Why do people dislike close ones when they are in a bad mood?

Hello, questioner! I am a Heart Detective coach. I'm wondering if you might be feeling a bit proud and perhaps reluctant to seek help?

I have taken the time to carefully read through the issues and confusion you have outlined on the platform. It seems that you are facing difficulties in managing your intimate relationships. You have mentioned that when you are in a negative mood, you lack the motivation to socialize. You are able to maintain decent daily interactions with other people, but you find yourself becoming indifferent to some close individuals, wanting to push them away. Even when the other person approaches you to talk, you feel an uncontrollable impatience. You are seeking to understand the underlying cause of this behavior.

It is understandable that this may occur. While you may interact with others without difficulty on a daily basis, when it comes to close contacts, you may find yourself becoming impatient. It is important to first identify the reason behind this and determine who or what may be causing it. Is it a particular individual? Or is it a broader issue affecting all those in your inner circle?

I believe that finding the cause is the best way to solve your current problem.

I'm here to help you analyze and sort it out.

1. Try to identify the underlying cause.

It's possible that your resistance towards people close to you may be due to certain unpleasant experiences. Have you encountered any situations that made you feel uncomfortable? Or perhaps they frequently interrupt you, don't respect your opinions, or don't offer you sufficient support and assistance when you need it. In these circumstances, due to the close relationship, it might be challenging for you to express your dissatisfaction directly, which could lead to feelings of oppression. Over time, you may develop a sense of resistance within yourself. It would be helpful to first identify the underlying cause and understand what's going on within you.

2. Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider lowering your expectations.

Often, we are more honest with ourselves in intimate relationships and have higher expectations of those close to us. If we feel disappointed in them, we may gradually stop expecting anything from them. We all have certain expectations of those close to us, hoping that they will act according to our wishes or offer us help when we need it. When these expectations are not met, we may feel let down, which could lead to feelings of frustration and even a lack of desire to interact.

3. It may be helpful to express yourself directly and clearly.

It is important to recognize that negative emotions, such as disgust or resentment, caused by the behavior of a close person, can hinder the development of a harmonious relationship. It is beneficial to identify these emotions and find ways to express them in a constructive manner. Direct and clear communication can facilitate the growth of a relationship and help to create a sense of closeness and understanding between two individuals.

4. Navigating conflicts in intimate relationships

In intimate relationships, there are sometimes disagreements, arguments, or other forms of conflict. It is important to learn to take them calmly and deal with them well, as these things can lead to feelings of disgust and boredom, and even a desire to avoid contact. There are many possibilities in intimate relationships, including closeness or distance, understanding or misunderstanding. It is essential to establish a good communication model. Through more communication and exchanges, your relationship can be improved, and distress can be avoided. It is natural to worry, but it is important to try to remain calm.

I hope my answer is helpful to you. If you would like to continue the conversation, you are welcome to follow me (click on my personal homepage), choose the Heart Exploration service, and communicate with me one-on-one. With love and best wishes,

Hello,

They know they're behaving abnormally when they're in a bad mood.

For this reason, I'm going to give you some thoughts to consider.

When someone is in a bad mood, they lose interest in and motivation for daily activities, including social activities.

You may feel tired, bored, and indifferent, which makes you reluctant to interact with others.

However, close ones are usually the ones who provide a sense of security and support, or they are more likely to accept your negative emotions. This means you are more likely to show your true emotions, including impatience and indifference, in front of them.

Moreover, in close relationships, you will feel more comfortable expressing your true emotions and believe that you have more control.

However, they have no control over other people and can only passively "maintain appropriate daily interactions."

These factors cause them to show indifference and impatience to close people when they are in a bad mood. Conversely, they may try harder to hide their emotions in front of other people to maintain social face or avoid others noticing their low mood.

To overcome apathy and impatience towards close people when feeling down and lacking the basic motivation to socialize, you can try the following methods:

First, you must be aware of your emotions.

Based on the above analysis, you must be aware of your emotional state and try to understand and accept it.

Acknowledge and accept your emotions. This will help you express less negative emotion towards your loved ones.

Second, you must actively find an outlet for your emotions.

You can find appropriate outlets for your emotions. For example, you can relieve your emotional stress by releasing negative emotions through keeping a diary, practicing meditation, or doing physical exercise.

