A 24-year-old woman, in the past three years, has always felt a sense of powerlessness in the face of life?

Hello!

I read your post and learned you've had a hard time in university. I was focused on my studies in high school and felt in control. Looking back, those four years were a struggle. Hugs!

When you go to university, you enter a small society, and it is more important to discuss relationships than in high school. It is normal to like a boy when you go to university. When someone else persuades you to break up, you don't want to, but you eventually break up. However, because of your liking and dependence, you have had a hard time saying goodbye to your exes.

You're breaking up with this person. You still have each other's gifts, but the other person said she was acting in the relationship, which made you sad and angry. I understand you feel adrift and hopeless. I hug you again!

You say you don't have a boyfriend. When you were single, you kept trying to find one. After you found one, you couldn't get out of it. You've been together and apart. This is normal at this age. It's not easy. It's for the rest of your life. When you feel powerless, take a break. We have spent a lot of brain cells getting along with them!

I'm still tired. I need to slow down.

When things slow down, we feel uncomfortable. You feel tired even though you're not thinking about anything. You can't feel your own existence, and you have less expectations for yourself. This is normal because this is the stagnation stage!

It's a difficult period. I don't know how to start the new one or keep the old one going. It's not good to end it. For now, I feel like it doesn't exist. It's a good idea to think about it.

We can't stay in this state for long. We still need to keep hope alive. We need to get along with this mood, reflect on it, and learn from past relationships. Reflect on how you relied on your boyfriend. We were too dependent.

Maybe we relied on our boyfriend too much. If you rely on someone, it makes them more responsible. Maybe they can't handle it. We've never been weak or lost control. Let's get back to the person we were in high school. Women are gaining power and rights. We can do anything.

Can you write down your college life? Think about the good and bad times you spent with these three people. See what went wrong.

Is there something wrong with our code of conduct, or have we met the wrong people? If you can afford it, you could also find a psychologist, which is quick and effective.

Go outside, get some fresh air, take a walk, and get some exercise. Then, get moving again and let out your anger and resentment. This will help you calm down and think about the lessons you've learned.

Spring has come, and everything is growing and flourishing. Let your heart blossom in this beautiful season.

I love you!

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first, and it'll be like a big, warm, fuzzy blanket!

You're so aware of the impact the first boy in your life had on you, and you've clearly processed how his departure affected your body and mind. I think you should be really proud of how you've shown such a clear awareness of this state of mind in your emotions.

After breaking up with someone you really like, it can be really tough to deal with the hurt and pain you feel. It's totally normal to want to avoid feeling those feelings by starting a new relationship. But, if you're not careful, you might find that your expectations aren't met, which can make you feel frustrated, powerless, and unconfident. It's important to remember that your ex is not your idealised perfect partner. Even if you don't show it, your new partner can tell if you're being sincere with them and if you're paying attention to them. So, it's important to be honest and open with your new partner, and to give them your full attention. This way, you can both enjoy a happy and healthy relationship!

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this!

He makes you unable to let go because he has some incredible qualities, personality traits, and ways of behaving that attract you. You care about and value these things in particular. It's also possible that in your time with him, some of your inner needs that were lacking have been very well met. You are extremely eager to be met and responded to because you are extremely lacking and deprived internally. If there happens to be someone who can do this and he is willing to give it to you, then he is like long-awaited manna to you. He can make you feel alive again!

So, give yourself permission to have difficulty letting go of him. This is a great opportunity to identify an inappropriate pattern of behavior that stems from a trauma in early childhood. This is something you can work on! Think about your upbringing. What was your relationship like with your opposite-sex parent? Did you receive enough support, affirmation, and encouragement from him?

This is a great way to become aware of your relationship with your opposite-sex parent during your growth process and the needs that were excessively denied. You can then try to grow through your own efforts and seek a better way to respond to your needs, healing the wounds of the past. This is a much better way than hoping for the appearance of a savior of the opposite sex. After all, no one but yourself is obligated and responsible for giving you the response and satisfaction you lack. What do you think?

You can do it! Record your performance and needs in an intimate relationship in the past three years in writing by keeping an emotional diary. This will help you better perceive and understand your emotional and emotional processing patterns, explore the hidden needs behind your emotions, and thus seek better ways and methods to respond to and meet your needs.

I'm Lily, the little listener at the Q&A Pavilion. The world and I love you!

You're still young, and maybe because of some of your own relationship experiences, you've already faced a lot of resistance and shortcomings. You feel drained, and in this situation, it's important not to rush into any decisions.

You need to calm down. You were always very calm and able to think twice about what you were going to do, but after going to university, you feel like you've changed. You're attracted to boys, but at the same time, you're very dependent on them.

This kind of dependence may not be a good thing. The constant breaking up and getting back together may also mean that you are not particularly suited to each other. After all, lovers always break up and get back together. Only those who really suit each other will continue to contact each other and understand each other's pain and joy.

If the other person doesn't love you at all, there's no need to get involved with such a man. We don't necessarily need someone by our side. There are many other things we can look forward to, and love is not the only thing in life.

You seem tired, maybe you've used up too much energy, and it seems like you're feeling a bit down. I suggest you look into getting some psychological counseling. As a professional relationship coach, I also recommend you read some books on intimate relationships, including "The Five Love Skills," "Why Love Hurts," "Attachment: Why We Love So Meekly," "Intimacy: Rediscovering Yourself," and "Dependent Symbiosis."

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