Do I always measure how much my partner loves me by how much I can annoy or challenge his bottom line?

Hello, I am Ying Wang, a psychological counselor.

Your description mirrors my own experience. I didn't have your wisdom or realize this problem until my early 20s. Seeing is healing. I will free myself from my current patterns and find happiness and joy in future intimate relationships.

I need to understand why I have this kind of mentality.

You are in an extremely insecure relationship. Your boyfriend's actions always provoke old wounds, making you feel unloved and abandoned. These feelings stem from your childhood experiences. Everyone has different experiences. Some people were locked outside the door when their parents lost their temper, while others received little attention from their parents because they were busy at work. I was two years old when my parents divorced and I left my mother. Recall what experiences you had as a child that made you feel unloved and abandoned. If you can remember at the conscious level, do so.

Some people can't imagine such an experience, but it's real. This requires you to practice looking back at yourself and connecting with yourself. Every day, spend half an hour just being still, not checking your phone or doing anything else. Sit down and look inward, looking back at your own heart.

When your boyfriend stirs up your old wounds and makes you experience the feeling of being unloved and abandoned again, it triggers your automatic defense mechanism. Everyone's pattern is different. Some will escape and hide, while others will attack. You attack. I attack. We attack. We all attack. We all regress to the state of a child when we are attacked. We don't use reason to face and solve it. We don't use reason to escape and hide. We don't use reason to attack. We use our automatic defense mechanism.

This feeling makes us suffer terribly, and we feel extra fear and panic, which is why we overreact. The reason is simple: you don't know how to express your needs, and you only use such intense ways to attract the other person's attention as a way to prove that you are loved.

I need to know how to suppress my emotions and become more rational.

Knowing where emotions come from is the key to solving the problem. When your boyfriend's behavior makes you feel this way again, you must tell yourself, "I feel unloved and abandoned, and it's entirely because my boyfriend triggered my old wounds. It has nothing to do with his behavior. It's my problem, and I need to take responsibility for it. Then go with your feelings and emotions, without resisting or denying them. Accept them and comfort your inner child, telling it that you are worthy of love and that you are safe.

At first, you may think that staying with the pain will make it worse. But you're wrong. It will make you feel even more pain than attacking your boyfriend. So just let the pain eat away at you. See what it can do to you.

It can't do anything to you. Choose to face it, accept it, and soothe it. You will go through this pain and gain inner peace. Your inner strength will be found again, and your relationship with your boyfriend will change in a wonderful way. You will experience joy and happiness.

I will get along better without this perverted method of confirming his love.

Once you've resolved the previous problem, this one will cease to exist. When you've healed old wounds, learned to be in the moment with your emotions, taken responsibility for your emotions, and found your inner strength, you'll become more confident and independent in this relationship. You'll no longer need to prove to others whether they love you, nor will you need to seek love from the outside, because you can love yourself well.

You can do this. It feels wonderful. Blessings to you.

Give the original poster a hug! I can feel the original poster's distress. These behaviors don't help emotional development. It's understandable that you want to change. This shows how important this relationship is to you. I admire the original poster for being able to change.

From a psychological perspective, the behavior can be seen as a test of self. The test becomes more intense as feelings grow. The distance between the two people becomes closer, the relationship becomes more intimate, and the test appears and changes. The subconscious self is an instinctive defense against unease in an intimate relationship. The self wants to stimulate the other through such behavior and gain what it wants through the other's reaction.

The questioner can try to understand what these behaviors mean to them.

Once you understand these behaviors and what you want, accept them. Accept your true self and that you'll test others. Don't do it, even if it hurts.

To change your behavior, talk to your boyfriend after work on your phone. Tell him how you feel. For example, "I'm scared of xxxx." Tell him what you're thinking and feeling. This way, he'll understand you better. He'll be more comfortable with you and won't be angry.

I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

After reading your description carefully, I realized that when I was at your age, I was also in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend (now husband). Just like you, I would use various methods to annoy him, and then I could feel his love and confirm his love only after he constantly expressed his love and care for me after losing his temper. I can understand that this feeling is very uncomfortable, not only for you, but also for him.

I hope I'm understanding you correctly.

So, how might you go about making some changes and adjustments? Let's take a look at your questions one by one.

Could I ask why this mentality arises?

This is mainly related to our growth experiences. You may find it helpful to look back on your growth experiences and consider why you feel insecure in relationships. When you were little, for instance, did your parents provide you with enough security?

Perhaps you had to annoy your parents before you could be sure of their love for you, after they had lost their temper and then expressed their concern and love for you over and over again?

It might also be helpful to consider whether the way your mother and father get along is similar to your current pattern.

All of the above can be observed, which may help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and identify the underlying reasons for your current insecurities in relationships. This understanding can then inform your ability to accept yourself more fully and make necessary adjustments and changes.

2. "How can I control my emotions and be more rational?" - It may be helpful to view emotions as something to be expressed and released, rather than suppressed.

It may be helpful to consider that our emotions are often driven by underlying needs, and that if these needs are not met, the emotion may persist. It could be beneficial to explore ways of releasing our emotions and recognizing our needs.

As a suggestion, you might consider writing about your emotions and feelings every day through therapeutic writing, talking to a trusted friend or family member, and practicing mindfulness meditation regularly to help you maintain emotional stability.

It might be helpful to consider that when you feel an emotion, you can become aware of it and ask yourself why you are so unhappy. What do you need?

Could I ask what your boyfriend's stable love for you actually means to you? Is it verbal reassurance and warmth, or support and care in action, or something else?

Once you have identified your core needs, you may wish to consider expressing them. This could involve telling him how you feel and what you need, as well as what you would like him to do specifically. It might be helpful to emphasise that this is because you care about him in particular and love him in particular, and that you would like him to feel your love and care for him.

3. "How might we improve our relationship without resorting to this somewhat unconventional method of confirming his love?" It may be helpful to consider learning to care for yourself and gain an inner sense of stability and security.

I sense that your core need is actually a sense of security in relationships. To maintain a sense of security in an intimate relationship, it might be helpful to look inward, change our internal patterns, and constantly try, practice, and get used to trusting ourselves. You might find it beneficial to spend more energy understanding and developing yourself. Ultimately, your trust in yourself could be the source of your sense of security in any relationship.

