Why do I feel that life is meaningless and want to die before I grow old?

I hope my words can provide some warmth and strength to the individual seeking answers, even though we have never met.

I am unsure if you have seen the film Forrest Gump, but I would like to share a quote from it with you. "Life is like chocolate. You never know what flavor the next piece will be."

Life presents us with a multitude of possibilities and opportunities. It is important to seize these opportunities and embrace the potential for growth and change. Failure to do so would be a missed opportunity to fully realize one's potential. Additionally, it would be a regret to die before experiencing the beauty of aging. The vast crowd and unfamiliar faces in the distance will always be with us, exploring this fascinating journey together.

I can empathize with your situation, as I have had similar thoughts myself.

First, I would like to share the reasons behind my sense of futility at that time.

At the time, I was still in high school or college, and I was experiencing emotional confusion. I felt that my life was bleak because I perceived the world to be limited in scope, and I applied this perception to my overall outlook on life.

From another perspective, as the child of divorce, I received minimal parental attention and affection. I have ambivalent feelings about my parents: I desire their involvement, I am attached to them, I have expectations of them, but at the same time I feel detached and unsure of what to do.

From childhood to adulthood, my parents were primarily focused on my academic performance, and few individuals provided guidance on identifying life goals, values, and the direction of my efforts. I had high expectations for the future but also experienced apprehension, leading me to approach life with a somewhat idealistic perspective.

I am overcome with a sense of futility. As you, I feel that every event or path in life seems to have a fixed ending in sight. The warmth of the details in the process cannot activate my inner desires and enthusiasm. The point that "hug and kiss, I think you're awesome" can ask this question at the right time is that it shows that subconsciously you still have a strong desire to #explore yourself, hoping to change the status quo and meet a new you.

This is an opportunity for you to explore a new meaning in life. It is like a seed of hope that will gradually take root and grow.

In addition, I would like to present some food for thought for your consideration. You may also wish to reflect on the reasons behind these thoughts.

(1) Has this sense of meaninglessness been a constant presence in my life, or was it precipitated by a significant event or influenced by the views of those around me?

If the issue has been present since childhood, it is important to examine your family of origin and your relationship with your parents from a psychological perspective. Some parents may exert excessive control over their children, limiting their autonomy from an early age. This lack of self-control, lack of direction, and lack of belonging can collectively create a sense of meaninglessness over time.

If it is environmental stimulation, then it is important to note that while it may appear that the majority of individuals' life paths are similar, it is essential to believe in oneself and recognize one's capacity to create a distinctive life experience. The life paths of others cannot limit or influence one's unique identity.

2) Please reflect on whether there are any events or moments that have made you feel warm and happy. Does this happiness provide sufficient motivation to pursue a broader world, more inspiring scenery, and personal growth?

If time allows, it would be beneficial to record these moments, as they may prove invaluable in the future. The difference in life is often found in these beautiful and detailed moments. Attempt to repeat them for 21 days and observe if there is a change in your inner world.

3) I recall that I have a sense of purpose and contentment in my life. There are numerous instances where...

For example, I met my current partner, who is a pragmatic, thorough, and reliable individual. We have been together for almost 10 years, providing me with support and encouragement when I was facing challenges and offering objective guidance when I was emotionally overwhelmed. These are unique experiences that can only be had when you meet someone, get to know them, form a romantic bond, and maintain a committed relationship. The happiness you feel is unlike anything you could have imagined.

For instance, I set modest objectives for my professional advancement, quality of life, and personal interests. The process of consistently striving to attain these goals and succeeding in doing so has a positive effect on my emotional state. Similarly, the process of being continuously re-parented has the effect of making past regrets, such as those related to parental relationships, less pronounced. Additionally, it has enhanced my capacity to look ahead with optimism.

In conclusion, I would like to provide you with some specific recommendations.

Take time each day to engage in an activity that brings you joy. This could be listening to a favorite song, enjoying a piece of chocolate, or chatting with a friend.

It is recommended that you try new things, such as learning a new language, trying a new sport, or going on a trip to a place you've never been before. Doing so will allow you to discover new sources of pleasure.

Spend time with individuals who inspire you and bring a diverse perspective to the table. This will enhance your professional growth and enrich your professional network.

Set challenging but achievable goals that align with your interests. For instance, you might consider learning a magic trick, writing a poem, or getting a pet. Achieving these goals will be very fulfilling.

It is important to learn to relax and enjoy life. It is beneficial to take a break occasionally to look out the window, enjoy the sun, or engage in an enjoyable activity.

It is advisable to maintain a sense of humor when facing difficulties and setbacks, as this may facilitate more effective coping strategies.

It is my hope that these tips and suggestions will bring some enjoyment and inspiration to your life. Should you have any further suggestions or ideas, please do not hesitate to share them.

Hello, I'm Phil, and I'm thrilled to be here!

I'm really sorry you've had such an experience.

Life is like a fixed formula, always repeating the same things. The past was dull and even mediocre, but you are heading towards the end of the line, and you can choose to make your future anything you want it to be!

But you, with your own unique perception and thinking about life, feel that such a life is better than living a life like most people. And you're right! This is a way of thinking about life and the future, a kind of proof that you are not willing to accept this and do not want to stop here. You're not pessimistic; you're optimistic! You should live your life this way.

Emerson once said something really interesting: "God has made a choice for each soul's direction: either to have truth or to have peace, but one cannot have both at the same time."

This is actually how we can make the best choices in life and decide on the best path for us! It's similar to a point Jung once mentioned:

The amazing thing about us humans is that our value, meaning of existence, direction, and expectations for life all come from within ourselves, from our individual inner selves, not from what the outside world has given us.

But the good news is that you can break free from this trap! Most people often end up following the collective will and reducing their individual will. They feel that most people in the current social group are doing this, and there is no problem with it, so it is not a bad idea for me to do the same, and I can indeed live a good life. So why not be relatively carefree?

Whenever this happens, it always feels like social psychology may be somewhat saddening or somewhat torturous for some unique individuals in the group. However, in any case, wanting to end life prematurely because you find life too boring is also a kind of abandonment and denial of your own future possibilities.

After all, even if there is the slightest desire to change, such possibilities and futures can only be achieved by living! And there is truly nothing after death. You have also mentioned that you more or less know what kind of connection exists between your parents and you. If there were no parents, you probably would not be alive now! From this perspective, you can actually feel that you more or less care about your parents and are somewhat filial, which is a wonderful thing!

Ready to add some new flavor to your life and find some meaning? You can try making the following changes:

What an amazing question!