Express your emotions and feelings honestly to someone close to you. Share your confusion and anxiety, and let them understand your situation and emotional state. Seek understanding and support.

Seek help from a professional counselor if the situation is serious and long-lasting. They can provide the professional support and guidance you need to deal with negative emotions and improve your social status.

I'm confident this will be helpful to you!

Hello, I'm Zeyu.

The reason for "Why do I dislike close people when I'm in a bad mood?" has to do with how we view and define interpersonal relationships.

As the questioner said, when you're in a bad mood, you might not feel like socializing. This is totally normal, but you can still maintain decent daily interactions with other people.

The reason for this is that we can control our emotions. In fact, we can control our emotions, especially when dealing with others. For example, if we are angry about something trivial and suddenly a guest arrives at home, our attitude will immediately change and we will greet them with a smile. We may be putting on a fake smile, but the guest may not be able to tell the real emotions we are feeling.

The way we act towards others affects how they see us. We try to avoid giving people a bad impression by controlling our emotions to maintain a good image. However, this doesn't make us feel better because it just suppresses it. Indifference and impatience towards close people are ways of releasing suppressed emotions. We can't always express our inner emotions for various reasons, but with people we know well, we can be open about our feelings and let them flow to calm our mood.

Additionally, our impatience is a way to send a signal to the other person. We're telling them that we're in a bad mood, so don't provoke us, while the underlying message is that we're in a bad mood, so please come and comfort us and help us. On a practical level, we may subconsciously ignore this tendency to express only resistance and aggression. If we want to change this pattern, we can try to actively explain our inner state to close colleagues when we're in a bad mood and seek their understanding and support. This can help reduce our emotional distress to a certain extent.

Finally, when we're in a bad mood, we can do something we enjoy to take our mind off things. Going for a walk, shopping or doing some exercise can all help to lift our spirits. We can also try to improve our mood using mindfulness meditation or breathing exercises.

Hello. I have experienced this too. When I am in a bad mood and want to be alone, I show more annoyance to close people than to others.

I'll share my personal understanding here, though I acknowledge it may not be entirely accurate.

From a social psychology perspective, we play different social roles in different situations and relationships. These roles come with certain expectations that we internalize as automatic "rules." For example, with strangers or colleagues/friends in general, our social roles do not involve much emotional connection. What we need to maintain is often just basic politeness. This is a relatively shallow interpersonal connection, and communication is often just about the matter at hand.

This type of communication doesn't require a lot of mental resources.

However, for close people, our roles are often given more emotion and responsibility, and it is difficult for us to deal with close friends simply out of politeness. Thus, close relationships are a double-edged sword: they can support and empower us, but sometimes this closeness can be stressful.

When we are in a depressed or anxious state, our mental resources are insufficient or being heavily depleted. This leaves us with only the energy to maintain a superficial level of politeness, which is not appropriate according to our automatic rules. This causes us to feel conflicted and stressed. Boredom is an emotional expression of stress.

Furthermore, sociological pseudodrama theory defines the distinction between "front stage" and "back stage." Front stage behavior encompasses actions exhibited in public settings, such as politeness, friendliness, and courtesy.

Backstage behavior refers to behavior in private/out of view of others, which is more natural and unfiltered. Close people are more likely to enter this backstage, so our naturally expressed emotions are also exposed to them.

If you're concerned your attitude might impact the relationship, you can address it with the other person afterwards and listen to their perspective. Relationships are adaptable, and conflict and discomfort don't have to be dealbreakers. With collaboration, relationships can be reinforced even in the face of tension, relaxation, and repair.

It is a common experience to experience periods of low mood. When an individual is in a negative emotional state, they may lack the motivation to engage in social activities. This can extend to a reluctance to leave the house, let alone to attend social events such as parties or dates. Instead, the preference may be to spend time alone at home.

It is also a normal phenomenon. Each individual has their own unique emotional experiences and employs different strategies to cope with emotional distress. It is plausible that you may also be one of those individuals who tend to recover from emotional distress through solitude, in contrast to others who may engage in external activities to alleviate their emotional discomfort.

