Before going to bed at night, do you always feel an extreme longing to be loved and cared for?

Dear questioner, I'm so excited to answer your question!

After reading your question, I really want to give the little child in your heart a big hug!

It's totally normal for both adults and kids to crave love and care. It's like when you're thirsty and want to drink water, or hungry and want to eat.

Eating and drinking are essential for our bodies, and being loved is vital for our minds. Both are fundamental human needs that deserve our full attention. So, how can we nurture the inner child within us and help it to flourish?

I truly believe that the reason why an inner child is unable to grow up is often because he is stuck in the past due to past experiences and old patterns.

For example, someone who had a difficult childhood could have an amazing, comfortable life as an adult! Someone who was often rejected as a child would still feel valuable as an adult, even if they were very talented.

People who have experienced abandonment as children will feel insecure in any relationship, no matter how stable. But there's hope! Rearing yourself is a process of identifying old patterns and unlearning them.

My teacher once had a visitor who suffered from binge eating. She was very small but could eat a lot in one day! She felt remorseful after eating and had to go to the bathroom to induce vomiting. She hated herself for being so unrestrained, but she was still a great person!

With the counselor's understanding, it turned out that she had been a chubby girl since she was young. People around her often called her "chubby girl," which made her very unhappy. But even so, she was excited for the changes that were about to come! When she entered junior high school, many girls around her began to develop, but the baby fat on her face never faded. At that time, it was just the beginning of puberty, and girls' minds began to become more delicate and sensitive, and they also cared more about their appearance. The nickname her classmates gave her pierced her fragile heart like a needle, but it also made her feel special!

Over the past 20 years, she has been on a mission to get rid of the fat comment! She's tried dieting, exercising, and even diet pills. She's always looking for a way to have a slim figure, hoping to be liked and affirmed by those around her. She's worked hard to become slim as an adult and has received the recognition she wants. But there's still a part of her that's trapped in her childhood. She's convinced that as long as her figure is not perfect, even if she only gains two pounds, she will definitely fall back into the nightmare of being associated with fat, of being ridiculed, disliked, and rejected. This is a disastrous consequence for the weak child inside. But she's ready to break free from this old pattern!

Once you realize this old pattern exists and how it formed, you're already on your way to breaking free! From an adult perspective, she realizes this pattern isn't logical and is even a bit ridiculous. But it's this illogical logic that has trapped her and even made her do things that harm herself, such as overeating and inducing vomiting. This doesn't mean she's useless as an adult or that her inner child is too naive to grow up. There's more to it than that! Behind the old pattern are her repeated experiences of being hurt and emotions that have not been properly soothed. These emotional pulls are strong, which is why she keeps going back to it again and again.

The teacher doesn't know about your childhood experiences, so I've used this example just to give you a reference. Maybe when you were a child, your parents were too busy working to take good care of you and show you love. This means you were actually lacking love as a child, which is totally fixable!

Take a moment to think back to your childhood. Do you think you had similar experiences? If so, you're on the right track! Now, become aware of your old patterns.

The second step to untie yourself is to become aware of the emotions you feel when you are trapped. When the past is denied and memories that are disliked begin to surface, don't repress or deny these emotions, but allow them to exist and let them flow out. This is an exciting step because it allows you to feel your emotions fully and then release them. As you do this, you will gradually reduce the confrontation with old patterns, feel less pain and more peace, and have more strength to untie yourself.

Unbinding yourself Step 3: I suggest taking a step back from the old pattern and observing the real world with curiosity. Every time you notice something in the real world that is different from the old pattern, you can record it specifically. What is the difference between what is actually happening and what he is worried about? How does his mood change? Such records will help you accumulate new experiences little by little and gradually help you loosen the ropes of the old pattern.

Of course, in the process of untangling ourselves, the old patterns will always flash back from time to time, taking over our minds in an instant. After all, we know him too well. And it's okay to allow him to exist! But try telling him, "I hear you, but your worries are just imagination, not facts!"

In this step-by-step repetition, the old patterns that bound us will gradually loosen, and our inner child will slowly gain the space to breathe freely and grow!