Once we have identified our own patterns and learned to accept ourselves, it is important to focus on self-care. It is natural to worry about whether our partner loves us and to seek reassurance through various means. However, it is crucial to recognize that these doubts may stem from self-negation and self-doubt. By addressing these underlying issues, we can gain clarity and confidence in our self-worth and ability to receive and maintain stable love.

Conversely, if we feel secure and certain within ourselves, we may find that we do not doubt our partner's love for us as much. It may be helpful to focus on giving ourselves more affirmation, recognition, support and encouragement.

From this point forward, it would be beneficial to treat yourself as you would a dear friend. Take care of your feelings, meet your needs in a reasonable way, take care of your emotions, express your inner feelings and needs sincerely, let your emotions flow, and always give yourself positive mental suggestions, telling yourself: I am safe, I am worthy of love...

I believe this could be a beneficial form of self-care. If you are able to care for your emotions and needs in a healthy way and continue to grow through your own efforts, it may be possible for your internal patterns to enter a virtuous cycle, which could in turn lead to a sense of security and worthiness in your heart. This may then result in a natural tendency to seek less external confirmation.

Please feel free to refer to this information as needed. Wishing you the best!

Dear Question Asker, My name is Evan.

In a long-distance relationship, communication is often limited due to the distance between partners. This can lead to feelings of insecurity, particularly when there are challenges in the relationship. Effective communication in a long-distance relationship is essential for maintaining a healthy and stable intimate relationship. The way you communicate with your boyfriend reflects your communication style and patterns from your family of origin.

It is important to understand how the questioner typically communicates with her boyfriend. Do you share the same goals? Are your worldviews similar? If there are differences, how do you communicate them? The questioner needs to carefully reflect on these questions. Does your boyfriend know your situation?

The primary concern in a long-distance relationship is the inability to fully comprehend each other's circumstances and to effectively communicate them to one another. The limited information available, often confined to a few words or the other person's messages, hinders the growth and understanding of the relationship. The current approach of the questioner, from the perspective of the questioner, is largely emotional in nature. However, this approach may not be conducive to the development of a healthy and stable intimate relationship.

What is the optimal approach for the questioner to navigate the current situation and manage long-distance relationships?

As the question was posed on this platform, I would also like to offer the questioner some brief advice.

It is important to keep each other informed of your situation.

When problems arise in an intimate relationship, it is often the result of both parties' actions. In particular, the questioner and her boyfriend are in a long-distance relationship, and their work and leisure time are not aligned. It is also important for the questioner and her boyfriend to communicate and keep each other informed of their respective situations.

In addition to keeping the other party informed about your situation, it is also important to provide reassurance that you have not given up on the relationship and that your decision to end it was not a hasty one.

For a relationship to be considered ideal, both parties must be engaged. Attempting to resolve issues on one's own is not a sustainable approach, and it is easy to become discouraged. The questioner should first communicate her concerns to her boyfriend and observe his response and perspective on the relationship.

Furthermore, it is recommended that both parties provide updates on their situation on a regular basis, ideally daily, but at a minimum every three days if they are particularly busy.

Please express your feelings.

Long-distance relationships, with the current separation of the two parties, are not conducive to the survival of the intimate relationship. Apart from negatively affecting the questioner's emotional state, this also hinders the ability to maintain a healthy and stable intimate relationship. In such cases, it is beneficial for the questioner to initiate a discussion with their boyfriend about their expectations and attitudes towards intimate relationships. This can help to identify potential areas of concern and work towards a more positive and constructive dynamic in the relationship.

The individual initiating the discussion may express negative emotions when dissatisfied with their current intimate relationship. These feelings can be conveyed to their partner. If the individual wishes to maintain the relationship, they should consider their own communication style and methods.

In the context of a long-distance relationship, the questioner may experience a range of emotions and concerns. It is important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your feelings and expectations. Try to maintain a positive outlook and avoid expressing negative emotions without reason, as this can negatively impact the relationship.

Discuss the relationship or future plans.

The questioner can often discuss the relationship with the boyfriend, address concerns about the current situation, and present a vision of life after marriage. To initiate the conversation, ask the boyfriend how the relationship has developed over time.

It would be beneficial to have further discussions about the relationship and the future. Perhaps you could start by asking your partner what made them think we should start dating in the first place. You may also find it helpful to ask them what the biggest change they have noticed in you since we started dating is.

What are my strengths and weaknesses as a girlfriend? How can I improve?

"What are your thoughts regarding our future together? What are your plans for the future?"

"I have some thoughts about the future. Would you like me to share them with you?" "I feel like our current situation is uninspiring. Do you have any suggestions for improvement?"

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It is recommended that you engage in a calm discussion with your boyfriend about your relationship.

When the relationship between the questioner and her boyfriend is experiencing difficulties, it is important to maintain an objective and calm tone of voice when discussing the relationship. If you notice that the two of you are having problems as a couple, it is essential to keep an open mind and avoid becoming emotionally involved.

It would be advisable to focus on the occasional passion in your intimate relationship, rather than settling for the status quo.

If the questioner wishes to inform their partner that the long-distance relationship is causing them concern, they can say, "Please do not assume that I am being selective. I care about you and our relationship, and I would like to see us in closer contact."

"I'm aware that my statements may elicit a negative reaction from you. However, I believe that the emotional issues I'm facing are a direct result of the separation, which has caused me to feel insecure. As a result, I'm experiencing negative emotions related to the separation. I hope you can understand my perspective and appreciate the value of our relationship."

It is essential to address the emotional issues on both sides.

It may seem more convenient to allow issues to resolve themselves and avoid challenging subjects. However, avoiding these subjects will likely result in further complications.

Instead, it would be more beneficial to take the time to discuss the issue at hand. The questioner could say, "I am aware that I am somewhat dissatisfied with our relationship at the moment, and I would like to implement some changes."

"I would be grateful if we could discuss this at a later date."

It is important to remember that avoidance of these difficult issues will only serve to exacerbate the situation over time, ultimately leading to the deterioration of the relationship. It is advisable to initiate a calm and honest conversation about the problems at hand.

"I would like to discuss an issue that has arisen in another context. I hope you will be open to hearing my perspective on this matter."

Please be as patient as possible.

Should any issues arise, it is important to communicate in a patient and compassionate manner. The individual seeking guidance should be empathetic and strive to convey their thoughts and concerns to their partner.

In the event of a conflict or problem, it is important to remain calm and strive to comprehend the other party's perspective. One could say, "I don't want to place undue pressure on you."

I hope we can communicate about this matter patiently, and I hope you can listen to me patiently. I will do my utmost to facilitate a frank and calm discussion.

