34 years old, just given birth a few months ago, and you feel like vomiting whenever you see your in-laws?

Greetings!

As a heart exploration coach, I believe that learning is the most valuable asset for maintaining physical health.

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing a range of negative emotions, including depression, nausea, a desire to vomit, helplessness, worry, pain, and a sense of being overwhelmed and adrift.

You are troubled by seeing your in-laws. The following analysis will not be exhaustive, but it will attempt to identify the underlying reasons for this distress.

Firstly, the fact that the subject experiences a desire to vomit when in the presence of her in-laws following the birth of her child may be related to their previous behaviour.

As you have indicated in your description, your mother-in-law is inclined to display emotional distress and express dissatisfaction, whereas your father-in-law tends to adopt a detached and indifferent approach, which you have previously interpreted as inaction. This has resulted in your past breakdown and subsequent vomiting. Consequently, your father-in-law removed your mother-in-law from the situation. This suggests that you still hope for their departure and avoidance of your presence. Given your previous experience of vomiting, you have achieved this goal. Consequently, you now seek to utilise this method to prevent their appearance in front of you, which results in your vomiting when you see them.

Secondly, the urge to vomit when in their presence may be associated with the emotional state they evoke.

In addition to the previous goal of avoiding contact with them, which was achieved through the act of vomiting, it is possible that you may have also internalised the belief that each encounter would result in a replay of the past. This would entail the mother-in-law continuing to display distress and demand attention, while the father-in-law maintained his indifferent stance. The recollection of these anticipated interactions may evoke the feelings of suffocation and collapse that you previously experienced in their presence, which in turn triggered the urge to vomit.

In order to address the aforementioned state, it is recommended that the following course of action be undertaken:

First, it is recommended that you communicate with the other person and express your true feelings. It is important that he understands you and supports you, and that he is aware that you do not want his parents to live with you. When you talk, it is essential to remain calm and level-headed, and to avoid getting emotional. Begin sentences with "I" and talk about your feelings. It is advisable to avoid or minimize the use of sentences beginning with "you," as this may make him feel rejected and accused (children are naturally loyal to their parents). When you say that you don't want to see his parents, it is likely that he will perceive it as a rejection of him. Therefore, it is crucial to pay extra attention to your tone and attitude, as this is not conducive to communication between you. After you have communicated with him honestly, he will most likely understand you, as he may have long been unable to adapt to his own parents. He has been like that since he was a child, and he has also wanted to change the status quo. After he understands you, he can explain the situation to his parents, and you will feel better.

Secondly, if one's partner does not comprehend one's perspective, it is advisable to engage in a constructive dialogue with one's in-laws. Even if one's partner is aware of one's stance but hesitates to convey it to their parents, it is crucial to maintain open and calm communication with one's in-laws. This demonstrates to them that one is facing significant challenges and may require time to adjust. Additionally, it is beneficial to express one's desire to establish clear boundaries and seek their understanding.

It is recommended that some time be allowed for a period of reflection. During this interval, it would be beneficial to adopt a communicative approach characterised by a combination of assertiveness and civility.

In other words, after communicating with them in an honest and forthright manner, they may still express a desire to come to your home. At this juncture, it is advisable to allow them a reasonable period of time to adjust their expectations and learn to communicate in a manner that is "firm but not hostile." In other words, you must refuse their requests and maintain a resolute attitude, while simultaneously avoiding any hostile or aggressive behavior.

Subsequent to repeated communication in this manner, the other party may come to recognize the inadequacy of their initial approach and modify their conduct accordingly.

It is essential to establish a clear boundary and maintain resolve without being hostile. It is not that one must forbid visitation rights to the children, including the son, but rather, one must delineate the conditions under which such visitation is permitted. For instance, cohabitation is not allowed, and there should be no arguments or displays of emotion in the home. It is crucial to communicate explicitly what behaviors are prohibited. It is reasonable to expect that the other party will understand and accept these conditions.

Indeed, the primary objective is to achieve a sense of inner stability and control, as well as a sense of security, due to the fact that one is able to make decisions regarding their own life. As a result, the physical symptoms are likely to gradually improve, and the mood will also be better.

Even in the event that the other party does not comprehend your position and still wishes to enter your residence, or even make threatening or unpleasant remarks, it is imperative to remain resolute in your decision-making authority (as the resident of the domicile and the designated host, you have the prerogative to determine who is permitted to enter and who is not). Furthermore, it is crucial to refrain from allowing the other party's emotional state to unduly influence your own emotional state. By doing so, you can ensure a more favorable state of mind.

