Always capture the emotions of your family, and then think about how to help them?

Hello! I'm Yu Ting, a psychological counselor, and I'm here to help!

I see your problem: always catching the mood of your family members and then trying to help them!

It's great that you can pick up on the emotions of your family members and want to help them! It shows you're kind and considerate, and I'm sure your family members feel lucky to have you as their family member.

The good news is that you can start taking care of yourself before taking care of your family. This will help you feel more in control and it will also help your family feel less stressed. This is a great long-term solution that will make your life better! So how can you specifically solve this problem?

First of all, I want to congratulate you! You have a very natural and great advantage, which is that you can very keenly capture the emotions of your family. I think your empathy should be very strong, and you should also be very easy to gain the trust of others in your daily life. You have this advantage, and if you can make good use of it, it should be of great help to your life and work!

But if we use this advantage to focus on others all the time, to always take care of other people's emotions while ignoring our own feelings, it may not bring help, but trouble. But that's not what we want! We want to be the best we can be, and that means taking care of ourselves first. As you said, we will also bring pressure to others. But we can avoid that by taking care of ourselves first!

So the best way is to take care of your emotions first before taking care of other people's emotions. First, you need to know what you need, and satisfy it first. With extra energy and energy, you can take care of other people. We need to learn how to love ourselves first, and only then will we really have the ability to love others better. Otherwise, this love, for yourself and for others, is repressive, and it is difficult to feel relaxed and happy. But don't worry! There's a solution.

Hello!

You feel bad when you don't do enough for your family, but when you neglect yourself, you feel aggrieved. I can sense the conflict and confusion in your heart.

You value self-reflection and self-improvement. You are a happy and lucky family member. ?

You may have made too many sacrifices and paid too little attention to yourself. This can cause you to feel wronged. Over time, this can affect how you get along with family members.

The family may also feel your emotions, which is not good.

You are the pillar of the family, with the elderly and the young, and you have to take care of them and work.

It's hard when you have to take care of everything. You can't take care of everything perfectly.

Instead, pay attention to family members who are having problems or feeling down. Go through difficult times or emotional lows together to help them.

Help parents or children find their own fun and learn to be happy. Not everyone depends on you.

Teach someone to fish. Don't give them a fish.

It's important to take care of yourself. Spend time on yourself, your body, your mind, and your interests.

Like exercising, hobbies can also help you relax and feel better.

This can also give you more energy to deal with problems in your daily life.

I hope this helps.

Love yourself!

It might be helpful to consider whether you could be classified as "highly sensitive."

It is worth noting that statistics suggest that highly sensitive people account for 15% to 20% of the world's population, which means that one in five individuals may be considered sensitive at heart.

It is thought that highly sensitive people are born with a special nervous system that allows them to perceive and process internal and external information in greater depth, and to have a stronger sense of insight and awareness.

D: This could be described as a tendency towards depth of processing, excessive processing of information, resulting in a greater number of thoughts.

O: Overstimulation, which can manifest as a tendency to react strongly to minor things.

E: emotional reactivity and empathy, which may lead to a tendency to understand and be affected by the emotions of others.

S: sensing the subtle: the ability to perceive subtle things, such as light and small sounds, clearly.

It would seem that this more sensitive nervous system is not only related to genetics. A recent study published in Mol. Psychiatry (impact factor) suggests that the trait of being highly sensitive is also influenced by the environment.

It is important to note that highly sensitive individuals may experience emotions more intensely and are more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression. However, it is also crucial to recognize that this innate characteristic can be a gift that should not be ignored.

People with high sensitivity traits may differ from the average person in a number of ways.

1. They have a strong capacity for empathy, which can sometimes make it difficult for them to distinguish between their own feelings and those of others.

This ability is a gift for highly sensitive people, and it can even make them excellent psychotherapists, teachers, coaches, and so on.

2. They enjoy engaging in deep thought and perceive the world through their emotions.

It might be said that their understanding of a subject will include a sense component, which would make the dimension of knowing things one more dimension.

They often have distinctive views and are very intelligent. When they love and are interested in people and things, they will show strong pleasure and liveliness.

3. They tend to enjoy time spent alone, as it allows them to maintain a sense of inner calm, free from the influence of external emotions and events.

In crowded and lively places, they may feel their energy is drained or that they are overwhelmed. They often find solace in nature.

