About to get married, feeling anxious? Scared of the change in life?

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

As the wedding approaches, you may feel anxiety, panic, and a lack of confidence. You want to be understood and supported.

Embrace your inner unease and lack of confidence when facing the important life event of marriage. Identify the needs behind your feelings of unease and panic. For example, you may be afraid that you will not be able to adapt well to your new roles as a wife, daughter-in-law, and mother after marriage. This fear may stem from a deep desire to be accepted, understood, and supported.

You can learn to get along with your own feelings of unease, panic, and anxiety. When you understand and accept your emotions, you will see that they are driven by a desire to do better and be better at your various new roles. This desire comes from your deep love for your family.

Right?

Tell your husband your true feelings and thoughts. Express your hope for his support and understanding. Let go of the expectation of being the perfect wife. Entering into marriage is a major first step in your life. No one can do everything perfectly the first time. Allow yourself to be imperfect, as long as you have done your best. Being imperfect and lacking does not mean you are not good enough. Everyone grows into a good enough self through being imperfect again and again.

This is especially true in a marriage.

You've already recognized your role as a newcomer in your marriage. You're aware of the need to grow and adapt. Believe in yourself. You don't need to be perfect. You just need to be true to yourself with a full heart of love for your family.

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Hello! I'm glad we're here.

Let's go over what you said:

I'm anxious about getting married right away.

You're worried about leaving your family, not having your own space, and having new roles.

You seem to have some pre-marital anxiety. How can you manage it?

Talk about your worries.

Talk to your mother about your feelings. She can help you.

Talk to your boyfriend about your worries. Is it insecurity?

Or you're worried you can't handle the relationship. Being in love is different from being married.

Tell your boyfriend about your worries. Together, you can figure out how to solve them. You can even rehearse how you will resolve an argument. Talk about solutions, then listen to your boyfriend's ideas. If they are the same, great. If not, you can negotiate.

This process will help you get to know each other better. Don't say, "We've been together for years, but marriage is different."

Try counseling.

If the first two methods don't work, find a counselor on Yi Xinli or another platform for counseling. This can help you deal with your anxiety.

This is me. I hope my answer helps you.