The aforementioned analysis and advice are offered in the hope that they will prove beneficial. Should further communication be desired, the option to engage in a one-on-one conversation with a coach can be accessed by clicking on the link labelled "Find a coach for an online conversation" at the bottom of this page.

Greetings!

The mother-in-law displays a pervasive state of depression, manifesting as frequent crying and complaining. The father-in-law, on the other hand, exhibits a tendency to avoid and remain silent. These behaviors have a profound impact on the individual's daily life, creating a sense of constant intrusion and lack of peace. The emotional state of the individual is characterized by feelings of fear, distress, and helplessness.

1. It is essential to maintain appropriate boundaries and prioritize self-care.

It is inevitable that a mother-in-law's emotional issues will have an impact on her daughter-in-law, and thus it is understandable that distress may ensue. The initial step is to prioritize self-care and to refrain from engaging with negative emotions. When in the presence of the mother-in-law, it may be helpful to visualize a protective golden shield surrounding oneself.

It is imperative to remain vigilant and to avoid allowing the emotions of your mother-in-law to affect you. Negative emotions are highly contagious, and if you lack the awareness to protect yourself from them, you may well become affected.

In providing care for your in-laws and addressing matters pertaining to them, it is crucial to recognize that these are their concerns and that your role is limited to offering assistance within the scope of your capabilities. There are instances where you can provide solace, persuade, or accompany, but you cannot make decisions on their behalf. Despite their familial relationship, maintaining a reasonable boundary is essential to prevent complications and ensure manageable interactions.

As one becomes more deeply involved, there is a greater risk of fostering a dependent relationship with the mother-in-law.

2. It is advisable to communicate effectively with your husband and adopt a coordinated strategy.

It is important to remember that they are your husband's parents and therefore have a greater emotional and cognitive connection with him. This means that he will often have a better understanding of certain situations and be in a more advantageous position to deal with them than you are. When it comes to interacting with your in-laws, it is therefore often beneficial to communicate more with your husband, negotiate a response plan, deal with things as they happen, and respond to each move. If it is convenient, you may wish to encourage your husband to deal with them as much as possible, rather than attempting to resolve issues yourself. By doing so, you can provide support and assistance to your husband, which may help to facilitate a solution.

This approach is conducive to a solution and can also reduce stress. If feelings of fear arise, it is possible to express these to one's husband and to refrain from contact with the in-laws for a period of time.

Effective communication with one's husband is also crucial for maintaining a harmonious relationship. It is essential to remember that the relationship with one's husband is of paramount importance. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is derivative and based on the marital relationship, which is the core of one's life. It is beneficial to consider the impact of one's husband's family of origin on his personality, to demonstrate greater understanding and tolerance for him, and to learn to express one's feelings and gain one's husband's understanding. The goal is to live together in mutual understanding and harmony.

It is recommended that you persuade your mother-in-law to seek the assistance of a mental health professional.

Your mother-in-law is afflicted with a significant mental health issue, which may also be a mental illness. As with physical ailments, professional assistance is necessary to address these concerns. You may suggest or accompany your mother-in-law to the psychiatric department of the hospital for treatment. If required, medication or psychological treatment can be employed to regulate her condition and facilitate her development of a sense of self-psychological adjustment. In this regard, the support and understanding of family members are of paramount importance.

It is recommended that you endeavor to comprehend your mother-in-law as fully as possible and provide her assistance on the condition that you prioritize your own well-being.

It is my hope that Hongyu's reply will prove beneficial to you. I am grateful for your inquiry.

Hello,

I feel for you. You married your husband and have to live with his parents. Despite your kindness, you've entered a quagmire. Your in-laws don't want to get out but keep asking for help. You help them get out, but they fall into another quagmire.

This is their pattern: they see themselves as victims, as if they don't deserve a good life. They try to survive, to get attention and help. This is an attachment-based relationship pattern. It's also a survival strategy they learned from their parents.

It's hard to change this relationship pattern when the in-laws are old. Remember, you've done a lot for them, but they've done a lot for you too. You need care and attention during pregnancy and after giving birth, but you've given them help.

Be careful not to get caught up in other people's suffering and give too much. Have they caught you at a weak point?

If this is the case, you need to stop. You can't let them drag you down.

