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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, I'm Strawberry.
From what you've said, it seems like you've been in contact with this girl for two months, which is a bit too soon. Recently, she came back to the city where you both live and asked you out. When you first asked her out, you suggested meeting at 5 pm because of the weather, but I didn't see the questioner say that the girl agreed to your invitation. When you called a few times and didn't get a reply, it was pretty clear that the other person wasn't interested.
If this girl doesn't want to go on a date with you, she should at least tell you herself. She might not have feelings for you or she might just think it's not the right time. Being clear about her feelings will also help you think about the relationship better.
As a general rule, people these days never leave their phones alone. So, after not receiving the questioner's phone calls so many times, does the questioner really believe that it is simply because they didn't check their phones and didn't hear them ring?
Is there any way I can win her back? I really like her. Can anyone give me some advice?
1. Get to know the girl through the details.
The questioner has been in contact with the other person for two months, so they know each other pretty well. Do you usually video chat? Does the questioner know what the other person looks like?
Online dating is all about avoiding shame, so if the other person doesn't accept the questioner's invitation, is it because they're not interested in the questioner or because they're not confident in themselves?
Sometimes on the Internet we can satisfy our vanity because the fictionalized version of ourselves will be better than the real one. Instant dating also means that the phenomenon you have previously created may be different from what you imagined, and it will also affect the relationship between the two of you. The reason we can give here is that the other person is not confident in themselves, they are afraid to take the first step, so they use distancing as a way to determine the outcome of your relationship.
If the other person likes you and is confident in the relationship, they'll accept your invitation. Of course, this is only an analysis of possible situations in reality. You know the girl best, so based on your usual interactions with her, you can determine the final outcome of the relationship.
2. Be honest with yourself about what you really want.
Sometimes you get a good feeling about someone because you've spent a lot of time together, and that doesn't necessarily mean you're in love. The questioner said they really like the other person, maybe because everyone around them is in a relationship, or maybe because of age and other issues, they want to find a partner. These external factors sometimes affect our decisions about who we want to be with.
Do you feel like you really like the other person after just two months? Is there anything in particular that makes you feel that way? Did the other person do something that made you feel really attached to her?
The internet can make us think someone is better than they really are. In reality, she might not be as good as the questioner thinks. Think clearly. If she's not as good as you think in reality and there's a big gap between her and your imagination, can you accept that?
3. Give it another shot with some communication.
If you know you like the girl and it's the friendly vibe you're into, not her looks or anything else, you can ask her what she thinks of you. If she also has a good impression of you, you can try to get to know each other better and get closer.
If the other person still responds to you with an indifferent attitude after seeing the questioner's thoughts, it might be time for the questioner to move on. It could be that the other person is trying to make you forget about the relationship by acting this way. If you stop paying attention to them, they'll probably move on faster.
I hope my answer is helpful to the questioner. Best regards.
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Maybe she's going through something personal right now. It might be best to give her some space and time to sort out whatever is on her mind. Let her know you're there for her when she's ready to talk.
It sounds like communication has been a bit rocky between you two. Perhaps setting up a clear, open conversation about your feelings and expectations could help bridge the gap and clarify any misunderstandings.
Sometimes actions speak louder than words. Show her through thoughtful gestures that you care about her wellbeing and are willing to support her, even without verbal communication.
Reflect on what happened and consider if there was anything you could have done differently. Understanding your own role in the situation can sometimes provide insights into how to approach things moving forward.
She may need more time or have other priorities at the moment. Trust that if she values your connection, she will reach out when she can. Patience can be an ally in situations like this.