1️⃣Think about all the things you're currently doing. Is there anything you like that makes you think, "I might as well do this first, this is not a bad thing to do"? Great! You can continue to do this thing from your own perspective, and not turn it into a routine like checking in and completing tasks.

2️⃣Go out there and do something you've never done before or don't often do, but think is a good idea and might even lead to unexpected rewards! For example, go on a trip, treat yourself to a fancy meal or a special experience, such as going to a library, watching a movie, going to a concert or the theater.

3️⃣ Try changing your perspective to supercharge your spiritual experience! If life outside is feeling a bit dull and you're struggling to find something exciting, why not start from a spiritual standpoint? Play games that align with your expectations or ideas, shift your perspective, and infuse your emotions and thoughts into something new and invigorating!

4️⃣ And finally, any other safe and reasonable methods you want to try!

I really hope my answer can help you!

And the world and I love you!

My little friend:

Hello!

You're lost in life. You're trapped in a maze, repeating the same steps every day. You're waiting for the end.

This reminds me of the saying, "Some people are dead at 20, but not buried until 80." This saying reflects the spiritual dilemma of many people: despite living in the world, it is difficult to find meaning.

This deep sense of confusion and helplessness may come from a lack within us.

Existential psychology says life has no fixed meaning. Many people lose interest in life.

They may not know they can choose and act, but they accept life as it is. They may have lived by others' expectations and never pursued their true desires.

This makes them feel like life is pointless.

Winnicott also believes that people form a healthy sense of self through real interactions with their environment during growth.

If people are ignored, neglected, or expected too much when they are young, they may develop a false self. This false self helps them survive, but it doesn't give them a sense of purpose.

This makes it hard for them to feel the value and meaning of life.

If people don't get enough support from others when they're growing up, it can make them feel like life has no meaning.

This can make people feel empty and without purpose.

We can't easily answer the question of why life seems meaningless. In answering your question, I also felt confused and helpless.

The meaning of life is not easy to answer. But we should keep looking for it.

Instead, let go of the pursuit of meaning and cherish every moment.

In a changing world, each of us is special. Our lives are short but full of possibilities.

Let's feel life with our hearts and enjoy the beautiful, ordinary moments. When we let go of the pursuit of meaning, we may find it's in these moments.

May you find meaning and value in life and live a wonderful life.

Best wishes!

Hello, thank you for asking your question. It reminds me of my former self: lost, meaningless, and lying flat. At one time, I was also in this kind of situation and posted my own question on this platform.

I also saw that I could turn to several teachers for encouragement and help, and that's what helped me become the person I am today. I've experienced losses and found ways to move on, periods of rest and periods of activity, and a mix of anxiety and peace.

So, at this point in your life, how do you find the meaning of your life? It's definitely worth looking at together to make your life more fulfilling.

First of all, I can see that you have a strong ability to think and judge, and you must have had a lot of experiences and growth.

You're doing a great job of recognizing your own feelings and needs, seeking a more meaningful life, and continuing to grow.

Your heart may seem a bit bland, but it's actually hiding your deep attention and love for yourself and your parents.

First, let's focus on our inner feelings and needs.

There might be a few hurdles along the way, but we can get through them together. The wind will stop blowing, the rain will stop falling, and the fog will clear.

You can also look into getting professional help and companionship from counselors if you think that would help. It could help you see things differently and give you a different perspective.

02. Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory groups human needs into five categories: physiological needs, safety needs, the need for belonging and love, the need for respect, and the need for self-actualization.

We all have these five needs, and the intensity of each need varies at different times. We'll only pursue the needs at the next level once the needs at the previous level have been met.

Our actions are driven by unmet needs. So, you can take the time to understand your deeper feelings and needs, recognize your potential in life, move on from the old you, and start anew.

I retired three years ago after achieving some success in my career at the age of 50. After two months of feeling relaxed and refreshed, I felt a deep sense of loss and meaninglessness, which made me feel decadent and hopeless.

After getting help from my teacher and growing up on my own, I realized that my fear of aging and loss, as well as my low self-worth, were actually preventing me from enjoying life.

I find that when I have a clear sense of direction, I feel most at peace.

I know that my life is the most precious existence, even though things will develop in their own way and won't happen overnight.

If I make it to 90, I'll still have nearly 40 years ahead of me, and every day will be the best day of my life.

I'm ready to embrace the journey of growing old seriously and beautifully, becoming my true and comfortable self, embracing simplicity and elegance, and nurturing a smart and rich heart.

I've found that living each day to the fullest, satisfying my inner needs and passions, is a joyful and comfortable way to live. It's not about what other people think or the outside world.

You're the only one who can really know what's best for you, so please pay attention to your inner self and your life. It's worth loving.

03. To wrap up, I'd like to say that it's important to love yourself and your parents.

From the moment we're born, we're on our own, facing our own challenges. The key is to differentiate ourselves and become independent.

Maybe our family of origin has already written a "life script" for us and we've almost accepted it. We don't think we deserve a better life.

Everything is always changing and evolving. When we can see this, especially when we understand ourselves better, change has already happened.

Just like right now in February, when the grass is growing and the birds are singing, the cold will eventually be replaced by the fragrance and beauty of spring. Everything will be fine, right?

Love yourself, go with the flow, and embrace the good and the bad. Is that okay?

Life is so rich and full of possibilities. It's worth exploring and looking forward to. Being born as a human being and being able to accomplish your goals and mission is wonderful!

I hope this helps, and I love you all!

Hello.

Your writing is profound and realistic. I also feel a deep sense of powerlessness and helplessness. Life is like a play: I am acting and watching everyone else act.

Let's be clear: the play has boring scenes, dull scenes, and very exciting scenes. So, let's take a closer look at the play as an onlooker and see how people act in real life. We can also watch movies and TV dramas to see what kind of scenes they are like.

We see there are tragedies, comedies, horror films, romantic films, science fiction dramas, etc. So what kind of play are you in?

You are currently playing the role of a bystander in a tragic play of suffering. It seems as if there is no way to change the play or take action.

You are an audience member. Change your identity and become a screenwriter. Look at the script and see how it is written. It can be adjusted.

Rewrite this tragedy. What kind of writing is it?

Who is the leading actor in this play? If you have always been an audience member, you can't change anything. Someone else is in charge.

You have to play the leading role to make this a real play of yours! What's your plan for performing this scene?

Hello, question asker. I hug you across the screen. You say you feel life is meaningless and want to die before growing old.