4. They may be more inclined to form deeper connections with others and engage in more meaningful conversations. They may also be drawn to discussing more complex topics rather than superficial matters.

I would respectfully disagree with the notion that they would rather have one or two friends who are worth confiding in than know a lot of nodding acquaintances. In my experience, they tend to gravitate towards deeper connections and are not particularly drawn to social scene words or masks.

5. They may be more creative, with a richer imagination and an abundant inner world. Their hearts are so sensitive and rich that they may be able to express their innermost feelings very accurately. This could lead them to prefer creating more.

Many artists and writers are highly sensitive people. We often feel something but may not always have the words to express it. When we read a certain work, we feel: that's it! This is an example of the advantages of highly sensitive people.

For instance, many of us would likely agree that Jonathan Lee is a man who has a particularly deep understanding of women. In fact, his lyrics often seem to reflect the many twists and turns of our own hearts.

It is precisely because of this sensitivity that it is so subtle. I believe the power of creation is revealed in the way the worries are presented.

They have a knack for creativity, and their talents extend beyond song lyrics.

It would be remiss of me not to mention that works of art, sculptures, music, and literature are all included.

People who are too considerate and empathetic may sometimes be overly sensitive, which can result in feelings of emotional exhaustion.

For the questioner, there may be an additional dimension of self-expectations: they may feel they cannot make others happy or help others. It may seem as if what they do is not good enough, and they may blame themselves for needing to learn on their own so that they will know what to do next time.

Based on such a requirement, two potential avenues for exploration quickly emerged.

1. For others, it is a requirement, and when others are unhappy, it can feel as if they are not allowed to be.

It would seem that this emotion is lacking in expression and flow.

To illustrate, if a child is being bullied in class,

If I might return to my own experience, I was initially upset when the young boy in my class took my toy.

In this situation, it would be beneficial for the child to have the opportunity to socialize with others and to express himself and his emotions. It would also be helpful for him to gain a sense of accomplishment and control in this interaction.

This is how he develops and grows.

If he is unhappy, it is not allowed, and when you try to educate him, you deprive him of the sense of experience and learning in the process of this experience.

Perhaps you could try to help him solve the problem through your own learning. At this time, it might be helpful to consider that this is a demand on yourself and a criticism of yourself. And your own beliefs.

I feel that this is not the right approach. Perhaps I am to blame.

Such internal dialogues are not uncommon.

2. I believe that the direction of influence on yourself is just as you said. I tend to focus on other people, which can sometimes result in my own needs being overlooked.

I must admit that I didn't fully recognize my own emotions. I gave them my heart and soul and gave a lot.

Perhaps I haven't yet had the chance to express my own emotions, and I feel a little aggrieved. It seems that my family has been a little preoccupied.

I would like to suggest some potential solutions.

1. Consider practicing expressing your needs.

2. Consider establishing some boundaries.

If I may, I would like to revisit the above example. It seems that you are feeling angry. Could it be that you feel Fatty bullied you?

This is empathy for others – empathy for the child. For now, perhaps we can leave the blame for this situation where it belongs.

If I might suggest, pausing for a moment could be helpful here. It might be beneficial to interrupt the habitual behavior you have unconsciously been doing.

I wonder what emotions I'm experiencing. Am I feeling like I'm not a good mother, or do I feel that my child has been bullied?

I will help him find a solution. Perhaps it would be helpful for you to take some time to feel your own emotions.

Perhaps it would be helpful to pause and really feel it here.

If I may, I would like to suggest that you ask your child the following question:

Could you please tell me how you would solve it? And what would you do if you encountered a similar situation again?

Could you please tell me how I can help you?

This is simply an effort to encourage the child to take the initiative.

It may be helpful to increase the child's sense of control and listen to their voice.

Perhaps it would be helpful to return the responsibility to the child.

Please be aware that practice takes time and is not a quick fix. If you feel you are having difficulties, we kindly suggest seeking the guidance of a professional counselor.

Please be patient with yourself and take your time.

Embracing change often involves letting go of what is familiar and creating new patterns and routines.

Hello, dear questioner! From your description, I can see that you love your family. I imagine you are a person who is good at observing, thoughtful, kind, and full of a sense of mission—and I think you're great!

On the other hand, I see that you put yourself in a lower position in the relationship, think of others in everything, and take it upon yourself to help others. It seems like helping others has become a habit! You're so dedicated to helping others, and it's inspiring to see. If you don't help, you feel that you are in the wrong; if you can't help, you feel useless.