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Be transparent about your objectives and intentions.

When discussing emotionally challenging topics, it is important to address them directly and with clarity. Whether the objective is to enhance the relationship or to resolve a specific issue, it is essential for the individual to communicate their intentions clearly.

As an example, you might say, "I would like to discuss the long-term prospects of our relationship. Do you have any plans for our future married life?"

"How can we maintain consistency when we are in different places?" "Please discuss your views on the current intimate relationship with me."

I would like to express my concern that I feel neglected at times. Given my apprehension about the future, I hope you can reassure me and give me confidence. I hope you can take my feelings seriously.

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Long-distance relationships can be challenging, and in many cases, the issue is a lack of clarity regarding each partner's circumstances. One effective approach is to provide your partner with a daily itinerary, which can enhance mutual understanding and foster a sense of security. If this method does not resolve the issue, it may be beneficial to seek guidance from a professional counselor. These experts can assist in understanding personal behavior patterns and help foster a more stable and sustainable relationship.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

Hello, and thank you for your question. I am Yufei, a listener at Yixin.

First of all, let me be clear: in a relationship, we are all still learning. You are learning how to love your boyfriend and get along with him. Your question shows that you are trying hard to maintain this relationship, and this is your bright spot.

We all make mistakes in love. Forgive yourself. Your boyfriend will discover your bright spots and highlights as long as you are constantly learning. He will love you even more for your willingness to learn how to get along.

If you are always testing him with trivial matters, it's likely that your childhood experiences have caused you to feel extremely insecure. The deeper you love him, the more afraid you are of him leaving. There's a kind of separation anxiety there, isn't there?

You're afraid of being separated from your partner. You're afraid of being betrayed. You're afraid that your love won't last.

Then let's think back on our relationship with our parents. What's our pattern of getting along with friends?

The way we get along with others will affect our relationship with our boyfriend.

You want to change yourself, and you can. Let's solve these problems by reducing the number of times you examine him through trivial matters. Be honest with your boyfriend. Give him a call or video chat and tell him you've been testing him with these trivial matters because you love him and are afraid of losing him. Tell him this is a problem with yourself and a subject you need to overcome. Ask him to help you get through this time together.

Your boyfriend will be touched when he hears these words. He'll also understand that your actions are driven by love, so he'll be more tolerant and understanding. He won't have any opinions about you because of these little things. Instead, he'll see this as a manifestation of love and be willing to adjust the relationship. Being honest is good for both parties. He may be guessing why you have so many little actions and think they're acting. Tell him your true thoughts, and he'll associate these little things with love. He'll feel much better.

If you want to be with your boyfriend for a long time and go through life together, you have to learn how to find security every day. Think about when you feel safe with him and find the sense of security and stability in the relationship. Couples who don't have any major problems are willing to go the distance. We worry too much about things that don't matter, which makes it hard to form an emotional bond.

When we find a boyfriend who will be with us forever and who loves us very much, we have reached the next stage of intimacy. We can find tips and tricks to improve our relationships by reading books, attending lectures, and consulting.

We can also find out why we have so many fears by looking within ourselves. We need to ask ourselves: where do my fears come from? Are these fears real?

Or am I just being paranoid?

I believe these actions are an expression of your love, and I'm sure you've noticed they're causing trouble for your boyfriend. Let's find a different way to perceive your boyfriend's love.

Tell your boyfriend what your language of love is and what he does that makes you feel loved. Encourage him to do these things to make you feel loved. Then, slowly let go of your fears and worries and find a sense of security and stability.

OK, human relationships are strong and sustainable. We need to establish a long-term and stable emotional connection.

Think about what a long-term and stable relationship feels like. It is a feeling that you can acquire as you learn and search for it.

Relationships also need to be nurtured, and at the same time, we should not be too anxious or impatient. We must learn while improving ourselves to gain the happiness we want.

That's all I have to say. I hope you feel a little more at ease after reading this. The world and I love you.

She always measured how much her partner loved her by annoying or challenging his bottom line, which is a sign of distrust in the relationship.

As we often say, it's what we call "acting."

Even though "acting" is seen as a bad thing, it's actually heartbreaking and understandable.

The basic psychological conflict is this: you lack love, you desire love, and you don't believe you can get love.

So, no matter how much the other person loves you, you don't trust it's true. You need to verify it over and over to dispel your doubts and prove your importance to the other person.

This distrust of intimacy is often caused by early experiences of not being loved, not being valued, and not getting timely responses.

Put another way, the feelings you got from your parents may have been neglect.

That's why it's important for your boyfriend to show you how much he values you, for example by giving you expensive gifts.

Your mother didn't pay enough attention to you when you were a baby.

So, you get a bit upset when your boyfriend doesn't reply to you right after work.

That's the answer to your first question.

1. Why do I have this feeling?

In short, it's the lack of love, the insecurity about intimacy, the fear of loss, the resulting mistrust of others, and the need to repeatedly verify that others love us back. This is all brought about by insufficient attention, attention, and response in the early parenting experience.

OK, let's move on to the second question.

2. How can I manage my emotions in a more rational way?

When I saw that the questioner used the word "suppress," I could probably imagine that the questioner usually suppresses his emotions, but it's not working, which is especially painful, right?

If you don't let all your emotions out and control them with reason, you can only control them for a while.

If you don't let it out, it'll either explode or become a symptom, manifesting itself in psychological and physical ways.

So, you need to find a way to channel your emotions in a healthy way.

We'll talk more about what's a reasonable way to channel your emotions in the next question.

3. How can I improve my relationship without resorting to this questionable method of gauging his love?

Once you understand why you do this, you'll realize it's your own longing for love and fear of gaining and losing that's driving you.

First of all, you really want your boyfriend to love you. This is a positive goal, right?

What are you trying to achieve here?

But you know what? It's backfiring.

You know you should trust your boyfriend, not demand too much from him, and not constantly argue with him.

But you can't help doing it. It's as if you're arguing with the other person and yourself at the same time.

What's the point of being stubborn?

You just want him to do things your way, and you're sure he'll stick around no matter what.

The downside to being stubborn is that it can come across as tactless and childish, which might lead your boyfriend to misunderstand you. He might think you don't appreciate his efforts or that you're not clear about what you want.

The best way to handle this is to speak directly about your needs in a mature and professional manner.

