Why do you want to do something now that you didn't want to do as a child?

Hello, landlord! I saw your description and I'm so excited to share my thoughts with you. I really hope they'll inspire you!

As you described in the article, when we were young, we were really eager to leave the countryside behind and explore the big city!

It's because we were young and our parents wanted us to work. For us young people, we didn't like to work in the countryside and just wanted to go play!

Since we often have to work, we are often forced by our parents to do this and that. As a result, we get to spend our time doing something else entirely!

At this time, we think, "Oh, how wonderful it would be to leave the city and not have to work!"

And that brings us to the big question: why do we like to return to the countryside when we grow up?

This also shows that we are nostalgic people, and it's often our own inner choice!

Living in a big city is a thrilling experience! It's not always easy to adjust to the non-stop energy and excitement of city life, but it's also a great opportunity to embrace the vibrant pulse of urban living.

We are already tired from work every day, but when something happens, we get to find a quiet environment to let our thoughts wander!

But in the city, it's a real treat to find a nice, quiet spot!

Every day, the noise of vehicles echoes in our ears. At this time, even if we want to calm our minds, we can't, and we feel very annoyed. But, we can choose to look on the bright side!

So we think, "Wow! If this were in the countryside, there would definitely be no noisy sounds!"

This brings to mind an old poem: "Listen to the chorus of frogs."

Plus, recently, we have seen a lot of variety shows, and those variety shows that film farm life are absolutely amazing and super popular!

Many young people in the same city have never had the chance to experience the joy of a farmhouse, so they're really excited to do so! For them, it's a truly fascinating experience.

But for those of us who have experienced it, it's just so-so, and it's still so expensive.

So, why do I want to do something I didn't want to do in my childhood? I want to do it now!

That's because at work or in life, we encounter some annoying things. But, we can find a way to let off steam! We just need to find the right place. And, we can find a quiet place to let our minds wander. We just need to look for it!

This makes us want to head back to the countryside!

And that's what I want to share with you all!

Good day, my name is Berek.

This emotional change is an expression of your inner search for balance and a return to nature. From a psychological perspective, there are several ways to interpret this shift in emotion.

First and foremost, childhood experiences often have a profound impact on us. Despite your initial dislike of farm work, the feeling of closeness to nature and connection to the land has been deeply etched in your heart.

Over time, the fast pace and stress of urban life may make you nostalgic for a simpler, more pure way of living.

Secondly, your affinity for retro reflects an emotional need. Retro is not only a nostalgic longing for the past, but also a yearning for a simple, rustic life.

You are interested in renovating the old house in your hometown in a retro style and transforming the village into a retro village. This reflects your inner desire to return to nature and a simpler way of life.

Furthermore, your emotions reflect an inclination toward escapism. In urban settings, you may encounter a multitude of pressures and challenges, which can leave you feeling fatigued and ineffectual.

However, you are aware that this is not a viable long-term solution. While returning to the countryside to cultivate flowers and trees can provide a temporary reprieve, it does not address the underlying issues.

However, you are aware that this is not a viable long-term solution. Returning to the countryside would entail a lack of income, an inability to repay debts, and a lack of support for your children.

This internal conflict can lead to feelings of confusion and helplessness. However, it is important to note that this does not mean that pursuing one's dreams is impossible.

It is possible to achieve a balance in reality. For instance, in an urban setting, one can maintain a straightforward lifestyle, minimize materialistic concerns, and foster a greater connection with nature.

Additionally, you can leverage your wisdom and skills to identify a lifestyle that aligns with your needs and fulfills your inner pursuits.

In conclusion, it is important to note that your emotions are normal and worthy of respect. It is advisable to avoid suppressing your inner needs excessively and to refrain from pursuing perfection in reality to an extreme degree.

It is of the utmost importance to identify a lifestyle that aligns with your personal values and goals, and to pursue a state of genuine happiness and contentment.

Best regards,

I'm so happy to have met you! I'm really grateful for your question.

I totally get where you're coming from! Let's chat about this together.

1. I'm really curious, why did you hate doing farm work when you were young?

When I was young, I had to do farm work because my parents wanted me to. I couldn't play as much as I wanted to, and I felt like I had to do it. No matter how interesting it was, I couldn't enjoy it because I was so focused on doing what I was told.

But when I was young, I wasn't quite ready to live on my own yet. I had to help my parents with the farm work, which I wasn't too keen on. I just wanted to run free and avoid getting into trouble!

At the time, I felt that this kind of life would be really stressful and difficult for me, and that I would never be able to relax and enjoy myself at all. So, as a young child, you would particularly hate doing farm work, because it would have no meaning or sense of value for you, and you would only do it to avoid being scolded by your parents.

2. I'd love to know why you're longing to return to the countryside when you grow up.

"After spending too much time in the city, I feel tired and don't want to move anymore. I really want to go back to the countryside, lie down, plant some fruit trees, and grow some vegetables." You mentioned that you feel stressed about paying off debts, raising a child, and working and living in the city.