It is beneficial that you are still able to engage in typical social interactions. It appears that you are typically adept at navigating interpersonal relationships. When an individual is in a negative emotional state, they often demonstrate a lack of interest in topics that others bring up and may even exhibit impatience. They frequently desire to conclude the conversation as soon as possible and return to solitude. However, it is not polite to refuse proximity to another individual, which makes it understandable why you are indifferent to those with whom you are close.

An additional possibility is that the subject is afraid of losing control of their emotions and saying or doing things they will regret when in the presence of individuals with whom they have a close relationship. When in a negative emotional state, the subject may exhibit impatience and experience negative emotions such as irritability, anxiety, and restlessness. These negative emotions may contribute to a rise in irritability and grumpiness in others.

When an individual is in a negative emotional state, it is often challenging to regulate their verbal and behavioral responses. They may engage in impulsive actions that are regrettable or unexpected. This line of thinking is understandable. After all, everyone desires additional discretionary time, and sometimes they subconsciously seek to disengage from social interactions.

It is my hope that this response is of some assistance.

My dear friend, it's totally normal to feel this way. When we're in a bad mood, it's only natural to feel tired and lack motivation.

We all have moments when our inner energy is not enough to support us in our daily social interactions. It's totally normal to want to withdraw and avoid deeper connections with others sometimes. We often have higher expectations and greater dependence on close people, hoping that they will understand our emotions and give us unconditional support.

But, when we're tired or stressed, this expectation can sometimes feel like a burden, making us feel even more tired. This can lead us to become a little indifferent and even impatient with the care and closeness of those close to us, without even realizing it.

This reaction is totally normal and nothing to be ashamed of. It might be your body's way of protecting you from getting too overwhelmed. It's like it's pulling you away from the situation so you can take a moment to process your emotions.

But, of course, we don't want to hurt the people we love.

Emotional exhaustion is when you feel totally wiped out after a long period of emotional labor, and you just can't seem to keep up with your normal emotional expression and social interaction.

Emotional labor is all about managing and expressing our emotions in a way that helps us fit into our social roles and meet expectations. When we're feeling emotionally drained, it's totally normal to show a bit of indifference or impatience towards those close to us. We just need to give ourselves a break sometimes!

It's so important to remember that emotional connections between individuals and those close to them can affect their emotional regulation and behavior. When we feel insecure or anxious, it's totally normal to want to avoid things that might make us feel worse.

But don't worry, emotional fluctuations are not entirely negative. They are actually a true reflection of our inner world.

They remind us that we're still here, alive and kicking! They show us that we can still taste the sweetness and the sourness of life. So, when we feel tired and lack motivation, it's good to accept these feelings rather than trying to get rid of them.

It's so important for us to learn to regulate ourselves. Don't worry, emotional exhaustion is not an irreversible plight. It's just a vulnerable place that needs our care and repair.

We can relax through meditation, yoga, or simply going for a walk. We can also express our emotions through reading, writing, or painting. These activities are great for helping us relieve stress and nourishing our souls!

It's also really important to communicate with others. When we're feeling down, it's so good to open up to our loved ones.

Sincere communication is a wonderful thing! Not only does it relieve our psychological burden, but it also enhances mutual understanding and trust. In the world of emotions, sincere communication can transcend time and space and connect every lonely soul.

If you're struggling with emotional issues that are affecting your daily life, seeking professional psychological counseling is a great idea. Professional counselors can provide you with scientific guidance and help, help you better understand your emotions, and teach you more effective coping strategies.

Life is like a long journey, and we're all travelers on this journey together! Along the way, we'll encounter wind and rain, as well as sunshine and rainbows.

When we feel tired and lack motivation, it's okay to slow down, take a deep breath, and continue on our way. We're never alone, and someone, somewhere, is always lighting a lamp for us and showing us the way.

I hope we can all find our own rhythm on this journey of life, enjoy every moment, and cherish every encounter. And may our souls be comforted and our emotions nourished.

I hope we can all be brave enough to face the storms within and ultimately reach the other side of the soul.

Hello, I'm Strawberry.

Save your worst emotions for your closest people. You need to put on a good face in front of others, and your loved ones are the ones who know you best. Don't hide your true emotions from them.

The impact of negative emotions is significant.

