Why do 20-year-olds always say that it is difficult to communicate normally, concentrate and think clearly, and that they are anxious?

You say social interaction hurts you. In the past, it was verbal, but now even written communication is hard. You can't control your thoughts, you have trouble concentrating, and you often feel anxious, irritable, and restless. You can't work. It's hard, but you can't escape it. You ask, "Have my psychological problems reached a certain level?"

If you want a clear diagnosis, you can go to the hospital and find a doctor. Other people cannot tell you what your psychological problems are.

You can feel helpless and uncomfortable.

You need to understand and support yourself. It's hard to communicate because others misunderstand your feelings. If this continues, you'll avoid expressing yourself to avoid pain and hurt.

If you isolate yourself, you'll feel lonely and doubt yourself, thinking it's your fault others misunderstand you. This creates a vicious cycle: communication difficulties – thinking difficulties – concentration difficulties – feeling anxious and irritable – loss of work capacity – no one to communicate with.

How can you stop this cycle?

You need to sort out your emotions.

Second, you can look at the problem from a different perspective. For example, if other people always misunderstand your feelings, do all people misunderstand? Are there exceptions? How did you react to these exceptions? How did you deal with the problem before? Are there any alternatives?

Third, start with small things in your daily life to build inner strength.

Let your emotions flow, solve problems, and strengthen your inner strength in your daily life.

If you need help coping, you can get it.

Good luck!

Hello, landlord! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

I totally get where you're coming from. I was in a similar situation not so long ago. I was lacking in self-confidence and didn't recognise my own worth. I cared too much about what other people thought and let the little things get to me. But I've learned that our state of mind affects every aspect of our lives. And when we improve our state of mind, our lives will run more smoothly!

I highly recommend that you go and get some tests and diagnoses done to see just how serious your anxiety or emotional problems really are. Because, in some cases, medication is required. But don't worry, mental illness is a disease, just like pneumonia. If we need treatment for pneumonia, then we also need to actively treat mental illness.

Just as pneumonia can be cured with active treatment, mental illness can also be completely cured with active treatment! There's no need to feel bad about it or even feel ashamed. This is actually very normal. Everyone is susceptible to anxiety disorders or depression. Their causes are also very complex. We cannot doubt ourselves, deny ourselves, or even blame and attack ourselves just because we have a mental illness. But we can take control and get better!

Absolutely! We should definitely take advantage of our current bad state to get to know ourselves better, understand ourselves, care for ourselves, and see what kind of help and care we need. Only in this way will we slowly get better.

And according to your description, a lot of your distress and interpersonal relationships are related to interpersonal interactions. You could look into why you have suffered for this reason over the past few years. When you first started suffering, did something important happen? What kind of thoughts did you form at that time?

But is that true? Absolutely not! Because others have always misinterpreted my feelings in the past, do you think it's useless to talk to others and that it will only lead to misunderstandings? But is that true? Absolutely not!

Absolutely! There is someone who understands you and supports you!

I've got some great advice for you!

It's a great idea to focus on forming supportive relationships and engaging in socializing in a way that feels safe and secure.

In this society, there are definitely people who like us and people who don't like us. When we express an opinion, there are definitely people who agree and people who disagree.

We can't control what other people think and do, but we can choose for ourselves! We can choose to spend more time with people who support and understand us.

If you always talk to people who don't understand you, you'll never get the support and recognition you need to feel confident and happy. But if you always talk to people who can give you support and understanding, you'll get all the affirmation and recognition, care, and warmth you could possibly want! Of course, you'll become more and more willing to express yourself, right?

So, choose to be with people who make you feel comfortable, and you'll find the security of social interaction in a supportive relationship!

2. Get ready to learn some amazing communication skills and learn to communicate effectively in social situations!

The great thing about communication is that it's not about proving who's right and who's wrong. It's about connecting with each other and understanding each other better!

When communicating, it's not always about expressing yourself. Listening is also a huge part of it! When we listen to the other person, we can feel their needs and understand their feelings. Then, we can give them feedback on what we've felt, and they'll feel like you understand them! It's a great way to bring you closer together.

When you express yourself, it's also important to express your own feelings and needs, as well as what you want the other person to do. But remember, you should never accuse or judge the other person. Instead, express yourself on the basis of respect, and the other person will be more likely to consider your feelings and needs.

When we can all express our feelings and needs sincerely, and when we are willing to respect each other's feelings and needs, sometimes we don't need to come to a definite answer. We just need this understanding and respect, and it's so exciting to see how this can lead to amazing results!