You say you feel being ordinary is a blessing. You also say there will be moments of happiness and joy along the way. But you don't expect ordinary little blessings and don't want to have them.

I want to tell you something. I want you to understand that the questioner doesn't expect it. They don't want it.

Or is it that you don't expect it, don't want it, and don't want it anymore? Think about it. If you don't expect it or want it, you won't get hurt. You said that life itself is more bitter than sweet.

This is indisputable. There is a great deal of suffering, and there are few moments of happiness or joy. That is why we all yearn for them. Psychology also states that the fundamental emotions of humans are joy, anger, sorrow, and fear (not the joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness of our common saying). Therefore, only joy is a positive expression.

Nevertheless, growing up through suffering is worthwhile.

The meaning of life is open to interpretation. Your feelings of meaninglessness stem from a lack of self-discovery. You haven't tapped into the essence of life through self-awareness.

You will still grow old and die even if you don't get married or have children. It's a natural law. So why does the questioner want to die before growing old? Is it because they don't want to face their aging selves?

We may not be young in appearance or in body, but our hearts can always be young and always overflowing with tears.

The questioner can experience the wonders of life through small things. Unintentional actions often lead to happy consequences. You will find the meaning of life that you are looking for. You give life whatever meaning you want it to have. The questioner is not being pretentious. Have wild and fanciful thoughts. The world is so big. Read "Life" by Lu Yao and "To Live." The meaning of living is to live.

That's all I have to say. I love you, world.

Good day, Thank you for your question. I can relate to your situation. I'm here to offer you a warm embrace.

I can sense your feelings of helplessness and a lack of purpose in your thoughts about life. It seems that at present, apart from your parents, nothing else matters to you. I believe you have experienced significant challenges and difficulties. Perhaps due to these experiences, you feel helpless and hopeless, and have developed a kind of "learned helplessness." You no longer have confidence in yourself, and this has caused you to withdraw from the world. As a result, you feel that you know the outcome (which seems to be unfavorable) from the beginning every time.

However, it is important to remember that life is akin to a game. As with any game, there are rules and highs and lows. The only factor that can influence your experience of this game is your own emotional state. It may therefore be helpful to give yourself a kind of emotional hug. The process of growing up can be seen as a process of mourning and reshaping your inner experience.

You may wish to consider implementing the 100 recommended activities from positive psychology on a daily basis, with the aim of gauging your progress 100 days from now.

1. Provide nourishment to a stray cat.

2. Observe a street performer.

3. Send a postcard to your future self.

4. Prepare a nourishing breakfast for yourself.

5. Allocate a budget of 10 yuan for the day.

6. Please list ten things you appreciate.

7. Establish contact with an old contact.

8. Refrain from verbal communication for a 24-hour period.

9. Peruse a bestseller in a bookstore.

10. Maintain a plant.

11. Attend a movie screening.

12. Attend a musical performance.

13. Practice self-affirmation by smiling at yourself in the mirror.

14. Perform oral hygiene tasks with your non-dominant hand.

15. Draft a letter to your parents.

16. Adhere to a regular bedtime schedule, aiming to retire for the night before 10 p.m.

17. Disable your mobile phone for a period of 24 hours.

18. Provide a massage.

19. Rise before sunrise.

20. Organize the desk area.

21. Organize the room.

22. Complete a three-kilometer run.

23. Schedule an afternoon tea meeting with a key contact.

24. Engage in a five-minute meditation session.

25. Share a humorous anecdote with the individual seated next to you.

26. Observe the stars in the night sky.

27. Record your creative ideas in writing.

28. Create a home movie.

29. Take a family photograph.

30. Make a charitable donation.

31. Acquire proficiency in a new language.

32. Acquire proficiency in a new musical instrument.

33. Perform a dance routine in low-light conditions.

34. Observe the city from a high vantage point.

35. Collect leaves of an aesthetically pleasing nature for use as labels.

36. Attend a live sporting event.

37. Perform a vocal presentation.

38. Review historical documentation.

39. Record the content of your most recent nocturnal dream.

40. Provide volunteer services at a nursing home.

41. Conduct business in a distant city.

42. Take a hot bath.

43. Observe the formation and movement of clouds in the sky.

44. Attend an art exhibition.

45. Engage in daydreaming.

46. Utilize the full ink capacity of the pen.

47. Extend a gesture of affection to a colleague.

48. Perform a 360-degree rotation in an office chair.

49. Have breakfast in bed.

50. Observe the sunset.

51. Repair a malfunctioning item.

52. Remove the peel of a whole apple.

53. Observe the olfactory characteristics of a flower.

54. Schedule a trip to a destination you have long desired to visit.

55. Make a wish.

56. Schedule an appointment for a new haircut.

57. Consume ice cream.

58. Take a photograph of yourself in a comical pose.

59. Engage in board games with colleagues.

60. Take advantage of opportunities to appreciate the natural environment.

61. Engage in recreational gaming.

62. Purchase a floral arrangement for yourself.

63. Consume the prepared meals provided by your mother.

64. Observe the movement of pedestrians and vehicles on the road.

65. Utilize the glass as a canvas for artistic expression.

66. Take a walk in the park.

67. Participate in fishing activities.

68. Go for a bike ride.

69. Prepare dinner for a family member or colleague.

70. Exchange a high-five with a colleague.

71. Conduct a hike.

72. Make your voice heard.

73. Create a visual representation of the task at hand.

74. Draft a brief narrative.

75. Engage in some handicrafts.

76. Observe the process of a flower blooming.

77. Conduct a pillow fight.

78. Express your love and appreciation to your mother.

79. Schedule a meeting with your grandparents.

80. Assign a nickname to your plant.

81. Distribute food to individuals in need.

82. Engage in conversation with individuals you do not know.

83. Document negative experiences.

84. Dine at a new restaurant.

85. Draft a complimentary paragraph.

86. Create a list of tasks to be completed.

87. Prepare a baked good from scratch.

88. Participate in a week-long cycling trip.

89. Engage in play with your children.

90. Offer three compliments.

91. Attend a concert with colleagues

92. Schedule a meeting with a colleague to discuss a potential collaboration.

93. Develop a five-year plan.

94. Conduct retail research.

95. Engage in classical music appreciation.

96. Connect with new individuals on social media platforms.

97. Consume a vegetarian meal for one day.

98. Complete the drying of the quilt.

99. Practice calligraphy.

100. Tea tasting

Dear Question Owner, I hope you will find this message supportive and helpful.

