Hello! I'd like to extend a warm hug from afar.
I'm happy to see that you've reached out for help. I hope that my sharing can provide some support and assistance. From your description, I can sense that you are carrying a lot of grievances, anger, helplessness, and a sense of powerlessness, and you long to be understood, accepted, and supported.
First of all, it is important to understand that your husband's dislike and rejection does not negate the contributions you have made to the family over the years. Despite your decision to stay at home full-time, it is not accurate to say that your contributions are less than your husband's. In fact, you have contributed significantly more than he has. It is simply that you have contributed to the family in different ways. What are your thoughts on this?
It is important to recognize and respect the valuable contributions you have made to the family over the years. As a couple, you have different approaches to dividing responsibilities at this stage of your family's life. Both of your contributions are equally important.
If you are unable to currently obtain this emotional affirmation, recognition, acceptance, understanding, respect, and support from your husband, you may wish to consider giving it to yourself.
Facing today's circumstances, his repeated requests for divorce have caused you significant emotional distress. As a couple, the court is unlikely to support his request for divorce at this time. If the incident occurred during a disagreement with your husband, it would be advisable to seek legal counsel. Although you are experiencing a great deal of sadness and distress, it is important to use this time to protect your legitimate rights.
You might consider seeking help and support from your family or close friends, as having a strong external support system can be beneficial during this time. What are your thoughts on this?
When a family is not harmonious, it can be challenging for everyone involved to feel like they are thriving. Both spouses have a role to play in shaping the dynamic of the family. It's not that you're unwilling to do so, but that you may require some guidance on how to navigate the conflicts in your marriage and family in a more constructive manner.
I wonder what your thoughts are on this matter.
Please be kind to yourself and believe that in every moment, you are doing your best to do everything you can. If there is something you cannot do, then try to accept it with an open mind. At this moment, you need to encourage yourself and work hard to protect the legitimate rights and interests of yourself and your children in this marriage. What do you think?
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Comments
I can't even begin to imagine the pain and confusion you must be feeling right now. It's heartbreaking that someone who should have been your support turned out to cause you such suffering. I hope you find strength in yourself and your mother's care during this tough time.
It's so upsetting to hear about what you've been through. The last thing you need is to feel abandoned by your family when you're already dealing with such a severe injury. You deserve better, and I really hope you can get the support you need for healing and moving forward.
This situation sounds absolutely devastating. Your husband's actions are inexcusable, and it's crucial for you to focus on your recovery and wellbeing. Please make sure to surround yourself with people who truly care about you and your children.
The road ahead might seem incredibly challenging, but remember that there are resources and professionals who can help you navigate through this difficult period. Lean on them, and on your loved ones, as you work towards rebuilding your life and ensuring your children's future.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It's important to protect yourself legally and emotionally. Consider seeking assistance from legal aid or a counselor who can guide you through the divorce proceedings and help you plan for the care and upbringing of your children.