To sum up, if we want to raise ourselves again and let our inner child grow up, we need to become aware of old patterns, reassure the fear behind them, and then be brave enough to jump out of the trap of old patterns. And we can do it!

The famous psychological counselor, Li Songwei, once said, "Growing up is countless leaps—and they're a blast!"

For the wounded inner child, a leap is terrifying, and there is a high risk of injury. But as adults, we can practice, experience, and accumulate enough new experiences to confidently tell that child inside us, "Don't be afraid, you can land safely even after a leap!" And we can do it!

I give you a big hug from afar and think back to when I was a kid, being held in my mom's warm embrace.

Our human routine, returning to nature, is like the sun rising in the east and setting in the west. In the morning, the sun is red and rises slowly, full of vitality. By noon, the sun's rays are dazzling and the heat reaches a peak. At dusk, the sun sets in the west, leaving only some afterglow, and then it enters the quiet night. After the sun sets, we always feel that the energy in our bodies is gradually decreasing. So for people who have been active all day, by nightfall, their energy has been used up. In this energy low, they often feel their own powerlessness and insignificance, and long to be taken care of like a child, to be loved. This feeling is common to everyone.

As you mentioned, we all have an inner child. How can we connect with this part of ourselves, encourage her to be courageous and resilient, and keep up with the pace of life as we grow older? Here are a few things to consider.

1. Accept your inner child, let her exist, and when she comes out, try to comfort her. Tell her you're tired, give her a warm hug, and let her know you'll always be there for her. This will help her feel at ease and relax.

2. Try not to stay up late. Stick to your natural sleep schedule, go to bed early, and get up early. It's best to go to bed before 10 pm, so you can get a full night's rest and feel more energized the next day. When you maintain a relatively full energy level, your inner strength will be stronger.

3. I don't know how old you are, but after dinner, you can exercise appropriately. During exercise, your body uses more oxygen and energy, which makes your brain release more dopamine. This makes you feel happy and increases your happiness.

4. Reading and learning can help you improve your own thinking skills and bring out the inner child in you.

I hope these tips are helpful for you.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm a modest and self-effacing person, and I try to be consistent.

♥ We long for love because we need love.

When it gets late at night and quiet, we feel a strong sense of loneliness. It seems that the silence of the night amplifies loneliness, making us long for someone to talk to, someone to keep us company, not to be alone all the time. Just as the poet Li Bai said in his verse, "Raise your cup to invite the bright moon, and together we will drink and become three."

This feeling of loneliness comes up in different ways in our lives. That's why it's important to understand ourselves. When we realize we need love, we should accept it. There's no shortage of love around us, but we perceive it in different ways, which leads to different results.

Love is really two things: being able to feel the love of others and being able to give love. As we said before, when it gets dark, we long to be loved. This shows that we need to strengthen our ability to feel love. We need to be able to feel the love from those around us, and of course distinguish between the love we need, friendship, or family affection.

♥Let your inner child flourish.

It's important to let your inner child come out and express its needs. This helps us nurture our inner child. The best way to do this is to accept your child-like needs in your daily life. You might have a lot of considerations when expressing and accepting love, so just put these considerations aside for now.

❀Things only have an outcome after they've been done, and the same goes for relationships. If we want to be loved, we should accept love and be brave enough to give love. This is the only way we can give love back better. When night falls, whether we're surrounded by friends, family, or loved ones, our sense of loneliness will be greatly reduced. We must recognize love and give love.

❀Loving yourself is the start of it all, and loving others is the start of all interactions. Take a walk and you'll see that many roads aren't what you imagined and they're actually pretty easy. Take a walk and you'll see that feeling satisfied inside and feeling needed when you give love is feeling loved. Take a walk and you'll see that your inner child is becoming more and more real and you're becoming happier and happier.

Best regards,

Hello!

It's totally natural to want to be loved. You just used a natural way of expressing it to get people to pay attention to what you want.