So, when you feel aggrieved, what exactly about yourself are you unable to accept?

I think once you are clear about this, your problem will be solved!

I think you can definitely try this method!

1. Sort out your emotions and feelings!

So, when you encounter something beyond your ability and need to help others, what are your feelings? For example, you feel aggrieved, powerless, and angry.

2. Feelings about feelings

For my grievance, I feel that I shouldn't, and I feel ashamed. But for powerlessness, I feel that I have no value in existence — and that's an opportunity for growth!

3. I'd love to understand why I have these feelings and how I can embrace them as part of my journey.

I think family members should absolutely do their best to help, even if it is difficult. If they fail to help, it just means I have more room for growth and improvement. My value is not defined by my ability to help others, but I'm excited to learn and grow in this area. Not helping others is not immoral, but it's an opportunity for me to develop my capacity to help and support others.

4. What are your expectations?

I expect to be very capable! I also expect to help others, to be appreciated by others, and to expect others to need me.

5. What is your longing?

I long to be noticed, needed, and affirmed!

Once you've sorted out the above, you'll see that

Your feelings of grievance are caused by the fact that your views are contrary to the facts. So please consider whether your views are unshakeable. If they can be shaken, you will feel better! For example, not helping others is not the same as being immoral; family members can help, but it is not my duty, etc.

You use helping others and receiving praise to satisfy your desire to be noticed and affirmed. If others do not give you attention and affirmation, you will increase your expectations, such as becoming stronger and helping others even if you are not capable.

If expectations are not met and you hold on to your views, you will fall into a state of self-blame and resentment. But don't worry! There's a way out.

The above are just examples—you can try to sort them out and see what happens!

I also suggest you explore your family of origin. For example, did your parents have high expectations of you when you were young and lack of affirmation? These are things you can change! You can develop a new way to meet their desire to see you succeed.

Second, there are three types of relationships, from the lowest to the highest level, which are functional, emotional comfort, and spiritual resonance. You are forcing yourself and feeling aggrieved, but you are actually just fulfilling the functional needs of your relationship with your family. I believe they will sincerely appreciate you, and as you said, they will also feel stressed. But you can help them! You can help your family to develop a positive relationship with you.

Finally, I want to say that if I were your family member or friend, I would be very lucky to have you! You give each of them the attention and care they need, and you are so good at it. So, accept this self that loves to help others, and you are not wrong.

At the same time, no one is perfect. And that's totally okay! Accepting an imperfect self, not achieving or doing well, is normal. Find the problem and deal with it, rather than getting caught up in an emotional whirlpool, so that you can develop better!

I really hope that the original poster can make themselves happy first, and then help others with a relaxed heart. Hugs!

Dear questioner, I got your question and I can tell from your text that you are a kind, warm person who cares deeply for your family. I want to give you a big hug!

You mentioned that you had some trouble helping your family members. It's totally normal to find it challenging to help those close to us. You tried learning some methods but found it difficult to keep up the actions over time. It's understandable that you felt stressed and neglected yourself.

We all have a need to learn to solve the problems that arise in our lives. But, especially when it comes to "people" issues, even if we learn the theory thoroughly and know how many solutions are available to us, we may still find it difficult to solve the actual predicament we encounter.

This is totally normal! We all have different levels of understanding, personalities, upbringings, and circumstances. So, even if something works for someone else, when you finally try it on yourself after all that hard work, you may find that after solving one problem, a new one will arise to trouble you.

So, in response to the questioner's question, I'd love to provide you with some helpful references for "when change will occur":

First, I'd say that "liking" is the key to influence.

I don't know if you've had this experience, but when you like someone, you're willing to listen to whatever they say and you trust them no matter what they do. But this kind of person isn't necessarily in your family. They might be at school, at work, or in the media.

It's totally normal to find it difficult to persuade family members, even though they may not actually do anything for us. Our love for them has an effect, after all!

However, when it comes to family members, it's a different story. We don't get to imagine and speculate about their thoughts and actions as much. And that's totally normal! We all find it a bit tricky to persuade our family members sometimes.

But don't worry, there's no need to give up! We know our family well enough to provide timely assistance when they need it. This is an irreplaceable advantage.

? Second, change is most effective when it's something others need.

