from their social skills. This is my sincere advice, because as I said, in this world, no one can live alone.

I really hope this helps because that's how I got through it! If my speaking skills weren't good enough, I practised my reading skills. If I had a small knowledge base, I read books. How could I not have friends? I know everything you're saying. How could anyone leave you at that time?

Absolutely not!

Hello! I'll give you a 360-degree hug.

It's clear you value your friends, but it seems they don't reciprocate the same level of commitment, which can lead to some self-doubt.

I don't know your age now, but it's true that sometimes, just because we put in the effort, doesn't mean there will be a result, and just because we cherish something, doesn't mean other people will cherish it too. That's because relationships involve at least two people.

We often say that when two people are going in the same direction, sometimes only one of them is going, and the other one is not.

On the other hand, in our often eventful lives, the only people who can stick with us from start to finish are ourselves. The rest of the people can only stick around for a while.

So we often say that we grew apart as we got older.

My daughter had a few good friends in kindergarten. They hung out together and celebrated birthdays together. When it came time for primary school, everyone went to different primary schools, and we moved away from the original neighborhood.

Now she can't remember the names of many of the kids in kindergarten. She can still remember a few of the kids who take extra classes with her.

I asked her if she'd seen so-and-so in class. She said she had.

I asked her again if they played together. She said they were too busy with the class.

As it turned out, they all ended up in the same classroom, but they didn't interact much. Everyone made new friends.

These days, kids don't tend to have the same kind of childhood friends that we did. When I was younger, there was an elementary school in our village, and all of our classmates lived there too. We played together from a young age and went to school together, so we could barely be considered childhood friends.

But when they went to junior high and high school, they still kept their distance. They only came back to the village during the Chinese New Year and other holidays to catch up. Of course, it could also be that I'm a girl and married off.

I've noticed that the boys often get together to eat and talk about their achievements.

Over the years, I've had many friends. Some went to school, some went to work, but as everyone took different paths, we gradually stopped seeing each other due to time and space constraints.

In particular, after getting married, you have to take care of the kids, go to work, take care of the household, and there's less time left for yourself.

Of course, you still have good friends and stay in touch with them. But it's tough to go on a spontaneous trip like you used to.

As we go through life, the things we can juggle change.

From your question, I can tell you're not quite old enough to be an adult. This stage is about forming your own identity and exploring who you are.

A lot of people find out who they are through their relationships with others. That's why they pay a lot of attention to what their peers think of them.

But at the same time, you might find that the people around you aren't what you expected. In that case, you can take a step back and look at the situation from a different perspective.

For instance, you can ask yourself if this issue is still relevant in three weeks, three years, or even thirty years from now.

What will you be doing in three weeks, three years, or thirty years?

How do you think you'll feel about this in three weeks, three years, or thirty years?

Looking at the time here and now from a few years down the road can give you a different perspective.

If you can't do that, it's always better to screen out an unsuitable friend with something minor than to invest more and then find it's not worth it.

Simply put, other people's behavior is often not a reflection of who we are or what we've done. As the saying goes, we can't be RMB, and it's impossible to please everyone.

Even if we are RMB, some people say that I still prefer gold. So, these are things we cannot control, so just let them be.

Then focus on your own work.

I'm often a Buddhist and a pessimist, but I try to be an occasionally positive and motivated counselor. I love the world, and I love you.

Hello, I can see that you are a kind and generous person. Childhood is just innocent child's play, and it's in the past. There's no need to yearn for friends. You're not wrong, and you're really nice. You spoil everyone else, and you're very giving. I hope you can be a bit "naughty" to others and a bit kinder to yourself.

It is possible to find friends, but it is not something that can be actively sought. It is not helpful to try to make friends deliberately. People who can become friends with you will naturally become friends. It is not useful to be nice to someone who cannot become your friend. Everything you do is just to get happiness and joy in your heart.

In today's world, society is becoming increasingly realistic. Friendship is a continuous relationship that is based on mutual exchange. It is important to remember that what we give is also what we receive.

It is only through interaction that a relationship can be built. Friendship requires not only the ability to give, but also the capacity to receive.

Many people find it challenging to do this. Maintaining friendships requires time and effort.

It is also important to invest time and energy in our relationships. Sometimes, we may even have to be loyal and willing to go to great lengths for our friends. This can be a deterrent for many people who long for friendship.

We make friends to open up to them and tell them our innermost thoughts. However, external enjoyment can only bring you temporary happiness, not lasting happiness. This is because you may lack wisdom. It could be helpful to understand that it is better to be someone that others want to make friends with than to make a lot of friends. You haven't made any friends, but everyone likes you and wants to spend time with you. Is someone like this friendless? It's possible that someone who is like this could be considered friendless, but it's not necessarily the case. Regardless of how addictive a game is, there will be moments of annoyance. The number of friends you have is not the deciding factor, but our virtues and qualities.

Some people are narcissistic, pleasing, or dependent. They can give a lot, but their primary objective may be to gain more. This can make the person they are depending on feel constrained and even manipulated, which could potentially lead to the dissolution of the friendship.

If you are such a friend, it would be helpful to consider how much you understand about the importance of friendship. If you would like to gain a deeper understanding, you might like to try writing a short description of the perfect version of yourself on a piece of A4 paper. This could include details about your friends, your career, and so on. It would be beneficial to plan to invest the time you think you need in this exercise. The goal is just to find your balance. If your situation is not one of lacking friends, but rather of not having time to spend with them, it might be helpful to remember that only by actively paying attention to others will others pay attention to you. It is not necessarily the case that someone who does not promptly reply to your WeChat messages does not care about you. If you can recognize yourself, see through yourself, and be honest about your weaknesses, then such friendships can be consolidated at their roots. This cannot be used as a haven from which to escape.

If you still have such friends in your life, it may be that you are simply continuing along the same path, caring for them and experiencing your love and warmth. However, this may not be a sustainable approach in the long term. Everyone's life is limited, so it is important to consider how we can ensure this friendship lasts. One way to do this is to be faithful. This is a key aspect of love, and it is through our efforts that we can achieve it.

I truly believe that good friends are worth investing in, and that focusing on the past is unproductive. Time has a way of healing, and it's an opportunity to start anew and look forward to the future. It's important to nurture the friendships around us, and to seek out those who care about us, even if we don't know them well.