It's great that you're sharing your feelings about wanting to be loved. It's a natural desire, and it's encouraging to know you're not alone in feeling this way. However, it seems like you might be putting yourself down a bit by saying you're like a child. It's okay to feel this way, but it's also important to recognize that you have the power to motivate yourself in a positive way. Instead of letting your inner child grow up, try to embrace it and use it as a source of inspiration. It's understandable that you might feel a bit confused or overwhelmed. It's natural to feel like you're being pulled in different directions and making compromises with reality. But remember, you're not alone in this journey. There's nothing wrong with feeling this way, and there are ways you can work through it.

You want to give yourself a clear sense of self, and I totally get that!

So let's try to give ourselves some quality self-awareness – self-awareness that doesn't involve any self-negation.

Don't worry too much! If you've been missing that warm companionship on your journey through life, you'll find it when you love yourself.

The reason for your longing to be loved may be something you discovered and gained while studying psychology.

It's okay if you feel a little weak inside because you didn't get enough support during your formative years. You may also have been overcontrolled, which means you were told to repress your feelings when doing anything.

Because you're human, you need the energy to grow. At some point, you'll wake up and feel: I should live a good life for myself!

2. A childlike heart. It's so lovely when you find a sincere person who has one of these!

The Kite Runner sounds like a lovely story about healing childhood trauma.

We all want to be recognized as individuals, and it's natural to still have a childlike side.

We all want to be praised and to laugh happily!

So, it's important to let go of the idea that "I'm like a child." When we do that, we free up brain space for learning. And, in our relationships, we might even be told that we're "daydreaming." But, that's okay! Our hearts just need to speak up sometimes.

It's so important to accept your inner self and embrace growth. No matter what paths you've walked, they're all experiences in life.

3. I choose, and I'm happy!

Maturity is one of those wonderful things that we see mentioned in educational psychology textbooks as a sign of psychological health.

But if we look at it from the perspective of developmental psychology, we'll see that everyone has their own rhythm, and there are no limits to lifelong learning!

It's so interesting to see how even in the field of psychology, when we come into contact with different theories and books, we are also driven to engage in different kinds of reflection.

So when there's a bit of a tussle going on inside, we can take our time to choose the theory that feels right for us, based on how we're feeling, and really get to know it. Make sure you give nature a big hug in your life – plants, flowers, sunshine, rain, wind and thunder, and yourself!

I hope this letter finds you well! I just wanted to reach out and communicate with you. It seems like allowing your inner child to grow is something you're interested in, which is great!

But what really needs to be resolved is an imbalance in personal value judgments after listening to outside voices for many years.

Why not say something lovely to yourself before you go to sleep? Something like, "Good night, I love you."

And then, in the morning, say to yourself, "Good morning, I love you."

The question is well-formulated and the description is comprehensive. However, if I were to state that I desire love and care, it is evident that this is a sentiment that persists throughout the day.

It's simply that when one is occupied with other matters, the issue is temporarily set aside. Similarly, when one encounters an individual who displays affection and care, feelings of envy and jealousy may arise, leading to an intensified desire for such a relationship.

If you would like me to comment further, I would suggest that the period before bedtime is actually a relatively relaxed time when you have no other commitments that occupy your mind.

Furthermore, this extends to emotions, feelings, desires, and so forth.

It is not accurate to say that you have it at night.

However, this is something you have always had. You simply observed your emotions and identified your desires before the onset of nighttime.

It is beneficial to be able to identify one's own needs.

At the very least, you can accurately discern your feelings, thoughts, needs, desires, and even wants, and then work assiduously to fulfill them all. For example, the initial step is to inquire as to how to obtain it.

However, providing a definitive answer to this question is challenging.

As the description indicates, the desire for love and care is a passive one.

It is therefore evident that decisions are made by others, and that others are the decision-makers. To a certain extent, it is not possible to simply obtain what you want just by being conscious of your own desires.

It is important to note that the ability to receive love and care is not necessarily contingent on external factors. However, if the desire for such love and care is directed towards a specific individual and there is uncertainty about the likelihood of obtaining satisfaction, it cannot be guaranteed. This applies to various forms of love and care, including that provided by parents, relatives, friends, or even the love of a partner in a relationship.