We all have to plan ahead and worry about the future, don't we? These days, lots of bloggers are talking about the lovely, quiet life of farming and gardening in the countryside. It seems like if you move back there, you won't have to think so much! You'll be able to work from sunrise to sunset, and the rest of the time will be taken care of.

When we were young in the countryside, we didn't have to think about so much either. We would have a house to live in, which we could build ourselves. We would have food to eat and books to read. That was something our parents would worry about, and they did a great job of it!

When I was young, I didn't have so much pressure or worry. I just had to do the farm work to avoid being scolded by my parents, and life was very relaxed and carefree. I really loved it!

Now that I'm a parent, I have a lot on my plate! I sometimes wish I could go back to that carefree life. If you do some farm work, you can eat and not worry about life.

It's a shame that nowadays, you have to pay to do these things, making these experiences rare and precious. Wouldn't it be lovely if life slowed down a little and became less stressful and less anxiety-inducing?

I would absolutely love to have a little farm in my hometown and grow some flowers and trees!

3. I'd love to know why you disliked the past and longed for the present.

I think you may only see the good things about the kind of life you long for. And more importantly, I hope you can find a way to feel relaxed and free within, without so much pressure and without being forced to live a certain way. Is that right?

Even if you have a farm in your hometown, you still need to live there. So it's important to have solid agricultural knowledge and skilled agricultural operation skills. You also need to worry about whether it will rain or not. If it rains too much, you need to think about how the crops will be harvested, what the market price will be, and how you'll sell them. There are still many things to worry about!

So don't envy a certain kind of life, but learn to find happiness in your current life and learn to relax and enjoy it. Even if you need to run around for a living and worry about your children every day, it's so important to take a little time every day to meditate and empty yourself, do something you like to satisfy yourself, and connect with your inner self.

Keep a gratitude journal or record a few good things every day to make life more colorful and flavorful. It's also a great idea to go to a farmhouse or farm every now and then, or go back to your hometown to experience rural life. This is a wonderful way to temporarily escape the fast pace and hustle and bustle of the city, and open your senses to feel each moment.

It's so important to learn to find a balance in life and live in the present. That way, no matter where you are, you can enjoy your life to the fullest and stop running away from things.

I really hope my answer is helpful for you! I wish you the very best!

Hello, question asker! I'm Jiang 61.

Thank you for trusting us and sharing your confusion with us. You want to know why you want to do something you didn't want to do as a child now.

"After reading your introduction and learning about your situation, we will discuss what to do together.

1. Introduction

1️⃣. Escape

You stated, "As a child, I was beaten by my mother and forced to do farm work, planting vegetables and digging the ground. At that time, I was afraid to go and wanted to escape."

After spending a long time in the city, I was tired of the city life and wanted to go back to the countryside. I wanted to lie down, plant some fruit trees, and grow some vegetables.

Escape.

As a child, you wanted to escape your mother's discipline and were unwilling to listen to her. This led you to the idea of leaving the countryside and yearning for the city.

The sheer novelty of it all

As you said, the novelty of city life wears off and the stressful pace tires you out.

You want to live a comfortable life. You want to go back to your hometown, lie around, and grow some fruits and vegetables.

2️⃣, change

You have to experience it for yourself.

You say, "But now that I want to experience my childhood in my hometown, there are places that require an admission fee, and you have to pay to experience digging in the ground, such as grinding corn in a stone mill. I was afraid of grinding for hours every day when I was a child, but now I have to pay to experience it again, just like an amusement park, where you have to pay tens of dollars just to play for a while."

The stark reality is that you now have to pay for a ticket and spend hundreds of dollars to experience the very life you used to despise. Labor has been reduced to mere entertainment and a tool for making money.

The leaves return to the roots.

You said, "I couldn't understand it before, but before he died, my father's younger brother went back to build a house and live at home for a few months. Now that I'm not old yet, even in my thirties, I'm going back to plant fruit trees, build a farm, and live this kind of life.

You also have the idea of returning to your hometown to live and grow flowers and trees. What you don't understand even more is why your uncle had to return to his roots before he died.

3. Idle and unemployed

You say, "I'm starting to think this way more and more. But if I go back, I won't be able to pay off my debts without an income, and I won't be able to support my children.

Farming is unrealistic, but they will spend a few months planting flowers and trees at home. They will renovate their old house into a retro village, and they will make their old village a tourist destination.

"They're passionate about retro things."

Stress

The questioner wants to leave his hometown, but he's under a lot of pressure. He's eager to return home, but he's unsure how he'll repay his debts. He's looking for a way out.

RETRO

You're going to take advantage of the fact that everyone is interested in unfamiliar lifestyles and turn your house into a retro home in your hometown to earn people's curiosity.