Everyone makes mistakes during their growth process. Extroverts and introverts need to change and adapt. Some people will leave, but new friends will come to you. That's okay. True friends will never leave. Everyone has a different personality, and not everyone will like you. That's understandable. After all, you are not a RMB note. I hope to be your confidant. If you can accept my request, then I am willing to be your loyal fan. I am willing to listen to the stories in your heart, and I am willing to wait for your reply. Friendship is a wonderful thing. Brotherhood is a great source of support when you need it. Sharing blessings is like family. A soulmate is a confidant. There are not many lifelong confidants, and you are mine. You will not be lonely on the road ahead, because you are my good friend. I hope you can come into my world. True brothers are loyal, not treacherous. Let's be friends.

Hello. I am Ruoshui, a psychological listener. We are meant to be together in this space and time.

After reading your question, I can see your confusion and helplessness, but I am also impressed by your courage to face problems head-on and pursue your own needs. I am here to support you on your journey.

It's painful when you don't get what you want. You want and cherish friendship, but the result has disappointed you more than once. I'm going to give you some warmth with my analysis below.

People are social by nature. They need to live in a group where they can find a sense of belonging, establish a sense of security, calm down, feel at ease, and feel comfortable. Your desire for pure friendship is a normal need for a normal person.

I have two suggestions for you.

1. Lower your expectations of interpersonal relationships. It's time to face facts. If we have high expectations of interpersonal relationships, they are often not easily achieved. And when they aren't, we feel disappointed and sad.

Lower your expectations of relationships and you'll achieve them more easily. Exceed your expectations and you'll be happier. It's that simple.

2. There is a saying: "When you bloom, the butterflies will come." Focus your energy on taking care of yourself. For example, you can look neat and tidy from the outside, and you can participate in more learning from the inside. This will help you see things from a deeper and more cultivated perspective. When you cultivate yourself from the outside in, you become more attractive. You naturally attract people with the same temperament as you to your side, and you become close friends.

I am confident that my answer will help you, and I sincerely wish you an early release from your worries.

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

I saw your post and I'm sorry to hear you're feeling down. It's a common problem and it's not your fault. People have always struggled with this.

Maybe we envy the childhood sweethearts we see on TV dramas who grew up together without any problems. In reality, there are many factors involved in maintaining a relationship, so it's not as simple as just wanting to maintain it.

What it takes to keep a relationship going strong

1. Distance: If we live close to our friends, we can see each other often, communicate from time to time, and maintain a reciprocal relationship, then the friendship will be maintained.

2. Parents: It's not easy for children to maintain a friendship with each other. Even if the children are in close proximity, if the parents have different views, it can affect the relationship. For example, if one parent unilaterally teaches the child not to associate with us, the other parent will also slowly distance themselves from us under the influence of their parents.

3. Change: As we grow up, the education we receive and the people we come into contact with will cause some changes in our thoughts and behaviors. These changes may cause a gap between our values and those of our friends. If the gap is too large, we'll have nothing to talk about, which will lead to indifference in the relationship.

4. Contact: It doesn't matter who we're talking about, whether it's family, relatives, or friends. The key to maintaining a relationship is regular contact. Even if it's with friends from long ago, as long as there's contact and some small interactions on a regular basis, it will keep us feeling familiar.

When I was in primary school, I was really close to a neighbor and classmate. We often went to school and home together, and our families knew each other. We didn't have cell phones back then, and we went to different schools after primary school, so we lost touch after graduation. We got in touch with each other a few years ago, but we didn't know each other as well as we used to, and we talked more about our interests. So it's important to stay in touch.

Don't doubt yourself.

It's not necessarily a sign that we're not good enough if we grow apart from someone. It's also important to consider how the other person views the relationship. As the third example mentioned by the questioner shows, if the other person doesn't reply immediately, it can lead to the other person deleting the other person.

You can take your time to reply, but you can't stand it when the questioner doesn't reply right away and then deletes the question. If we ignore the possibility that the questioner was deleted because of some other misunderstanding and just look at this behavior, we can only say that this friend of the questioner is a sensitive and suspicious person. This behavior of hers is an attempt to reduce her inner feelings of insecurity, and it is also a way for her to let the questioner know that no matter what I do, your focus should be on me first, and you should respond to me first, rather than making me feel neglected.

So, it's not our problem if they do that. If they value the friendship, they should communicate with us when there's a misunderstanding or upset.

☀️ Let it all out!

Sometimes, we're perfectly happy living alone. But in today's world, we really need to interact with others. So, when we're dealing with social issues, we can experience a whole range of emotions. Once we've identified what we're feeling, it's important to give ourselves some space to process it. This will help us to approach the situation with a more objective mindset.

1. Talk more: You can find someone you trust, or find a "tree hole" for yourself. When you usually feel anxious or troubled, talking things out will help. A suitable listener will give us appropriate advice, which we can choose from as a reference. There are multiple perspectives and multiple solutions.

2. Treat them with an ordinary heart: When making friends, many people like to distinguish between the levels of friends through their usual interactions. They also feel that if they treat the other person sincerely, the other person should treat them the same way, which seems fair enough. However, other people are not us, and we cannot control the other person's thoughts and ideas. So no matter how the other person defines us, we can just treat them with an ordinary heart. We should not compare ourselves with the other friends of the other person, because that will only make us feel unhappy.

I hope my answer is helpful to the questioner. Best regards,

Hello, my name is Yu Ting, and I'm a psychological counselor.

I see your dilemma, sweetheart. It's so hard to keep friends sometimes, isn't it? I know you doubt and deny yourself when this happens, thinking you're no good.

I can see your loneliness and longing within. I can tell you're longing for a stable and lasting friendship. I'm sorry to hear that these three friendships ended without a resolution. It's so sad when friendships end like that. I'm sure you'll find some wonderful friends who will cherish you and have a lasting friendship with you.

From what you've told me, it seems like you value them as your most important friends. But it's sad to hear that they don't value you as much as you value them. It's so unfair when friends don't appreciate you. They've caused you a lot of pain and hurt. I can see how you feel so helpless and confused, and I'm here to listen if you ever want to talk.

I want you to know that you're not to blame. It's their loss for not appreciating you and this friendship. They just don't see how valuable this friendship is, and that's a real shame. I think that in life, you should be a very sincere, trustworthy, and courageous person. You can find friends who understand you and appreciate you, I'm sure.