The most straightforward method for receiving love and care is to provide it to yourself. Prioritize self-love and self-care.

This can be obtained directly and fulfilled in the desired manner.

Regarding other individuals, it is recommended that you indicate your need for physical affection or assistance in a subtle manner, or alternatively, make your request directly and explicitly. This could be expressed as a simple request for a hug or other form of physical contact, or a more specific request for assistance with a task.

I cannot guarantee that you will receive the desired response or that the other party will comply with your requests. However, communicating your needs to them will ensure that they are aware of them.

Instead, you desire this outcome so strongly, but the other party is unaware or unable to demonstrate the desired level of care and consideration.

It is analogous to a situation where children are raised by parents who prioritize financial and material concerns, yet the child may simply desire more time with their parents.

I recommend that you state clearly that your needs are known to the other person and that you have expressed them. This will ensure that you have no regrets and that you are aware of the other person's limitations.

If it is not feasible to obtain the desired level of love and care from one individual, it may be beneficial to explore other options. Additionally, once your needs have been clearly articulated, you may receive a comprehensive explanation and clarification.

Even if your initial request is not fulfilled, it is important to recognize that you are still valued and cared for. Accepting reality is essential for moving forward.

The final question posed in the title is how one might facilitate the maturation of the inner child.

It is important to face reality, accept the consequences, and be true to yourself.

It is important to be aware that not all of your desires can be fulfilled. If you are unable to obtain what you want, it is crucial to develop a plan to address this. One option is to explore whether there are alternatives that could meet your needs.

For instance, if you are experiencing feelings of loneliness before bedtime and a longing for affection and care, and despite your best efforts, you have not yet achieved the desired outcome, and you have a certain level of financial resources at your disposal,

Purchase a quality set of bedding, including a comfortable bed, a duvet cover, and pillows. Additionally, consider acquiring a doll that provides a sense of warmth and comfort, ensuring that the material is hypoallergenic.

When retiring for the night, the objective is to achieve a state of comfort, warmth, and optimal temperature (in light of the necessity for air conditioning in warmer conditions).

In addition, it is recommended to invest in comfortable pajamas and other necessary items.

It is important to take care of your body and allow all your senses to experience joy and satisfaction. This does not exclude the external environment, such as lighting, aromatherapy, and soft music.

When the body is satisfied, the mind will also perceive a certain level of love and care from the external environment.

This is also the most beneficial way to care for yourself.

The above information is provided for your reference and may be of benefit.

Good morning,

Host:

My name is Zeng Chen, and I am a heart exploration coach. I have carefully read the post and can discern your confusion from the content. At the same time, I have also noticed your keen awareness and your courage to express your distress and actively seek help on the platform. This will undoubtedly help you to better understand and know yourself, so that you can adjust yourself and make up for your missing psychological nutrition.

Next, I will share my observations and thoughts in the post, which may assist you in viewing yourself from a more diverse perspective.

1. Identify the underlying reasons for the strong desire to be loved and cared for.

In the aforementioned post, the author notes that the individual in question experiences a profound longing for love and care, akin to that of a child, each night before bed. This information suggests a pervasive inner deficiency.

We can then proceed to explore the reasons behind this feeling of deprivation. From a psychological perspective, it can be said that unmet needs from childhood tend to persist into adulthood.

Host, can you please review whether your desire to be loved and cared for is related to the possibility that your psychological needs were not met when you were a child? At this time, we can review the way you were raised as a child and whether there was a lack of emotional interaction and care.

This may assist us in better understanding and recognizing ourselves. Please examine the reasons behind your current persona.

2. Reinvest in yourself.

Once the need for love and care has been identified as a result of a lack of psychological nourishment during childhood, the next step is to address this deficit. How can this be achieved?

I believe you may be familiar with the concept of self-love. It is possible to attempt to love and nurture oneself anew.

As adults, we have the capacity to care for and nurture ourselves. We no longer seek the love and attention that our parents provided.

If they had possessed such abilities, they would have likely provided sufficient satisfaction during our formative years. Our parents are also ordinary individuals who lived in an era when they lacked material and spiritual resources to a greater extent than we do.

