A girl in her second year of high school has been acting rebellious since her third year. What should I do to ensure her safety?

Hello, question asker! I'm Enoch.

The questioner's daughter may have an extreme personality and therefore cannot communicate well with the questioner. When a mother encounters this with her daughter, she is angry and finds it hard to accept. She hopes her daughter will not fall in love too early. If her daughter does not listen, she will let her daughter take responsibility for her own choices. The questioner is still worried about her daughter. It is a pity that parents care about their children.

The questioner should try to stay calm. I have also been prone to extreme actions, so I understand the questioner's feelings.

The questioner needs to calm down, talk to her daughter, find out about the boyfriend, and help her decide if they're a good match. She should explain her wishes for her daughter and what kind of boyfriend would be better. If she gives her daughter good advice, her daughter will think about her decision.

To confront, you have to be more stubborn. A good relationship eases things and leads to mutual understanding. Ask your daughter to bring her boyfriend home. Accept her actions. Don't criticize her. You're doing your duty as a mother. Your daughter will reflect and feel guilty. You'll think about your actions. This will lead you to make the right decision.

Hello, host. Thanks for the question. I can see why you're concerned about your daughter. Adolescence is a rebellious stage. If you don't approach education the right way, it won't get the results you want and it'll also cause problems in your relationship with your daughter.

I understand that your daughter is in her second year of high school, has started dating, and doesn't like to study. Since the high school is a boarding school, she asked to see her boyfriend once a week, but you suddenly refused, causing her to start not coming home and not studying. You are worried about her safety again.

Kids at this age already have a sense of independence, but they're still learning how to handle the challenges of life on their own. They look to their parents and teachers for support when they're facing problems. They want to be recognized by the adult world for their efforts.

The arguments and confrontations are proof that he can be independent and responsible for himself. He's not trying to fall in love or skip school. He just wants control.

Download these principles, and you'll find the next problem is much simpler.

It's natural for girls of this age to like the opposite sex. But it seems a bit hasty to prevent their relationship without understanding the status of the girl's boyfriend.

You can be a little more open-minded and agree to let the girl meet with the boy, but also ask the girl to allow her mother to meet with the boy once. Let the girl know that if she thinks the boy is good enough, she can help herself get the boy. In this way, you can turn enemies into friends. In the process, you can point out the boy's strengths and weaknesses in the name of advice. After all, no girl can refuse to comment on a boy in an environment like that of close friends.

If the mother's identity transforms into that of a close friend, I believe the quality of communication between you will be much more efficient than that between a mother and daughter.

During the conversation, the mother can also bring up a few more equally outstanding boys. This shows the girl that there are many boys who feel the same way and that she doesn't need to focus all her attention on one boy. It also makes it clear that truly outstanding boys need sufficiently outstanding girls to get them, which helps the girl understand that she needs to take responsibility for her own improvement. This approach can help improve the mother-daughter relationship and get the daughter back on track academically.

Most parents like to manage their relationship with their kids in a managerial way, but putting themselves in their shoes and managing the relationship as a waiter may have unexpected results. I'd be happy to have an appointment with you. 1983. The world and I love you!

Good day, my name is Xin'an Zhiwu.

In the third year of high school, your daughter displayed rebellious behavior. In the second year of high school, she developed a romantic interest in a boy and requested to visit him weekly. You denied her request, which resulted in her staying out later and not returning home. On the one hand, you have difficulty accepting her thoughts and actions. On the other hand, you are concerned about her safety.

From my perspective, the mother in question appears to exhibit a range of emotional states, including anxiety, anger, confusion, hurt, and helplessness.

You clearly demonstrate a high level of care and commitment to your daughter's well-being. Despite your best efforts, you have encountered resistance rather than gratitude.

Please explain the rationale behind this decision.

When your daughter became rebellious in the third year of junior high school, you took the initiative to educate yourself on adolescent psychology, which led to a change in your approach to interacting with her. This demonstrates your commitment to self-awareness, personal growth, and continuous learning.

It is beneficial for a child to have a mother who displays the characteristics described.

Please explain why there is such a strong reaction when a daughter is discovered to have a crush.

Is this due to the influence of traditional concepts that view early romantic attachment as detrimental to children's development? Or are there other factors at play?

When your daughter requests your presence at her residence on a weekly basis to meet with a male acquaintance, you firmly decline, refusing to negotiate on the matter.

Do you adhere to the belief that as a mother, you are responsible for your child's growth and development, and that this is an obligation that cannot be avoided?

I would like to request that you take a moment to calm down and think carefully about the situation. Is that truly the case?

It is clear that you love your daughter and are willing to do anything for her. This is a fact that is beyond dispute.

As fellow parents, we must ask ourselves whether our actions are truly in our children's best interests. Do our decisions align with our children's perceptions of what is beneficial?

As parents, we may believe that our children are still young and innocent, and that they lack sufficient knowledge or judgment about people or society. Consequently, we may feel the need to protect them.

It is understandable to have concerns and worries in this situation. Therefore, it would be beneficial to seek a way that children can accept, so that they can understand, accept, and reconcile with our good intentions.

I am confident that you are willing to engage in a thorough and thoughtful exploration of this matter.

Are you willing to take the initiative to invite your daughter to sit down together, temporarily set aside your role as a parent, and interact with the other person as an equal and independent individual, engaging in a calm and respectful discussion?

It is essential to be honest with each other, speak sincerely about your true thoughts, feelings, and expectations, and, most importantly, express your love and respect for each other.

Perhaps we can attempt to instill greater trust and support in our children, allowing them the autonomy to make their own decisions.

It is probable that their choices will not be entirely satisfactory, and there may be shortcomings, missteps, or even errors. However, this is also an opportunity for personal growth and resilience.

I am unsure if this information will be of assistance, but I believe that with a supportive connection, your relationship with your daughter will improve.

I wish you the best of luck.