They see that you're not affected by their crying, and maybe the mother-in-law will stop acting up. The mother-in-law is a showboat.

You're breastfeeding, so take care of yourself and your child.

You vomited because you ate something you couldn't digest. Your in-laws may have made you feel bad or triggered some unknown emotions. You need to adjust your emotions.

If you don't manage your emotions, it will affect your parenting. Your child will pick up on your feelings.

For now, focus on yourself and your child. As long as you're firm, solutions will come.

It's also important to get your husband, family, and friends on your side. In hard times, ask for help, vent, and blow off steam.

Best wishes!

I understand the depression, anxiety, fear, and helplessness the questioner is feeling. I gave birth three months ago and am also a new mother. The in-laws are causing trouble for the questioner.

The in-laws don't communicate well. They argue like children. The questioner and her husband can't help them. They are worried that the problems will affect the fetus.

The problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are often only superficial. They also reflect problems in the relationship between husband and wife. Without the husband, there would be no problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The first thing the questioner should do is bring her husband into the picture. Let him see the pressure and problems she is facing. Listen to his thoughts. Encourage him to take responsibility.

The questioner needs to set boundaries between her family and her husband's parents. Each family can deal with its own affairs. If you have the time and energy, you can help your husband's parents with some things. For example, the questioner helped her father-in-law find a lawyer. The questioner can raise the issue and encourage her husband to take action. This will help the questioner and her husband's relationship, and it will also change how her husband's parents see their son.

If the mother-in-law is causing trouble, the questioner can discuss the matter with her husband. This will relieve the pressure on the questioner and promote communication between her husband and his parents. Many families, especially mothers-in-law, treat their daughters-in-law differently than their sons. Mothers-in-law often treat their sons as their "darling," but their daughters-in-law as an "outsider." This can cause them to trouble their daughters-in-law more than their sons.

The mother-in-law's failure to separate from her son and her over-reliance on him has entangled her life with her son's.

The OP is a first-time mother and may worry that she won't be able to do a good job. She may devote all her energy to taking care of the baby, leaving no energy for other things. The in-laws are her husband's parents, so she can't ignore them. With all this pressure, it's hard to say she isn't suffering.

The original poster can find a counselor to help with their mental health. They can learn to express themselves and handle their relationship with their husband. If their relationship with their husband is good, they will feel better.

Be grateful for the chance to meet!

I really feel for the questioner. It's not easy at all! She's got an "emotional", "dependent" and "showy" mother-in-law, an "indifferent" and "detached" father-in-law, a husband who doesn't appear in the description, and a child about to be born. In such a relationship network, it's really hard to temporarily leave.

In modern marriages, the husband-wife relationship is the foundation of the family. It can be tough to accomplish anything alone. Maybe the questioner could benefit from her husband being more of an ally. This would help him play a bigger role, take some of the pressure off her, and build a defense for her and her children. After all, those are her parents, and they know them better.

It's also possible that the husband's family has been stuck in the same patterns for a long time, and that he and his in-laws are both feeling the strain. They might lack the courage and ability to change, but they're hoping that a daughter-in-law can bring about change and bring a new model. So they cling desperately to the straw of "daughter-in-law" as a lifeline.

It seems like the questioner's main issue is just a fear of her in-laws, but it might also be a deeper concern about feeling overwhelmed by this "man-eating family system." Either way, it's great that the husband is an important ally in the family, and we can definitely work on building his skills!

Otherwise, if we don't get some help, things are going to get even more difficult for the questioner.

If we can't get support from this system, we can always turn to others outside of it, like family members, friends, counselors, social workers, or doctors. We always have a choice, even if it's to leave this home.

I really hope that when the questioner feels stressed or difficult in the future, they can confide in others and seek outside help, just as they did today.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello!

Dealing with in-laws like this can really test your patience.

I'd love to chat with you, and I hope it will be helpful.

1. Take care of your emotions first.

In a family, especially with in-laws, everyone has their own way of doing things.

Your mother-in-law just wants to involve you in the situation.

This is a tough issue to tackle.

After all, she is our mother-in-law, and it seems as if we can't just ignore her.

But her actions will have a big impact on our emotions.

The first thing we need to do is set some boundaries in our minds.

Even if your mother-in-law is holding you back, not letting you leave, or crying and pleading, we need to be clear that those are things she needs to face and deal with. You can't shift her problems just because she's holding you back.

We're not trying to change our mother-in-law. That's something she's developed over the years. Our focus is on changing the way we respond.