I highly recommend reading some books on communication, such as Crucial Conversations, The Art of Communication, and Nonviolent Communication. They are all very instructive and will really help you!

3. You've got this! Take control and deal with your emotions before dealing with things.

It's tough to do good things when we're in the thick of an emotion. But when we're feeling stable, we can really make things happen! That's why so many psychologists say: deal with emotions first, and then deal with things.

But how do we deal with emotions?

First, we need to be aware of where these emotions come from. And do you know why we get angry?

You feel anxious? Fantastic! Now, why is that?

Now, let's dive deep and uncover the needs and wishes behind this. And, most importantly, let's explore how we want to be treated!

And the best part is, we can all make these needs better met!

Once you understand the reason behind your emotions, you can find the perfect way to deal with them. Let's say you're feeling anxious because you think others don't like or recognize you. Your inner voice is telling you that you need to be recognized and liked. The projection effect in psychology says that if we don't recognize and like ourselves enough, we'll think others treat us the same way. So, instead of asking others to change, focus on changing yourself. Learn to recognize and like yourself, and you'll find that others will start recognizing and liking you too! Even if there are people who don't recognize or like you, you'll still feel complete and at peace with yourself.

Second, we need to accept all our emotions. In fact, emotions are neither good nor bad; they all have a function and serve a purpose.

For example, when someone loses their loved one, but they don't want to accept their grief and don't allow themselves to cry, then there will be a problem. But there is a solution! At this time, grief has a function. It can help us express our inner sadness and also tell those around us that I am in pain now and need your comfort and support. But if you repress your grief, it will not disappear, but will find the right opportunity to erupt in the future. So, let's embrace our emotions and find ways to express them!

So, let's not repress our emotions! Instead, let's let them flow naturally, accept their occurrence, and try to understand why we feel the way we do. Once we do that, we'll see that our emotions no longer have a strong impact on us!

There are so many great ways to release our emotions! Try going for a workout, doing some sports you love, and just relax while you do it. Writing therapy is a great way to get things out of your system. Just write down all your feelings and thoughts on paper, and don't worry about the handwriting or the logic of the content. Just let it all out! Punch a pillow or a sandbag to release your anger by hitting a soft object. Use the empty chair technique to release emotions: in a room, put an empty chair, assuming that the person you want to talk to is sitting in the chair, and then you can express yourself to the chair as much as you like (anger, abuse are fine).

I'm so excited to share this with you! It's just a suggestion, but I think you'll find it really helpful. Wishing you all the best!

Hello, dear question asker!

I'm here for you, and I'm sending you lots of love and support.

I wish I could give you more advice on your current interpersonal communication and emotional problems in just a short description of less than 300 words. Even so, I hope I can at least offer you a few words of encouragement in my answer to accompany you and show you more possibilities when you feel your life is out of control.

Keep on believing in yourself!

You're just twenty years old and your life is still in its early days. You've come to 1st Psychology today with your own questions, seeking more support and help. I admire your courage in seeking help for yourself. As you said, you're gradually finding it difficult to communicate with others, both verbally and in writing, and it is becoming more and more difficult for you to express your thoughts and feelings.

At the same time, your thinking and concentration are affected and deteriorating, and you can easily lose control of your emotions. In severe cases, you may damage household items and be unable to continue working. These situations indicate that you are really having difficulty taking care of both your life and work. We're here to support you in taking the next step, which might be to go to a regular hospital and ask professionals to help you get out of your current predicament.

Take some action to help yourself, my friend.

I'm not sure if you're living alone, with your family, or with other people. It seems like you're going through a lot, and I'm here to support you. I know you've been having "countless terrible thoughts," and I'm aware that the act of breaking things and smashing furniture may also cause you to get hurt. I think it would be best for you to stay with your family or friends at this stage to ensure your safety when you lose control of your emotions.

If you have someone you trust by your side when you're feeling down, it can really help to take the edge off your anxiety and irritability. It's a great idea to review whether there is such a person in your life and ask them for help.

[Keep your eyes open for the little things that make you happy each day!]

You mentioned that things aren't great right now, but you're here looking for a way to make things better. We all have ups and downs in life, and it's totally normal to feel uncomfortable sometimes. But there are also plenty of things that make you feel good and relaxed.

If we focus on the negative, it'll only make us feel worse. So try to keep up a normal routine, get enough sleep, eat regular meals, and then look for the good in your day.

I really hope the original poster can get some professional help, find a new job, and adjust his life.