In "The Wonderful Journey of the Shepherd," there's a lovely saying: "Books always have a way of revealing unexpected things when people are most in need of a good story."

This also helps us understand that "if you want others to change, it has to happen when they feel the need themselves." It's so important to speak to someone's heart and to choose the right moment!

This can be discovered through careful observation and spending time together. It requires patience, and we cannot control the timing, but in this way we can provide the best help when family members have questions or are in trouble.

? Third, when you're doing well, it'll be easier for others to do well too!

One of the most important things to remember about family systems is that when one person changes, it affects everyone else in the family.

So, there's no need to be disappointed if you can't apply what you've learned to your family. What's more important than influencing others is "what I have learned from my experience" and "what I have changed compared to before." If you think about it, you may also discover that you've gained much more than you've lost.

Acceptance is not about tolerating or putting up with things. It's about courageously accepting what has already happened and cannot be changed. And as for the future? Well, that's something we can't control. But we can control how we live in the present. So let's focus on that!

So, when you're living your best life and loving yourself, you'll be able to influence others and bring more harmony and happiness to your family.

I really hope the questioner can relax and face each day's challenges with confidence and vitality.

Wishing you the best of luck! I'm so proud of you for taking this Psychology class. I Love You!

Good day. I extend my sincerest regards to you in the form of a 360-degree hug.

It is evident that you have a strong affinity for your family.

Indeed, it is often in our interactions with our families and in the sacrifices we make for them that we feel needed and valued.

It is comparable to the challenging tasks we undertake for our children. However, a kind smile and a cheerful "mommy" are sufficient to alleviate our fatigue.

Many individuals acquire new skills for the benefit of their families and children.

In particular, I developed my cooking abilities. When I was alone, I ate without much consideration for nutrition. When there was only one person, my meals were simple. However, when there was a baby, I invested significant effort into learning how to prepare safe and nutritious meals for the infant.

I have no recollection of cooking during my previous employment. I am from the north, and for many years I was unable to steam buns, had limited knowledge of how to make dumplings, and was inept at rolling dough.

I have yet to perfect my ability to make buns.

After getting married, I began cooking at home. I reasoned that since I had never eaten pork and had no experience with pigs, I would simply prepare a satisfactory meal.

At that time, I began attempting to steam buns on my own, but the dough did not rise as expected. However, my husband was unable to provide constructive feedback due to my emotional response.

If you are unable to fulfill a request, please do not make it.

Upon the birth of my child, I was confronted with the challenge of navigating her frank feedback. In response, I sought out a range of cooking apps and invested in developing proficiency in preparing an array of dishes, including buns, dumplings, mantou, noodles, and rolls.

When they were younger, they did not perform to the required standard, so she would not eat it. Alternatively, she would request a meal that I had prepared with great care, but then she would not want to eat it.

In the event of a breakdown, they tend to seek solace in their immediate family, as they perceive this as the only viable option to avoid a more extreme reaction.

Despite any initial negative reaction, it is important to continue preparing meals for your elderly relative. You should aim to cook dishes that align with their preferences.

As she has aged, she has occasionally rated dishes as 90 out of 100, but upon my expressing my displeasure, she has immediately revised her rating to 100 out of 100. If she were to say the dish was not delicious, I would simply tell her that she is free to refrain from eating it.

It is challenging at times to observe her exerting considerable effort to offer positive feedback on the food I prepare. Nevertheless, I will continue to strive to ensure that it aligns with her preferences.

This kind of blood relationship often means that we are willing to do more for our loved ones in order to make them happy, which is a natural inclination.

The older generation often sets the goal of dedicating themselves to their family as their life goal, even if this is not conscious. As they grow older, they may become less able to contribute to their family and may feel that they are a burden to them.

From their perspective, the ability to contribute to their family is the primary source of their self-worth.

It is also possible that they are not aware of themselves at all. The sense of purpose that comes from giving is sufficient to make them feel that their lives are meaningful and worthwhile.

The current era is one that places a premium on individuality and self-care.

Some individuals may not be aware of this, but those who are internally consistent and happy are still able to maintain their composure. It could be argued that those who are ignorant are fearless, but at times, ignorance can also serve as a form of protection.

What other methods can be employed to provide solace to those in distress? It would appear that you are overthinking the matter. Perhaps it would be more beneficial to think less.

Some individuals are aware that they may neglect their own needs in the pursuit of dedication to their loved ones. However, they lack the knowledge to balance these two aspects of their lives.