You have been hurt time and time again in friendships, and time and time again you have trusted a new friendship. This is your courage and kindness, and it's just that you haven't met the right person yet. I believe that time will bring you what you want. Until then, let's make loneliness our companion and enjoy it. Someone who can coexist with loneliness will definitely be a very outstanding person with a difference.

Hello, dear girl! I am Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I am so excited to answer your questions on Yixinli!

?1. You are an amazing girl who values friendship so much!

☀️From your description, I can tell that you are a good girl who values friendship very much! This is a very good quality, and I applaud you for it!

☀️In the text, you mentioned that you had three good friends from kindergarten to primary school and then to junior high school. You value them very much and consider them your best friends! It's a shame they don't value you as much, but you know what? That's okay!

? 2. Forgive your friends!

☀️ Your first two friends are still learning about the true meaning of friendship. I know you'll forgive them because they're still innocent children.

☀️As for that junior high school friend, you two have been BFFs since junior high! It's so great that you've stuck together all the way from junior high to high school. If you can get along, you two could be besties for life!

☀️I'm sure you can make up, even though you two have encountered a little conflict! Just be tolerant of each other, and you'll be fine!

☀️Of course, if she doesn't want to be friends with you anymore, you can't force her. But you can still be happy for her and wish her well as she finds a better friend in the future!

?3. Cherish your friendship!

☀️Meeting friends is an amazing experience! It doesn't matter if we end up staying friends forever or not. Either way, we should be grateful because they have enriched our lives and brought us beautiful and unforgettable memories of our youth!

☀️It's not easy to meet friends with similar interests and compatible personalities on the road of life. But when you do, it's a truly special moment! Cherish them doubly and don't let life pass you by!

University is an amazing new stage in life where you will meet incredible new friends!

☀️You are about to become a freshman! I hope you will meet new friends in your new environment, treat people sincerely as always, and gain precious friendships!

I really hope your new friends will become close friends, inseparable, supporting, and helping each other!

After the start of the semester, it's a brand new beginning! I hope you can forget the unpleasantness of the past and embrace the morning sun!

May you bid farewell to loneliness and embrace the joy of friendship for the rest of your life!

Hello, questioner. I am Yu Hengbo, a psychological counselor.

Life is a train that never stops and always moves forward. Each stage is like passing through a station, with people coming and going. Some get on the train and travel with us; others get off and go in a different direction. We find that among so many passengers, some will be able to travel with us for many stations, such as family members. Some may meet again, while others may never meet again.

The inability to keep friends is a life issue for everyone. Each individual's life journey is unique, and at different stages, we have our own missions and experiences. It's natural to want to meet like-minded individuals to accompany us on this journey. However, the good friends we made in kindergarten and primary school may have to part ways because we are on different paths in life.

Second, you can talk to your friends about anything, which means you have the ability to maintain friendships. You just need to accept the sudden interruption of contact, which can easily lead to the frustration of being rejected. We can explore these feelings together. How do you feel about being rejected?

If you consider the feelings rejection brings, understand your expectations and needs, and see how your strengths attract friends, you'll find the answer. Rejection is an opportunity to understand yourself, develop the courage to be hated, and accept constant encounters and separations.

If you must find some reason from your experience, you should explore the way you communicate with your friends. You need to identify whether there is a feeling that the other person is not easy to express themselves. In a relationship, one party has been suppressing their true expression, and when it becomes unbearable, they may express their emotions by implicitly attacking and breaking off contact.

In future interactions, we will understand each other's feelings more, express more empathy, and connect more emotionally, caring more about each other's feelings, rather than just expressing ourselves. This will help to maintain our friendship.

Building and maintaining friendships is simple: "If I'm happy, you're happy." Friends who can empathize with each other emotionally and support each other in their studies, work, and lives will get along easily. When each person's needs change and they have to part ways, we should accept the changes, wish them well, and believe that we will meet new good friends at our next stop.

I would like to extend a suggestion that the questioner be given a hug. I can sense the questioner's inner distress and confusion. I have a limited number of friends, and they have repeatedly deleted my contact information and have no desire to spend time with me. Since I am unaware of the circumstances, it is understandable that I would blame myself and believe that I am at fault.

It is human nature to be pessimistic about things. This kind of thinking is a way of reducing the level of disappointment and pain when one's expectations are not met. When developments are quite different from one's expectations, one can comfort oneself with such thoughts as, "I knew this would happen." This is an instinctive defense and protection of the self.

Interactions between people influence each other. There is a fundamental principle in interpersonal relationships: if you want others to treat you a certain way, you must treat yourself and others that way. Based on the information provided by the questioner, we can ascertain that the friend was unable to be honest with himself during their time together, had a breach of trust, and even deleted his contact information. The reason for this is that the questioner did not respond to the other person's messages in a timely manner.

It is possible that the other person is also not responding to your messages and you have not deleted them yourself, assuming that the other person is not interested and therefore has no need for them. However, this is simply your own assumption and does not necessarily reflect the feelings and thoughts of other individuals. At the very least, the original poster now feels uneasy after deleting the messages.

I have previously experienced a similar situation. A colleague did not respond to my messages, which I sent on two or three occasions over a period of two or three days. He replied after almost a week, stating that he was extremely busy. At the time, I felt somewhat uncomfortable and perceived a lack of respect and value. However, after receiving a reply, I felt better. Nevertheless, after this occurred twice, I deleted the contact information of the other party. After deleting it, I felt much better.

I deleted the message because I felt that, even if you are busy, you still have time to check your phone and see my message. In today's mobile phone-oriented society, not replying can only show that you are not being valued. I do not wish to be in a relationship that is not valued. Therefore, I will have to end things. I will not force myself to please others. I believe that self-respect, self-esteem, and respect for others will be respected and loved by others.

When problems arise in a relationship, it is important to recognize that they often stem from multiple sources. Typically, both individuals bring their own challenges to the relationship. The individual seeking advice may have their own issues, as may their partner. The combined impact of these problems can significantly influence the relationship, ultimately leading to a breakdown. Having problems does not indicate any inherent deficiency. People gradually learn to navigate differences and build relationships. This is not something that is innate. It is normal to make mistakes. It is essential to allow time to learn and proceed at a gradual pace.

Friends come and go, so don't take it so seriously. You can have long-lasting, stable friendships.