It is therefore possible that they will be unable to do much.

It is important to remember, however, that we can also raise ourselves. How?

It is likely that everyone has considered what their "ideal parents" would be like. We may have contemplated what our ideal parents would do to us.

As a result, we may attempt to act as our own parents, treating ourselves in a manner consistent with our "ideal parents." This approach may facilitate the gradual maturation of our inner child.

3. Form a beneficial relationship.

All individuals have needs, and there are three ways to satisfy them: one is to request that another person satisfy them, another is to find someone else to satisfy them, and the third is to satisfy them oneself.

It is also important to satisfy your own needs by caring for yourself. Then, you can also try to find a good relationship.

A nourishing and healing relationship is one that provides the necessary support and care to facilitate personal growth and well-being.

In this relationship, individuals are able to express themselves authentically and demonstrate their true selves. They feel accepted, even for their less favorable characteristics. This kind of relationship has a positive impact on the individual's well-being.

It is also important to recognize that no individual can meet all of our needs. When others are unable to meet our needs, it is crucial to remember that we can still meet our own needs. This requires learning to satisfy ourselves gradually.

In this manner, even when others are unable to meet our needs, we can still meet our own needs.

It is important to allow time and space for your inner child to grow and develop. If you are interested in learning more, you can explore some psychology at this time, which may help you better understand and support your inner child.

I hope these ideas will be of some help and inspiration to you. If you have any questions, you can also click to find a coach for a deeper exploration.

Thank you for your inquiry. I have a comprehensive understanding of the subject matter. Based on your question, I perceive you to be a child who desires love, care, and attention.

Indeed, the desire for love, care, and assistance is a universal human need that persists throughout our lives, even as we mature.

Therefore, when one desires care and attention from another, it is advisable to consider whether one can first demonstrate care, love, and concern for others. This approach may facilitate the formation of a stable friendship and encourage those in one's life to provide care and support.

The desire for love is a universal human aspiration. However, as we mature, we often come to recognize that

The concept of love is inherently conditional. The notion of unconditional love is becoming increasingly rare.

Despite the unconditional love that parents offer their children, many still feel a lack of love and care from their parents. This suggests that the child's early experiences may have resulted in a need for greater security, love, and care.

Therefore, I offer you a hug. You have invested a great deal of effort over the years, yet you feel overlooked and disregarded.

Consequently, it is not sufficient to merely aspire towards being loved and cared for by others; rather, one must actively demonstrate love, care, understanding, and care for others in order to gain the affection and support of others.

The premise of adulthood is that love is reciprocal: if we love others, they will love us in return.

Therefore, if one is constantly seeking love, care, and concern, one may experience feelings of loneliness and helplessness, leading to an increased longing for love and care. It is, therefore, essential to actively adjust one's mindset and transform thoughts into actions. What are these actions?

The act of giving love is a means of receiving it in return. However, the process of giving love is not without its challenges, as it requires a significant investment of time and energy, as well as the discernment of numerous individuals.

This necessitates a process, a journey of the heart, and a process of accumulating experience. When one begins to give love, one has already initiated the process of receiving love.

In lieu of desiring love on a daily basis, it is more prudent to proactively express love and then await the reciprocation. Thoughts must be transformed into actions. If we merely contemplate the situation, it will persist as an abstract concept. Only actions can facilitate change and only actions can achieve our desired outcomes.

Concurrently, it is also possible to love oneself. Prior to loving others, one must first love oneself. It is essential to treat oneself with kindness and respect, to prioritize one's own needs and desires, and to take steps to improve one's own well-being. Otherwise, if one's sole focus is on seeking and expecting unconditional love from others, it can lead to feelings of inadequacy and disappointment.

Consequently, when individuals invest in self-love and subsequently extend some of their resources to those around them, they will receive the love, care, and attention they desire. It is therefore imperative to prioritize self-love.

When an individual cultivates self-love, they may observe a shift in the way others interact with them. One potential reason for seeking external validation is that the individual in question may not have fully embraced self-love, which can result in a lack of self-worth and a diminished capacity to love others.

