17-year-old boy, in the past year, has been particularly self-deprecating and suffering. What should I do?

Good morning, Thank you for allowing me to address your question. Before discussing the issue, if you allow, I would like to extend my support and offer my assistance.

When an individual is unable to navigate interpersonal dynamics effectively, it can lead to significant challenges. As you mentioned, "I'm uncertain about the appropriate course of action regarding this friendship."

The appropriate distance between you and her depends on the nature of your relationship. Is it merely that of a normal classmate and friend, or is it more than that? If it is, you may be in a relationship that has progressed beyond friendship but has not yet reached the level of exclusive romantic involvement. Once you have clarified these issues, it will be relatively simple to maintain a positive and productive relationship.

If the relationship is merely casual, then the usual social etiquette should be maintained. If the relationship is more significant, then discussing feelings and engaging in open communication can be beneficial. If there is interest from both parties, then it is possible to work towards a deeper connection. However, if the other person is content with the current friendship, then maintaining a respectful attitude while clearly defining boundaries is essential for maintaining positive interactions.

The aforementioned views are solely my personal opinions and are provided for informational purposes only. Best regards,

Hello, question asker!

The youthful ambiguity between boys and girls is a particularly beautiful sentiment. Whether it is the sweetness of mutual affection or the sourness of a secret crush, it is all a wonderful experience in life. I know you are having a hard time right now, suffering and even feeling overwhelmed by inferiority, but I still want to tell you that the confusion you are experiencing is a worthwhile experience to appreciate. Can you let go of some of your "psychological resistance"?

The problem is that you want to accept your current situation, with all its complicated emotions, and admit that at 17 years old, I am a little sweet, a little bitter, a little intoxicated, and a little lost.

Maybe the best thing to do is just let love happen. The world of love is big enough for everyone.

You said that you and she were in the same class and only slowly became friends. She was very nice to you, but you didn't change your relationship with each other. She still has a boyfriend. So why can't you just be friends with her?

Is it the feeling that you've formed an attachment that you shouldn't have?

Is it a feeling of longing for something you know you want but can't have?

Maybe you feel like you shouldn't have fallen in love even though you know he has a boyfriend, and you feel a little guilty. Maybe you feel a little regret that you didn't show up to introduce yourself to his boyfriend. Or maybe you feel like you can't repay this friendship...

Regardless of your concerns, it's important to explore what your true inner needs are.

Is it the close friendship that's "very good to me" and "second only to a relationship" that fascinates you the most, or is it the idea of replacing her boyfriend that fascinates you more?

I believe that since youth is a beautiful experience, you can be bold and "love" without hesitation, and let love happen! Love itself is not so narrow. Love between a man and a woman is love, and the friendship between young people is also a worthwhile experience of love, just as loving nature, pets, etc. The language of love is very rich!

Take a look at yourself. You might have a one-dimensional view of love, which could be why you're caught up in a whirlpool of reason and emotion.

Perhaps "low self-esteem" is an opportunity to develop self-awareness and positive growth.

I'm not sure where your inferiority complex comes from, but I think you can figure it out through self-awareness.

Low self-esteem can be frustrating and disappointing, but it can also make you more aware of the possibility of changing and improving yourself.

If you think your grades could be better,

And if you find that you can communicate better with people.

And if you find that you can have more friends,

If you find that you can also have a stronger body,

If you find that your grades could be better, that you could communicate more effectively with people, or that you could have a stronger body, then what can you do about it?

Wouldn't becoming a better version of yourself be a way to repay this rare friendship and irreplaceable youth?

"You can also be nice to her." Don't make a big deal out of it, just let your emotions flow freely.

If you want to let love happen and improve your understanding of your relationship, you might find that what you cherish is a special friendship. After all, a friendship that is also clean and pure is a wonderful thing. And improving yourself is the path to lasting "love" insurance. Responding positively to the good things about the other person is a way of hoping that you can put aside shyness, guilt, timidity, inferiority complexes, etc. and respond with confidence to your best friend's "being good to me." This is not about narrowing or complicating "love." It's about showing respect and politeness to each other.