You must consider your ability to establish and maintain relationships. When dealing with friends, remember:

1. Maintain a distance and be moderately mysterious.

If you value your friends too much, they'll feel burdened by your affection. This puts pressure on them and makes life difficult for you too. It's more attractive to maintain a certain distance and be moderately mysterious, with some things about you that no one knows.

2. Cultivate your own interests and hobbies. Don't rely too much on friendships.

First, you must increase your knowledge base to cultivate interest.

Second, develop interesting activities to cultivate direct interest. Direct interest is interest in the external features of things or activities themselves.

Third, clarify the significance of your goals to cultivate indirect interest. Indirect interest arises after a person has a clear understanding of the outcome and significance of an activity.

This interest is a state of mind that arises from recognizing the meaning and value of learning. It is closely linked to personal direction and has both a long-term orientation and a lasting directional effect. It will not easily repent at the first sign of setbacks.

Finally, cultivate good interests according to your own interests. Given that everyone has different environments, educations, and subjective conditions, interests have individual characteristics. Therefore, you should cultivate your interests according to your own conditions.

For example, if someone has a wide range of interests but not a focus, they must strengthen the cultivation of a central interest. If someone has a single interest but not a wide range, they must strengthen the cultivation of a wide range of interests. If someone's interests are short-lived and changeable, they must strengthen the cultivation of stable interests. If someone's interests are negative and passive, they must strengthen the cultivation of effective interests. If someone's interests are in the online world and they are prone to becoming addicted, they must strengthen guidance while also paying attention to cultivating a noble character.

3. Developing multiple good friends at the same time and having multiple friends will make you lower your expectations for the intensity of friendship and reduce the psychological burden on the other person. Remember, lowering your expectations is the solution to your current dilemma.

Your friends' attitudes don't mean you have a problem. They mean your relationship is unbalanced. Both of you are responsible for that. You don't have to take full responsibility alone.

Good day. After reviewing your account of the friendship, I can confirm that you are not at fault.

There is a reason for the situation you describe. Let's analyze it together.

Let us first consider the context of the kindergarten friendship. There are two potential explanations for the lack of contact after the two children graduated from kindergarten. One is the typical behavior of children at this age, as family remains the primary relationship for them, making it easy for children at this stage to lose track of another child.

It is also possible that she has not forgotten you, but simply has other playmates now and is inclined to prefer them. This is also determined by the characteristics of this age group, which are fickle and easily distracted.

You may be of the opinion that you have not forgotten her. However, this is not a reflection of your personal characteristics.

It is recognized that some individuals are able to recall a person they have met on one occasion, while others are unable to recognize someone they have encountered on multiple occasions.

I would like to clarify that the reason for the lack of communication was not due to your introverted nature or her perception of your attractiveness. It was simply a result of the fact that you were both still too young.

Furthermore, this friendship was at the primary school level, and according to your description, the girl's mother did not allow her to purchase a mobile phone, and they were relocated frequently. Consider the living conditions of this child. They may not have been very stable. It is possible that she was also sensitive and afraid that you would discover information about her family.

Therefore, she did not allow you to make contact, nor did she seek you out again. This friendship is not a result of your actions, nor is it a result of the girl's actions.

I believe she also misses the time she spent with you and has always kept you in her thoughts. There must have been a good reason for her not looking for you.

I can confirm that this is not an isolated incident. There are numerous instances where individuals have deleted or blocked others as a result of a lack of response to a WeChat message. It is possible that this is merely an expression of anger, similar to how someone might say "I'm not playing with you anymore" during a heated argument. You mentioned that she did not respond to your WeChat messages either, but you did not delete her. It is important to recognize that individuals have different coping mechanisms and ways of dealing with conflict.

Ultimately, your actions will reflect back on you. It is unproductive to deny your strengths and label yourself negatively. Instead, identify your strengths and showcase them. This will help you gain the support of more classmates.

It is important to consider that if you feel full of problems and dislike yourself, you are unlikely to attract others.

I encourage you to persevere.

Hey there! How are you doing?

After reading your account, I'd like to ask you how you define a friend. Do friends have to stay together forever?

Even if you were just friends in kindergarten, can you say that she was your best friend in kindergarten?

Life is complicated. We have to make friends, study, meet our parents' expectations, be a good child, and do this and that to gain recognition from others. Not everyone is lucky enough to regard friends as the most important thing and the most important people to pursue and maintain.

Guess what: your friend, who won't tell you her address, as shown in a movie scene, might not have a beautiful home or a family that she can show you and invite you to visit.

Speculating on other people's actions and thoughts in the hope of doing good, which may seem to be for the benefit of others, but in fact can comfort and even rescue oneself – perhaps, it can prevent oneself from being stuck in the quagmire of "I'm not good enough" for a long time...

If you're in junior high or high school, congratulations! You still have a long life ahead of you to explore the topic of "friendship" and other life issues such as interpersonal relationships.

If you're an adult or even over 30, you might want to ask yourself:

1. Why do you place such a high value on friendship?

2⃣️ Apart from this version of the friendship story you're telling, is there another version that you're happier with?

3⃣️ If every long-lasting, good friend really lives up to your expectations, are you your own best friend?

This is just my two cents, and I could be wrong. But I hope you can be happy and find a good friend who will always be there for you and support you. Or at least, you can be your own best friend who will always be there for you.

Hello! Thanks so much for asking. I'm a model worker.

First of all, after listening to your description, I have a question for you. First of all, I can definitely answer you that it is not your problem.

It's possible that there's something you could work on when it comes to your friendships. This doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you as a person!

It's totally okay! We all have different strengths and weaknesses. What we usually mean is that you may not be very good at making friends, you may not be very good at handling interpersonal relationships, or you may not know how to solve a problem or judge a situation when you encounter one.

And if you say that you are a sincere person towards others, then I truly believe you. This means that you are a good person with no problems with your character. It's just that you are not very good at making friends, which is totally okay!

I'm sure you'd love to be really good friends with your friends, but it can be so hard to keep that connection strong. It's totally normal to feel like your friends are drifting away from you sometimes.

But this can also hurt you and be a setback. So let's think about it together: what are the problems we have making friends?

How can we make friends or keep our relationships strong?

First of all, we all need friends! And there are some great ways to interact with them. Sometimes, it may even be necessary to slightly sacrifice one's own interests to help friends get through some things and times.