The questioner mentioned that when they are in a bad mood, they lack the motivation to socialize. This is a common phenomenon among most people. When we are in a bad mood, we would rather be alone and quietly release our emotions in our own way.

Our ability to accept various aspects will decline. What we can tolerate will become an annoying noise, and what others tell us and nag us about will become a source of aggravation that intensifies our negative emotions, making us irritable and impatient.

Here are the wrong ways to vent emotions:

Most people will put on a good public image just to make a good impression on others. With close people, we will unconsciously show our true selves because we know that even if we vent our emotions, they will not easily leave because of our emotions. This is also why we indulge ourselves.

We know it's wrong, but we can't help but find ourselves in this situation, venting our emotions in the wrong way. This hurts the people who really care about us and affects our relationships with those close to us because of the wrong approach.

We must find a way to resolve this situation.

Discharging negative emotions on close people hurts them and affects us. When we calm down, we feel remorse and guilt for our actions, which plunge us into different negative emotions.

☀️Correct perception: Some people believe that showing one's true emotions to close people is a sign of a deep relationship. They say that fighting is affection and scolding is love. This is a false perception. When we let false perceptions mislead us, we will only end up scaring away those who treat us sincerely.

Let's be clear: close people are not trash cans for us to vent our emotions. When we are in a bad mood, they are the ones who are really worried and concerned for us. We can't cherish them enough, so we simply don't bear to hurt them.

When facing our emotions and in situations where we are likely to lose control, we can and should explain our emotions to those close to us and ask them not to disturb us for a while. They will understand and choose to respect us, which will also allow us to handle our relationships with those close to us.

☀️Confronting problems: When we are in a low mood or in a bad mood, it is because we are troubled by problems and the pressure of reality. When we cannot solve them at the moment, it affects our mood. When we choose to vent our emotions, it shows that we have put our focus in the wrong place.

If we don't resolve the problem, negative emotions will inevitably take over. When we feel down and irritable, it's crucial to refocus on the issue at hand and not let our emotions cloud our judgment.

If you're overwhelmed by too many problems, you need to prioritize and tackle the most pressing issues first. Otherwise, you'll end up feeling stressed and unable to handle everything at once.

Then, ask people with the ability to help you.

The correct way to vent is this: When you're in a bad mood, you become cold and distant towards those close to you, and you want to push them away. You know that you would normally barely put up with their behavior, so your resistance increases when you're in a bad mood, and you become unwilling to tolerate and compromise. This is also one of the causes of impatience.

If you don't solve the problem and vent your emotions on those close to you, you'll never return to normal. Choose the right way to release your emotions and you'll see different solutions from different perspectives.

Talk to the right person about your dissatisfaction with life. This will help you see the problem from someone else's perspective. Exercise vigorously to get rid of the psychological discomfort. Invite a few friends to sing, go shopping, etc. Distract yourself from the problem. There are many ways to relieve stress. Find the one that suits you.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best regards.

We all have bad days, and when you're feeling down, it's totally normal to show indifference and impatience towards close people. It's just your way of protecting yourself when you're in a low mood. Here are some possible reasons and explanations:

1. **Emotional burden**: Close people usually know your ins and outs, so when you are down, you may feel that they are placing an additional emotional burden on you. This feeling may make you want to escape to protect yourself from further harm. We've all been there!

2. We all have different expectations of our loved ones. When reality doesn't match up to our expectations, it's only natural to feel a little disappointed or frustrated. This can sometimes lead to feelings of indifference or impatience towards them.

3. **Emotional contagion**: We've all been there! When you're in a bad mood, you may unconsciously pass on this negative emotion to your close ones. This emotional contagion may cause them to show more care and concern in your presence, which may make you feel a little uncomfortable.

4. Self-alienation: We all feel down sometimes, and when we do, it can feel like we're feeling distant from ourselves. This can also affect how we feel about and interact with those we're close to. It's totally normal to feel unworthy of love or care, and it's okay to react by pushing people away.

5. Defense mechanism: We all have our moments! Sometimes, people show indifference and impatience towards close people as a defense mechanism. This behavior can help them avoid deeper emotional hurt.

