A 20-year-old girl likes her 24-year-old senior but is afraid of being laughed at.

Hello, I hope this message finds you well.

I'm Yi Ming, a heart exploration coach.

I get it. I'm here to support you as you work through this. I hope this will be helpful and inspiring for you.

1. Falling in love is all about exploring and growing.

You're 13 and you like the 24-year-old girl in your class. You're worried you'll be teased.

"I get nervous when I see her, I miss her when I don't see her, I don't like it when other boys approach her, and I get emotional when I think about her."

From a psychological perspective, we like someone not just because they have certain attractive qualities, but also because of who we are ourselves.

For instance, if you say, "I grew up with my mother after my parents divorced, and I feel that I have a bit of a mother complex, which is why I like girls," and you like it when she calls you "baby" and sets aside time to do fan art for me alone, etc., have you ever considered that these are all normal needs of ours?

The desire to be noticed and liked, or to be partial.

It's just that your superior happened to fulfill this part of our wishes.

My advice is not to rush into saying anything and not to dwell on it too much.

There are so many different kinds of love, and they all change over time.

It's like you didn't like her at first.

You start to like her more and more as you realize you have things in common and that she treats you well.

We tend to project onto others some qualities that we hope to possess but don't currently have. This often leads to a fondness for them.

For instance, "admiring her and wanting to be like her."

If you find yourself saying things like, "Seeing her makes me nervous, not seeing her makes me miss her, I don't like other boys approaching her," it might be a sign that your feelings have changed. Have you never been in love?

We might act a certain way if we're trying to get someone's attention.

Take a step back and look at these things more calmly.

What do you think these are trying to tell you?

Why do you get nervous when you see her?

Are you worried that she doesn't like you?

This is something we learn along the way.

2. Get to know what love is all about.

Do you have a sense of love?

So, why do these behaviors occur?

So, why are you afraid of being laughed at?

There's nothing wrong with liking people.

As we grow up, we may have a lot of different people we like.

It's possible that the person you like isn't the right person for you, even if others think they are.

Sexual orientation is a complex issue, and there's no simple answer.

Every situation and every person is different, so it's important to look at each one individually.

How we perceive sexual orientation can change over time and is always evolving.

There's a whole range between complete heterosexuality and complete homosexuality.

You don't have to worry that this kind of fondness will be seen as strange by others. And we can figure it out as we go along.

If your schoolmate treats you like a little sister, you might find yourself pushing her away by saying so.

From now on, get some experience, feel it out, and learn how to love.

You might even find yourself more attached to her.

Try to interact with her as you would with a good friend.

Let time and trial be your guides.

3. Love is something you have to learn.

We used to think that the person we loved was the most important person in the world.

I believe that the ability to love is the most important thing.

We often think we're loving someone else, but we're really just satisfying our own needs.

That's why I don't like other guys approaching her.

That's our own wish.

Love isn't about possession.

I'd like to share with you a little poem by Satya:

I'd like to suggest that we

I want to love you without holding on to you.

I appreciate you, and I don't judge you.

I'll be there to support you, but I won't force my way of doing things on you.

I don't need to apologize for leaving you.

Take your time to learn to love.

This is something you'll be learning for the rest of your life, so there's no need to rush.

Wishing you the best!

Hello! I'll give you a hug.

You are emotionally dependent on your older sister because she makes you like and admire her. This dependence on the same sex and liking has caused you to feel guilty. You are worried that your feelings will be laughed at by others, making your older sister hate and stay away from you.

Your fondness and admiration for your senior sister go beyond the boundaries of same-sex friends. When you are with her, her consideration and comfort make your needs satisfied. These needs are what you lack, so you are eager to get them from her.

When you feel loved, you think your existence is valuable. You will respond to your older sister in the way you have been treated because you have had the experience of being loved.

So, when you can treat yourself like your older sister treats you, you'll depend on her less. If you find other people who can do the same, you'll also depend on them. What do you think?

Your feelings for your older sister are not romantic. They are about not knowing how to meet your own needs. You lack inner strength and need your sister's support.

Tell your sister how you feel when you're with her. Also, tell her you need her support as you learn to love yourself and meet your needs. She can't be with you all the time. You need to learn to love yourself.

I'm Lily, the listener at the Q&A Center. The world and I love you.