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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I saw your question. You said that you're reluctant to participate in social activities and group activities, and it seems like you have some psychological resistance to socializing.
♀ Some of your experiences growing up in your original family may have had a big impact on you. It seems like you're reluctant to socialize, but are you afraid of socializing or simply averse to it?
The reality is that everyone is a member of society and needs to socialize, regardless of their psychological state.
Maybe you haven't had many positive experiences in social situations, and the criticism you've faced has been intense. You've received very little positive encouragement and support, so you feel some frustration and helplessness.
You said you give off the impression of being aloof, but what do you really think of yourself?
Often, the self we present to the world isn't necessarily an accurate reflection of our true selves.
When you don't share your opinions and thoughts, and when you don't get much support for socializing, you might feel like you hate socializing.
You said you want others to be cold and scold you. What's really going on there? Have you ever taken a good look at yourself?
Perhaps you dislike some aspects of yourself and try to compensate for that by seeking compromise.
This way of thinking just numbs you, and it doesn't help your life or yourself much.
People aren't meant to live in feelings. They should build self-support, learn to understand themselves, and love themselves.
♀You said you don't feel bad when you're alone, which shows you can be at peace with yourself when you're alone and there's no outside interference.
♀You later said that you hadn't been home for a few months and that he saw a cold face when he saw you. Behind this statement, you actually still feel that you should express yourself in a harmonious and natural way, but your reaction is a cold attitude. This is also your natural expression of emotions!
Why fight your emotions? They're your inner emotional responses!
Sometimes, people may feel bound by moral factors, reality, and other factors, which can prevent them from accepting themselves and lead to a range of issues.
Your family and upbringing might have a big impact on you.
But these factors aren't the root cause of our unhappiness and suffering.
When you learn to accept yourself and understand yourself, it'll help your heart to be much more in tune.
All kinds of troubles seem to be brought to us by external people and things, and some of these factors are pretty significant.
These factors exist, and they're not entirely within your control, so don't try to control people and things you can't control. Focus your mental energy on things you can control, such as studying hard, working hard, and bettering yourself.
If you have the ability within yourself and your inner mind is no longer consumed by uncontrollable and offensive factors, you will have the strength to live a better life.
♀ With an open mind, you can tackle life's challenges head-on. You can also learn some psychological adjustment techniques and methods in a systematic way, which will all be very helpful to you.
I hope this helps!
Believe in yourself and you'll see a better version of yourself.
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I can totally relate to feeling out of place in group settings. It's hard when you see everyone else enjoying themselves and you're just not feeling it. People might think I'm nice too, but I guess that doesn't change the way others perceive me as distant. Deep down, there's this strange comfort in being alone where no one can hurt or judge me.
The idea of people laughing around me feels almost unbearable sometimes. I've always felt like an outsider looking in. Maybe it's because my parents' relationship was so strained growing up; it shaped how I view connections with others now. My dad's unpredictability and negativity certainly didn't help either. Being alone is a sanctuary from all that chaos.
Sometimes I wonder if it's okay to want to be treated coldly. It's weird, but it almost feels familiar, especially coming from my father. He had such a strong influence on my thoughts and emotions. Now, I find myself drawn to solitude, where at least I know what to expect. There's peace in predictability after all the uncertainty at home.
It's tough wanting to be left alone yet fearing isolation at the same time. My father's attitude towards us made me question my worth early on. Now, I often feel more comfortable by myself, away from potential judgment. Solitude has become my safe space, free from criticism and mockery.
Being alone isn't about being lonely; it's about protecting myself from the emotional turmoil that comes with interacting with others. The echoes of my father's words still linger, shaping my antisocial tendencies. I've learned that staying away keeps me stable and shields me from unwanted attention.