When individuals cultivate self-love, their hearts are imbued with love, and they radiate love, they attract the presence and arrival of people who love them, thereby enhancing their lives.

In conclusion, the first step is to cultivate self-love, filling oneself with positive emotions and sharing that love with others. The second step is to extend some of that positive energy to those around us, allowing us to receive love and support from others and contribute to a world filled with love.

The purpose of this discourse is to convey my affection and support. I am concerned about your well-being, and it is my hope that you will continue to improve. It is my aspiration that you will become more resolute and stable, at peace and joyful, imbued with benevolent energy, and capable of reciprocating love.

The world and I extend our love to you.

Good day, question asker.

It may be helpful to consider that the period before falling asleep is when our subconscious mind is particularly active. This is also a time when our inner feelings may be most clear and specific, and when we may be particularly aware of what we desire.

Many people feel a longing to be loved and cared for before falling asleep. This raises an interesting question: what is your previous experience in this regard?

Have you had the experience of love and care? Or have your previous experiences been more about a lack of love and care?

Could it be that you don't get it, and therefore want it especially?

It is often said that everything that happens in the outside world originates from within. With this in mind, it might be helpful to ask yourself whether you have loved and cared for yourself well.

Perhaps you could consider ways of making yourself feel happy, joyful, relaxed, and loved. One option might be to cook a nice meal for yourself, go on a trip somewhere, go to a concert, or take a nice selfie.

You might consider, for instance, standing in front of the mirror and looking at yourself. You could say something like, "Wow, my skin is so fine and soft, smooth and white, I love it," or "Wow, my hair is so soft, so shiny, so silky, it's really beautiful."

It may be helpful to praise yourself like this every day, do things that make you happy, and be grateful for everything you already have, even the sun, air, and water. When your heart is full of love, it may be beneficial for your inner child to receive the love and care they crave.

I hope this helps. I wish your world was full of love and beauty. I am Chen Jia, and I send you my love.

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From what the poster says, it's clear that they feel the need to be loved and cared for with a bit of jealousy in their heart before going to bed. But when they're faced with this need, they're a little unsure of how to deal with it.

I hope you find this sharing helpful and inspiring.

I hope you find this sharing helpful and inspiring.

1. Think about yourself. What do you think about before you go to sleep at night?

The heart is full of longing, longing to be loved and cared for, like a child.

This sentence is full of the deep feelings and needs of the questioner's heart. And while this longing rises, something very important that our brain ignores is happening simultaneously: our thoughts.

One way to handle this is to first understand your own thoughts.

There are certain thoughts that can affect how the questioner can sleep peacefully before going to bed. It's often the strong desire that affects the questioner's state before going to bed.

These thoughts might be the key to getting into this state.

Some common thoughts are:

I don't have anyone to turn to.

My life just isn't satisfying.

I feel like I'm being neglected.

...

Thoughts that come up from these interactions with others can sometimes make you feel pretty down and out. And people are always looking for love and security.

This is one of the basic needs of human beings.

2. Look at how close the content of the association is to the facts.

If we believe our thoughts are facts, we'll feel deprived and lacking. Our desire for love and care will grow stronger.

So, one thing we can try is to think about how close these thoughts are to the truth from a more multidimensional perspective.

The comment doesn't mention any of the questioner's thoughts that trigger the above emotions, so it's not possible to give specific examples that are relevant to the questioner's actual situation. The above first part of the thought is used as a starting point to prompt the questioner to consider it in the context of their own situation.

If I understand the question correctly, it's about feeling unloved.

Then, you can think about it from the following points:

1. How much do you think you are unloved? On a scale of 0-100, where would you rate yourself?

If it's 60 points or above, it's probably the idea that's affecting you and making you feel a strong desire all the time. If it's 60 points or below, then this idea has some influence, but it might not be the part of the idea that particularly affects you, so you can dig deeper to understand it.

2. What evidence backs up the idea that you're unloved, and what evidence doesn't?

This part is about taking a good look at how you see yourself.