Before you ask for what you need, it's important to make sure your boyfriend understands why you need these things. Talk to him about your fear of losing intimacy and why you want him to give you a sense of security. This will help him understand that you're not trying to pick on him and that it's not because he's not doing a good job, but because you need him and want to hold on to him because you love him so much.

Once you've done this, your boyfriend can meet your need for security in the best way possible, and you can also build your own sense of security. This kind of relationship won't put too much pressure on your boyfriend or make him feel suffocated.

Give it your all at work, develop new interests, and expand your social circle. Don't let your relationship consume you.

When you were a kid, you probably had to rely completely on your parents to survive.

You need to give yourself some attention now. You can do this.

If you enrich your life and give yourself more attention, you'll stay secure.

Having inner certainty is the foundation of being able to trust the other person.

I hope you can focus on yourself and put in the effort to take care of yourself. This way of getting along will make both sides feel relaxed and harmonious.

I'm Yan Guilai, a psychological counselor, and I wish you all the best!

An essential element in the sustenance of a relationship is the capacity of its members to maintain a state of self-awareness and reflection. Despite the influence of your actions in measuring the extent of your partner's affection through your annoyance or challenge to his fundamental position, your readiness to adapt will facilitate a more comprehensive understanding of each other and assist in the resolution of the present discord.

It is my hope that the following information will contribute to a broader understanding of the factors involved in your current distress.

1. What are the underlying causes of this mentality?

To identify the underlying causes, it is essential to consider the multitude of factors that may be involved. The description of the message, coupled with the temporary physical separation from your boyfriend and the intensification of your feelings for him, has influenced your external behaviour.

If we examine the underlying causes, the former is attributable to the unavoidable discrepancy in information due to the lack of physical proximity. As the depth of the relationship increases, there is a concomitant increase in the fear of being unloved by the other person, which is shaped by past experiences and self-awareness.

In general, this may be attributed to:

In the past, they were conditioned to receive love on the condition of meeting certain requirements, such as academic achievement or success in life.

For example, the conditional love instilled in the subject by their caregivers may include statements such as "You are a good boy only if you are among the top in class" and "You must be successful in life in order to be worthy of living." These conditional requirements can affect a person's judgment and understanding of their self-worth, potentially leading to low self-esteem and a sense of worthlessness.

Secondly, traumatic manifestations resulting from betrayal or abandonment following a total commitment are observed.

The experience of seeing one's partner in love can serve as a powerful source of protection and vulnerability, akin to a thin membrane that can be easily breached. Past experiences of complete devotion to a partner, followed by disappointment, can significantly impact future relationships, making it challenging to fully commit without reservations.

This is associated with the self-protection mechanism of "once bitten, twice shy."

2. What methods can be employed to suppress emotions and enhance rationality?

2. What methods can be employed to suppress emotions and enhance rationality?

Emotions cannot be suppressed; however, they can be transformed and modified through observation and release.

Emotions serve an important signaling function in one's life. Those feelings of unease and fear are themselves a reminder, indicating what one is afraid of and what one needs to pay attention to. If the objects of those fears and fears cannot truly disappear,

The consequence of repression is frequently the exacerbation of emotional distress, which may reach a state of uncontrolled intensity.

3. What strategies might be employed to improve interpersonal dynamics in a manner that is not reliant on the use of manipulative tactics?

This pertains to more personal matters. If feasible, the following course of action is recommended:

The first step is to seek out systematic psychological counseling in order to unblock traumatic points.

Past experiences result in the formation of corresponding neural circuits in the brain. In the absence of systematic intervention by professional psychological services or the long-term support of warm, lasting, and stable interpersonal relationships, the brain will automatically and uncontrollably react to similar signals from the outside world, affecting current interpersonal relationships. This is evidenced by the "perverted methods" you described.

This phenomenon cannot be eliminated through the use of reason and self-persuasion alone. Therefore, it is recommended that individuals seeking to release the pain caused by past wounds seek the assistance of a qualified professional psychologist in a safe and controlled environment.

It is essential to communicate with your partner in a sincere and honest manner, disclosing your need for assistance.

Those without a psychological background may view those who "provoke or challenge their partner's bottom line" as "acting up" and "being unreasonable." However, the individual in question may be "unable to help themselves."

It is of the utmost importance to communicate honestly with one's partner about one's current difficulties in order to prevent the proliferation of misunderstandings within the relationship.

It is generally accepted that an individual with a cold or fever will not be held accountable for their absence from work. However, there is a tendency to underestimate the significance of emotional distress. Therefore, it is advisable to refrain from holding grudges and to seek support from those who care about you when faced with challenges.

It is recommended that the reader record the minor aspects of their partner that they find agreeable. When the reader wishes to test their partner without realizing it, they should consider these minor aspects as a reminder of their partner's positive qualities.

The brain has a tendency to forget, and therefore reminders are an invaluable aid. When things are going well in a relationship, it is beneficial to record the positive moments and interactions that occur.

This will assist in the recollection of positive experiences when negative emotions arise.

It is my hope that the aforementioned information will prove inspirational to you.

As a psychologist, my focus is not on the exploration of human nature, but rather on the examination of the human heart. I extend my best wishes to you.

Hello, landlord. Thank you for your question. Dazhong, you have described your relationship with your boyfriend. You are willing to take the lead, and this relationship requires self-awareness.

In relationships with others, it's important to be aware and to change to promote intimacy.

You test your boyfriend on minor things, like whether he loves you enough. You doubt he loves you enough because he didn't notify you in time after work or because the gifts he gives you on holidays aren't valuable enough.

You don't think your boyfriend is good enough for you.

Find out about your boyfriend's workplace and offer help with practical problems. This will help you understand each other better and prepare you for married life.

You value your boyfriend and want to maintain the relationship. You're not in different places, but you're worried that this approach will affect your intimacy. Washing your face can cause trouble in communication. Long-distance relationships often end in breakups.

The best way to handle this kind of relationship is to strengthen the connection. Video once a day or at a fixed time every week to communicate. During this time, you can play a game or watch a movie. Even though you're apart, this will make you feel closer. Work together to create a future and make the relationship stronger.

I'm happy to have an appointment on 1983. Love you!

My child, allow me to offer you a hug. Reading your description, I am struck by the resemblance to my own experiences in my younger days. I can therefore offer you the following advice, which you may find useful as a reference point.

First, it is essential to undertake an in-depth psychological analysis. Despite the lack of detailed self-disclosure, the observed behavior exhibited a notable absence of security and confidence in the relationship.

