At some point, you can't help but think about how good your ex-boyfriend was and you just can't let go?

Hello, my dear. I can see that you are troubled. At some point, you will always inadvertently think of the good things about your ex-boyfriend. I know you want to get back together with him, but he doesn't want to. I know you want to give up, but you can't. I understand how you feel, sweetheart.

It's been a while since you and your ex broke up, and I can see that you still have strong feelings for him. He treated you really well, and it's understandable that you sometimes find yourself thinking about the past. When you feel bad, you might even run to him to beg for a reconciliation. He's been quite firm in refusing, but I know it's hard to let go.

The wonderful psychologist Bing Qianli once said that there are usually three reasons why you cannot leave an entangled relationship:

1. The other person has a bit of you in them, which can make things feel familiar.

2. The other person has qualities you'd like to develop in yourself.

3. The other person has some great things about them, as well as a few not-so-great things.

I think it would really help you to write down the moments when you can't help but think about finding him. Do you think there are any commonalities in these moments? Are they moments when you feel lonely, helpless, frustrated, and insecure?

When you're feeling good and stable, it's a good idea to think about whether you really need this man or the sense of security and support he once gave you. If you stay with him, can your love really be happy?

I can see that your boyfriend is very rational, which is great for you! He knows that your relationship can't continue, and I hope that you can also take care of yourself like he does. You can love and respect yourself as an individual and find the security of being alone.

✍️Love is an intimate relationship between two people. First of all, you need to have the ability to create happiness in order to possibly meet someone else who can make you happy. It's important to remember that your happiness shouldn't be dependent on anyone else. True love is about finding happiness within yourself and sharing it with others.

I really think you should read the psychologist Wu Zhihong's book, "Why Love Hurts." It'll help you find yourself in love!

I really hope you can get over your troubles soon! I wish you all the best.

Hello!

Thank you for your question! It seems like you're asking how you can be like this. It's been a long time since we broke up, but I just can't forget. Even though the other person has always rejected me, I just can't give up.

Words are full of self-blame, complaints, and the desire to try again.

I don't know how you and your ex broke up, but it wasn't tragic. You still have good memories.

You want to get back together and salvage the relationship because of his kindness.

The other person's attitude disappointed you, but you could see that they had clear boundaries. If you meet someone open to everyone, ambiguous, and involved in complicated relationships, that's what hurts.

Next, we need to deal with our own issues.

Many people regret things. Sometimes things could have ended well, but they didn't.

People want to find a good outcome and complete unfinished business.

Breaking up is a loss. We end a bad relationship and remember the good times. For people who were truly committed,

Not all memories are painful. They are like donuts in glass shards.

Donuts aren't courage. They're courage to decide and face the past.

Remembering the past and saying goodbye to it is a mourning process.

Not going through this is like holding back tears, which will eventually hurt you.

Know your limits.

We can praise the other person, but that doesn't mean we should stay friends. There are practical reasons why you can't be together.

The past will pass. We need to let go of it to start a new life. It doesn't matter how you remember it, as long as you don't hurt anyone.

When we express our feelings, we can feel sad or reminisce. Then, we can release our emotions and say goodbye to the past.

Saying goodbye is for a better start.

Your path is about the past and the future. The best strategy is to return to the present and take care of your heart.

Hope this helps! Best wishes!

Good morning,

I empathize with your difficult feelings of loss following the breakup.

It has been a considerable period of time since you terminated your relationship with your former partner. He was a highly agreeable individual.

It is only natural to find yourself reflecting on the past.

On occasion, you may experience a sudden decline in your emotional state to the extent that you feel compelled to seek a reconciliation with your former partner.

It is inevitable that we will encounter numerous individuals throughout our lives, and that we will pass by many others.

It is important to understand that separation is a common occurrence in life. When you accept this fact,

You will eventually come to accept your former partner's decision to end the relationship. This is a common and natural process.

However, he was unwavering in his refusal.

However, he was quite firm in his refusal.

However, I remain undecided.

Please advise on the best course of action.

Is this truly unfeasible?

The specific reason for the dissolution of the relationship is unclear. In some cases, the relationship can be salvaged.

For instance, disagreements may arise due to temporary emotional instability, misunderstandings, or the need for adjustment.

Disagreements and conflicts often arise from differences in personality and thought processes.

It is advisable for the two parties to take some time to calm down and maintain a certain distance from each other.

First, ensure you are performing your current tasks to the best of your abilities and maintain your independence in spirit. This will ensure you have the energy to support others.

It is important to consider each other's strengths, accept each other's shortcomings, demonstrate care and warmth towards the other person, and embrace each other.

Some separations are irreparable and fatal.

If issues of principle, such as cheating, deception, or debt, are addressed, the consequences may be irreparable.

Furthermore, there are patterns of interaction that result in negative feelings for one or both parties.

For instance, some individuals persist in exploiting the other party's vulnerabilities.

If the other party ceases to express anger and instead remains silent, it indicates that they have ceased to hope for a resolution.

Regardless of the outcome of the separation, if you attempted to salvage the relationship, that is a positive action.

In the event that the relationship cannot be salvaged, it is important to accept the situation and avoid self-inflicted distress.

It is possible that this person is not the optimal choice for you.

When circumstances align in a way that aligns with a higher power, one cannot force the situation to change.

Regardless of one's efforts, the inevitable conclusion of a situation will occur at the appointed time.

Ultimately, everything is at the discretion of fate, not of any individual.

I hope the host can recover from this unfortunate situation as soon as possible.

I extend my warmest regards to you, June, and to the world at large.

Hello, young lady. From your description, I feel that you are sad and heartbroken. Losing someone and a relationship are both difficult to accept. It is normal to miss the warmth and not want to accept the facts.

You say you can't forget how good he was to you? Is there anything else you can't forget?

There are probably several reasons why you find it difficult to accept this. Face the change and you will feel better.

First, calm down.

Talk to a friend or someone close to you. You need to talk about your feelings. You can talk to yourself, write them down, or talk to someone close to you or a professional.

You need to calm down. Look inside yourself, understand why you are sad, and get to know your needs. You will feel better after you have received some reassurance and support.

Is it possible that you just can't forget how good he was to you? You might need this kind of good, this feeling of being loved.

Do you not get enough care from others, or did your parents not show you enough love when you were young? Think about what your past partners did for you.

Can you meet these needs yourself? Do you show concern and help with things?

You need to learn to take care of yourself so you can be less dependent on others.

Third, end the bad relationship, enjoy the good times, live life to the fullest, get to know yourself better, and love yourself more.

If the relationship can't continue, let it go. It's good that you had a nice time together, and you can remember it as you move on. There are still many things waiting for you.

Life is long. There's more to life than love. Talk to friends. Friends distract you and help you become less dependent on others.

Do something interesting, take up more hobbies, and go after what you want. This will make you feel better and less dependent on love.

Fourth, you can learn more about relationships to prepare for your next relationship.

You can watch movies and TV shows, and there are also books and courses that teach you how to improve yourself and manage your relationships. Find out what kind of relationship you need, how to meet the right person, and how to make love healthier.

Feelings happen naturally, but we also need to be rational to control ourselves and allow our feelings to develop in a positive way. I know of a series of books by Yu Shuhei and Cong Fei.

I hope this helps. Stay calm and believe you can face the situation. Best wishes.