So, what are some simple ways we can get along with our friends? Well, the first thing is to be sincere.

I truly believe that if you are sincere, your friends will be sincere with you right back. You really want to be with your friends and really want to be intimate.

Have you ever thought about what your friends hope to get from you? If you always want your friends to keep you company, have you ever considered what you can do for them in return?

Have you ever thought that your friends might feel like you're being a bit too clingy? It's possible that they might feel a bit overwhelmed at first, but it's also possible that they might feel burdened by it over time. It's something to think about.

So, what other principle should we follow when making friends? Well, it's the principle of adding points!

When we give to our friends, it shows them how important they are to us. Even if we make a small mistake or offend a friend, they'll forgive us because they know we're usually pretty good at this. They'll either forgive us or not take it seriously. Either way, it's no big deal!

Let's think about how we can add extra points to our daily lives and our relationships with friends. Even if we lose a little points, our score is still very high!

OK, lastly, if we talk in abstract terms about relationships, they also need to be managed and maintained. When you hear this for the first time, you may not understand it very well because it is too abstract. Don't worry, it's totally normal! Making friends and interacting with people requires learning. There are better ways and techniques for interacting and communicating, as well as some things to be aware of. The good news is that we can learn to interact with friends slowly through learning.

I truly believe that you are worth getting to know. You are willing to spend time with friends and value relationships, which is so great to see! However, the methods and approaches you use may be a little overwhelming for your friends, so there may be some problems. But don't worry! Let's adjust our approach to making friends, master the skills of making friends, establish trust and rapport with friends, and give yourself a lot of points. In that case, friends will also give you the same score in return.

OK, that's all for now. I really hope you find a great way to make friends soon. I love you, and so does the world!

Hello, my child! I could feel your confusion about your identity as a friend and a classmate even through the screen after reading your text description.

It's not your problem if they leave, so give yourself a big hug!

First, one of the great things about life is that you get to meet different friends at different ages. It's also fascinating how our cognitive thinking changes at different ages, and how that attracts us to different friends. You can make friends with your classmates, but friends don't have to be classmates!

Secondly, there's the chance that classmates might have some age-related differences when it comes to getting along with each other. It's also possible that they might feel a difference due to a certain event or remark, and thus choose to leave.

I'd love to know what you think! Who are your friends?

I absolutely believe that when you are in a tight spot and feeling lost, the person standing by your side can be your guide, point you in the right direction, help you make sense of things, and be the one to pull you out of the mud!

The great thing is, you can have a lot of classmates, and you never know who might become your best friend! Some will be casual friends, while others will be close friends. It all depends on your charm and how you attract others to you.

And the more value you have, the more friends you'll have around you! Does this make you think of anything?

Study hard, get better grades, participate in more school activities, and increase your exposure! When others see your sunny and positive side, you'll have more and more friends!

At the same time, don't expect one person to stay with you forever. There are many landscapes along the road of life. Some people will be with you for a while, some will get off halfway, and some will get on halfway. Those who can stay with you until the end may be a few people, or maybe only you know yourself. When no one understands you, use a pen to record your growth!

I wish you the absolute best and most wonderful happiness!

I am the answer, Tianya! If my reply is helpful, you are more than welcome to follow me. I hope you are happy every day and achieve success in your studies!

Kisses, I read your confessions and I know you're confused. One after the other, your friends have abandoned you, and it hurts. I'm here for you. Let's explore this together.

1. Friends who have lost track of each other are treating each other with sincerity and spending time with you in the moment. However, they may drift apart because they have grown up along different paths. This is not your fault.

Little girl A in kindergarten may not recognize you for a while. B in elementary school may not know where she is going to be next time because she moves around a lot. She doesn't know how to bring up the subject, and it's possible that she's already moved to a different city by the time she wants to come find you. As for C, little girls will act up when they're upset. Have a good chat with her, and she'll be fine again in a few days.

2. You are still relatively young, and you may not have met many people. In a lifetime, we will meet many friends. Sometimes friendships fade with geographical separation, sometimes they fade because we grow up on different paths. There are all kinds of reasons. Some people will fade out of our world, while some true friends, those who can stand the test of time, will remain. This is rare. Maybe a person only has one such friend, or maybe not. It's all normal.

3. When you are together, you are both honest and sincere. When you have happy times, they are very precious. You can't force the other person to be the way you want them to be. Do your best and cherish the friendship. Leave the rest to time and the other person.

4. Keep your childlike heart and believe that you will meet the friendship you want. This is your reference. Thank you.

Hello, questioner.

As we navigate the various stages of life, we encounter different friends along the way. While these friendships may vary in duration, they often serve as transient companions on our journey.

From what you have shared, it seems that you value loyalty and want your friends to be sincere and supportive as you navigate different stages of life.

From a social development perspective, your way of thinking may not fully align with the law of development. It's important to recognize that the tasks and development plans at each different stage of life are unique.

It is possible that the friends you make from kindergarten to primary school to junior high school may not treat you as you would like. This is not a reflection on you or your character, but rather a natural consequence of the different stages of life. As you progress through high school, college, and eventually into society, you will encounter new friends and relationships. Some of these relationships may not last, and it is important to recognise that your partner is likely to be a constant, lifelong companion.

For instance, you mentioned child A from kindergarten. After kindergarten, you may have the option of attending different primary schools. Additionally, children often develop at different rates, and it is not uncommon for them to become confused and forget about a person or an experience. If you assume that other children's minds are the same as yours, you may find yourself in a state of misunderstanding and pain.

B, your classmate in primary school, was always very open with you and was always by your side. However, after primary school, there seems to have been a gradual drift in their relationship. It's not that they don't want to maintain contact, but it's possible that their family situation is a factor.

For example, she may not have a cell phone. For example, her family may move around frequently.

It might also be the case that it would be inconvenient for her to come and visit you if she has moved far away from your home. What are your thoughts on this?

It's also possible that the adults in her family may have placed certain restrictions on her, which could be another factor. We all grow up in different environments, so it's natural for there to be differences between individuals.

It would be beneficial for us to gain a deeper understanding of this difference.

It seems that Middle School Student C's behavior of deleting contact information may be a projection of an insecure attachment relationship. It's possible that because you did not respond to the other person's messages in time, it triggered her insecure attachment relationship complex. What appears to be an offensive act might actually be a defense mechanism to protect against inner feelings of unease.