For instance, would it help to think of her as a patient having a temporary outburst?

You might also want to think about how you can take care of yourself emotionally.

Is it possible for you to maintain some distance from your mother-in-law when she's going through an emotionally unstable period?

Let your mother-in-law know that you care about her, but that you don't have a good way to help her with her relationship with your father-in-law.

It's not your place to say who's right or wrong between her and her father-in-law.

So you won't listen or take part in the discussion.

These are all ways to take care of yourself emotionally.

I know it's tough, but...

Family problems are always tricky to navigate.

2. Your husband is your most important relationship.

When it comes to dealing with in-laws like this, it's still all about your relationship with your husband.

It's not about blaming his parents, but helping him to understand your feelings.

It's also important to try to see things from his perspective and to stand together with unshakeable resolve.

Dealing with difficult parents-in-law is never easy.

Do your best to agree with him.

For instance, you might want to try seeing them less often.

Even though the child is still young, if the mother-in-law is in a bad mood, it might not be good for the child or you if she comes over often.

In terms of looking after the kids and looking after yourself, it's worth thinking about other ways of doing things.

It's also best to avoid getting involved in conflicts with your in-laws.

Special families deserve special treatment.

Your immediate family with your husband is the most important.

It's not that they don't respect their children-in-law. It's more that they're still like children who have not grown up, always crying to their son or daughter-in-law, which in itself requires them to grow up.

It's best to resolve their conflicts as quickly as possible, and it's unlikely that getting involved will make a difference.

Psychology has a hierarchy of family relationships.

The first is the relationship between a husband and wife.

The second is the parent-child relationship.

The third relationship is the parent-child relationship.

This ranking isn't about how close you are to each other. Being last doesn't mean it's unimportant.

It's only when couples are happy that they're able to take better care of the elderly and make their children happy.

I'm curious about your in-laws' educational background.

It's not uncommon for parents with a difficult relationship to unconsciously pass their problems on to their children, which can be tough for the kids.

If you're feeling overwhelmed and struggling to cope, you can also seek support from a counselor to help you regain your psychological energy.

On the other hand, if the mother-in-law is open to change and willing to go to family and marriage counseling, it could be a good solution.

It seems like the in-laws aren't necessarily willing to go.

We can try to take care of ourselves as much as possible and limit our interactions with them until we find a way to get along.

Your husband needs to find a way to create a safe space for you.

For instance, they can't just drop by unannounced. Your husband can visit them instead.

It's important to know whose topic this is.

I don't think separating topics leads to isolation.

It's the ambiguous symbiosis and mushy logic that really alienate and distance relationships.

I'm sure you'll figure out a solution that works for you.

When you're ready, find a way to listen to them and have a positive influence on them.

Just share these.

Best of luck!

I love you, world!

Hello, I am Jianlin, a psychological counselor. I can tell you are deeply affected by the emotional entanglements in your in-laws' marital life.

Your mother-in-law's constant complaints and resentment, along with her various manifestations, naturally elicit resistance and even physical reactions from you.

We have never been able to let go of these family problems. Anyone who encounters such problems is similarly at a loss because this problem is not between us or you and your husband. It is a relationship between the older generation and the previous generation.

We can't help it. Is this the right way to think about it?

From your description, it is clear that the emotional relationship between your father-in-law and mother-in-law has reached a point of breakdown. Your father-in-law can no longer tolerate your mother-in-law's behavior.

You need to ask yourself why you continue to maintain this kind of marital relationship. The main reason is your mother-in-law's relentless pursuit and his long-standing personality, which makes your father-in-law miserable.

Let's assume they really separated. They wouldn't see each other often, and their relationship would ease up. At the very least, they wouldn't fight.

The bottom line is that the mother-in-law lacks love and care. Whether it's the first time you have dinner with them, her crying, or later my complaints to you, including those against your father-in-law, the truth is that he lacks love and care.

He wants the people around him to care about him. He wants his husband to care about him. And he wants his daughter-in-law and son to care about him, too. Given this situation, it's not suitable for the mother-in-law to live with you.

Then you should ask your son, your husband, to do so. Paying more visits to him and sending him a call or a few messages every day may seem like a trivial thing to us, but it is a kind of care and an incomparable source of psychological support to the elderly.

The mother-in-law may not accept the two of you separating, but we can tell her that for the time being, the two of you should calm down first. Give each other some space and take some time to sort out your feelings for each other.