Given the dearth of available information, it is only possible to speculate.

1. The lack of a sense of security may have been instilled by the original family and is reflected in new intimate relationships. It is premature to analyze your family at this juncture. With respect to the current relationship, it is plausible that the reason for the lack of a sense of security is that you are not sufficiently confident in this relationship.

It would be beneficial to consider the underlying causes of your lack of confidence. Do you perceive yourself to be lacking in physical attractiveness, or does he excel in his professional endeavors? Do you find yourself less socially adept than he is?

Alternatively, is there a possibility that he is particularly attractive to women? Is there a concern that he may be interested in other women?

Alternatively, one might inquire as to whether a lack of trust in his character is the source of the issue. Thus, the initial step would be to ascertain whether the problem lies in a lack of confidence or a lack of trust.

In the event that one lacks self-confidence, it is essential to identify the underlying cause and subsequently implement an effective solution. Similarly, if one lacks trust in the individual in question, it is crucial to ascertain the root cause and engage in active communication.

You persist in attempting to obtain a sense of security from his feedback, and it appears that you are acutely fearful of losing. Has this ever been a personal experience?

2. You have demonstrated a willingness to seek assistance from the platform, which is a positive step towards rationality. However, it is important to recognise that the process may not be straightforward. You have indicated that you intend to take a particular action, but then change your mind when the time comes to implement it.

It is therefore recommended that you initially refrain from verbalising your emotions and allow yourself to cool down. When you feel the urge to argue, it is advisable to remain silent and control your physical responses before engaging in a discussion.

It is advisable to consider one's intended words carefully, eliminating any potentially inflammatory language and replacing it with a more measured and gentle tone. It may be helpful to conceptualize relationships as analogous to financial institutions. Each argument represents a withdrawal of resources, necessitating a consistent infusion of positive energy to achieve qualitative growth.

It is therefore important to exercise self-control, avoid accusatory language, and adopt a more understanding stance. This may yield unexpected benefits.

3. What are the optimal strategies for maintaining harmonious relationships? This can only provide some general approaches. The specific dynamics of each couple are unique and driven by their own internal logic.

It is recommended that, when experiencing negative emotions, one should attempt to adopt the perspective of the other person and consider how they would respond in the same situation. This can help to identify the underlying causes of the distress and facilitate the development of more constructive coping strategies.

This may facilitate the adoption of a constructive approach. Mutual respect is a fundamental tenet of relationships between partners. When differences of opinion arise, it is essential to maintain respect for one another's views while refraining from expressing them. During periods of conflict, it is beneficial to remain silent and take a moment to calm down.

It is beneficial to create occasional surprises to enhance the novelty of the relationship. It is advantageous to express affectionate sentiments that reinforce the bond and receive reciprocal affirmation.

My child, there is no greater blessing in this world than to be loved in return by the one you love. From your description, it seems that this is the case for you. Treasure it, and may you find happiness.

Hello. As someone who has been in a similar situation, I hope my views might be helpful to you.

1. Could I ask why this kind of psychology arises?

It is possible that this mentality may stem from a deep sense of insecurity within you, which may result in a need to constantly confirm to your partner that he loves you. This may manifest as seeking proof of his love through more intense methods (annoying or challenging) to your partner.

One way to measure the depth of his love for you is to consider how much he gives to you.

2. How might I learn to control my emotions and be more rational?

One possible way to address these emotions is to focus on building your own sense of security. When you feel secure within yourself, you may find that you are less inclined to seek external validation.

It is often the case that feelings of insecurity in love have their roots in a number of different factors.

It may be helpful to consider that a sense of inferiority can sometimes arise when we feel that our partner is too good for us and that we are not worthy of such a wonderful other half. This can sometimes lead to feelings of fear that our partner will abandon us.

Some people may experience anxiety due to external factors such as age or parental expectations. They may fear that if they miss this opportunity, they may not find someone with such good conditions again.

It is also worth noting that past emotional experiences can influence our current perceptions. If we have had unhappy experiences in the past, such as the other person cheating or having multiple partners, it can lead to similar doubts about the current partner, leading us to suspect that they may do the same as the previous partner.

It might be helpful to try to identify the root cause of your unease and address it in a targeted manner.

3. How might I improve my relationship with my partner without resorting to this somewhat unconventional method of showing my love and appreciation?

Perhaps the way to become a more mature lover is to consider changing the way you communicate.

A mature lover is someone who

It would be beneficial to love him in the way you want him to love you.

Love is a two-way street. If you want the other person to give, it's important to give first. If you're only focused on receiving without giving, it's possible that even the person who loves you the most will eventually move on.

It is also understandable that he wants to be rewarded for his efforts, and it is not easy to give selflessly.

It is important to allow yourself to be yourself, and to allow others to be themselves too.

A mature person is comfortable with who they are and is respectful of others' differences. This means accepting that others may treat you in ways that are comfortable for them, rather than always expecting the same treatment you would like to receive.

When we are in love, it's natural to think that love can change the other person. However, it's important to remember that we cannot change anyone but ourselves. When the other person doesn't meet our expectations, it's best not to get angry, complain, or accuse.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider changing the way we communicate.

In a relationship, expressing frustration in a way that is destructive to the bond between partners is not helpful. When we complain and blame, it is often because we want the other person to know that we are angry and hope that they can hear our voices.

It might be helpful to consider expressing ourselves calmly, as this allows us to convey a need rather than an angry emotion.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.

Hello, question asker,

I commend you for your keen awareness and introspection.

Because you are keenly aware that the deeper your feelings for your boyfriend, the more you may find yourself pushing him to meet certain expectations, which could potentially lead to feelings of disappointment or hurt.

It is possible that this could result in feelings of self-blame and guilt.

I'm not sure how long you've known each other, what the emotional foundation is, or when you first started to test your boyfriend.

I wonder if I might ask you to clarify what you mean by "test"?

If I may, I would like to address your first question first.

It's understandable that you're feeling this way, given the challenges that come with long-distance relationships. It's not unusual to experience some physical separation anxiety.

Could I ask you about separation anxiety?

Could I ask you about separation anxiety?

It might also be helpful to consider that if you were in foster care from the age of 0 to 3 in your early years, it could be that you developed separation trauma, which might be suppressed in the subconscious.

Given the circumstances, it seems that the trauma of separation from her boyfriend may have been reactivated, given that she is now separated from him.

