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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I'll give you a hug from afar first.
Give yourself credit for recognizing your jealousy in this relationship.
It's not really possible to fake loving someone or being nice to them in a relationship, just like you can't fake a cough. You obviously feel that you love your girlfriend more than you loved your ex, but the love you get from her might not match what you give.
So, you think your girlfriend doesn't love you as much as she loved her ex.
To some extent, this reflects your inner lack of confidence. You don't believe you're capable of lasting love in this relationship. You want your girlfriend to reciprocate your love for her.
This is something you need to work through on your own.
It's important to be aware of these things. Do you truly believe you deserve to be loved? Do you love yourself?
Love is about giving willingly. Of course, lasting and harmonious relationships require that the mutual giving in the relationship is roughly balanced. And a relationship itself is a system, in which changes in one part of the system can affect and drive changes in the other part.
So, your girlfriend knows all about what you've done for her. You can't force people to give you back as much as you've given, because it's selfish. Maybe she's already given you something in return, but you didn't notice.
I suggest you read The 5 Love Languages and Intimacy.
Hi, I'm Lily, the little Q&A Pavilion ear. I just wanted to say that I love you, the world, and everything in it.
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I understand your feelings, and it's okay to feel jealous sometimes. It seems like you really care about her a lot. Maybe focusing on building more positive memories together can help ease the discomfort over time. Also, having an open conversation about your feelings might be beneficial without leading to an argument.
It sounds like you're going through a tough time with these feelings of jealousy. Sometimes talking things out with a trusted friend or even a therapist can provide some relief. Remember, healing takes time, and it's important to be patient with yourself as you navigate these emotions.
The strength of your feelings for her is evident, and it's natural that past relationships can stir up complex emotions. Perhaps discussing your insecurities with her in a calm and honest way could bring you both closer. It's all about finding a balance between expressing your feelings and not letting them overshadow your relationship.
Jealousy can be such a powerful emotion, especially when it comes to someone we deeply care about. It might help to focus on what makes your current relationship unique and special. Reflecting on why this relationship feels different and stronger could also give you insight into managing those uncomfortable thoughts and feelings.