6. Lack of energy: When you're feeling down, you might feel like you don't have the energy to deal with social interactions, especially with those close to you. This can make you feel indifferent towards them.

We all have bad days sometimes! To cope with this situation, you can try the following:

- Self-acceptance: Give yourself a big hug! Accept your emotions and try to understand your emotional reactions.

- **Communication**: Talk openly with the people close to you about how you feel. Let them know that you may need some space when you are feeling down, and that you appreciate them understanding.

- Set some boundaries for yourself when you're feeling down. It's okay to tell someone close to you that you need some time alone.

If you find that you often become emotionally distant from your loved ones when you are feeling down, it might be a good idea to seek help from a counselor to explore the underlying reasons.

Remember, your loved ones will still love you even if you're feeling down. It's okay to feel this way sometimes. Everyone has emotions! By understanding and dealing with these emotions, you can learn to better manage your emotions and maintain your relationships with your loved ones.

It's normal to be less enthusiastic about social activities when you're in a bad mood. This is because emotions affect motivation and willingness. When we feel depressed, tired, or anxious, we may prefer to be alone.

There are many reasons why we might be distant with close people. When we're in a bad mood, we can be irritable and have higher expectations of them.

Their words and actions may trigger our negative emotions, causing us to show impatience or indifference.

Sometimes we may project negative emotions onto close people because they are closer to us. This doesn't mean we don't like them, but it is just a way for us to deal with negative emotions.

We are more likely to show our true selves when dealing with close people. This may make us feel vulnerable or uneasy, so we try to protect ourselves by appearing indifferent or pushing them away.

No matter why, this behavior can hurt those close to us. Try to deal with your negative emotions in a healthier way. Talk to those close to you about your feelings. Or, try relaxation and stress relief methods like exercise, meditation, or journaling.

Hello, question asker!

You came here to ask why you feel disgusted with your loved ones when you are in a bad mood. I can feel the unease in your heart. You feel so guilty that your loved ones are suffering because you are in a bad mood. I really understand how you feel. Hugs!

Humans are emotional beings. Our moods can be high or low. When we're low, we lack energy and motivation. You're right. We're uninterested in socializing. This is normal and something we all experience.

When we are down in the dumps, it is really hard to pretend in front of close people. When you are down in the dumps, your energy is low and you have used up too much energy. The people in your group spend a lot of time together, and if you keep pretending, it will make people very frustrated.

However, it is different with outsiders. We spend less time with outsiders, so we can afford to be a little more resilient when dealing with them. We still want to make a good impression, so we grit our teeth and persevere.

Think about it. If we grit our teeth and hold on, keeping up appearances, then when this is over, we will be even more likely to feel bad. What if? Faced with our inseparable loved ones, our energy is so low that of course when they speak to us, even if it's to cheer us up, sometimes we can't turn it around and we feel annoyed by them too. As the saying goes in the stock market, "Tears are shed when one feels the times; one is heartbroken when one hates to part." It really is all about mood.

We don't need to worry about this. Family members are family members. When you're in a bad mood and have negative feelings, your loved ones will understand and not care too much. They can sympathize with you. Accept yourself as you are.

If possible, we should also understand the various behaviors that our loved ones exhibit when they are in a bad mood, even if we don't consider them appropriate. We should be tolerant of them and wait patiently for their mood to improve. This is a positive way to repay the love and support we receive when we are in a bad mood.

If you can understand and tolerate each other when you are in a bad mood, you will find the greatest happiness between family members. This proves that when family members get along with each other, they feel very safe with each other. This is conducive to the emotional stability of family members, and they will be in a bad mood less often.

I believe that family and relatives are a place to talk about love, not a place to talk about right and wrong. Our family and relatives are our safe haven, and we feel safe in their presence, so we let our emotions run wild. This is the greatest value of having family and relatives.

Be grateful in your hearts for the presence of your loved ones. It is because of their presence that you can recover from your low moods. Be grateful to them, be grateful to each other, and become family.

Use your own wise methods to get out of your current low mood. Gain inspiration from getting out of your low mood. Cherish your time with your loved ones even more. Make your future life better and better.

The world and I love you!

When an individual is experiencing a decline in mood, it is not uncommon for them to exhibit a lack of motivation to engage in social interactions. However, it is still possible to maintain satisfactory daily interactions with others.