2. Confusion It is evident that there is a lack of clarity surrounding this matter.

1. Compensation mentality

This is a compensatory psychology.

The compensatory mechanism is a psychological adaptation mechanism. Individuals inevitably deviate from the expected norms when adapting to society. They then attempt to compensate for these deviations in other ways to achieve their desired outcomes.

Behavior

The questioner stated that as a child, he hated it when his mother lectured him about working in agriculture. You were determined to escape your mother's lecturing and the depressing feeling that life in the countryside brought you. You chose to go out and live in the city. This is a kind of compensation mentality, using the better, urban life that everyone yearns for to fill a certain psychological gap after leaving your hometown.

2. Lack of self-confidence

You need to work on your self-confidence.

In psychology, the closest equivalent is Bandura's concept of self-efficacy in social learning theory, which refers to an individual's assessment of their ability to successfully cope with a particular situation.

You lack self-confidence.

The questioner is clearly afraid to face his mother's request to work in agriculture. This shows that he lacks confidence and doubts his ability to succeed. He avoids problems and chooses the easier option. When stressed at work, he retreats home to relax, planting flowers and trees.

3️⃣, the influence of life in the original family

The native family

The original family is the family in which a person lives with their parents from birth until adulthood. It is a sociological concept as well as a psychological concept.

The behavior, thinking patterns, and living habits of the original family will be passed on to the next generation. This will influence a person's growth and shape the next generation's character, habits, values, emotional patterns, and more. It will also affect the next generation's learning, work, marriage, social life, and other aspects.

Life has a profound impact on us.

From the questioner's introduction, it is clear that when he encounters difficulties, he chooses to escape. Influenced by family members, one of the questioner's parents may bow in the face of difficulties, and the questioner follows his example and also thinks of escape in the face of difficulties. This is the impact that the living conditions of the original family have had on the questioner.

3. What to do

1️⃣, Build self-confidence.

Know yourself.

Knowing yourself means knowing who you are, where you come from, and where you can go. It means understanding your abilities, character traits, interests and hobbies, areas of expertise, strengths and weaknesses, and the direction of your efforts.

Build self-confidence.

We choose to escape because we lack confidence in ourselves. By shifting our focus to something else, we can reduce our internal pressure and feel more comfortable.

If you want to change yourself and escape the status quo, you have to understand yourself. You have to figure out what you can and can't do, what you can and can't accept, and what you can and can't provide. When you understand yourself, you choose to do what you think you can do, what you're happy to do, and what you can do. That way, success builds your confidence again and again.

2. Overcoming laziness

Indolence

Inertia is a psychological state in which one is unable to act according to a set goal for subjective reasons. It is a backward habit and also one of human nature: the tendency not to want to change old practices and ways.

Overcome laziness.

Inertia is a human instinct. Stay away from things you think are impossible.

It is also the embodiment of my true self and my happiness. If we want to achieve something, we must learn to do everything well and steadily.

Overcome laziness. Success may beckon to us, but it won't just happen. Get up and go after it.

You have to earn everything in life.

3️⃣. Self-motivation

Self-motivation is key.

Self-motivation is the psychological trait of an individual who works hard towards set goals on their own, without requiring external rewards or punishments as a means of motivation. It is the engine that drives a person towards success.

Try boldly.

You can't get anywhere in life without putting in the work. We're not afraid of failure or hardship. We learn from experience and wisdom, motivate ourselves, recognize our achievements, give ourselves confidence, and success will follow.

Topic master, success is the result of tremendous hard work and wisdom. No one succeeds easily, and this is true for great people as well. We build self-confidence, overcome inertia, motivate ourselves, face everything with a positive attitude, and take action step by step. Success is inevitable.

I wish the original poster a happy life!

Hello. You asked why you want to do something you didn't want to do as a child.

From your description, it's clear that you were beaten by your mother, went to do farm work, and had to start taking on household chores at a young age, planting vegetables and digging the ground. It was very tiring for you at that time, especially when other children were able to go play everywhere. So when you grew up, you wanted to leave the countryside and longed for the prosperity of the city. However, after spending a long time in the city, perhaps because of the hardships of struggling, or because of the pressure in real life, I can see that you are still burdened with debt, as well as the pressure of raising your children. So it's understandable that you want to escape the immediate pressure, and your childhood memories, after the passage of time, have also become better.

You must want to slow down the pace of your life. You want to return to the countryside, grow flowers, trees, and fruit, and experience childhood life. This is a way for you to rediscover your childhood memories and take a break from the busy city life. You want to return to the countryside, return to a slower pace of life, return to nature, and return to a simpler life.

You also like retro things. This is a rejection of the current era of the Internet and big data, where technology is changing rapidly. You don't want to accept such rapid change and the explosive growth of information. You choose things with a more nostalgic feel, things with a sense of time.

Hello, question asker! I'm June Lai Feng, and I'm excited to help you with your question!