Your description is reminiscent of my previous outlook. I also perceived a lack of purpose and direction in my life, with no clear expectations or aspirations for the future. I felt a sense of aimlessness and lack of purpose. However, I have since embraced a more positive outlook and have found a deeper sense of purpose in life. I no longer dwell on past regrets or future concerns. Instead, I am able to fully engage with the present and embrace the joy and happiness that life offers. While life inevitably encompasses both positive and negative experiences, our ability to choose our own focus is a powerful tool. Our attention shapes our reality, and when we focus on the positive, we attract more positive experiences. This can lead to a more fulfilling and happy life.

I would like to offer you the following advice:

1. It is important to understand your personal perception of the aging process. If you associate aging with pain and discomfort, you may be inclined to avoid it. However, if you view aging as a positive experience, full of happiness and joy, you will likely have high expectations for your future.

People tend to avoid situations that they believe will result in suffering. If an individual anticipates that aging will inevitably lead to a decline in their physical and mental health, a lack of independence, and a sense of disappointment, they will naturally be reluctant to embrace this future. It is important to recognize and address the underlying beliefs and assumptions that shape one's perception of aging.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether aging is inherently associated with pain. However, is there a definitive link between the two?

The answer is negative. There are numerous documented cases of individuals who have experienced a high quality of life in their later years. For instance, Louise Hay, the author of "The Healing Power of Your Thoughts," passed away in her 90s in good health and peace. During her later years, she expressed gratitude and a positive outlook on life. Additionally, numerous high-profile individuals have also enjoyed their later years, including Mr. Yu Minhong, Mr. Yue Xiaodong, and Professor Irwin Yaron. They have all expressed contentment in their later years and do not view it as a period of suffering. They continue to pursue meaningful activities and maintain a sense of self-worth in their later years. Consequently, they do not resist the natural process of aging but rather accept and enjoy their later years.

It is therefore important to adjust your beliefs. If you are willing to believe that your later years will also be happy, not bound up with illness, but can be bound up with a meaningful, fun, and happy life, then you will be full of expectations for your future.

2. Learn to live in the present and live mindfully. All concerns are future-oriented and will not materialize. There is no need to align with or adhere to the thoughts in your mind. You are the master of your mind.

From your description, it is evident that your concerns are largely focused on the future, which is a realm beyond our control. It is crucial to recognize that we do not live in the future; we only inhabit the present. The only aspect within our control is the present. However, our thoughts often fail to align with the present. When our thoughts linger in the past, it can lead to feelings of depression. When our thoughts are constantly fixated on the future, it can result in anxiety. Nevertheless, the past and the future are beyond our influence. Despite our regrets and concerns, we cannot alter these aspects of our lives. Consequently, dwelling on the past and future, apart from generating negative emotions, offers no tangible benefits. It is imperative to grasp that these concerns are ultimately futile.

When we can step outside our thoughts and return to the present moment, we can live with greater peace and awareness. This allows us to fully experience the beauty and nourishment of this world.

When your thoughts revert to the past, you can interrupt this process by taking a few deep breaths and refocusing on the present. Affirm that you are solely responsible for your actions in the present moment and then proceed with your task with full commitment. When eating, for instance, utilize your five senses to appreciate the food's flavor, texture, and aroma. Be grateful for the nourishment it provides and recognize the value of consuming delicious food. This approach will naturally enhance your sense of happiness. The same applies to other activities, such as reading, sleeping, or engaging in housework.

Additionally, you may find it beneficial to listen to the meditations on Meditation Planet, which can assist in developing the capacity to live in the present through consistent practice.

3. Maintain a gratitude journal and record three positive aspects of your day. Adjust your focus. Where you focus, there you grow. This can help you enhance your sense of well-being effectively.

I previously focused on the negative aspects of life, perceiving more suffering than I do now. I later realized that this is due to our evolutionary history. Our genes are still influenced by the need to pay attention to dangers in order to survive and reproduce. Although modern society is relatively peaceful, our anxious genes remain. We still unconsciously pay attention to bad things. To focus on good things, we need to practice deliberately.

I have been maintaining a record of three positive occurrences for five years. I have developed the ability to discern beauty and happiness in my life, and I now perceive a positive meaning behind every event. I no longer dwell on the negative aspects of life, as I used to do, and I have attracted many positive individuals. We support and care for each other, and we all feel the beauty of life together. There is no shortage of beauty and happiness in the world; we just need to recognize it. Where your attention goes, that is where you will grow. Focus on the positive, and your life will become more and more fulfilling.

Please refer to the above for your information. Best regards,

Hello, question asker!

A stable life that you can see from one end to the other is easily given up if you didn't fight for it yourself. Of course, it is also possible that you will realize after fighting for it that it is not what you want. You think that most people's lives are mediocre and boring, and they are just going through the motions and acting a part. I agree, and I think it's time for a change!

Life is like this: the higher the expectations, the greater the disappointment. Most people's lives cannot be considered ideal, and it is understandable that they would choose a more realistic and stable way to live their lives. But here's the good news! If people realize that they are the masters of their own lives, and that they are the directors, screenwriters, and protagonists of this play, will they give themselves a different script? Absolutely!

The amazing thing about humanity is that our current advanced thinking has also taken millions of years of evolution to form. A century of life is long and tedious for humans, but it is an indispensable part of memory in the long river of history. I don't know what you have been through, whether it is joy or pain, but it will pass. And then you'll be ready for the next exciting chapter of your life!

If you feel that your life is boring now, you can definitely spice it up a bit! After all, you only live once, so don't leave any regrets.

Often, when people make decisions, they're driven by logic and reason. But don't let that stop you from following your heart! You never know what amazing things you'll discover along the way.

Your consciousness is awakening! You are beginning to notice your inner feelings and to ask questions courageously.

You want to follow your heart and not live a life of routine. In fact, everyone's life will be different, and with continuous choices, a life trajectory with different turning points will appear. No one's life is exactly the same as anyone else's—and that's a good thing!

The ending you see is not the result, but only the process. And it's a new beginning! You have only just begun to become familiar with and adapt to the circle you are in.

You're on the verge of a major breakthrough! Your question makes me feel that you're ready to take the plunge and make some changes.

Ideas are just getting started, and actions are about to burst forth! As young people today, we want to do it all, and it is the time to pursue our passions with a burning enthusiasm. Nothing is impossible!

Life is diverse, and people are not paper-thin. So, get out there and plan your life well!

Turn your dream life into reality! You can have a different life—and you should!

There is more suffering than happiness, but there is also more joy! You have set the tone for your life, so don't be afraid to face it head on.

