Almost in the third year of high school, I played better with one person in the class. This mentality has a bearing on whether learning is good or bad.

Hello, I'm Wanshi Ruyi. I can see you're feeling a bit confused. It's totally normal to feel jealous when someone takes your best friend away, especially when you're in the middle of your senior year and feeling the pressure. I get it. I've been there. You're feeling a little nervous, anxious, and helpless. I'm here to listen and help you work through it.

First, let's talk about your relationship with your best friend.

I can see how much you care about your best friend! It seems like you focus a lot of your attention on her, and I can understand why. It's great that you want to be in the same group as her. Being close to her must make you feel really good, like she's your rock.

In psychology, projection is when we unconsciously reflect our thoughts, attitudes, wishes, emotions, personality, and other personal characteristics on external things or other people. When you were a child in your original family, some of your emotions and dependence on your parents weren't met. After growing up, you projected this sense of dependence onto your close friend. So, you pay very close attention to her and want to be with her a lot! Being with her gives you a sense of peace and security, a feeling you once lacked from your caregivers when you were a child.

You've developed a real empathy for your good friend.

2. Your best friend has been "taken away."

I had a similar experience when I was a child. My best friend and I were playing together when she became attracted to another friend. They spent a lot more time together than they did with me, and I felt very sad. I felt like I was going to lose her, and I cried a lot. But guess what? Later on, my best friend didn't leave me. The three of us started hanging out together again, and not only did I not lose a best friend, I gained another one!

When we're with our close friends, we often face the challenge of a "third party." Psychologists call this friendship jealousy, which can be a tricky feeling. It's natural to feel a bit insecure when you see your close friend getting close to someone else. It's only human to feel that your relationship with your close friend has become worse and that it's being threatened. It's totally normal to experience negative emotions like sadness, anger, and hostility. It can feel uncomfortable because it's like your relationship with your close friend is being affected by the third person's interference. It's natural to feel a decrease in intimacy with your friend and an increase in intimacy with the third person. It's only human to feel that the relationship is threatened.

You can absolutely do what I do and keep up a great friendship with your pal! Stay in touch with your friend, but also respect their wishes. It's important to realize that all relationships are temporary. Family relationships, friendships, and romantic relationships are all similar. Some people are only with us for a little while. Every friendship has a time of intimacy, a time of ending, and a time of drifting apart. It's okay to accept the changes in relationships, treat gains and losses with a calm mind, and cherish the beauty around you. Cherish every relationship in the present!

I'm really happy to see that your studies haven't been affected by the loss of your best friend. You're still very efficient at memorizing texts, which is great! This emotion is one of jealousy. Don't worry, you haven't lost your friend. You're just a little worried that the intimacy will decrease because you're paying too much attention to her. You're able to control your emotions and devote yourself to your studies, which is fantastic! I'm sure your studies won't be affected.

And now for my advice, which I'm happy to share with you!

The lovely questioner can follow the mindfulness meditation and breathing relaxation exercises in the wonderful book One Psychology Meditation Planet. These exercises will help you to be aware of yourself and relieve negative emotions.

It's so important to focus on the present, devote yourself to your own affairs, and allocate your attention to learning and other things that interest you.

##Hey there! I just wanted to let you know that lowering your expectations of the relationship will help to reduce your anxiety.

You can make plans to do things you're interested in together! You can cultivate common interests and hobbies, such as going for a run together, going to the library to read, and helping each other with your studies to complement each other's strengths.

It's so important to learn to express your feelings, thoughts, and needs, and to confide in your close friends. This will help you to understand each other better and enhance your relationship and intimacy.

If you want your friend to be close to you, it's important to show him that you care. Spend time with him, help him with whatever he needs, and be there for him.

I really think you should read the psychology book May You Have a Life Illuminated by Love. It'll help you understand yourself better, see your relationships more clearly, and live more authentically and freely. I'm sure it'll help you.

I really hope you can get out of your troubles soon and see your relationship in a clearer light. I'm rooting for you!

My name is Jia Jia, and I am here to provide solace and guidance in navigating the confusion and challenges you are currently facing.

First and foremost, it is important to cultivate a friendship with someone who shares similar interests and values. This is a fundamental social need that is prevalent among both middle school students and adults. There is nothing inherently abnormal about this desire, regardless of whether one desires to be close to their best friend or if that friend has recently become distant. It is crucial to remain resilient in the face of such changes, as they are unlikely to have a significant impact on academic performance.

Secondly, it is common for girls in a group to seek out one or two individuals with whom they have a close relationship. These individuals may accompany them to meals, classes, and activities after school. This provides a sense of security and belonging, preventing feelings of isolation and loneliness. This phenomenon is particularly prevalent among girls and can potentially lead to minor conflicts.

It would be advisable to attempt to expand your social circle to include additional individuals with whom you have a positive rapport. It is likely to be more beneficial to avoid focusing on a single individual.

Thirdly, as you approach the final year of high school, it is advisable to prioritise your studies and other interests, such as reading and sports. In regard to close friends and romantic partners, it is important to maintain a respectful and egalitarian attitude, avoiding excessive pleading or assertiveness. It is essential to recognise the intrinsic value of each individual and their right to autonomy.

It is my sincere hope that I can be of assistance to you.

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