It's totally understandable! Childhood experiences can have a profound impact on a person's psychology and emotions.

This fascinating psychological change reflects our ever-changing perceptions and evolving emotional needs for life and childhood at different stages of life. It is a common and exciting process of psychological development and emotional transformation.

Experiences such as being beaten by your mother and being asked to do farm work may have made you feel scared and want to escape at the time, and these emotions may have left a mark in your subconscious. These negative emotions of fear and escape may be related to your sense of fatigue with rural life and your longing for urban life – but don't worry! You can overcome these feelings and find a way to embrace the rural life you once loved.

However, people's emotions and needs change over time, which means there's always something new to discover!

You grew up and left the countryside to live in the city. The pace of life and the stress in the city may make you feel tired and powerless. But at this time, you will miss the simple life in the countryside during your childhood and want to return to the countryside to lie down and plant some fruit trees and vegetables!

This idea is a great way for you to yearn for your childhood life and seek comfort, longing to return to the countryside to find a simpler, more peaceful way of life. This longing for rural life may be a search for childhood memories, or a desire for nature and idyllic life—and it's a wonderful thing!

However, when you return to the countryside and find that tickets and fees are required to experience childhood life, this may disappoint and confuse you. This change may make you feel that the beauty of childhood has been destroyed by commercialization and monetization, preventing you from truly experiencing the feeling of childhood.

This change may be related to the development and commercialization of the rural economy, but it may also have an impact on your emotions.

This is totally normal! Our memories of childhood are often very positive, and changes in reality can make us feel a bit uncomfortable. In this case, you may feel a sense of loss because you can no longer experience rural life as freely as you did as a child.

This may bring up a range of complex emotions, including nostalgia for the past, a desire for change in the present, and excitement about the future.

But there's another way of looking at this change!

First, we can embrace the exciting changes and developments happening in the countryside. As society grows and changes, the countryside is evolving too, offering new and improved services and facilities.

Tickets and paid methods are a great way to help keep the countryside running smoothly and make sure everyone gets the best experience and service possible!

Second, we can try experiencing rural life in a whole new way! While activities like digging in the ground do require a fee, there are so many other ways to soak in the beauty of the countryside.

For example, we can talk to local farmers and learn about their fascinating lives and stories; we can taste delicious local food and experience the incredible rural culture and traditions; we can appreciate the breathtaking natural beauty of the countryside and enjoy the wonders of nature.

And there are so many other ways we can bring the joy of rural life into our urban lives! We can grow flowers, vegetables, and fruits at home and enjoy the fun of planting. We can participate in outdoor activities and enjoy the beauty of nature. We can even do some handicrafts with friends and feel the joy of creation!

And there's more! You can also make some self-improvements in the face of this situation:

First, embrace the changes and celebrate the evolution of the countryside. Accept that this transformation is inevitable. While you might not be able to experience rural life as you did as a child, you can still appreciate and enjoy the beauty of the countryside in new and exciting ways!

Second, focus on the present and don't dwell too much on memories of the past. There are so many exciting things to do in the city that will bring you happiness and satisfaction! Build new interests and social circles and have fun trying new things!

Once again, adjust your mindset, adjust your mentality, accept reality, and face the future with a smile! Rural life may no longer be what you expect, but you can create your own good life in the city.

And there's more! Sharing your feelings and experiences with others can help you process complex emotions. They can provide support and understanding to help you deal with your emotions.

Most importantly, give yourself time and space to deal with these emotions, and don't be too hard on yourself. Everyone experiences changes and challenges in life, and learning to adapt and adjust is part of growing up—and you can do it!

Absolutely! We can absolutely look at changes and challenges in life with an open and positive mind and find new ways to experience the beauty of life.

The world and I love you! Have the best day ever!

Childhood is a period of growth and learning for many individuals. However, it is not always a time of unalloyed joy and carefree days.

In your description, childhood memories are dominated by the hard work of farming and your mother's education. At that time, you expressed a desire to escape the heavy workload day after day. However, as time passed, you relocated from the countryside to the city, experiencing the prosperity and hustle and bustle of urban life, but gradually feeling tired and bored.

At this juncture, you find yourself nostalgic for the rural lifestyle you once sought to leave behind. You harbor a desire to return to that way of life, one that is more natural and peaceful.

This shift in perspective is not uncommon. It reflects humanity's pursuit of diversity and change in life, as well as our desire to return to nature and pursue inner peace.

During our formative years, we frequently fail to grasp the intricacies and diversity of life, perceiving only immediate challenges and pressures. However, as we mature and gain experience, we gradually develop a deeper understanding of life's nature and begin to recognize the beauty that we initially overlooked.

For you, this change of heart may also stem from a love of retro living. Retro items often have a historical significance and cultural depth, and they can evoke strong emotions and memories.

In your estimation, the house in your hometown is decorated in a retro style, and the village has become a retro village. This scene evokes a sense of proximity and aspiration. You aspire to live in such an environment and experience a lifestyle that is in harmony with nature.