From your inquiry, it appears that you are experiencing a degree of internal conflict. This conflict may be between your growing self-awareness and the traditional culture of dedication.

It seems you are experiencing a period of transition, during which you are unsure of the next steps to take. You are considering a change to your current pattern of behaviour, but you may be experiencing feelings of self-blame, such as "Am I being too unfilial?"

Regarding the concept of genuine self-acceptance and self-adjustment, I must admit that I am uncertain as to its precise meaning. Could you please clarify whether you believe that ignoring one's own needs and placing oneself in challenging circumstances is a result of a lack of self-acceptance?

My view on your concerns is that taking action to benefit your family is a way to demonstrate your commitment to them, reinforce the bond, and express your affection. Otherwise, if you profess love for your family but don't demonstrate it, it's challenging to convince others of your sincerity.

In relationships, we frequently make compromises and adapt ourselves for the benefit of others. This is driven by a desire to meet the other person's needs and to fulfill our own inner need for recognition and care. Ultimately, love is a fundamental motivator in all relationships.

In terms of self-care and self-awareness, I recommend setting aside time for personal activities such as shopping with friends, beauty treatments, reading, or exercise, such as yoga. Of these options, I particularly suggest yoga and reading.

These processes facilitate connection with our bodies and inner selves.

You may also wish to speak with a counselor.

As a counselor, I am often Buddhist and occasionally pessimistic. However, I also embrace positive thinking and believe in the value of the world.

Good day, inquirer.

From your title, it can be seen that you are a child who exhibits filial piety and kindness. I am gratified that your loved ones have a child like you.

However, despite one's love for one's loved ones, one often neglects oneself. Indeed, if one wishes to love one's loved ones more effectively, one must first learn to love oneself. The safety circle in our lives can be conceptualized as follows: the first circle encompasses the individual alone, the second circle includes one's parents and loved ones, and the third circle represents one's close friends. This order must be maintained.

If one does not prioritize self-care or if one makes self-sacrifices for the benefit of others, regardless of the identity of the recipient, one will be unable to provide sustained assistance or support. The act of self-sacrifice for the sake of another's comfort is not a sustainable solution and lacks intrinsic value.

It is imperative to prioritize self-care before extending care to others. When one has surplus energy, it is beneficial to utilize it in the service of others' emotional well-being. It is essential to recognize the capacity to choose between virtuous actions and inaction. Performing a virtuous act is a commendable choice that warrants praise. Conversely, refraining from such actions is not a deficiency but a personal decision. The act of performing virtuous deeds is an expression of benevolence, whereas the choice to refrain from doing so is a matter of obligation. The Bodhisattva, a spiritual figure, is bound by the duty of performing all virtuous deeds. In contrast, the average person is not. The decision to perform or refrain from performing a virtuous act is a personal choice.

Prior to providing care for others, it is essential to ensure one's own well-being.

While endeavoring to illuminate the lives of others with your own light and warmth, it is also imperative to prioritize your own well-being and self-care. By nurturing your inner light and warmth, you can not only enhance your own radiance but also extend a brighter and warmer glow to those around you.

Hello. I can see that you have a strong bond with your family and are attuned to their emotions, aiming to support them and ensure their happiness.

You possess both strengths and advantages. One is your capacity for kindness and love for your family. The other is your sensitivity to emotions, a quality that many people lack. Many people are unaware of the emotions of those around them, even when they are about to explode.

It is important to recognize and leverage your strengths and advantages.

It is also important to understand that everyone is an independent individual. In daily life, except for major matters of morality and life and death, you should never lose yourself for the sake of another individual. What you can do for others is actually very limited.

If you are able to provide assistance, you will be a valuable asset to him. If you are unable to help, it will be a challenge that others must navigate independently.

Is your reluctance to let go due to concerns about losing the attention and care of others? However, it should be noted that relationships are always reciprocal. Attempting to lower yourself will not result in others looking up to you. In fact, it may lead to being ignored.

Your sensitivity to others' emotions is an asset that should be leveraged. From your account, I also discern that you are studious and diligent. You have the opportunity to expand your knowledge of psychology and utilize it to enhance your personal growth.

I hope this information is helpful to you. I wish you the best of luck!

I hope this information is helpful, and I wish you the best of luck!

Hello!

You can sense your family's emotions and want to help them. But helping them hurts you and puts pressure on them. I understand how you feel.