I would like to offer some feedback on the second question:

If you're feeling overly anxious about your boyfriend because you miss him too much and have certain expectations of him, it might be helpful to talk to him about it. It's possible that your anxiety is driven by a deep longing for closeness.

It seems that the anxiety you're experiencing may be driven by a desire to feel closer to your boyfriend. This process of expressing your feelings could also be a way of reminding yourself of your needs and becoming more rational.

Additionally, it would be beneficial to explore your inner awareness and become aware of your inner "child." When a person is lonely, it is important to consider what

Could I ask what your state of mind is? Do you feel lonely and panicky? If so, it might be related to the trauma of separation in childhood.

It might be helpful to consider professional counseling.

Thirdly, I would like to suggest some ways in which you might improve your relationship with your boyfriend.

It would be helpful to learn to express your needs in a timely manner.

When you feel anxious and restless because you miss him, it might help to express your feelings first and then try to express the needs behind them.

It might be helpful to consider that behind every harsh demand or complaint, or even what might be perceived as an "attack," there could be a strong underlying fear or worry.

In addition, it would be helpful to consider whether the lack of self-acceptance and resulting lack of confidence behind this behavior might be

Could this be a reaction projected onto her boyfriend?

I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that there are certain limitations to the data involved, and that the above analysis is intended to serve as a reference point only.

I am counselor Yao, and I am here to support and care for you as much as I can.

Hello!

Host:

After carefully reading the post, I can feel from the content that the poster seems to feel insecure in the relationship. At the same time, I also noticed that the poster has bravely faced their own inner feelings and actively sought help on the platform, which is a great step forward! This will undoubtedly help the poster better understand and know themselves, so that they can adjust themselves and encounter a better self.

Next, I'm thrilled to share my observations and thoughts from the post, which I'm sure will help you see things from a more diverse perspective!

1. What does it mean to you that he loves you very much?

In your post, you mentioned that you always test the extent of your partner's love by provoking or challenging their limits. This shows me that the deeper you love him, the more you are in a state of extreme insecurity. From these descriptions, I feel that the poster lacks a sense of security in the relationship. Is that right?

At the same time, I would also love to discuss these things with you! You mentioned above that you are in a state of extreme insecurity. I'm excited to hear more about what kind of emotions are behind this insecurity!

Could it be anxiety, fear of being abandoned, or something else? Many people find that the better the relationship and the deeper the love, the more they may fear abandonment and become restless.

On the other hand, we can discuss together what it means to you that he proves his love for you to a high degree. It means that you are safe and that you are worth being loved! Exploring and discussing these questions will help the hostess understand her own heart better.

2. Projection Now, let's talk about projection!

There's this fascinating concept in psychology called projection. It basically means that we project our own thoughts onto the outside world. And preconceptions are a form of projection!

Let's say I greet you, but you don't respond. I might feel that you look down on me, but you were probably just distracted. The idea that you look down on me is just a projection on my part, an idea that comes from myself.

So let's dive into the fascinating concept of projection! Many people in intimate relationships feel the need to prove that the other person loves them. This could be because the other person's behavior makes us feel unloveable, so we seek proof from them. Or it could be because we don't believe that we can be treated well or that we are worthy of love.

At this time, we may play the game of projection, projecting these thoughts onto the other person, and constantly needing the other person to prove that they love us. But there's a better way! We can feel safe and worthy of love by recognizing that we are the authors of our own happiness. So, for the poster, perhaps you need to consider, is it the other person's problem?

Or could it be a projection of our own?

3. Let's dive deep and explore where this mentality comes from!

If it is our own sense of inner value and lack of security, then we can explore where this psychology comes from. So for us, we may need to look back at our own growth experience to see what has affected us. The good news is that we can often change these perceptions and psychology by looking back at our upbringing in the early years.

For example, in some families that value boys over girls, the children growing up in these families are more likely to develop this kind of mentality. In some families, the parenting style is conditional love, and this kind of parenting style will also make the child feel that their true self is not liked, not accepted; they are not worthy of love. But here's the good news! You can change this mindset and embrace your true self.

So, this landlord should definitely think about your upbringing and the environment you were raised in!

4. Adjusting unreasonable perceptions Now for the fun part! It's time to adjust those unreasonable perceptions.

Once we realize that our upbringing may have shaped us into who we are today, we have the incredible opportunity to adjust our perceptions, understand the impact of our beliefs on our lives, and replace those irrational thoughts with positive, healthy ones!

Absolutely! We can definitely try to re-understand ourselves and nurture ourselves. This will undoubtedly increase our sense of self-worth and worthiness, and we will wholeheartedly believe that we are worthy of love and deserve to be treated well.

I really hope this has been helpful and inspiring for you! If you have any questions, you can also click on Find a Coach to enter a one-on-one chat service where you can explore and grow even better.

Greetings, question asker. My name is Jiang 61.

Firstly, I would like to express my gratitude for your trust and willingness to confide in us in order to seek assistance. You inquire as to whether you consistently gauge the depth of your partner's affection by means of provocation or confrontation.

Let us begin with a brief embrace, which will allow you to experience the transformative power of love. We will then proceed to an in-depth analysis of your situation.

1. Identify and highlight perceived shortcomings

The 23-year-old female subject is currently engaged in a long-distance relationship with her romantic partner. Prior to this, the relationship was not conducted via distance. As the subject's feelings for her partner intensify, her sense of insecurity increases in parallel. She tends to identify minor discrepancies as grounds for contention, such as a lack of immediate response to messages after work or the perceived inadequacy of gifts on holidays. These perceived shortcomings are interpreted by the subject as indications of a lack of love from her partner. It is only after the subject has annoyed her partner, provoked a loss of temper, and repeatedly emphasized the sacrifices her partner has made and the psychological distress she has endured that her partner will confirm his love for her. The subject expresses a desire to alter this pattern.

1. Seeking Attention

The current long-distance relationship has resulted in a heightened sense of dependency on the boyfriend. Consequently, the long-distance situation has further exacerbated feelings of uncertainty and instability.

You repeatedly identify shortcomings in him with the objective of eliciting attention and care.

2. Lack of Security

It is evident that you possess a considerable degree of insecurity. This is closely associated with the environment in which you were raised within your original family unit.

It can be surmised that you were raised in a family where your parents exhibited a lack of attention towards you.

During the separation period when you were between three and six years of age, your parents did not provide you with adequate care, affirmation, praise, or recognition, which resulted in a lack of self-confidence. You consistently perceive a deficiency in your ability to take charge and receive attention. Consequently, you seek attention through various means to attain a sense of security.