However, the various restrictions and constraints in real life make it impossible to immediately realize this goal. You must consider practical issues such as debt repayment and family support, and it is not feasible to easily give up your current job and income.

Furthermore, while farming is a rewarding lifestyle, it is not a viable long-term financial strategy. It is not a reliable source of income and does not align with the demands of modern life.

In light of these considerations, how might one leverage this shift in perspective to enhance one's quality of life and achieve greater happiness? I suggest the following as a starting point:

As a first step, you may wish to consider adopting a more natural and peaceful lifestyle in the city. For instance, you could grow flowers and vegetables on your balcony and enjoy the satisfaction of gardening. You might also use weekends or holidays to return to the countryside and experience the peace and harmony there.

This approach allows you to satisfy your desire to return to nature to a certain extent.

Secondly, retro elements can be incorporated into modern life. For instance, retro furniture and decorations can be placed in the home to create a retro atmosphere. Additionally, retro cultural activities, such as retro markets and retro concerts, can be attended to share the charm of this culture with like-minded people.

Finally, you can leverage this change of mindset as a motivating force to pursue a better life. You can set practical and achievable goals, such as learning new skills, expanding your interests, and enhancing your quality of life.

By consistently working hard and pursuing your goals, you can gradually achieve your dreams and lead a more fulfilling and happy life.

In summary, changes in attitude are a natural phenomenon that reflect the complexity and diversity of our inner world. It is important to embrace these changes and find joy and meaning in life.

By modifying our lifestyles and attitudes, we can better accommodate the pace and pressures of modern society, thereby leading happier, more fulfilling lives.

While it may currently be unfeasible to fully relocate to the countryside and resume farming, there are ways to gradually align your current circumstances with your ideal lifestyle. One approach is to create a similar environment in the city, participate in retro cultural activities, and set realistic and achievable goals. Additionally, maintaining an open and optimistic attitude can help you stay flexible and aware of potential future opportunities.

It is important to remember that life is a journey, and our attitude plays a significant role in determining our feelings and the outcomes of our experiences.

There are many reasons for this shift and renewed longing for the lifestyle of childhood.

Escape from the pressures of reality: In the fast-paced, high-stress modern city life, people often feel tired and restless. However, although life in the countryside during childhood was hard, it was relatively simple and pure, without too many material pursuits and competitive pressures.

So, when they're faced with the challenges of city life, people long to return to that simple, peaceful lifestyle and find some balance for their souls.

Nostalgia is something we all feel at one point or another. As we get older and gain more experience, we often find ourselves looking back on our childhood with a sense of nostalgia, remembering happy and innocent memories.

You mentioned that although life in the countryside was tough when you were a kid, you have lots of great memories and experiences from that time, so you really want to go back.

Seeking spiritual sustenance: In modern society, people are increasingly focusing on spiritual pursuits. Growing plants such as flowers, herbs, and fruit trees not only allows people to enjoy the beauty and tranquility of nature, but it also gives them a sense of joy and accomplishment from working hard.

This way of life lets people relax and unwind, and it gives them a chance to seek spiritual fulfillment and satisfaction.

You mentioned that you're into retro things, which might be why you're drawn to the countryside. Retro culture is a kind of legacy from the past, and it can really help people feel connected to their identity.

In rural life, you can really connect with this culture and appreciate its charm and value.

You know, though, that going back to a rural life isn't really an option for you. You'd have to deal with things like money, debt, and your kids' education. So, you might want to think about turning this idea into something more like a leisure activity or a way to find spiritual fulfillment.

For instance, you could head back to the countryside at the weekends or on holidays, plant flowers, fruit trees and other plants with your family, and enjoy the beauty and tranquility of nature. Or you could find similar activities or places in the city, such as gardening clubs and farm experiences, to satisfy your spiritual needs. At the same time, you could also try incorporating elements of this retro culture into your own life, such as decorating your home with some retro-style furniture and decorations to create a warm and comfortable living atmosphere.

Good day. I also grew up in a small rural village, and I can truly empathize with your sentiments.

Why are you pursuing a goal that you previously rejected as a child? It is likely that you are experiencing fatigue, both physically and mentally.

Upon waking each day, your mind is consumed with thoughts of generating income to repay debts and provide for your family. The lengthy journey ahead seems interminable. Consequently, your mind seeks a respite in a serene, agreeable, and relaxing setting. Memories of your rural upbringing, encompassing fields, fruits, flowers, and trees, offer a welcome contrast to the stark reality of your present urban existence, characterized by steel and concrete, congestion, and incessant activity.

People tend to pursue pleasure. Those who did not want to work in their childhood did so because manual labor did not bring them a pleasant experience at that time. Pleasure in childhood in the countryside included playing with friends, eating delicious food, and wearing new clothes during the New Year and other holidays. Unpleasant experiences included being forced to work in the fields, grinding the mill, carrying water, and other manual labor.