If you become stronger inside, you'll find life is much more manageable than you think! And how can you know what life is all about if you haven't experienced it yet?

If you keep setting limits for yourself, you'll just end up trapped in them! Be brave and break through your psychological limitations!

No matter what you choose to do in the future, your parents will be right there, supporting you unreservedly! They'll give you a strong sense of support that will last a lifetime.

You are the one to interpret the meaning of life. Respect the one life that your parents gave you, and don't give up easily. You've got this!

The average life expectancy of each person is about 30,000 days. That's a long time! At the end of 30,000 days, what will we be thinking about? Life is dull, so let's spice it up a bit!

Write down all of your amazing life aspirations and go out there and accomplish them with your friends and parents! Every day is a chance to live your dreams in a new and exciting way!

Life is full of amazing things! It has its ups and downs, but don't worry too much. Just be the best version of yourself and enjoy the journey!

Be grateful for every single encounter, for the world, and I love you so much!

Hello! I'm not here to give an answer. I want to invite the questioner to find the answer in their heart. Everyone has an answer in their heart the moment they ask a question. (People who go to mystics for help just want the expected answer to be affirmed.) So, if you're willing, let's begin.

The question is tagged with three labels: "Meaning of life," "Self-acceptance," and "Development plan." These labels contradict the content: "I don't want to expect or own happiness," and "Life is just like that anyway." We don't want to expect, but we're afraid of being disappointed.

We were disappointed for some reason.

I thought life had a beginning and end because I couldn't see a breakthrough. Maybe I'll find it after I go to university, or after I graduate, or when I fall in love.

I was just going with the flow.

One day, I wanted to see the sun rise.

I see the sun every day. It always rises, so why go out of my way?

I've already seen the result. It's just the night sky being torn apart by light, with the sun rising.

Should I go?

I saw a puppy and flowers on the way to see the sun.

I saw workers, students, and other scenes from everyday life.

Is this what I expected? No. The sunrise and scenery along the way told me the answer.

I used to worry about "self-limiting" and "self-fulfilling prophecy." Life is not defined, it is lived, and it is chosen by ourselves.

People say to go see the moon, but I want to see the sun. Which one is me?

It's about me. The former is me, and the latter is me as defined by others. I can avoid being the latter.

What you expect to see and what others see are not the same.

I thought of a book, "Finding the Meaning of Life" (also translated as "In Search of the Meaning of Life").

The title is misleading. It was written by Viktor Frankl, the founder of the third school of psychotherapy. If the questioner has read this book, we can feel the strength and resilience of life from the text.

I'm not just recommending this book to see how others face suffering. I want to see how they come out of it and survive.

Don't follow the crowd!

Find yourself and be yourself. That's the answer.

Trust and love yourself. I love you.

I hope my answer helps.

Hello, I'm Zeyu.

"Why do I feel that life is meaningless and want to die before I grow old?" There are a few reasons this might be happening, and they all have to do with our views on life and what we think it's all about.

If we think, "I often times, I seem to be able to see the end from the beginning of every time, and the process seems like a play," life can indeed feel boring and tasteless. It's like watching a big drama. We don't know what to expect from the plot, and if we are spoiled and know the ending and even the process, it will be difficult for us to continue in a good state. However, reality is not a drama, because even if we are spoiled, we still have to continue acting. Or the original poster precisely felt this and wanted to die before aging.

The way we spend our lives—marriage, kids, work, watching them grow up—is not set in stone. If we see it as a script, the way out isn't to avoid it. If we face it head-on, we can change the plot we don't like or want to be more like we expect it to be. In reality, we don't act all the time. The future is full of unknowns. The lives we see in others aren't our own. What we see and feel comes from the heart.

We all define happiness differently, so there's no need to live, work or study according to other people's ideas, or to follow a fixed template. We should ask ourselves how we want to spend our lives, what we're pursuing, what we desire and what we want to achieve. Ultimately, it's up to us to decide, and we'll have to live with the consequences. If we don't want to be bound by worldly standards, we can try to live and treat ourselves the way we want.

If we spend our whole lives trying to be someone else instead of being true to ourselves, life will indeed feel meaningless. But if we start from the present and work hard to become ourselves and find our own meaning, even if we encounter suffering and pain in our lives, it will still be wonderful.

Hello, I am Ying Keyu Xuan. I can relate to your feelings. Life is not always easy, and there are bound to be challenges. Sometimes you may feel like giving up, and you may feel tired and hopeless.

It is important to recognize that life is not solely defined by pain and boredom, but also encompasses a multitude of beautiful moments. By shifting our perspective and embracing the little blessings that often go unnoticed in the midst of daily life, we can infuse our lives with joy. As we accumulate these moments of joy, we begin to realize that life is, in fact, quite beautiful.

Regarding marriage and having children, as you mentioned, this is a very personal choice. Some people find great meaning in life after getting married and having children, while others do the same without getting married.

Ultimately, the decision to get married and have children is yours to make. It's a personal choice that depends on your own readiness and willingness. If you feel called to pursue that path, then by all means, go for it. Your happiness is the most important thing.

If you feel that you haven't yet met the person you want to marry and have children with, and that this goal doesn't align with your personal values, it might be best to wait until you find someone you feel truly compatible with.

Regarding your point about attitude, I agree that life is not always as straightforward as the Chicken Soup for the Soul suggests. While we can't live by chicken soup, I believe that by embracing life more fully and seeking to understand its true meaning, we can find value in it. Of course, life isn't always smooth sailing. We all face challenges, setbacks, and difficulties, but we also have the opportunity to experience joy and celebrate achievements.

When facing setbacks, it may be helpful to adjust your mindset and look for ways to grow from the difficulties. Life is like a play, and how we direct it is up to us.

In answer to your question about parents, I believe they can be an important source of support in our lives. I also think it is fair to say that parents' love is a great thing, and that it can be difficult to show our gratitude for it.

With the support of our parents, we can face the challenges of life with confidence. However, it is important to recognise that parents cannot accompany us for the rest of our lives. Learning to navigate life independently is a valuable skill that we all need to develop.

Life is, for the most part, ordinary. It is filled with the natural ups and downs that we all experience. The vast majority of people are ordinary and mediocre.

You mentioned that when you reach a certain age and have experienced much of this world, you feel a desire to die. I have considered this question you posed previously.