You need to make sure your mother-in-law doesn't feel lonely or unloved during this period. She's feeling insecure, and you need to address that.

As I said before, you need to show more care and tolerance. It's clear that your own behavior has made it difficult for you to integrate with your mother-in-law.

You must pay attention to your husband, make him understand more, care for him more, and show your mother-in-law more care in words and deeds. As long as your mother-in-law's mentality can be adjusted to normal, your family will return to the way it was.

Your father-in-law will accept your mother-in-law as long as she changes her behavior. Your husband is the key to resolving this issue. He can adjust your mother-in-law's mentality and give her a sense of security.

You have played a crucial bridging role in the middle, and it's clear that you're doing it right. Your husband needs to let him care more about his mother-in-law, and if it's tolerable for you, you should also care about him appropriately. He will be incredibly happy, and I'm certain of it. As the saying goes, "Family harmony brings success in all endeavors." If you can solve their problems, your life will be full of color.

He will definitely pay more attention to you. I believe in your ability to find a solution.

You can definitely resolve this family crisis through your husband. The above is some analysis I have given based on your description, and I am certain it will help you.

You need to untie your own knots so you can achieve twice the result with half the effort. Thank your lucky stars for bringing us together like this. You can do it!

Hello, question asker.

Your mother-in-law has overstepped her boundaries and caused you and your husband immense distress. Initially, you will do your best to listen and support, but when you and your small family need support and help, for example, you are still working during your third trimester, your husband also needs to work, and you really need someone to help with the cooking, your mother-in-law and father-in-law often fight.

Many people are overwhelmed by such in-laws.

You are a wife, a mother, and a daughter-in-law, but you are also you. When faced with your mother-in-law's relentless negative emotions and intolerable behavior, and after you have expressed your refusal, the other party still relentlessly vents. This will make you feel overwhelmed and powerless, but you can handle it.

You still have to take care of your children and run the household, especially after absorbing all this negativity and high-handedness. Talk to your husband about your thoughts and try to make your mother-in-law come to your home less often.

Secondly, you should ask your husband to take your mother-in-law to a psychiatrist for a check-up. Some of her words and actions are beyond what a normal person should be like. You and your husband are responsible for maintaining your small family together.

It's also important to focus on your own emotions. Your in-laws have made your current state and emotions quite unstable. You deserve to be cared for. Get professional support from a counselor. You can communicate, vent your inner conflicts and feelings of collapse, and seek support from professional sources.

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

I'm here to support you through your confessions and fears. We met our partner when we were young, and when we decided to get married, it meant that we had to learn how to socialize with his family. From what you've told me, it seems that after you married your husband, you lived separately from your in-laws. This would be a good way for you to spend less time with them and to feel less afraid of them.

Before she married her partner, her mother-in-law would already be crying in front of her about her grievances. She may have had good reasons to be upset, but this kind of behaviour of crying about things regardless of the situation or the person is still offensive, especially when things are brought up again and again. This is not a kind of confiding, but a kind of complaining. She probably just wants more people to see her grievances and make more people stand up for her.

Where does this fear come from?

After going through what her in-laws did, the questioner started to worry about spending time with them. She even has a physical reaction when she sees them. This is called a somatic reaction, which is when you get a physical feeling or symptom that can't be explained by a medical problem. The questioner gets so scared that she actually vomits, so why is she so afraid to see them?

As the text shows, the mother-in-law has been upset for a long time, but her confiding hasn't helped. It'll be the same next time. Being around negative emotions for a long time is very affecting. The questioner knows her own tolerance, and she's never met anyone like her parents-in-law. The questioner can't accept their behavior and thinking, so when it goes too far, the questioner has a physical reaction. The questioner's fear can also be seen as a way of rejecting their proximity.

Staying away is the best way to reduce the impact.

The questioner lives separately from her in-laws, which is good for her and her partner. She doesn't like seeing her mother-in-law living her life and being so humble. She was even afraid for a moment that her husband would treat her like her father-in-law.

As a rule, she spends less time with them. When they act similarly again, she immediately changes the subject or redirects attention so that her mother-in-law can't continue her behavior. She doesn't want a listener; she wants someone who will agree with her unconditionally, understand her, and be on her side. Therefore, she and her partner can't help solve the problems between them, so it's better to stay away.

Don't expect anything from them.