Could I ask you whether you still blame yourself when you understand the attachment model of the other person's family of origin?

It might be helpful to consider that in every relationship, there could be a reflection of the mother-child attachment from our original family. This may not necessarily have a causal relationship with the essence of our individuality. It could be beneficial to learn to distinguish whether this is our own emotional response and self-judgment.

It may be helpful to consider that promoting self-growth at different stages of life could potentially contribute to establishing a more accurate sense of social identity in relationships, a deeper understanding of oneself, a more nuanced approach to problem-solving, and a reduced tendency to attribute everything to internal factors.

If you can resolve your problems, you may find you have more time and energy to focus on your studies and learn psychology systematically. You may also be in a position to help others.

I would like to extend my best wishes for your success in your academic endeavors.

I am here to guide you, to show you the way, and I love you.

My child, let me offer you a comprehensive embrace.

From the description, I can ascertain that you are a particularly sincere individual who cares deeply about your friends.

Given your current grade level, you have already demonstrated an understanding that seeking information is an effective method for obtaining assistance and guidance from others. This is a commendable quality.

It is uncommon to have a best friend that lasts a long time. In fact, it is more likely that you will not have one at all. This is probably because the old saying is true: "All banquets must come to an end."

Furthermore, I did not have a best friend during my formative years.

This is not your responsibility, and it is not your fault.

I am curious whether you attended primary school together after graduation.

After my brother graduated from kindergarten, we relocated, and he was not recognized by anyone in his elementary school class. Initially, he experienced feelings of loneliness and a strong desire to reconnect with his kindergarten friends. He even extended invitations to his kindergarten friends to attend his birthday celebration. However, over time, due to the distance, he saw his kindergarten friends less and less. He also established new friendships in elementary school, which further reduced the frequency of interactions with his kindergarten friends.

It is possible that Little B in elementary school has some special circumstances at home. It seems that she does not want others to know, which may have nothing to do with whether you are her friend. Perhaps her parents have told her not to talk about family matters with others, or it could be that she is just embarrassed. There are many possibilities, and it should have a lot to do with her parents. After all, going to your house to play also involves the problem of transportation.

Middle school friend Xiao C deleted all your contact information due to a minor incident. It is not uncommon for children at this age to act in a more individualistic manner. They may delete your information one second and add it back the next, or they may delete your information the first second and then be too embarrassed to apologize or add it back the second. It is possible that she wants you to give her face, but it is difficult to ascertain.

It is not your responsibility if the other party drifts away from the relationship. There are a number of reasons why this might occur.

Do not doubt your abilities.

You are an excellent individual.

Furthermore, I would like to provide additional insight into how adults view friendship.

There are various types of friendship. Some may be formed due to geographical distance, such as friendships between colleagues. Others may be initiated by shared interests, such as joining a club. Additionally, there are friendships that are formed through a common goal or challenge, such as accomplishing a difficult task together.

All friendships inevitably encounter challenges and obstacles, and only through these tests can they truly evolve into a genuine and lasting bond.

Therefore, you should resolve the issue, expand your social circle, and find like-minded individuals with whom to connect. Alternatively, you may choose to wait for an opportunity to reconcile with Xiao C.

I hope you will soon be able to establish a new friendship.

Good morning, my name is Jiang 61.

I would like to express my gratitude for your willingness to confide in us and share your experiences in order to gain insight and find solutions. I am disheartened to learn about the challenges you have faced with your three closest friends.

I offer you a comforting embrace. These three experiences prompted you to question your ability to maintain friendships, leading you to speculate whether your own actions or those of others were the primary factors contributing to the dissolution of these relationships.

Let us endeavor to ascertain whether there are any underlying issues.

1. Personality

1. Introverted

During my kindergarten years, I was introverted and reticent, which resulted in a lack of social interaction and a limited social circle.

You indicated that you were introverted and disinclined to engage in conversation during your kindergarten years, resulting in a limited number of friends. The early years of schooling represent a crucial period for the development of social skills.

If an individual is not proficient at forming friendships during this developmental stage, it may prove more challenging for them to expand their social network in the future. It is important to ascertain whether the individual has internalized the trait of introversion or if their family has consistently reinforced this perception.

The inability to form positive interpersonal relationships with children in kindergarten can be attributed to a number of factors.

The adults or primary caregivers in the home typically engage in minimal verbal communication, a pattern that has also manifested in your own speech habits.

In the case of adults or significant caregivers in the family, the tendency is for dominance to prevail, with a concomitant lack of willingness to listen to the child. Over time, this can result in a lack of confidence in the child's ability to express themselves, and a corresponding inhibition in their desire to socialize.

The experience of rejection instilled a sense of suspicion and reluctance to disclose personal information.

...

2. Law of Attraction

Only one female child (A) demonstrated the initiative to engage in play with me, and thus I regarded her as my closest friend. However, by the time she had completed her kindergarten education, she was no longer acquainted with me.

The initial friend you made (A) was the one who initiated contact with you and whom you considered your closest friend. Your use of the term "best" indicates that you had other friends in kindergarten, but that they were not as close.

In elementary school, B and I were inseparable best friends who could converse about any topic. However, her mother declined to purchase her a cellular telephone, which precluded our ability to communicate. She relocated frequently and lacked a fixed place of residence. Consequently, after completing elementary school, we became increasingly separated.

Your second child, B, is a classmate from primary school. You typically engage in extensive discourse and exhibit a profound sense of intimacy, which serves to illustrate the strength of your bond. The absence of a mobile phone for your friend's mother is indicative of the family's financial constraints and their frequent relocation due to work commitments, which often entails a lack of fixed residence.

The fact that you can discuss a wide range of topics indicates a high level of compatibility between your personalities and interests. This is an example of the law of attraction in action. You are the kind of friends who are mutually attracted to each other.

The law of attraction posits that one's thoughts and feelings act as a catalyst for attracting similar experiences, regardless of whether these experiences are perceived as positive or negative. This phenomenon is independent of prior awareness or familiarity with the law of attraction.

To illustrate this concept more clearly, consider the following analogy: if you are an introverted individual who is comfortable revealing your true self only to close friends, you will attract people who are similar to you in terms of outlook, way of thinking, and way of acting. Conversely, if you perceive yourself as a magnet for negativity and pessimism, you will attract negative experiences and circumstances, leading to a perception of a challenging and unfortunate life.