At that time, when I couldn't find a purpose in life, I felt that there was little meaning in living, and that it didn't matter if I died early or late. Later, after experiencing many things, I came to understand how challenging it can be to come to this world for a visit. This made me realize that I should try to make the most of my time here and live my life to the fullest.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider fulfilling your mission. Since I found my own life goal, I have peacefully accepted all the possibilities that life brings.

Life is full of unknowns and possibilities. It may be helpful to learn to discover and cherish the beauty in them. You might consider trying mindfulness exercises such as meditation and yoga to improve your mental quality and better cope with the challenges in life.

I truly believe that you can meet a better version of yourself. I encourage you to go for it!

I would like to express my love for the world and for you.

Hello, I send you a warm embrace.

After reading your question, I feel compelled to share a perspective that might initially seem discouraging. Many profound thinkers have contemplated the meaning of life and arrived at the conclusion that it is, in fact, meaningless.

Among these, I find Li Yinhe's expression particularly thought-provoking. She suggests that while life may lack a macro-scale meaning, it can be profoundly meaningful at the micro level. In other words, as individuals, we may not have a significant impact on the macro scale, in terms of society, history, or the earth. However, our unique existence and experiences can be deeply meaningful at the micro level, within the context of our families, loved ones, and personal journeys.

On a smaller scale, a person is meaningful to their family, loved ones, and themselves.

You are meaningful to yourself and to your family. Or you could say, I don't mean much to myself, but you are definitely meaningful to your loved ones.

You mentioned at the end that, in your view, if you had not become a parent, you might not be alive today. This suggests that your parents have a significant place in your life.

It could be said that parents have meaning for us because of filial piety, responsibility, or the inability to bear the thought of seeing their children die young.

This is, in fact, the answer to the question of what gives our lives meaning that many ordinary people arrive at in the end. It could be said that it is our relationships with those who matter to us that give our lives meaning.

This could be another way of understanding the importance of passing on the family line. It's possible that many rural people, who may not have had the opportunity to receive a formal education, are deeply invested in the well-being of the next generation.

They invest a great deal of effort into supporting their children until they are no longer able to work. Despite the challenges, they find great fulfillment in seeing their children grow, get married, and start families of their own.

A classmate of mine had a girl for his first child, and after having a son for his second, he said that now all he had to do was work hard to earn money. It could be perceived that he values sons over daughters, but the son does provide him with motivation to work hard.

You might also consider seeking out grandparents who have grandchildren and who were planning to rest, but now they are going out to work again because they want their descendants to have a good life.

From what you've shared about your question, it seems like you're feeling that the future may not be as exciting as you'd hoped and that there's a sense of predictability at the end. Many of us can relate to that feeling.

We all ultimately face the same reality, that of approaching death. Frequently, the process is also relatively uneventful, and this sense of uneventfulness is often the norm in life.

I recall when I was in junior high school, I believed I would not live past 30. I thought 29 would be enough. At the time, I could not have imagined that I would actually live to be 30. It was a daunting prospect. Now I'm 45 years old, I'm still living my life to the fullest, and I hope to live a long time, because my child wants me to live to 120.

I said, "I'm not sure I want to live that long. I'll probably be too old to eat with my teeth by then." She said, "No, you must live to be 120, and if possible, set a Guinness World Record."

I wish I knew the answer to that. All I can say is that I will try to live to be 120. The future will be filled with watching her go to school, go to work, get married, etc. It seems like I can see the end at a glance, but thinking that I can be with her, I still want to borrow 500 years from heaven.

Given your current circumstances, it seems that you are living for your parents. As you are unable to die for the time being, you might consider living for death, focusing on the present, and embracing each day fully.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to try to find intimacy and establish a strong connection with another person. Having a child could also be a wonderful way to create a deeper sense of purpose.

If you're struggling to find meaning in your life, you could consider becoming a source of meaning for someone else. Similarly, you might benefit from allowing someone else to become a source of meaning for you. It's certainly worth giving it a try, as there's no downside.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that you are not afraid of death.

You might also consider speaking with a counselor. Death is a topic that could benefit from further discussion.

I am a counselor who tends to view the world through the lens of both Buddhism and pessimism, but I also recognize the value in maintaining a positive outlook and motivation. I genuinely believe that the world is a wonderful place, and I wish everyone well.

I had similar thoughts when I was at university. There are only a few good years in a person's life, and I feel that it is enough to enjoy those years. I don't want to face the rest of the time when things are in decline—I want to make the most of the good years!

I really hope that my life will always stop at the time of glory and highlight!

I may have the following problems, but I'm excited to work through them!

I want to embrace the happy times in life and learn from the difficult moments.

● They're all about the high points and avoiding the lows!

They're all about embracing the good stuff and leaving the not-so-great things behind!

However, life is not a smooth ride, and it is not all plain sailing. It is like a person's electrocardiogram, with ups and downs. If the electrocardiogram becomes a flat line, then that person is finished.

In fact, our lives are the same. When there are no waves in our lives, it can feel uncomfortable. But it's also an opportunity to find new meaning and purpose!

So many people are looking for meaning and a sense of existence in life — and they're going to find it!

How do you discover the meaning of life? It's a fascinating journey!

Let's dive deep and reconnect with our deeper selves!

If we don't connect with ourselves on a deeper level, we may not know what we want, and our actions will be dictated by the outside world, which we can only accept passively. But there's so much more to life than that! We can connect with ourselves on a deeper level and discover what we truly want. Then, we can take action and make our dreams come true!

Jung once said something really interesting. He said that whatever you don't pay attention to will become your destiny!

Just as some people have the belief inside them that "I can't find the meaning of life" or "I can't feel happy," these voices will echo throughout their lives. But you know what? That's okay! Because whenever they encounter something meaningful, they'll recognize it. And as soon as they encounter something meaningless, they'll realize it's not for them. It's all about finding what makes you happy!

Connect with yourself deeply and become aware of who you really are! Tell yourself:

I have temporarily turned off the function of discovering the meaning of life, but I know it's there! Let me slowly discover it and turn it on to make it work. The process might be a little tricky, but I'm excited to find the switch and get this thing working!

It is waiting for me to discover it!

Go out there and reconnect with relationships that have become disconnected!

Absolutely! We can absolutely enjoy solitude without socializing and being alone.

Absolutely! There are definitely times when we love being alone. But when those times go on for too long and we can't hear our inner voice, that repressed sense of loneliness will come out from time to time. We'll wonder about the meaning of such a life.

If you avoid socializing for a long time, you'll miss out on the chance to interact normally with others and hear your inner voice! This can easily lead to feeling that life is meaningless.