The baby is now more than three months old. I hope my mother-in-law will change for the sake of the baby, but she still acts the same way. An elderly person with too much resentment advises against having too much contact with the child, because that negative energy will also affect the child. There will still be problems if the child is small. If the economy permits, the questioner may want to consider hiring a part-time worker to take care of some of the housework and cooking, so that the questioner can have more time to take care of the child and herself.

Your health is your most important asset. You need to be healthy to bring up your child well. It's also important to keep your mood happy because physical discomfort can be caused by mood problems. Once you know their personalities and behaviors, don't expect too much from them. People need to take the initiative more, so whether the parents-in-law change or not depends on them.

It's important to maintain a sense of boundaries.

When you get married, you're choosing to live with your partner. The questioner doesn't have more responsibilities towards his parents. They're still family, but they need to maintain a sense of distance and boundaries. If they don't understand this, the questioner should spend time with them when they can get along. If they can't get along, they should directly express their thoughts to let them know their bottom line.

Now that the original poster has a family of her own, it's important for her to take care of her own emotions first to maintain her family. It's especially important for new mothers to release their emotions.

1. Talk more: You can talk to friends or family about your usual worries. Many postpartum mothers become depressed because they feel like they can do it on their own. The major changes in life can cause unexpected emotions. Talking to more people can distract you and make life more fulfilling.

2. Stick to your hobbies: Everyone has their own hobbies. It doesn't matter if you had them before or after marriage, or even after having children. There's no reason to give up your hobbies. The original poster said that their baby is more than three months old, so at this time, the original poster can also start their hobbies again. As long as the housework and children are divided up well, there's no problem with finding time to stick to your hobbies.

3. Stay connected socially: Before we got married and had kids, we all had our own social circles. After our kids were born, we'd get together with friends now and then to chat about parenting topics our friends had experience with. It's a great way to learn new things and feel happier because we're together and time just seems to fly by.

It's important to be aware of our emotions, pay attention to them, and recognize when we're feeling stressed. We shouldn't let stress become a source of anxiety. I hope my answer is helpful to the questioner. Best wishes.

Good day.

Your metaphor is very vivid and evocative. The language you use can also help people to understand your state of mind.

The questioner's ability to express herself is commendable. Perhaps this is also a personal resource that could potentially support you in this family, helping you to maintain your own rhythm and strengthen your sense of self.

In your gentle narrative, I see the tenderness in your heart, the emotional value you have invested, and your sensitivity and thoughtfulness in the details.

Her mother-in-law displays some characteristics associated with traditional feudal values and appears to rely heavily on others, which could be a form of learned helplessness. She may not fully comprehend the concept of self-reliance and may require guidance on how to cultivate self-respect, self-love, and self-improvement. I gently suggest that she revisit "Age of Awakening" a few more times, although I understand she may be pressed for time.

Even the most outstanding person may find their light diminished when subjected to endless moral judgment.

It is thought that Confucius, the sage, taught all kinds of people in order to educate them in the way of a gentleman. It is possible that he never imagined that thousands of years later, people would distort the essence of "filial piety". It seems that the problem of supporting his aging mother, which he once worried about, would one day evolve into women completely abandoning their personal independence after taking on the role of a mother. It is understandable that he would feel sad and lament...

It would be beneficial for all involved if the mother-in-law were to seek professional counseling and assistance.

Initially, the questioner may have empathized with the other person's perspective as a woman. However, when the other person's reactions become increasingly intense, it can feel like a flood that has breached the dam, and the questioner may find themselves needing to navigate the resulting challenges.

The mother-in-law has always been someone who is afraid of losing, so she clings on desperately. However, this can sometimes have the opposite effect and cause her to get into trouble.

If the mind is still reluctant to embrace enlightenment, it may not be possible to find satisfaction or resolution through the sacrifice of others.

The subject is understandably concerned and in need of a supportive listening ear. Given the depth of family ties and the traditional Chinese culture of respecting the elderly and filial piety,

As a woman, you may also feel constrained by certain expectations and obligations. While love can be a powerful force for breaking through these barriers, it seems that you have encountered someone who may be challenging that process.

The idea of breaking free is there, but there is also a concern that if one makes a misstep, it could potentially lead to a significant conflict that might even damage the family relationship.

I can appreciate that you are also facing a dilemma.

The respondents who answered this question all expressed their enthusiastic support for the questioner. I also participated, hoping to contribute to the social force that offers support to the questioner and helps you maintain that: firmness and care for yourself.

It would be beneficial for you to take care of yourself.