At 38, my husband hasn't touched me for three months, what should I do to avoid a marital crisis?

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You are experiencing anxiety, unease, and a longing for acceptance, understanding, and love. I commend you for your clear awareness of your husband's attitude towards you during this time. Awareness is the foundation for positive change.

Once you have a clear understanding of your husband's attitude, you will be better equipped to make changes deliberately and under the guidance of this self-awareness. It is evident that you are both capable of sitting together in a sincere and open manner, expressing your true feelings to each other. In other words, your approach to addressing the challenges in your marriage is commendable.

You have attempted to address the feelings of neglect, exclusion, and unmet needs during this period. However, you have not yet expressed your needs and feelings in a sincere and courageous manner. Specifically, you desire your husband to demonstrate a greater commitment to understanding, acceptance, support, and love. Additionally, you seek to highlight the impact of his current actions on your feelings of love and affection.

It is important to be aware of this aspect. What are the underlying concerns? Are there fears that your needs will be rejected or denied? What does rejection or denial mean to you?

Does this indicate that you are no longer loved? If that is truly the case, can you accept yourself in this manner?

The aforementioned attention, care, consideration, concern, and love can be provided to yourself through your own efforts.

It would be beneficial for you to also try to give your husband more understanding, acceptance, and support. Additionally, you should express to him that you sleep with your child because you understand and care for him, not because you don't need him. In fact, you both especially need his company so that he feels understood and needed.

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First, your husband says he no longer feels affection for you and is suffering from aesthetic fatigue. You mentioned sleeping separately from your child recently.

I don't believe the issue between you is solely caused by sleeping apart. While sleeping apart is a contributing factor, it's not the primary cause. I believe the root cause is a long-term, more comprehensive issue. For instance, you mentioned that he was the primary initiator in the past.

Second, I don't know how old your child is, but when they're young, you can spend time with them. As they grow older, you need to pay attention to this issue.

If not handled properly, it will affect both the physical and mental growth of the child and the relationship with her husband. If the child is a boy, it is crucial to prevent the formation of an overly close mother-child attachment and to pay attention to the relationship with her husband as soon as possible.

Third, after spending a long time together, there will inevitably be a period of time where things will change. You must communicate in a timely manner, understand each other, and change the current state of your life. You cannot put things off any longer, because if you do, the problem will only become more serious over time.

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