Furthermore, manual labor jobs do not typically offer substantial material improvements, such as access to delicious food and nice clothes. Given the lack of opportunities in rural areas, many people choose to relocate in search of better prospects.

It is worth noting that your current mindset may be similar to your previous one, when you sought to leave the countryside. The daily grind in the city offers little hope for a meaningful change in the future.

The desire to engage in activities similar to those you enjoyed as a child is an example of how the brain embellishes memories. You are driven to pursue the tranquility and peacefulness you associate with the countryside, while deliberately ignoring the challenging aspects of working at the time.

Over the years, the country has been promoting the construction of beautiful villages and developing industries based on local characteristics. There is an opportunity to see if there is a market for such projects. For example, as mentioned in the article, all the projects that you can experience in your hometown now charge a fee, which shows that industrial development has already taken place.

There are several additional factors to consider when returning to one's hometown to start a business, including the choice of project, its potential profitability, and the expected input and output. A crucial question is whether the venture can be made into a full-time career.

Another option is to assess the potential for growth and development in the industry and city with which you are familiar. When individuals see opportunities for a promising future, they may be less inclined to dwell on past experiences.

Hello! I'll give you a hug.

I think this is true for many people from the countryside.

I'm from a rural area too. I helped my family with work like digging, harvesting corn, peanuts, wheat, apples, etc. But I cut my foot while harvesting wheat and my mom stopped me.

As a child, my neighbors praised me for being hardworking. My family had many children, and my parents were busy. As the eldest, I helped out.

Now that I'm in my forties, I still like going to the village to dig wild vegetables and grow vegetables. The family's land has been farmed by someone else, so I can only grow a few vegetables.

We like going back to the village. My daughter asks where my land is and wants to farm.

She also plans to apply to an agricultural university and major in farming.

Online, it's said that Chinese people of a certain age develop a love of farming and want to plant things when they see land.

Farming is a matter of working hard and getting results. Unlike other work, you have more control.

Farming is a job where you don't have to look at people. You only have to look at the sky, which is the same for everyone.

People want to return to the countryside and go farming because it's liberating and you can call the shots. But farming is hard work.

When I was a child, my parents worked hard on the farm. Nowadays, farming is more mechanized.

It's still hard work.

Your mother beat you and made you do farm work when you were a child. Children naturally rebel when they are told to do boring farm work.

If parents make their children work on the farm by beating and scolding them, the children will hate it. At that time, working was like working now because it was not voluntary.

Farming is now a choice, a way to relax.

But you feel that going farming now is like betraying your childhood self. In fact, it's not.

When you were a child, you wanted to escape. Now you are older and have changed your mind. Farming is healing for you and you can enjoy it.

These two things don't conflict.

Think about how you felt when you worked as a child. Look at how you feel now. You may find that even though you were beaten by your mother to work, there were happy moments along the way.

Talk to a counselor if the conflict continues.

I'm a counselor who is Buddhist and sometimes depressed, but I love the world.

Dear friend, After reflecting on your thoughtful remarks, I have also envisioned a series of idyllic scenes of rural life: tending to crops and flowers with loved ones, free from the pressures and concerns of work.

I observed my old friend articulating a desire to engage in activities that he had previously avoided during his childhood. This observation led me to consider the ways in which individuals' experiences and perspectives evolve over time. As we gain more and more experience, life can develop in two distinct directions. One is a process of becoming increasingly clear about one's desires and aspirations.

One's desires become increasingly nebulous, uncertain of their own nature. When considering the present state of mind of my old friend, or the pressures of reality and the responsibilities he bears, it becomes evident that he has become increasingly clear about the kind of life he wishes to lead.

In life, there are three fundamental relationships: with others, with society, with nature, and with ourselves. We have responsibilities to our families, we seek self-improvement, and we long for nature. When we are tired, nature can heal us and calm our restless hearts. Otherwise, why is camping and experiencing rural life so popular these days?

The concept of experiencing "hometown" everywhere, regardless of one's geographical location, is a key message I wish to convey to my old friend. To illustrate this point, consider the act of planting flowers. Instead of solely focusing on the act of planting, let us also document the surrounding natural scenery. This could include observing the vitality of the wind blowing in the trees on the way home from work, noting the changes in the flowers at your feet today and the day before, and tracking the "appearance" and "disappearance" of vegetation in the community.

This is the "nature" that we have created for ourselves. In the process of confiding in an old friend, I also once again feel grateful for this precious "sense of experience."

Ultimately, it is my hope that my old friend will experience a greater clarity of purpose and a closer alignment between his aspirations and the realities of his life.

Good morning, I am a life coach. I believe that life is a beautiful journey, not for appreciation, but for growth and development.

She experienced the pressures and constraints of urban life and yearned for the carefree joy and simplicity of her childhood, while also seeking to return to the "pastoral life" to achieve a sense of inner peace.

