You are easily entangled in character, and you don't like your current job very much?

Hello, landlord. I hope my answer is helpful to you.

The landlord is currently doing a job that was introduced by a relative, not a job that he likes. So, right now, he feels like he is in a stage of hating his job, but because of the relationship with his relatives and the worry that it will be difficult to find a job during the pandemic, he is still doing this job, which is quite different from his ideal job. Is that right?

In fact, many people have similar concerns as you. I was just talking about this with my nephew, and he has the same confusion as you.

He's been working for a relative's company since graduation and can make a basic living, but he really isn't good at this job. Since it's his relative's family, he doesn't feel comfortable mentioning leaving. Today, he mustered the courage to mention it, but his relative also disagreed. It's been suggested that he continue working here while exploring his interests. When he's ready to do what he wants to do, he can make the transition.

His relatives are also thinking of him, and my advice to him is to do the job he has now to secure his livelihood. Then, use your spare time to explore areas that interest you, accumulate your abilities and experience, enhance your professionalism, find the right circles, understand the whole industry, and choose a direction that suits you to delve deeper and conduct research. Eventually, you can definitely follow the path you like.

He's currently in sales and wants to switch to video editing. I told him there's no reason he can't do both. We also have to think about what sales is bringing to us. We're not great at it, but we can still get the basic work done. Our family isn't putting too much pressure on us. As long as we can get the basic work done, we can support ourselves financially. That way, we can use our free time after work to learn and research video editing. We can take a structured course to learn the full set of video editing methods, join this circle, meet some like-minded friends, and understand the industry's entire monetization process.

At the end of the day, you can choose a direction that suits you. Then, through continuous learning and practice, you can slowly provide help to those in need with your professional skills and knowledge. People will naturally come to you, and you can slowly make the transition.

The same goes for you. We also need to see the value in our work.

Since we have to work here now, and dealing with sadness and depression is also work, and being happy is also work, since we have no way to leave this job now, we might as well look at the positive aspects of this job. For example, it can provide us with enough living expenses, and allow us to accumulate experience in certain areas...

Then, we can start thinking about how we can make a transition in the future. For example, if we want to become freelancers, open a book café, or travel, then now is the time to research what we need to become freelancers, open a book café, or travel whenever we want. This is something you really need to explore for yourself. I believe that as long as you have a direction in mind, you will eventually be able to live the life you like and do the work you love. But there is definitely a process of exploration and breakthrough along the way.

For instance, you need the courage to break away from the job your relatives have arranged for you and the courage to take on the job you want to do. When you have these two kinds of courage, you'll be well on your way to achieving your goals.

Mr. Zhou Guoping once said that if you want to live a meaningful life, it's actually pretty simple. It comes down to two sentences:

The first thing is to do what you enjoy. The second is to be with the people you enjoy being with.

This is easier said than done. If you can do it, you need the two kinds of courage I mentioned earlier. When you have the courage to choose and can handle the consequences of your choice, then your heart will be free.

I hope this is helpful for you. Best wishes!

Hello! I think you're in a situation that many of us have faced. Most employees go through years of work they don't enjoy or find distressing.

Our feelings are a wonderful thing! They allow us to experience the full spectrum of human emotion, from the joy of love to the confusion of loss. But have you ever noticed how when we're in an emotional state, we can be easily swayed by our feelings? It's as if our emotions control our thinking, rather than reality. And while there are times when emotion and reality align, most of the time, our emotions amplify reality, reflecting our true situation in a way that's unique to us.

Emotions are a fundamental issue and a factor that directly affects us, so let's dive right in and analyze our emotions!

The questioner used words like disgust and dislike when referring to work. What are the reasons for these emotions? When thinking about this question, there is no need to rush. It is best to take a break or find some quiet time to sort things out. The reasons we think of may not be the real reasons why we dislike the environment—and that's okay!

The questioner should write down all the reasons they can think of on a piece of paper. Then, they should consider whether they would still find it unacceptable if they were in a different environment, such as the work environment of the book café they like. If it is acceptable in a different environment, then it shows that this is not the real reason, but an emotional amplifier.

For example, in my last job, there was a lot of overtime, and I was overwhelmed and quit. But was the real reason that I couldn't accept this job really overtime?

The answer is not because there are environments where I can accept overtime. The real reason is that the real corporate culture in the company goes against my values and makes me very uncomfortable.

Overtime amplifies this emotion in a negative way, and it's just a catalyst that accelerates my departure.

So the main point is to analyze the real reason clearly. If it is irreconcilable, you have the option of leaving the company. If the reason is within ourselves, you can choose to leave this company and pursue a new opportunity elsewhere.

Now that we've covered the reasons why you might not like your job, let's dive into the exciting world of job hunting! The first thing you'll want to think about is your income. How long can you maintain your current living standard with the money you have? And how long will it take you to find a new job or start a successful business?

If the probability is not high, you should definitely start planning now! You can either save money systematically or find a side job to support yourself. Otherwise, even if you escape your current situation, you'll be forced to settle for the next job at random due to financial pressure. Don't let that happen! You can avoid that vicious cycle by planning ahead.

Mr. Jin Weichun has an incredible book called "There's Only One Thing in Life" that I found absolutely inspiring! If you're interested, I highly recommend checking it out. I'm sure you'll find it as helpful as I did!