You love your family and want to make them happy. You tried hard to make the other person happy. You felt better at first, but then you felt aggrieved and the other person was also under pressure. What made you think like this?

Sometimes family members need to be alone when they are unhappy. At this time, you just need to care about them and let them heal. If they express a clear need, you can help.

Sometimes, problems need to be solved or faced by both parties. Show your understanding and care for them, and give them emotional support.

As a family member, you can provide emotional support. If someone asks for your help, you can help. If there's something you want to help with, ask the person if they need it.

As someone who loves your family, help yourself when you need help.

For your reference. Best wishes!

Hello, host! From reading the article in its entirety, I can sense your immense love for your family, and your careful and cautious approach.

It might be helpful to have a more in-depth conversation to gain a better understanding of the reasons behind your current approach. At this stage, we can explore the following two aspects:

Firstly, when dealing with family members, you may feel a sense of inadequacy and a desire for constant improvement.

In a family, we are both a whole system and individual individuals. It would be beneficial for us to face the common difficulties of the family together, while also allowing our family members to grow up independently.

You are almost critical of yourself, and you want to give your family a little more love and shelter them from the wind and rain. This is a great and humble quality.

It is possible that, in the long run, you may also feel tired and want to receive a little more love.

However, in a family, love is mutual.

In your previous relationship, it seems that you gave more, and they received more.

You might like to consider trying a different approach. Perhaps you could learn to accept love, give them more opportunities to learn to love, and grow together in mutual love.

Secondly, it is not necessarily contradictory to love others and love yourself.

It is important to remember that loving yourself is not selfish. Rather, it is about becoming the best version of yourself that you can be.

If you live with confidence, self-respect, and self-love, you will stand out in a crowd, and those around you will be able to appreciate your love for them more fully.

I hope this is helpful for you. Have a nice life!

Dear questioner,

I'm Kelly, and I've read this question several times, so let's dive right in and go through it together!

[Always capturing the emotions of family members and then thinking about how to help them]

My dear, I have felt this way before, and it's been a great experience! When I was growing up, my parents also taught me that family members should help and accompany each other, and that this is also the case in their relationship.

When I was young, I was very sensitive to emotions and always observed my parents to see their facial expressions.

When I grew up, I was highly sensitive, and I was more aware of emotions than many people. While others didn't feel anything, I already sensed it, and it was a wonderful thing!

My parents' emotions were integrated. Even though they fought, they were inseparable. When I was young, my parents' emotions had a definite impact on my character, and it was a powerful one!

Bowen's eight major theories are absolutely fascinating! They talk about the emotional influence of a family on each other. He used an example:

Just imagine this: a group of cows are together. One of them starts to bellow, and the others will follow suit and bellow together!

The cows on the other side of the road, grazing peacefully across the street, are totally unaffected. (Distance has a moderating effect.)

If you are sensitive and easily affected by the emotions of your family, you can also try to find out if there is a relationship with your original family—and it could be a fascinating journey!

And she can also read the amazing book, "High Sensitivity is a Gift."

I love my family, whether it's parents or children! I always try to sense their emotions first when we get along.

It's great for kids to feel their parents' emotions! But remember, everyone has emotions, and they change all the time. Let's find out together what emotions are!

Everyone knows the word "emotion"!

Joy, anger, sorrow, joy, worry, fear – we all have these kinds of feelings! Usually, we simply think that emotions are these "feelings." (From the Internet)

Since it is everyone's feelings, just as a person's emotions come from external influences, for example, if I read a book and I cry, I am affected by the content. If my daughter is more sensitive and asks me,

I would tell her that I was reading a book and it made me feel bad, but that I got through it and it was a great learning experience!

Guess what! My daughter can also choose not to ask me and not to disturb me.

For example, if my daughter comes home making a lot of noise and I'm in a bad mood, I can just tell her directly that her voice is too loud and it's making me a bit irritable. But then I can also tell her how much I love her and how much she means to me, and that I'm sorry if she's upset me.

These are all small things in everyday life—and they're totally doable!

I'm so excited to tell you all about this! If you pay too much attention to other people's emotions, you will get tired, and so will the other person.

If a family member needs you and comes to you for a chat, you have the amazing opportunity to talk in depth about what happened and how she is feeling. You can listen and keep her company!