The more you give in to her demands, the more attached you'll become to her. Respond positively and openly, and let everyone know that you're her good friend. Let the emotions flow freely.

If you truly see yourself as her boyfriend in your heart, you can assess your options, express yourself honestly, let the result and answer emerge naturally, and then accept it.

Treating yourself and your friends with respect is something we all deserve.

I love you, and I think the world would be a better place if you loved yourself and each other.

Hello, question asker.

You have a positive impression of this woman, but she is already in a relationship. You may feel a bit out of your depth in this situation and unsure of how to proceed.

It may be challenging to imagine that she can feel your pain from across the screen. It might be difficult to expect her to give up. She may be torn between not wanting to give up and not wanting to give in, and it might be hard for her to decide.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider how realistic your future plans are and how you see this situation.

Initially, you did not have any feelings for her, and she did not cause you any emotional distress. In theory, this state is very beneficial, as it allows you to be yourself very comfortably.

However, she chose to sit next to you, was friendly with you, and over time, feelings developed. While she was being nice to you, she also had a boyfriend, which means that her initial niceness to you may not have been intended to be a friend of the opposite sex. It's possible that her niceness may have been for some other purpose, such as a favorable impression, sympathy, or appeasement.

From your perspective, the kindness she shows you is noteworthy. It evokes a sense of care and attachment, particularly when it comes from someone of the opposite sex. When such feelings emerge, they can be akin to unrequited love.

This kind of unrequited love can feel like a secret love for her that you're unable to express openly, which might even involve a certain degree of humility on your part.

If you can find a way to reduce your feelings of love for her, or stop this relationship, it will also be a form of protection for you. After all, this relationship will not come to anything.

It may be challenging to suppress this feeling of affection, but it is possible to do so in the mind. It is understandable that this feeling of unrequited love can be painful.

The kindness she shows you makes you feel cared for, and you accept that care inside.

This acceptance of care may lead to the development of feelings for her, which could be seen as a give-and-take.

Given the circumstances, it is understandable that you feel unable to take a step forward.

If you're looking to ease the discomfort, you might consider offering some form of assistance to offset the positive impression the other person brings. For instance, you could help with her homework, retrieve her test papers, or even pour her a glass of water. This gesture might help you feel more at ease and restore a sense of balance.

You might also consider thinking creatively according to your specific situation to achieve the goal of not owing her.

Or in other ways, you can think creatively according to your specific situation to achieve the goal of not being in her debt.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider some alternative ways of approaching the situation.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider ways of addressing this issue of your inferiority complex towards her.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to address the issue of your inferiority complex towards her.

Could you please list the areas in which you feel inferior to her? These could be related to grades, family, popularity, clothing, spending, personality, and so on.

Given your feelings of inferiority, it might be helpful to draw a clear line and avoid becoming lovers. This could help you feel more at ease, as it would allow you to maintain a friendship if that's what you both desire.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what might happen if you were to mentally confirm this understanding and completely give up hope.

Third, you might find it helpful to remove her from your mind and focus on your studies. When you get into university, you will meet many female classmates, and you may even meet someone you like.

Third, you might find it helpful to focus on your studies and try to achieve good grades. When you get into college, there will be many female classmates for you to meet, and you may even meet someone you like.

It might be helpful to view the current depression and giving up as a strategy. If the other person likes you, she may continue to keep in touch with you after the college entrance exam, and you will also have a chance then.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider socializing with other girls, talking to them, and increasing your experience with girls. It might also be beneficial to reflect on how having some post-experience could potentially affect the positive feelings you have for this girl.

Fourth, it might be helpful to socialize with other girls, talk to them, and increase your experience with girls. It's possible that if you also have some post-experience, it might dilute the good feelings this girl gives you, and your good feelings for this girl might also decrease.

Fourth, it might be helpful to socialize with other girls, talk to them, and increase your experience with girls. It's possible that if you also have some post-experience, it might affect the good feelings you have for this girl.