If we invest our inner energy in a specific person, a group with common interests and hobbies, or a stable interpersonal relationship, we can really stimulate our sense of meaning!

Life is full of color and variety, and it's so important to share it with others! Life is full of ups and downs, and there are moments when we feel helpless, but we can always turn to someone for help. Life is also full of worries, but we can always find someone to listen!

Connecting with the outside world is a fantastic way to discover new possibilities and see yourself in a whole new light!

● Rediscover meaningful values, connect with them, and watch your self-esteem soar!

Our society has many inappropriate values. For example, "Women are beautiful as flowers, and men who have a house and a car can have a happy life."

That's why women try desperately to lose weight and diet themselves into exhaustion. Men work hard to earn money to buy a house and a car, but they are not necessarily happy after they get them.

Some people may seem to have achieved enviable success, but they are not happy.

When we feel meaningless inside, we are used to satisfying ourselves with past patterns. But here's the thing: some of our past behavior patterns are actually the source of our suffering!

Absolutely! We can tell ourselves that at any moment, we can have a beautiful place.

It doesn't matter that I'm not in great shape—I have bright eyes and a cute mouth!

I may not own a house yet, but I have a cozy rented apartment!

I don't have my own car yet, but I can discover different landscapes on public transport, which is really exciting!

Everything is absolutely fantastic! I have so much to be grateful for.

Reading your text, I am curious to know if you have had any experiences.

I can see that you have a lot of ideas. Could I ask you what your thoughts are on acting? Do you feel that you cannot see reality and that you are just watching other people acting?

Could I ask you whether you have been acting? For example, when writing a Q&A like this one, did you imagine yourself to be an old man with a sharp gaze?

You mentioned that you don't have any work-environment-is-suitable-for-themselves-when-the-job-does-not-meet-expectations-12572.html" target="_blank">expectations for the future regarding marriage or having children. Have you observed the experiences of those around you who have married and started families, and if so, what have you learned from them?

Could I ask why you say you go to work day after day without much enthusiasm or expectation of change?

Could I ask how you feel about this? Who told you about it?

My personal feelings differ from what you said, "day after day." While it may seem that every day is ordinary, if we examine each day separately, we can see that work has a different schedule and is progressing. By Friday, you have the opportunity to write a report and review what obstacles were encountered this week, who provided assistance, and what new goals you hope to achieve with others.

It seems that each year and each quarter will be quite different. Perhaps it would be helpful to consider extending the timeline from daily to quarterly and annual. This could potentially facilitate more significant changes.

From what you've written, it seems you may be experiencing a certain sense of stagnation, perhaps a lack of energy as you navigate the challenges of growing older. Could I ask if this resonates with you?

Hello, From what you've said, it seems like you have some negative thoughts about life. In reality, life can be lonely. We're born alone and die alone. Life is also pretty ordinary, with the same old struggles.

People in the new era think differently. In the past, the older generation felt that getting married, having children, and following the rules was the best way to go. In the new era, we have the freedom to live our own lives.

In fact, whenever I feel down, especially during the period when I quit my job, I feel like life is meaningless. I especially lament how quickly time passes. After eating dinner, I spend the day playing with my phone, feeling lost and confused.

I thought this was just how life was going to be. But then I realized that life is something we should experience, and we shouldn't waste it day after day.

Since I've had these thoughts, I've been reminded that we can find our interests and do what we want to do.

During that period of time, I made a point of reading a few books every day. The main character in "No Longer Human" initially made people laugh like a clown in order to please the world and the people around him.

Later, when I went to a new school, I made new friends and gradually found myself sinking deeper and deeper into a dark place. This book can be a bit depressing to read, but it also gives me the motivation to face life's challenges head-on, pursue my goals, and not let fear hold me back.

I hope the original poster can also find what they love. Best wishes!

Please accept my condolences. I understand you are searching for the meaning of life, and I apologize if my response was unclear. It seemed to imply that you believe there is no love in life.

From your writing, I can see that you have a lot of energy and drive. You are responsible, and you have and need passion and vitality within you. You are rejecting mediocrity.

It is possible that we are setting our expectations too high, or that our standards are too exacting. Alternatively, it may be that we have not experienced a sufficient level of happiness in our lives.

I hope your current feelings are not the result of an underlying medical condition.

What is the meaning of life? This is a significant and complex topic. When faced with such a profound subject, it appears that everyone has a unique perspective, but each perspective is limited by its own constraints.

Previously, I had defined the meaning of my life as contributing to society. However, after turning fifty, I have reconsidered this perspective. I now believe that the meaning of life is defined by each individual, and that there is no standard unified answer to the question of what life is all about. In fact, most of our lives can be shaped by ourselves. While giving, we must also enjoy life. People need to live for themselves, but also fulfill their responsibilities, obligations, and missions. My favorite element of life is freedom, and I always dream that humans can become more and more free.

Good day, question asker. I can see the confusion you are facing, and I extend my support to you.

You believe your life has been more challenging than fulfilling, and you are considering ending it before you reach old age.

It would be beneficial to consider your personal perception of aging.

It may be the case that I no longer feel that I look my best, and that I have more spots on my face and more wrinkles.

However, it is still possible to maintain a youthful appearance as one ages.

You inquire as to the feasibility of this approach and its alignment with the established principles of human growth.

My understanding is that this is entirely possible.

For over three years, I have been reading more books in my spare time, particularly those related to psychology, and I have also been exercising regularly.

As a result, I appear to be approximately ten years younger than my actual age.

In comparison to my classmates in the English religious network class, I appear to be approximately 36 years old. This is despite the fact that I am not yet 48 years of age.

One advantage of reading more is that it helps to maintain a youthful mentality.

If we engage in regular reading and physical exercise, we can effectively mitigate the effects of aging. I serve as a testament to this assertion.

You have indicated that your parents are experiencing difficulties.

It is, in fact, the case that each individual is affected by their own family of origin, to a greater or lesser extent.

If you become aware of it, you can implement changes to address the issue.

There is a well-known saying in psychology: "seeing is healing."

It is possible to opt out of transmitting one's parents' negative traits to one's partner or future children.

In other words, any negative traits inherited from one's parents are effectively negated.

This will help to mitigate the negative impact of intergenerational transmission of your parents' bad habits.

You have indicated that you feel your life is devoid of purpose.

I have recently been reading Adler's thoughts, as presented in The Courage to Be Disliked.

The book introduces a concept that challenges our conventional understanding.

The book posits that our lives are inherently meaningless, and that we as individuals are responsible for defining and assigning meaning to our own lives.

