During the postgraduate entrance exam period, experiencing a breakup, feeling both longing and sad, but mostly guilt?

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The host is currently preparing for the postgraduate entrance exam, but the demands of the relationship are occupying a significant portion of his attention, which is negatively impacting his motivation to study. He is considering ending the relationship, but his girlfriend is highly supportive and he is reluctant to do so. The host is facing a challenging situation.

In the aforementioned description, the host has expressed a strong determination to take the postgraduate entrance exam. However, this raises the question of how his girlfriend feels about this decision.

On occasion, the support of a romantic partner can facilitate academic pursuits.

Please clarify whether your girlfriend has her own responsibilities, such as academic or professional commitments.

If your girlfriend has her own responsibilities, she can be working towards her own goals while you focus on the entrance exam. This is an example of collaboration and shared progress.

Secondly, it is important to consider the time commitment that relationships require, particularly given the choice to pursue a postgraduate entrance exam. It is therefore essential to plan time effectively. The original poster can discuss their plans with their partner to ascertain their support.

It is important to note that a very specific daily schedule is required, rather than simply stating that you will study every day.

Ultimately, taking the postgraduate entrance exam is a significant undertaking. This process may impact the time available for a relationship and may prevent you from focusing on your studies. However, a relationship can also provide motivation to progress and help manage stress. The impact on the relationship depends on the attitudes of the host and his girlfriend.

Hello, my name is Huijuan.

From what you have written, I can appreciate the complexity of your thoughts and emotions.

However, I feel that perhaps this "breakup" is not entirely justified. It may be more accurate to say that this is an emotional cry for help caused by the pressure of the exam and the subject's improper adjustment to the situation.

I hope I can explain why I say this.

1. During the postgraduate entrance examination period, I feel that falling in love will take up a lot of my mind and make it difficult to concentrate on preparing for the exam. (This part shows that the questioner is now under a lot of pressure from the postgraduate entrance examination and hopes to get support, as well as a little bit of "self-protection" to relieve the pressure. It is simply attributed to the fact that falling in love will take up a lot of my mind. Could I ask for your thoughts on this?

I respectfully disagree. I believe that love and study can coexist.

It might be helpful to consider that emotional support can actually bring people more strength. If lovers have the same goal, it can be a positive thing. Not only might it not hold you back, but you can also encourage and support each other at work and in life, and be allies. It might be worth thinking about whether the correct guidance for many high school students in love is to meet at university, especially given that you are already preparing for the postgraduate entrance exam.

2. After telling my girlfriend about my problems, she thought I was saying this to break up with her. In fact, I did have the idea of breaking up, but I didn't say it. (I empathize with you regarding the immense pressure you're facing to excel in your studies. At the same time, you're also putting psychological pressure on yourself: you want to study well, but you can't seem to get into the study, you have high expectations of yourself, you are forcing yourself to be strict with yourself... All these are psychological states of internal conflict, and you are seeking help. At this time, you should probably consider seeking help from a psychological counselor.

You may have assumed that there was a conflict between your relationship and your postgraduate studies, and you told your girlfriend about it. This may not have been the most accurate assumption.

3. My girlfriend has been very supportive and has done a lot for me. I am feeling a bit sad and guilty now that she is no longer around.

It has reached a point where you are experiencing difficulties sleeping or eating. It is important to understand that she is kind to you, you miss her a great deal, and this emotion has affected your life in a way that is affecting your ability to sleep or eat.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to consider the possibility that there might be other factors at play here.

It would be beneficial to clarify your own heart as a first step in dealing with problems.

If you feel I'm correct, you may wish to consider the possibility of getting back together with your girlfriend. It may be helpful to be more truthful, sincere, express yourself, take responsibility for yourself, and bear the pressure.

It would be beneficial to seek understanding and support for this part of the relationship that is taking up so much of your energy.

If the other person does not return, it may be helpful to let go of the guilt, prepare for the exam, give your all, and work hard for your dreams.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello! I just wanted to give you a warm hug from afar.

You're feeling the pain and helplessness that come with the postgraduate entrance exam and the breakup.

You're feeling so much pain and emotion right now because you think you're to blame for the breakup. In particular, after you told your girlfriend what you thought, she thought you just wanted to break up.

You did have the idea of breaking up in your heart. You felt that maintaining a romantic relationship at this particular time would seriously affect your postgraduate entrance exam preparations and prevent you from concentrating on your studies. You just lacked the courage to say so. Instead, your girlfriend expressed your intention to break up on your behalf. This made your inner sense of guilt and self-blame towards your girlfriend even stronger.

You see this self as selfish, only thinking about yourself and never considering your girlfriend's feelings and her dedication to the relationship. You can't forgive and accept such a ruthless self, and you're thus trapped in painful emotional distress.

Let yourself feel these emotions and try to understand what you need from them. For instance, you might want to be understood, accepted, and supported.

At the same time, you should also believe that the decisions and choices you make are definitely the best you can make given your current knowledge. This is because everyone has tasks and life issues that are more important at certain stages.

Maybe the postgraduate entrance exam is your top priority right now.

But if you have to choose between the postgraduate entrance exam and your relationship, you need to think about whether you want to continue this relationship. Have you been nourished and grown both physically and mentally in this relationship? If not, you can end the relationship with respect for your true inner feelings.

From what you've said, it seems like this relationship is really important to you. You've been nurtured and grown both physically and mentally in this relationship. So, you can be open with your girlfriend about your concerns and express your need for her support, understanding, and help. You want to find a way to coexist that won't affect your relationship or delay your postgraduate entrance exam. That way, she'll feel respected, needed, and understood. Only then will she be willing to give you the satisfaction and response you need, right?

Write your girlfriend a letter. Be honest with her about how you've been feeling lately and tell her you need her support and understanding. Say you're sorry for hurting her with your words.

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You can absolutely concentrate on the postgraduate entrance exam! There's no need to break up. You and your partner don't have any irreconcilable conflicts at the level of values. You can agree to extend the frequency of communication and meetings to once a month. There's really no need to break up!

And at the moment, you can see that you have lost your love during the exam period. At this time, you can only spend this time in your thoughts, which is really painful. Perhaps the other person is unwilling to break up, and your guilt is the possibility of the two of you getting back together in the future.

I'm not saying that I will definitely win her back, but I'm saying that there is a possibility! The reason is that taking the postgraduate entrance exam is not the only path in life. Many people want to take the postgraduate entrance exam, but some people fail to get in no matter how many times they try.

If you can get into that school, you'll be very lucky! It's the result of hard work, so you can concentrate on preparing for the exam. At the same time, explain that you don't want to break up. You're just not sure and don't have the courage, but you're excited to see what the future holds! Explain that you and your partner may still be able to become friends, and that there are other possibilities.

The other person treated you so well! It's a shame the ending is still quite saddening. The ways of the world are strange, and there are many things we cannot solve or control. If you feel guilty, it is best to explain clearly that your current state is not good and you are not suitable to make major decisions. Ask the other person to give you time to think and fight, and the two of you should also wish each other well!

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