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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, I saw your question. You say your husband has never played a significant role in your life. He has not given you an unforgettable experience, is not motivated, gets by, has no sense of responsibility, does not lose weight, is not concerned about educating the children, and is indifferent to your physical health and emotions. He never asks if you have encountered anything difficult to solve.
You have been the main caregiver for your child and the family's main financial supporter. It seems you haven't found comfort from your husband when things have been difficult. It must be hard, and you must feel dissatisfied, frustrated, and disappointed.
You asked, "What should I do?" Everyone in a marriage has problems. The answer depends on what you really want and need. The answer is in your heart.
You seem motivated, concerned about your children's education, and pay attention to your appearance. But he seems unmotivated and has not met your expectations.
Disparity in a marriage highlights differences between two people. How will you deal with these differences to work with your husband to achieve your expectations?
Think about what you really want and need. Do you want your husband to take the lead in caring for you and the kids? Do you want him to lose weight and learn to understand your emotions? Or do you think he can't do any of these things?
The main thing is whether you're willing to be intimate with him. It won't be easy.
There will be disappointments, miscommunications, and things beyond your control. The other person may still have areas of incompatibility and differences.
You also have to face your inner problems. I hope you can sort out what you need and make decisions that will make you happier.
Best wishes!
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I can relate to feeling like you've grown apart from your spouse. It's tough when you realize the person you're with doesn't share the same drive or care as you do. It seems like you've been carrying a lot on your own, and it's only now that you have the space to reflect on what's been missing.
It sounds like you've been through a lot, juggling so much at once. Now that you have more stability, it's understandable that you're seeking a deeper connection and support from your husband. It's frustrating when someone you rely on doesn't seem to step up or show interest in your wellbeing.
Reflecting on this makes me feel like I've been neglecting my own needs for too long. It's important to have a partner who not only shares the load but also genuinely cares about your happiness and challenges. I wonder if there's a way to communicate these feelings to him and see if things can change.
This realization must be hard to come to terms with. It's like you've been putting in all the effort, and it's only now that you see how uneven the balance has been. I hope you can find a way to address this with your husband and find some resolution.
It's heartbreaking to feel like your partner isn't there for you in the ways you need. It seems like you've been shouldering a lot of responsibilities alone. Maybe it's time to have an honest conversation with him about how you're feeling and what you need from the relationship.