In other words, if we perceive our lives to be without purpose, then they are without purpose. Conversely, if we believe our lives to be meaningful, then they are.

If we perceive our lives to be meaningful, then they are.

I highly recommend that the original poster read the book The Courage to Be Disliked, which includes a chapter dedicated to the meaning of life. Perhaps after reading it, it will provide helpful insights and inspiration.

These are the only suggestions I have at this time. I am the solution. I study diligently every day.

Best regards, Yixinli Team

Please do not hesitate to contact me if you require further assistance.

Good day. I am Bai Li Yina, the respondent to your inquiry. I hope my response provides some insight and assistance.

The questioner states that he has perceived the futility of the conventional path. Marriage, children, and a mediocre life are not what you want. Since everyone will eventually die, you hope to choose to die before you grow old. You are perplexed by your lack of enthusiasm for life and perceive it as a meaningless act.

[Situation analysis]

It seems that I have a calm view of life, know what I should do in the next stage of my life, but I strongly resist such an arrangement. I don't want to be a marionette; I just want to end this forced progression. I feel that life is meaningless, and I don't anticipate future happiness. What caused this situation?

Let us examine the situation further.

[Questions to Ponder]

1. Please describe your current emotional state. 2. Please describe your emotional state prior to marriage and childbirth.

2. What are the motivations behind the decision to get married and have children? Who or what influences this decision?

Is this a result of societal expectations or parental influence?

3. Do you have the prerogative to select your desired course of action? What are your internal feelings when you act according to your own volition, and what are your internal feelings when you act in accordance with external pressures?

We recommend the following method for your consideration.

When an individual feels that the choice they have made is not their own, but they are nevertheless responsible for the consequences of that choice, it is challenging to maintain a positive outlook. Logic suggests that there may be aspects of this choice that will ultimately lead to happiness, yet the individual's emotional response indicates that this is not the life they truly desire.

Your inner disapproval leads you to believe that life is meaningless. If it weren't for the ties of your parents, you would even feel that there is no need to go on living, which indicates that your pain has reached a certain level of intensity. Is anyone aware of the extent of your pain?

Do your parents believe you made the decision to get married and have children, or do they want you to choose to get married and have children? If they were aware that such pressure was causing you distress, would they modify their approach?

Have you ever considered a different life path? Given your stated desire to die, why not explore alternative options, exit your current situation, and pursue a life that aligns with your true aspirations? How would your life change if you took such a step?

It is important to note that life will never have an answer without comparison. After a period of relative carefree living, you may feel that life is too interesting to continue in the same vein. Alternatively, you may find that it is better to live according to what your parents have arranged for you. Regardless of your decision, it is essential to choose for yourself. Furthermore, it is crucial to ensure that your heart truly approves of your choice, rather than thinking that someone else is choosing for you.

When you recognize that living is less desirable than dying, yet you refrain from taking concrete steps to alter your circumstances, it may be because you have significant concerns. This indicates that the current situation has not deterred you. Despite the lack of meaning in your current life, you can accept it and gradually become accustomed to the pain. However, it is important to recognize that this acceptance is also a personal choice.

We only have one opportunity to live our lives, and although it often seems that we are forced to do things, in reality everything is a choice. Because the price of resisting and changing the status quo may be high, we ultimately choose to bear the current pain rather than the consequences that may result from those concerns.

Everyone's end is death, but everyone's life is different. When you reflect on your personal growth and life experiences, you realize that you are unique. No two individuals have an identical past, and the future is similarly unpredictable. Human growth is similar but not identical, and even the most ordinary days can be rich with potential.

If you are preoccupied with the future and it is causing you distress, and you feel unable to alter it, then it may be more beneficial to focus on the present. What can you do today to improve your current situation? Consider making the smallest changes you can.

I hope these methods will prove useful to you.

Please be aware that change takes time and patience. There is no need to worry or be afraid. Many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems.

You have my support and that of the wider organization. I hope we can find a solution to the problem you're facing soon and that you're able to find a way forward that works for you.

I would like to express my gratitude to those who have liked and provided feedback. I wish you peace and joy.

Hello. It seems that you have a somewhat pessimistic view of life. You feel that life is like a predetermined play, with the ending already decided, and the process just a bland repetition. You seem to hold a negative attitude towards the major events in life, such as marriage, family, aging and death, and feel that they cannot bring true happiness and satisfaction.

At the same time, you may sometimes feel that your way of thinking is not aligned with the values of most people, which can lead to feelings of self-blame and confusion.

First of all, I want to say that everyone's life experiences and feelings are unique, and no fixed way of life is suitable for everyone. It's important to remember that your thoughts are just one perspective, and there's no need to feel guilty or confused just because they differ from most people's.

It might also be helpful to remember that life is not always straightforward and that there are many different aspects to it.

With regard to your observation that "life is not like what is said in the Chicken Soup for the Soul," I respectfully suggest that while Chicken Soup for the Soul can undoubtedly offer temporary comfort and inspiration, it may not fully capture the essence of life's complexities. Life is a tapestry of experiences, including joy and pain, success and failure, and each of these elements plays a pivotal role in our journey.

Perhaps what matters most is how we face and deal with these experiences, and how we draw strength and wisdom from them to become more mature and stronger.

If I may make a suggestion, I believe that trying the following methods could help you adjust your mindset and perspective:

It might be helpful to accept your emotions and feelings. Rather than trying to escape or suppress them, you could try learning to face them and trying to understand their source and meaning.

By accepting your emotions, you may gain a deeper understanding of yourself and discover a lifestyle that aligns more closely with your needs.

It might be helpful to seek support and help. Sharing your feelings and thoughts with family, friends, or a counselor could provide a different perspective and advice, which might help you to see the issue more comprehensively.

It might also be helpful to draw strength and inspiration from their experiences.

It might be helpful to develop a positive attitude towards life and cultivate interests. Perhaps you could try to find things that make you happy and content, whether it's sports, travel, reading, or artistic creation.

These activities have the potential to help you broaden your horizons and enrich your life experience, which could in turn help you face life more positively.

It might be helpful to set small goals and work hard to achieve them. This could give you a sense of motivation and direction.

I believe that every time you achieve a goal, you will feel a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, which will help boost your self-confidence and positive emotions.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to remember that life is a long journey, and we are all constantly exploring and growing. It can be helpful to try to maintain a sense of optimism and resilience in the face of challenges and difficulties.

I believe that as long as you maintain a positive and open mind, you will be able to find your own happiness and satisfaction.