This is a typical behavior pattern in social interactions. When dealing with people outside our close circle, we tend to maintain a certain level of composure and reserve.

However, in the context of close relationships, individuals are more likely to express their emotions freely, disregard them, and display impatience.

I will attempt to provide some insight.

Individuals experience fluctuations in mental energy. Maintaining a certain level of energy can contribute to positive emotional states, but when energy levels are too low or too high, it can result in emotional swings. When mental energy is too high, it may manifest as aggression. To return to a normal level of energy, it is essential to release the excess energy.

Given the excess energy we all possess, it is logical to conclude that we cannot vent it on outsiders. Therefore, it is either internalized or directed at someone close to us. In most cases, the people closest to us are our family, loved ones, children, or friends.

This explains why, when we are in a negative emotional state, we are prone to direct our frustration towards others, distance ourselves from them, or make things difficult for them when they attempt to offer comfort.

Once the energy has been released, we do not want to be ignored. We still hope that our emotions will be seen and empathized with, and that we will be comforted. This behavior seems to confirm their love for us.

The aforementioned information is for reference only.

Hello. I am a heart exploration coach, and I am here to give you advice.

From your text description, I can understand your current state. You feel self-blame. You feel that when you are in a bad mood, you can seem to communicate very appropriately with the people around you, as if nothing has happened. However, with close people, you act like a child.

You want to be yourself, but you project your unhappiness or anger onto the people closest to you.

You know deep down that what you're doing is wrong, but you also find yourself becoming impatient and losing control, which makes you feel that your behavior is inappropriate.

You want to know what caused the person you're close to to feel that you don't care about them, that they don't want to be with someone who doesn't care about them, or that they don't want to talk to someone who speaks to them in a way that they themselves find offensive. It has happened.

You want to make an adjustment, and I can tell.

I will then conduct a detailed analysis based on the content you provide to help you sort out your current emotional state.

Let's be clear: when you're in a bad mood, you lack the motivation to socialize. This means that when you're in a bad mood, you don't want to chat with the people around you. Your colleagues, friends, or classmates send you a message or talk to you in person, but you just brush them off.

Be nice to each other. It's simple.

But when you're dealing with someone close to you, you change your facial expression a lot, don't you?

As you said, we become indifferent, push them away, become impatient, and feel inside, "I'm in a bad mood, can't you tell? Why are you provoking me?"

This is just for those close to us.

But when we look at you in relation to other people, when they come over to talk to you, you subconsciously know that your bad mood is your own doing. The other person came over to talk to you because they don't know that you're in this mood, so you need to be a little more polite and hide yourself a little.

Furthermore, we are more tolerant of family members and close people than we are of others.

If we have a bad temper and a bad attitude, other people will immediately distance themselves from us. We are also afraid of losing them.

Those close to us know that no matter how willful we are or how unhappy we express our emotions, they will still be tolerant, even if there are conflicts between us.

This certainty in your heart that the people close to you will never leave you has taken over. It's why you've become indifferent to them and want to push them away in impatience.

This is a self-awareness exercise. See if you feel the same way.

If so, it shows that we feel the safest and most secure inside ourselves with those closest to us. At the same time, we now realize that those closest to us are often hurt by us a bit too much.

Once you're aware of this issue, you can communicate to your loved ones when you're in a bad mood: "I'm not happy right now and I'm not in a good mood."

Don't make the other person notice our unusual expressions. Let them sense it.

We are often too shy to express our feelings to those close to us. We worry it will hurt their pride or make us look foolish.

But the truth is, if we change the way we interact with those close to us and express our true feelings and thoughts more,

We will become closer to the people we are close to, and they will understand us better, so that they can recognize us in future interactions.

We simply haven't taken this step, which has prevented us from connecting with each other.

Start now. Express yourself.

The first time I tried to say something, I didn't know how to express myself clearly or calm my emotions down. Give me some examples of specific incidents.

Tell me, under what circumstances did you push your family away? And under what circumstances can you maintain daily interactions with other people?

I will help you reflect on specific incidents and discuss a model of verbal expression you can put into practice.

This will help you connect with your loved ones, maintain daily interactions with other people, and even become more comfortable in the workplace and in life.