At the same time, it's important to remember that their emotions are their own and to avoid getting too involved. (People who are particularly emotional can read psychology books, like "Self-Boundaries"!)

This book has an important message for us:

The great news is that you can control your emotional reactions! This means you can understand where "you" end and "another person" begins, and you can grasp the concept of boundaries.

The author is absolutely certain that the concept of "boundaries" is the key to solving all of your interpersonal relationship problems and paving the way for positive change!

We can't make them happy or help them, but we can do our best and that's what matters!

It's important to distinguish between their affairs and your affairs. We can't guarantee that others will be happy all the time, but we can make sure we're happy ourselves!

As I mentioned, when I was a child, I was very afraid when I saw my parents arguing. At that time, I was very young, and I was afraid that my parents would divorce. I felt insecure, and I was also afraid, so I cared about their emotions. But I also learned something very important from that experience.

Now I feel that they will be like this for the rest of their lives, and arguing is also a way of communicating. I don't get involved in my parents' affairs and let them handle it themselves. They have been arguing for their whole lives and are still very much in love—it's pretty amazing!

After I got married, I was thrilled to focus on my nuclear family, my children, and my husband. I was excited to focus on my children's education and explore different ways of accompanying and educating them at different stages.

And there's more! You can also learn about developmental psychology.

And it's also a great way to show your parents and family how much you care! When you learn to improve yourself, you'll also be able to understand your parents and children better.

And the best part is, you can also be a better version of yourself!

It seems like you are neglecting yourself. Not only are you aggrieved, but you may also be putting pressure on them. What is this psychology? Let's find out!

You are paying attention to others and picking up on the emotions of parents and children, but you don't have an outlet for your own emotions, so you feel a bit aggrieved. This is a very good awareness! You will pay attention to yourself and become aware of your own emotions. Everyone says that you can only love others if you love yourself, and you can do this!

I remember that I used to be in a great mood! When I went out for coffee with friends and came back in a good mood, my daughter and husband were happy.

Guess what! If I'm in a bad mood, for example if I have anger on my face, my family can sense it.

If you want to understand yourself better, you can study psychology, explore yourself slowly, or find a counselor to gain a deeper understanding of yourself.

Could it be related to my early family of origin or upbringing?

Just do your best in many things and you'll be amazed at what you can achieve!

Embrace your own emotions and those of others! Celebrate the rich tapestry of our inner worlds.

Growing together!

I'm Kelly, and I'm thrilled to be here with you today!

Happy birthday!

This is the perfect moment for us to connect! I'm so grateful to have met you.

After reading your description, it's as if I saw myself in the past. The world revolves around other people, and I get to be a part of making other people happy and joyful! This seems to be my mission, and I'm excited to see how I can make a difference.

I have an amazing ability to pick up on subtle changes in other people's emotions. I can instantly connect the dots between their feelings and the situations around me. This has its perks and its drawbacks.

I'd love to share my feelings with you!

Advantages: I am sensitive and can pick up on subtle changes in other people's emotions. I can sense and empathize with others in a timely manner. I am easygoing and can quickly integrate with others. Because I am always ready to change myself to fit in, I rarely conflict with others and am recognized as a "good guy"!

I'm excited to share that I've learned how to elevate myself to help others!

The downside: My attempts to please others did not earn me kindness in return, and I was even taken advantage of and stepped on. But most importantly, I lost myself. My emotions were not seen or understood, especially not by myself.

As a result, I was prone to being wronged, and I also had pent-up anger inside.

Guess what! It seems that this pattern of getting along was formed in my early childhood in the original family. My parents were quite the characters at home, and I was the one who had to please and obey them, take care of their feelings, and change myself according to their moods so that I could feel safe.

As a child, I had no strength to resist, and as an adult, I would have a lot of emotions inside—and that's a good thing!

In everyone's world, there must be oneself before there can be others. And that's a great thing! It means that you get to focus on yourself and your own emotions and psychological needs.

So when family members and friends have emotions, that is where they need to go to realize and solve it themselves, not us. The great news is that responsibility does not lie with us! Everyone should be responsible for their own words, actions, and emotions. This is the maturity that adults should have, and it's an amazing thing to embrace!

So, don't put so much responsibility and pressure on yourself! Relax, devote time and energy to yourself, pay more attention to your emotions and psychological needs, and satisfy yourself more. If you are well, the people around you and the world will naturally be well too!

I wish you the absolute best!