3⃣️, Childhood Trauma

The objective of engaging in conflict with this individual is to ascertain his treatment of you and to prompt him to engage in manipulative behavior, thereby demonstrating your status and influence in his eyes. In each instance of such interaction, you revert to a childlike state of mind, resorting to various stratagems in front of your parents to gauge their response.

This is also a consequence of the psychological trauma inflicted by one's parents during childhood.

The response to this inquiry is as follows:

You inquire as to the source of your mentality.

1. The influence of the original family

A lack of care

As previously stated, the parenting style in the original family is characterized by a lack of care, affirmation, praise, and recognition, which contributes to feelings of inferiority and insecurity. This often leads to a constant pursuit of love and appreciation.

In each instance of discord with your romantic partner, he displays anger and affection. Do you not perceive this as a successful outcome?

In the present moment, the mind is attempting to demonstrate to others the continued importance of the self through the manner of attention and attitude directed towards the self.

This is the psychological impact of a lack of care within the original family unit.

Regression

In psychology, the phenomenon is referred to as regression. The term "regression" is defined in psychological literature as a state in which individuals relinquish the more mature adaptation skills or methods they have acquired when confronted with frustration, anxiety, or stress, and instead revert to a specific behavioral pattern observed at an earlier developmental stage. In order to cope with the current situation, they resort to primitive, childlike coping mechanisms in an attempt to reduce their anxiety.

This is why regression occurs and why a sense of loneliness and helplessness is experienced, which creates a perception of being a child. The methods used during childhood to reduce feelings of loneliness are adopted, which is regression.

The sense of security is established through the response of the primary caregiver. In the case of the child, this is typically the mother. If the child is unable to elicit a response from the primary caregiver, the child will be unable to establish a secure attachment.

A child's sense of security is contingent upon the responsiveness of their parents. It is possible that the child was very young when they did not receive a response from their mother.

For the subject in question, the maternal figure was not a reliable source of stability. At this juncture, there was no viable avenue for the subject to establish a secure attachment object within themselves.

A child who does not receive a response will engage in a range of behaviors, including crying, screaming, shouting, and even engaging in dangerous activities, in an effort to forcefully attract the attention of their parents and arouse their concern, thereby confirming their sense of security. Alternatively, they may attempt to satisfy their mother's expectations by exhibiting behaviors such as being good, obedient, compliant, and compromising, in order to garner as much attention as possible.

As an adult, you will experience distress when your partner is absent, as this will evoke the trauma from your early years. You will feel insecure, as though you are still the infant you were in those early years, lacking the skills to navigate life, and you will be extremely fearful.

The aforementioned behaviors are a consequence of unresolved trauma resulting from the individual's original family environment.

2. Attachment

From the information provided, it can be inferred that the attachment relationship in question is of the anxious type.

Anxious attachment

Individuals with an anxious attachment style tend to invest a significant amount of emotional energy into their relationships. However, they often find that their partners do not desire the same level of intimacy that they seek. This discrepancy can lead to feelings of unease and, in some cases, concern about whether their partners value them as much as they value them.

Those with an anxious attachment style are constantly vigilant in their intimate relationships, contemplating the other person's actions and behaviors. They are fearful of unstable relationships and experience a sense of insecurity, which manifests as clingy and controlling behaviors, often perceived as stalking.

Manifestations

The personality of individuals with an anxious attachment style is also a consequence of an insecure attachment to their parents during their formative years.

As a child, they concentrated their attention on observing and monitoring their mother's actions and behaviors. This monitoring behavior prevented them from engaging in exploration and exploration-related activities. Once their mother departed, they exhibited a state of complete disorientation and distress. When their mother returned, they displayed an inability to be comforted or soothed.

Therefore, the individual in question will experience a build-up of negative emotions, including worry, frustration, and sadness, which may eventually manifest as anger or a profound sense of unhappiness.

Expectations

By engaging in hostile behavior towards one's romantic partner, an individual is effectively attempting to fulfill their own expectations of security through aggressive means.

3⃣️, Personality

From the evidence presented, it can be inferred that you attempt to exert control over your boyfriend's affections by engaging in vocal and contentious discourse. This suggests that you exhibit characteristics associated with a radical personality.

The radical personality is characterized by the following attributes:

The individual in question displays the following characteristics: a strong will, an action-oriented disposition, a high level of energy, and an achievement-oriented mindset.

The individual in question displays the following strengths: courageous and decisive, perseveres to the end, undaunted by difficulties, and self-disciplined.

The individual in question displays a number of weaknesses, including a tendency towards irritability, a lack of empathy, a stubborn disposition, arrogance, and complacency.

The characteristics of a dominant personality—including a proclivity for directing and controlling others, an action-oriented mindset, irritability, arrogance, and complacency—are evident in your behavior. Consequently, your actions are a reflection of your personality.

3. Adjustment

The questions you have posed are worthy of reflection.

1. How might one control one's emotions and become more rational?

All emotions are a product of the individual, shaped by personal experiences and emotional constructs within the mind. Consequently, emotions evolve in response to changes in these experiences and constructs.

Meeting expectations is a fundamental aspect of human interaction.

Emotions originate from one's internal feelings and expectations. The discord with one's romantic partner may be attributed to a lack of self-love and the unmet desire for love and affection. Consequently, the individual may exhibit angry emotions and adopt an assertive stance in an effort to elicit a response that will satisfy their emotional needs.

Conversely, one is always dependent and unable to be independent, which results in feelings of insecurity. Therefore, the initial step is to address independence and security concerns, followed by the resolution of emotions associated with insecurity.

The concept of independence is multifaceted and encompasses a range of characteristics and abilities. It can be defined as the capacity to manage one's own affairs without external assistance or control. Independence is a crucial aspect of personal development, as it enables individuals to take responsibility for their actions and decisions, and to navigate life's challenges with autonomy and resilience.

The term "independence" is defined as the capacity to function autonomously, without external influence or control. It encompasses the ability to manage one's own academic, professional, and social endeavors without external constraints.

Once an individual has developed the capacity to manage their own affairs, they are less likely to seek external validation or rely on others for security.

The initial step in the process of developing independence is to create a plan.

The initial step in the process of developing independence is to create a plan, establish objectives, and develop a strategy for achieving the desired outcomes.

The second step in developing independence is to implement the plan and regularly assess its progress.