As a general rule, it's easier to find evidence to back up a claim than to find evidence against it. If you're struggling to find evidence against your claim, you can also ask your friends and family to think together to find more evidence against it.

3. Are there any other explanations for the evidence of not being loved that you've defined?

When we focus on the fact that we're unloved, we tend to believe it. But when we have more explanations, we understand being unloved better, and we can satisfy that part of us that's thirsty.

3. It's important to recognize when you've had this need since childhood. When deeper inner wounds are touched, professional and systematic psychological treatment/consultation services may be needed.

If some self-help methods don't work, it might be time to think about whether we can heal ourselves.

Some everyday illnesses can be overcome by your own resistance, but others require a doctor's diagnosis and treatment, and in severe cases even hospitalization. The same goes for psychological distress.

So the questioner can decide which approach is best for them based on their own situation.

I hope this sharing is helpful for you.

I'm a psychotherapist, not a human behaviorist. I just care about your heart. Best of luck to you.

Good day, dear questioner!

My name is Yi Ming, and I work as a heart exploration coach.

I have taken the time to read your question carefully and would be delighted to have a conversation with you about it.

I admire your ability to perceive your own needs without repression and to actively seek ways to face them. Well done!

I believe this is actually the most important step.

1. Take some time to get to know the child inside us.

I'm not sure how old you are.

Some people have suggested that there may be three roles within us at the same time: the inner adult, the inner child, and the inner parent.

During the day, we are typically able to cope with a variety of situations with relative ease. However, at night, we may find ourselves reverting to a more childlike state, seeking love and care.

It is possible that many people may have had a similar experience.

Adulthood can be quite demanding at times.

It's reminiscent of a video of a large, white doll dressed in a costume that offers hugs to passersby.

He always inquires about the day's events.

One of the girls replied, "No."

Big White offered her a gentle hug and a pat on the back.

The girl was visibly upset.

This video also evoked a strong emotional response in many people.

It is worth noting that many people experience moments when they crave care, affection, and love.

Perhaps it's not necessary to be strong all the time.

Perhaps it could be said that seeing the longing in our hearts is akin to wanting to go back to our mother, who loves us and comforts us.

It might also be helpful to consider ways of comforting the child within us.

2. It may be helpful to recognize our desires.

It may be the case that we feel the need to be loved because we feel that we have been wronged or because we feel that our parents did not love us enough when we were younger.

It may be helpful to assume that there is enough love in our hearts, whether it is the love given by family members, friends, or our love for ourselves. When we do so, our hearts are full.

Even if the people who love us are not around, we can find comfort in the knowledge that love will always be there.

It is important to remember that love does not disappear.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you felt a lack of love during your upbringing and whether you ever felt fully accepted.

I believe that each of our desires deserves to be taken seriously.

3. Consider allowing the child in your heart to grow up.

It might be said that every adult has a child inside.

If we can take the time to reflect on our own growth experiences and daily lives, we may gradually begin to recognize patterns in our behavior.

You might consider allowing the parent within you to re-nurture your inner child.

For instance, you might gently reassure him that even when those he loves are not around, he is safe and will be taken care of, supported, and helped when he needs it.

You have the option of being your own strongest supporter at any time.

It's never too late to learn to love yourself.

Perhaps it would be helpful to talk to your inner child.

Perhaps you could ask him if he is tired and if he would like to be taken care of.

I wonder if you might have any suggestions for ways I could take better care of myself?

For instance, when you feel tired, it might be helpful to take a rest and do something you enjoy.

If you have a favorite doll or object that you have a lot of feelings for, you might consider keeping it close by, just like having someone who loves you by their side.

You might consider trying to write about anything to help you express your emotions.

You might also consider listening to your favorite music or meditating.

I believe we can all agree that we are all children of this world and this amazing nature, and that we are loved and cared for every moment of every day.

I'm optimistic that you'll gradually discover a method that resonates with you.

If it is of interest to you, you may wish to consider reading "Growing Up Again" and "Healing Your Inner Child".

I wish you the best!

I would like to extend my love and appreciation to the world and to you.