Conversely, if one is an optimistic and positive influence, one will attract more favorable circumstances and experience a positive emotional state on a daily basis.

3. Prioritize your interests.

In many cases, one's focus of thought and feelings is primarily on oneself, with minimal attention paid to the feelings of others. For example, in interactions with a primary school friend, questions may be posed in a way that causes embarrassment and makes the friend reluctant to answer. In such instances, it is possible to recognize that the friend does not want to answer, yet fail to acknowledge the friend's embarrassment by persisting with multiple inquiries.

I did inquire about her place of residence, yet she consistently provided evasive and noncommittal responses. I was genuinely interested in spending time with her, yet she did not appear to view me as a significant figure. She indicated her desire to socialize with me during the summer (she was aware of my residence), and I was convinced by her assertion, yet she never visited once.

It is evident that your friend is attempting to evade your inquiries by providing vague and evasive responses. Your observation is indeed accurate. She is avoiding further probing, appears reluctant to engage in this type of discourse, and seems to be reticent about disclosing her secret.

This secret may be indicative of an inferiority complex within her. This inner activity of hers has not been fully discerned by you, but rather seems to satisfy your own curiosity, and you consistently seek to ascertain the truth.

Given her evident trepidation, your desire to remain in her company at all times may be perceived as a sign that you do not hold a particularly high degree of importance in her estimation.

Despite her assertion that she wished to spend time with you during the summer months, she ultimately failed to fulfill this commitment. Two potential explanations for this discrepancy emerge. Initially, it is plausible that familial obligations posed an insurmountable obstacle to her ability to engage in social interaction with you. Alternatively, it is possible that you inadvertently confronted a deeply personal and emotionally charged topic, one that she deemed too sensitive to pursue further. This could have prompted her to avoid further interaction with you, out of a fear of potentially jeopardizing the fledgling friendship.

Upon graduation, she experienced a sense of liberation, which manifested initially as a condescending tone and subsequently as a lack of commitment to her promises.

As a consequence, the two individuals in question gradually became increasingly distant from one another, ultimately resulting in the complete dissolution of their relationship.

Recently, my best friend from junior high school (C) unilaterally deleted all contact information. She initiated the deletion of my WeChat account due to my failure to respond to her messages, yet she also frequently failed to reply to my messages after reading them (I never deleted her). However, she abruptly terminated our relationship without any indication or explanation when I did not respond to her the other day, and then subsequently deleted my QQ account.

Your long-standing friend from junior high school (C) has taken the unilateral decision to delete all contact information. What prompted your friend to make such a decisive move?

You stated that the reason for her distress was your failure to reply to her messages in a timely manner. Is this an accurate representation of the circumstances?

From her actions, it is evident that she is experiencing anger, distress, and an emotional outburst. The specific dynamics of your relationship are unclear; however, her actions suggest that you may have overlooked her feelings in numerous instances and failed to convey that you value and care about her. Instead, there seems to be a lack of empathy and understanding.

This has caused her considerable discomfort, and she has been forced to conceal her feelings.

Furthermore, you stated that she was unable to respond to your text messages in a timely manner and that you did not delete her. This additional information corroborates the hypothesis that she is a narcissist, driven by a need for attention and insecurity, and that she possesses a highly vulnerable aspect to her personality. Despite your status as her close acquaintance, you have not engaged in discourse concerning her needs and vulnerabilities within the context of your typical communication.

The act of ignoring her thoughts and feelings has caused her emotions to become highly activated and expressed.

4. Personality The subject displays a personality that can be described as follows:

From the aforementioned points, it can be concluded that you exhibit characteristics associated with a melancholic personality. These include:

Characteristics: thoughtful, highly sensitive, idealistic, and in pursuit of truth, goodness, and beauty.

The individual in question exhibits the following advantages: sensitivity, loyalty, talent, and insight.

The following characteristics are disadvantageous: stubbornness, indecision, self-centeredness, pessimism, and passivity.

Therefore, these behaviors should be attributed to your personality, and the lifestyle of your family of origin may also have influenced your behavior.

2. Definition of a Friend A friend is defined as a person with whom one shares a close relationship, speaks the same language, and communicates frequently. Friends get along well and meet regularly. Apart from lovers or relatives, the highest level of friendship is between soulmates.

The following is a definition of the term in question.

Friends are individuals with whom one shares a close relationship, a common language, and frequent communication. They enjoy a high level of rapport and meet regularly. In the context of relationships, the most intimate and enduring bond is that of soulmates.

Title

Additionally, the term "friends" is used to describe a variety of relationships, including those of a close, intimate, or even sworn nature. These different forms of friendship reflect the varying degrees of proximity and intimacy that can exist within a social group.

It would be interesting to ascertain the nature of the friendship between the subject and their junior high school friends. It would also be helpful to determine whether the subject is aware of their friends' likes, secrets, and taboos.

The possession of intimate details about one's friends is indicative of a close friendship, wherein the boundaries of private space are respected.

The concept of boundaries is an essential aspect of interpersonal relationships. It is crucial to understand that everyone has a personal threshold that they are unwilling to cross, and that this threshold represents the boundary of their own private space. It is therefore vital to respect the boundaries of others, as crossing this threshold can result in the deterioration of the relationship.

It is not always necessary for friends to be completely open with each other. Each individual has a personal threshold that they are unwilling to cross, which represents the boundary of their own private space. If this threshold is crossed, the relationship may change from one of intimacy to one of alienation, which could ultimately result in the dissolution of the friendship.

I treated them all with sincerity, as if they were my closest friends, so it is perplexing why they would turn their backs on me.

It is evident that there is a discrepancy between the two individuals in question. Their respective perspectives diverge, and as a result, their actions and beliefs are not aligned. It is therefore inaccurate to assume that their thoughts and feelings are identical. Your doubts can only represent your own thoughts about others.

This does not imply that others hold the same beliefs. After a period of friendship, it is possible to conclude that the other person shares the same opinions.

Have you engaged in meaningful communication? Can you provide a more precise answer to the question of what it means to be a friend?

If the answer is in the negative, it can be reasonably concluded that the relationship is not one of true friendship. Has the respondent ever placed their friend in an uncomfortable or compromising position?