The second step in developing independence is to adhere to the plan and conduct periodic assessments of its implementation.

The fourth step in developing independence is to instill self-motivation.

The third step in developing independence is to provide oneself with a reward upon the completion of a plan, thereby demonstrating one's capabilities. The reward may take the form of a modest gift or a substantial repast.

In conclusion, a sense of ritual is to be encouraged.

It is imperative to cultivate self-love.

The fourth step in developing independence is to document one's emotional state at each stage. This process allows individuals to gain insight into their personal growth trajectory and to foster self-respect and self-love.

Meet the standards set forth by the expectations.

One may fulfill expectations of love and security through the formulation of an action plan. Upon completion of the four aforementioned steps, independence is established, self-care is practiced, and personal achievements are attained. Consequently, self-confidence is developed, and a sense of security is achieved through the aforementioned action plan.

The management of emotions

Let us consider the topic of emotional management. When an individual feels a sufficient degree of self-assurance and the apprehension of being unloved has been alleviated, the majority of their emotional state will dissipate. However, there will still be a necessity to learn how to cope with a limited number of residual emotions.

The ability to manage one's emotions is a crucial aspect of navigating intimate relationships. Effective emotion management entails:

The initial step is to recognize the emotions that one is experiencing.

This constitutes the initial stage of emotional management. Upon experiencing an emotion, it is essential to identify its specific nature, such as anxiety, anger, or sadness.

The act of accepting one's emotions is a crucial aspect of emotional management. It entails recognizing and acknowledging the presence of emotions, such as anxiety, anger, or sadness, without judgment or resistance. Accepting one's emotions in this way allows for a more objective understanding of one's emotional state, which in turn facilitates emotional regulation and the ability to respond to situations in a more adaptive manner.

Healthy emotions are those that align with the circumstances at hand. When one's emotional state is in alignment with objective reality, the initial step is to acknowledge that these emotions are normal and to accept them.

This approach will result in a reduction of emotional tension and the restoration of a sense of calm.

The expression of emotions

Emotional expression is the act of conveying one's own emotions. The subject is "I," and it is often expressed in the form of "I... , my feelings..."

It is essential to cultivate emotions.

The cultivation and practice of emotional management can be achieved through the following methods, which facilitate the ability to handle all aspects of emotion and facilitate personal growth.

(1) A regular lifestyle can also serve to stabilize one's emotional state.

(2) Cultivate a hobby, embrace positive emotions, self-love, and an appreciation for life's beauty.

(3) Practice care and assistance towards others, allowing love to reside within your heart. Assisting others is the greatest joy; facilitating their autonomy is also beneficial.

(4) Immersion in nature, absorption of the essence of heaven and earth, and expansion of the mind can facilitate the soothing and stabilization of emotions.

(5) It is recommended that individuals form connections with those who can provide guidance and support, particularly those who demonstrate emotional stability. This can help to mitigate the impact of emotional interference and fluctuations.

2⃣️ How might I foster more harmonious interactions without resorting to this questionable method of demonstrating affection?

The initial step is to address the issue of security. As previously stated, once an individual has achieved independence and a sense of security, they have effectively bid farewell to the negative influence of their childhood family of origin.

It is unnecessary to await a response from one's partner in order to ascertain their level of concern for one's well-being. Having already developed the capacity to experience happiness in the absence of a romantic partner, one may feel a profound sense of security.

The development of a harmonious and intimate relationship is a topic that can be addressed at a later stage.

The term "intimate relationship" is used to describe a close, personal bond between two individuals.

Intimacy can be defined as a type of interpersonal relationship that is characterized by emotional or physical closeness. In the modern era, where individualism, emotional openness, communication, mutual understanding, and knowledge are prevalent, intimacy plays a significant role in modern society. It reflects the contradictory human needs for freedom and security.

In essence, the category of intimate relationships encompasses family, marriage, love, sex, and other relationships.

Trust is a fundamental aspect of any intimate relationship. It is the foundation upon which mutual respect, understanding, and communication are built. Without trust, it is challenging to establish and maintain a harmonious and fulfilling relationship.

Intimate relationships are predicated on the establishment of mutual trust, respect, and honesty. These factors are essential for the maintenance of harmonious relationships.

The capacity to empathize with and understand one's partner is a crucial aspect of any intimate relationship.

Furthermore, intimate relationships are predicated on mutual understanding. In the event of discrepancies or disagreements, it is possible to engage in calm discourse to facilitate comprehension of one another's perspectives, empathize with each other's sentiments, and arrive at a mutually acceptable resolution.

It is only then that the relationship can be considered stable.

An expression of love

It is evident that the concept of love is interpreted in diverse ways by individuals, and the manner in which it is expressed and received varies considerably. Dr. Gary Chapman has proposed a framework wherein the ways in which love is expressed and received are classified into five distinct "languages of love": "affirming words," "quality time," "gifts," "acts of service," and "physical touch."

Affirming words are a crucial aspect of interpersonal communication. They serve to reinforce positive sentiments and reinforce the emotional bond between two individuals.

Regardless of the relationship in question, whether it be between friends, colleagues, partners in a romantic relationship, or a married couple, the provision of praise and affirmation is essential. The act of offering more positive feedback can serve to strengthen the bond between the individuals involved.

Special moments

A thoughtful moment is a moment of shared joy and memory, such as a candlelit dinner or an activity imbued with significance. During such moments, it is important to give one's full attention to the other person.

The acceptance of gifts is a further aspect of the expression of love.

The exchange of gifts on significant occasions is a deeply ritualistic act. The act itself, as well as the gift, serves to strengthen the bond between the two parties.

Acts of service

In essence, it entails fulfilling the other person's desires and enhancing their well-being through one's actions. Such actions are frequently modest in nature.

The term "physical contact" encompasses a range of behaviors, including but not limited to holding hands, hugging, and other forms of physical proximity.

The act of holding hands, hugging, and engaging in other forms of physical contact can serve to enhance feelings of affection and love between two individuals. Such actions can be perceived as a manifestation of love and a form of non-verbal communication.

The five languages of love are beneficial for individuals in the process of building and improving their intimate relationships with their romantic partners. It is notable that many families on the verge of breaking up utilize expressions of love.

As a result, the parties involved have been able to resolve their differences and move towards a state of harmony. It is my expectation that you will also cease utilising verification methods to substantiate your feelings of love.

In conclusion, it is my sincere hope that you will find happiness.