1. The Life Lessons of "Fortress Besieged"

There is a constant desire to escape the city and a similar urge to rush in from those outside it. This is evident in people's attitudes to marriage, careers and life aspirations in general.

People are frequently in a state of conflict regarding their careers. They are often dissatisfied with their current positions, seeking to change jobs or start a business, pursue higher career achievements, or return to the countryside.

This mentality reflects the fact that when people pursue their goals, they are often inclined to overlook their current circumstances and what they currently have, and instead pursue something better.

As you, many people are tired of working hard in the city and the tangible and intangible pressures in the workplace. There is a perception that the pressure in the countryside will be less.

However, living conditions, the level of development, children's educational standards, healthcare, and financial resources have introduced new challenges and concerns.

A daughter-in-law once returned to her hometown because she found the lack of convenient restroom facilities to be an inconvenience and decided not to stay in the countryside for an extended period. She took a taxi back to her home in the city that day.

It is therefore important to appreciate what you have, to consider your objectives rationally, and to avoid becoming trapped in a state of mind that equates the countryside with a besieged city.

2. Identify an effective stress management strategy that aligns with your personal needs and preferences.

It is a common experience to feel stressed, though the specific causes may vary from person to person. Some individuals may find themselves envying the peace and quiet of a rural setting, where there is less workplace conflict and a greater sense of contentment with one's circumstances.

Those residing in rural areas often admire those in urban settings who reside in high-rise buildings, utilize taxis for transportation, enjoy leisure activities upon returning home, receive a consistent monthly salary, and provide their children with a superior education.

A well-known adage states, "You only see the thief eating the meat, not the thief getting beaten up." It is unnecessary to envy me, and I do not envy you. Just as "every family has its own difficulties," everyone is striving to live their lives.

A focus on one's assets and an expression of gratitude will lead to greater happiness and fortune. Conversely, a focus on one's deficiencies will result in discontent and a depletion of energy.

When experiencing stress and seeking relaxation, it is not necessary to engage in avoidance behaviors. Instead, consider returning to your hometown, visiting relatives, taking your children for a walk, and reflecting on past experiences.

Avoidance is a confrontation with and rejection of reality, which only leads to internal conflict, further dissatisfaction, and a lack of contentment with the present. In fact, you lose two sources of happiness and well-being. (The future is made up of the present, and if you are not happy in the present, you will not be happy in the future.)

We recommend that you consider "Living Consciously." You may find it beneficial to meditate regularly to cultivate your sense of connection, feel the tranquility of the unity of body and mind, and live in the present.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. Best regards, [Your name] [Your title]

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Dear question asker, I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

From your description, it seems that you want to return to the carefree state of childhood, close to nature, because you are tired of life now. However, things are different nowadays, and the countryside is no longer what it used to be. You even have to pay to experience it. If you really want to go back and plant fruit trees, and have a farm in your hometown, planting flowers and trees, and living like this, it may not necessarily be a leisurely state, but rather there will be more pressure. The reality is that it's not easy, and the ideal is to live a simple life. We can have ideals, but the path to the ideal requires taking one step at a time. At the same time, we also need to be aware of what kind of needs we want to satisfy by reliving our childhood days. Is it necessary to own a farm to satisfy such needs?

Perhaps there are other ways you could make flexible adjustments to meet your needs?

If I might offer you a suggestion, it would be this:

1. It might be helpful to consider whether there is a common psychological motivation behind the desire to escape the fatigue of city life by returning to the countryside and the desire to leave the countryside to avoid repetitive farm work by going to the city.

In the past, when I worked in the countryside, I found it to be a rather exhausting experience. As a result, I began to consider pursuing a different path in the city. However, after spending a considerable amount of time in the city, I find myself experiencing a similar level of fatigue, and I am unsure if I am truly ready to make a change. I am drawn to the idea of returning to the countryside to engage in activities such as growing fruit trees and vegetables. While it might appear to be a desire to recapture a simpler, more carefree childhood, I believe it stems from a deeper need for a shift in my current lifestyle. I am seeking a change that will allow me to live my life in a more fulfilling and energizing manner.

It might be helpful to consider that the tiredness of rural and city life are two different kinds of tiredness. One kind is physical tiredness, and the other is mental tiredness. When physical tiredness reaches a certain limit, it may be beneficial to rest your body for a while and engage in mental work. Similarly, when mental work tires you out after a while, it could be helpful to rest and relax a bit and engage in physical work. This suggests that our bodies and minds are designed to find balance, and that we can support ourselves in achieving this balance in different ways at different times.

It might be helpful to consider that we can actively help ourselves to achieve balance. For instance, living in the countryside allows us the opportunity to arrange for ourselves an appropriate amount of physical work, while also ensuring a balance of mental energy. Similarly, living in the city provides us with the chance to pay attention to using our brains in moderation, and to relax our brains in many ways to activate the parasympathetic nervous system and achieve balance.

2. Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what psychological need you would like to return to farming to satisfy, and whether there might be a more realistic way to satisfy this psychological need.

Perhaps it would be helpful to become aware of what psychological need you might be trying to satisfy by going back to farming. Do you think it might be possible to relive your childhood experiences?

Perhaps you're considering returning to a simpler, more carefree way of life, where work is just one part of your daily routine. Or maybe you're seeking the same kind of support and encouragement that your parents provided when you were a child, in a world that can often feel overwhelming. Or, it could be that you're simply looking to unwind and relieve stress in a more natural setting.

It might be helpful to consider what your real needs are and whether there are ways to meet those needs that are more practical than simply focusing on the goal of running a farm. For instance, if you crave the same level of support and encouragement from yourself that your parents gave you when you were a child, you can learn to give yourself the same support and encouragement in a way that feels natural to you, or you can seek support and help from your parents directly. Similarly, if you're feeling overwhelmed by work and want to relax in nature, you don't have to actually plant vegetables and trees. You can simply set aside time every day to connect with nature, relax your mind, and help yourself de-stress.

3. Return to the present, take action, have ideals, and live optimistically. With these steps, you can gradually create the life you desire.

It's important to remember that we can't go back to childhood, and that the reality of life is only in the present. The present is the only thing we can control, so it's essential to live it well. We can certainly have our own ideals, such as having a farmhouse in our hometown with flowers and trees planted. If you want to live like this, it's worth thinking about what preparations you can make now. How many years do you plan to give yourself to realize your ideals?

I believe that we should all still have dreams, as long as we can give ourselves enough time and take action, moving step by step towards that ideal direction. I truly believe that one day, the dream will come true.

My husband and I also have similar dreams. When we grow old, we would like to plant some fruit trees in our hometown. When the fruit is ripe, we would like to send it to some close friends to express our greetings and concern, and also welcome them to come and stay at the farmhouse occasionally to reminisce about the past, chat about old stories, and recall the days we have spent together. However, before that, we need to accumulate enough funds, so we are very motivated to make money now. First, we would like to be well prepared for the realization of our ideals; second, we need to take on the responsibilities of life that we need to take on at this stage of our lives, just as you said, raise our children well, so that we are not in debt financially and have a surplus. This can be done at the same time. While living a good real life, we can also cherish our ideals and make preparations for their realization at the same time.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to return to the present moment, take action, hold onto our ideals, live life with optimism, and believe that everything will turn out as we hope it will. I wish you the best of luck and hope you will keep up the good work!

Hello, question asker! After reading your description, I feel a sense of familiarity that I can't quite put my finger on, perhaps because I can empathize.

When I was younger, I often felt a sense of longing to leave my hometown. I perceived it as a place with limitations and a lack of opportunities, and I found myself drawn to the possibilities of the outside world. However, after having children of my own, I found myself frequently nostalgic for the things and people from my hometown. I felt that being closer to my family would help me to feel less isolated. I began to reflect on my childhood and remember the advantages of having so many cousins. I realised that life was full of joy and laughter.

People often appreciate things more when they are experiencing them directly, without realizing how good they are until after the fact. It's important to get out there and try new things in life to gain a better understanding of what you like and dislike, and what is suitable or unsuitable for you.

I would therefore like to encourage people to travel more, see more, listen more, and taste more, so that they can gain a deeper understanding of themselves and the world.

Additionally, it is often the case that an outsider can perceive things more clearly than an insider. If we are unable to cultivate the ability to see things from a third party's perspective for the time being, it may be helpful to maintain a certain distance from the current situation physically so that we can gain a more objective view.

It is possible that if you feel that things you disliked about your childhood are now things you miss, and places you wanted to avoid are now places you want to go, this could be explained.

If you are looking forward to the experience of returning home, you might consider taking a vacation and going home for a while. After the experience, you may find that your perception has changed. For example, you could explore whether there might be a way to have the best of both worlds, that is, continue the experience in your hometown, and also have a plan for realizing it. You could observe what people around your hometown are doing, and what people and things they encountered as helpful or hindering when they were realizing it.

You may wish to consider talking to them to find out more.

While different industries may appear to be quite distinct, they often have more similarities than differences when viewed in a smaller geographical area. For instance, various industries may face similar challenges related to government policy, government efficiency, local perceptions, and the human environment.

When you get as close as possible to what you want to do, you may find that you have the ability and true love for it, or you may discover that it's not the right path for you.

If you feel overwhelmed and wish to return to your hometown to unwind or escape the fast pace of city life, you might consider taking some time to rest and relax. You could do this by going back to your hometown or by exploring other ways to let your mind wander, such as hiking, cycling, or climbing in the countryside, or even just a simple day trip to a farmhouse.

There are many ways to overcome obstacles in life.

I wish you the best.