Have you ever transgressed your friend's personal boundaries? If you are unable to respond affirmatively to these questions, you will be able to comprehend why your friends have gradually distanced themselves from you.

The underlying cause of a friend's departure is often found in an inability to empathize, a tendency to prioritize one's own feelings and concerns over those of others, and a perception of being unapproachable and unconcerned, which can instill feelings of insecurity and distance in a friend.

3. Relationship Management

One might inquire whether the issue truly resides with them or if they are, in fact, as problematic as they perceive themselves to be.

You inquire as to whether the issue lies with you. Are you truly as problematic as you perceive yourself to be?

It is evident that you have encountered difficulties in your interpersonal relationships. However, it is not entirely your fault. It is possible that you did not receive adequate guidance on interpersonal relationships within your original family environment, which resulted in a lack of opportunity to develop these skills at an early age. Consequently, you may not possess the necessary knowledge to navigate social interactions effectively.

It is evident that you are experiencing the effects of a sense of abandonment. You are seeking to overcome the shadow of loss. In this regard, I offer the following suggestions:

1. Attend to the other person's verbal and non-verbal cues.

In interpersonal relationships, it is of the utmost importance to learn to listen to your friend when they share any information with you. When your friend encounters setbacks or troubles, they will think of you as a reliable and supportive figure. You are a close friend, someone they can confide in and share their innermost thoughts and feelings with.

As a friend, when you listen carefully and patiently to what the other person has to say, you provide them with an outlet for their emotions, which will subside or disappear during the course of the conversation. During the course of the conversation, if you can offer words of comfort and sound advice, you will assist your friend in seeing the situation more clearly and in moving beyond the emotional turmoil. They will perceive you as someone they can trust and rely on, and your friendship will become closer and deeper, lasting a lifetime.

2. Empathy

Empathy can be defined as the capacity to adopt the perspective of another individual and to comprehend their experiences within that context. It entails a sense of compassion and understanding, enabling one to perceive and relate to the world through the lens of another person.

I appear to be able to perceive the world from his perspective and to empathize with his emotional state through his eyes. I treat him as I would treat myself, rather than viewing him as an object from the outside to be evaluated and observed. Instead, I am able to enter his world and experience his way of life from the inside, as well as his goals and direction.

In the process of listening, the listener demonstrates empathy for the emotions expressed by the speaker by expressing the emotions that the speaker wants to express. This allows the speaker to feel that the listener sees and accepts their emotions and that the speaker can release them smoothly. Empathy can trigger a connection between the listener and the speaker. This connection exists in the interactions between the two individuals and represents a spiritual connection.

Empathy has the potential to foster closer relationships.

3. It is important to maintain a certain degree of psychological distance in one's relationships with friends. This entails respecting their personal space, privacy, property rights, relationships, and other aspects of their lives.

It is important to maintain a certain degree of psychological distance in one's relationships with friends. This entails respecting their personal habits, privacy, property rights, and relationships.

In the process of listening, it is important to avoid taking the initiative to inquire, interfere, or judge. Instead, it is essential to create a comfortable and relaxed environment for socializing.

4. Meet needs promptly

In the event that your friends require your assistance, you can provide timely help and lend a sincere hand to assist them in overcoming difficulties. For instance, you can pay attention to your friends' emotional needs. As long as you understand the principles of interpersonal communication and do not encroach upon your friends' personal boundaries or cross the line, your friendship with them will grow stronger.

5. Respond to "no" in a rational manner.

In matters that require mutual trust between friends, a commitment can be made on the basis of one's own abilities, relevant legislation, regulations, and principles of responsibility. In the event that circumstances exceed the scope of these principles and objective reality, a frank and definitive refusal is the appropriate course of action.

This is also the fundamental principle that should be adhered to in order to maintain healthy relationships.

6. Mutual respect

Respect is a crucial element in interpersonal relationships, as it fosters the growth and durability of friendships. When a friend feels their opinions, particularly those that differ from the norm, are respected and that their social circle is not unduly influenced, they are more likely to reciprocate this respect by respecting your opinions and social circle.

The relationship is characterized by mutual enjoyment and a high probability of long-term stability.

In light of your circumstances and the issues I have identified, I have presented my own hypotheses and recommendations, with the aim of providing assistance.

In conclusion, I extend my best wishes for your success.

Hello! I'm so happy we can chat about your message.

I'm so sorry to see you feeling confused. I'd really love to give you a big hug from afar to help you feel better.

It's so lovely to see how much you value friendship! You might not be the chattiest, but you're always so sincere and willing to understand others. You're such a considerate and friendly little one!

I totally get it. When you were younger, you were more reserved and focused on your studies. As you grew older, your workload increased, and it was already good enough to have playmates at school, let alone close friends. So I can understand your reluctance and sadness at the departure of your friends.

But when you find that your best friend from junior high school (C) has recently deleted WeChat, QQ, and almost all of their contact information, have you gone looking for (C) to chat? Or is it just your feeling that deleting contact info means they've turned their back on you?

I'm sure you'll be happy to know that this time, you took the initiative to ask her in person why.

Sometimes people are like this. As they get older and gain more experience, various factors cause friends to come and go. It's totally normal!

It's totally possible that you just can't keep up with their pace, or maybe they can't keep up with yours!

But there's also a chance that she's just busy and we'll be in touch again soon! Or maybe there's something else going on that's made you drift apart for now.

I truly believe that a good relationship is one where you can still be as happy as before when you meet again, even if you haven't been in touch for a long time.

So, my dear friend, why not relax a little and just keep going with yourself?

It's so important to trust yourself and trust others. Believing in the power of trust is key!

Let me tell you a little bit about myself.

It's so sad, but after entering junior high school, you lose your elementary school friends. Then, after entering high school, you lose a few of your junior high school friends. And after entering university, you lose your high school friends. As we grow older, it seems that everyone is busy with their own careers and families. It's been a while since I last spoke to some of my old friends.

As the old folks say, moving around will make you rise, and staying still will make you fall.

I truly believe that to be friends, you need to have mutual trust, understanding, appreciation, and tolerance, as well as frequent interactions.

It can be really tough to find a friend, just as it can be tough to find a partner. It's so important to have similar views, habits, and personalities, and to share a common goal. When you find that special someone, it's like nothing else in the world.

Take action, take the initiative, and find the answer! You can do it!

You're still so young! Don't let yourself regret it!

I wish you the very best!