I will await your reply here, and I wish you the best.

Good morning, my name is Coach Yu, and I am a Heart Explorer. I would like to discuss this topic with you today.

Let us begin by discussing relationships.

In "The Terrific Me," Chen Haixian discusses the concept of relationships as a constant in our lives and the impact they have on our personalities. Our behaviors and thought processes are often shaped not by our inherent personalities, but by the relationships we are in. From this perspective, the dimension of our thinking may undergo significant transformation.

As the questioner noted, when I am in a negative emotional state, I am able to interact with others in a civil manner. However, I find myself disinclined to engage in close, personal relationships. Why is this?

We can inquire as to our role in our relationships with others. Are we an outsider, or do we act as a pleaser?

What role does the individual play in close relationships? Is it a family member with whom one spends every waking moment, a romantic partner with whom one shares a deep and intimate connection, or a critical observer?

Additionally, it is beneficial to consider what we want from the perspective of an external observer. Our inclination to be agreeable may stem from a desire to maintain a positive image. What are our expectations for a close relationship?

It is important to release the pressure and allow your emotions to flow freely.

Additionally, it is beneficial to consider what position and role we assume when we are in a negative emotional state. Do we accept this position and role?

Gaining an understanding of ourselves from the perspective of relationships allows us to gain an understanding of ourselves from the perspective of relationships.

It is possible to learn to distract oneself. When negative emotions arise, it is helpful to issue a verbal command to oneself to "stop," take a deep breath, and engage in an alternative activity, such as listening to music or stretching. Meditation and mindfulness are also effective methods for regulating emotions. It is also beneficial to record one's current emotional state.

Please feel free to express your feelings in your writing. This will help us to identify the causes and effects of emotions and to determine the root of the problem.

It would be beneficial to adjust our state of mind. The stress of trying to please others can be draining. Therefore, it would be advantageous to go out into nature, listen to the frogs croaking, smell the birds singing and the flowers blooming, feel the beauty of life, and let go of your worries.

Additionally, it is important to practice self-love.

If this issue is causing you difficulty, it may be helpful to seek assistance from a trusted family member or friend. Alternatively, you may wish to consider speaking with a counselor, as emotional support can be beneficial in managing challenging situations.

The questioner demonstrates consistent awareness of self and maintains well-founded values. It is therefore important to prioritize the care of both the body and the mind.

Given that life is a cyclical process, it is inevitable that you will experience periods of both tying and untying.

We recommend the following book: "The Terrific Me."

Hello, dear questioner!

From what you've told me, I can see that you're feeling a bit confused. But it's great that you're able to perceive this uncomfortable emotion and face it bravely!

It's totally normal to feel this way! When you're in a bad mood, it can be really tough to socialize and interact with others. It's like you lose all your social skills! And when you're around close people, you might feel impatient when trying to talk to them. This can make you feel really curious about why you're feeling this way. Or maybe you don't really want this in your heart, so you can sense it and come here. Is this the case?

First of all, I want to let you know that this feeling and behavior is actually very normal. We can be pretty harsh on other people, but we lose our temper when dealing with ourselves. This is because we can only lose our temper in front of people we feel safe with. It also shows that we feel secure and know that they won't be hurt by our temper or argue with us. This is one of the reasons

Secondly, I'd like to suggest that we focus on the underlying needs behind these emotions. It's totally normal to feel this way, but you're aware of it, which shows you don't want it to be this way. So, let's pay attention to the needs behind these emotions and work through them to find a breakthrough.

My personal suggestion is that we try to accept and allow ourselves to be in various states. We're all human, and nobody's perfect! We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. So let's try to accept and allow ourselves to be in various states. That way, we won't have internal conflicts. Once we've expressed our emotions, let's take a little while to wait until we're feeling better, and then approach the other person with an expression that's free of emotion.

If this is really affecting you, making you feel troubled, and causing trouble for those around you, you can always seek help from a professional psychological counselor. They can use their professional skills to delve into the root causes in the subconscious, adjust our perceptions, heal our hearts, and help us live more easily.

Of course, there are lots of other ways we can learn to help ourselves, like learning more psychological techniques or even learning some psychological energy to improve ourselves and change ourselves.