[Forms of love] Love moves into marriage, what is the model you desire?

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Your argument uses Wu Jing's words to highlight the role of allies in the marriage model.

To be honest, using the metaphor of a battle partner to describe the marriage model is a bit much. Wu Jing's description of entrusting his wife with the responsibility is like entrusting one's life to someone.

Simply put, it's about trust and support.

In dealing with marital cases, the words that are often said are things like "more understanding," "more support," and "more trust." But can they really all be done? At least this kind of trust and support between comrades-in-arms is exchanged in real marital relationships. In fact, more than 90% of it is empty talk.

It's pretty common for both men and women to respond this way in a marriage: "I don't trust him. What did he do when I did trust him? Why should I trust him and give him another chance?"

"Relying on him? I might as well just stay where I am," and other words of rejection will come back at you.

Marriage is like this: it depends more on communication and experience between each other. And the process needs more support, tolerance, and trust.

History shows us that behind every successful man there is a woman who knows how to manage a household. This woman is not your average housewife, but a "queen" figure who transcends the strong woman. Many people may not understand.

Is the woman behind a successful man just a little woman? Actually, she's not.

The women behind successful men are even more formidable. They know when to advance and when to retreat, and they know how to make choices. They know that if they create favorable conditions for their husbands, they can even turn the tide in times of crisis.

The character I remember most is the heroine of the TV series "Go Go Go." In reality, many strong women may be even more powerful than those portrayed on TV.

This kind of supportive, trusting, and tolerant marriage model is pretty rare. It might be hard for people in general to understand, just like the camaraderie described by Wu Jing!

Maybe it's something only men and women from the same army unit can really grasp.

Hello, questioner.

From your question, I get the sense that Wu Jing values his relationship with his partner. For instance, when it comes to patriotism and the relationship between a husband and wife, he puts the relationship in the context of patriotism in a way that makes sense. Then the partner also becomes our comrade-in-arms, which is also accurate. So I agree with his idea.

It might be related to success, but even if it isn't, I think these people have a strong sense of purpose, shaped by perseverance, psychology, and personality traits. They value love and the couple relationship, and they develop beliefs and a normal pattern of marriage.

I'd like to see you two as comrades-in-arms, putting your relationship as a couple first. Then, when it comes to the relationship between parents and children, we all need to learn to separate from our families of origin. We need to become less dependent on them. You two should be more aware of and sensitive to each other. We need to be independent, but we also need to understand that our spouse is the most important person in our lives. They're the person we'll be with for the rest of our lives. They're the person we'll fight alongside.

So while two lovers become comrades-in-arms, they must also understand that the marital relationship comes first. In all relationships, we need to recognize the importance of the marital relationship to us and avoid letting other relationships get in the way. In fact, we often have trouble understanding which relationship is the most important, which can lead to selfishness. Of course, it may be difficult to be fair and just, but we need to treat the marital relationship as our closest relationship and the most important one. Therefore, we need to maintain an appropriate distance and separation from other relationships, which will also avoid more conflicts.

I hope these opinions are useful to you.

Hello, host. I'm honored to answer your question. From your description, you've shown us the marriage model of Wu Jing and Xie Nan, which is like a model of comrades-in-arms, where the rear can be handed over to the other party.

From my perspective, it seems like they want to express that they have a lot of trust in each other. One person takes the lead, while the other person keeps an eye on the back door.

I like to think of a good couple as a mixed doubles pair in badminton or table tennis. You need to know about your opponent, but you also need to understand your partner. My partner's serve, style of play, and defensive characteristics, and how their mentality changes when the score is ahead or behind.

Adjusting your mindset to align with your partner's is like competing against an opponent in a game. In the context of marriage, it means facing the challenges of life together.

In a marriage, the basic trust between husband and wife is key. When you know each other well, communication is much more effective.

If you understand each other, married life can be very romantic. We have a great friendship, but we could do more to show our love for each other.

A good marriage relationship will make you feel happy while helping you grow together. If you put in the joint effort, you can realize your sense of value and existence. These requirements are a bit high for ordinary people, but having a common goal will make our lives more hopeful and energetic.

I feel that the relationship between a husband and wife can be affected by mutual distrust and double standards. Both partners can agree on this. I have been able to make my married life happy and fulfilling.

I'm thrilled to have a date in 1983. Thanks, world, and thanks, you!

A marriage is a dance between two people. One steps forward and the other steps back, with understanding, and there is harmony. This may be the ideal state of marriage.

I like the friendship between Wu Jing and Xie Nan. They trust and support each other. Choosing a partner is an adventure. When you trust someone, you feel safe and secure. With a secure attachment, you can face life's challenges.

We all look for a safe, loving attachment throughout our lives. This is the warm memory of our mother's embrace in our early years.

Our goal is to find a safe harbor in marriage.

If two people enter marriage looking for unconditional love, it can cause problems. Most problems in marriage are caused by a tilting of the balance of love.

Security in marriage comes from mutual love. Home is a safe haven. Work is tiring. Home is a place to relax, enjoy love, and recharge.

Then you can focus on work.

You said Wu Jing and Xie Nan may be like this because they are strong or have succeeded.

We can understand each other and trust each other.

I was misdiagnosed with a serious illness when I was young. A doctor told my boyfriend, now my husband, to give up or it would affect us forever. He didn't, and later got a different diagnosis.

He was so surprised that he cried. We became best friends. Life doesn't always have big tests of love. It's often loneliness when life is busy. How to keep love strong and accept reality's imperfections is important. It's easy to end a relationship, but hard to keep one.

The book "Intimate Relationships" says a partner has three functions: a mirror, a teacher, and a playmate. A mirror reflects imperfections and helps us improve. A teacher teaches us to see things differently. We are complementary, and his strengths are my weaknesses. We grow in the process of finding a loved one. A playmate is a perfect fit for hobbies and values. A playmate is also the ability to cater to one's interests and make the other person happy. It is rare to maintain this happiness together.

I like a quote on a notebook: "Marriage is a dojo for psychological growth. We need to understand each other and maintain the relationship." With this understanding, we are at peace. Love is not a declaration or photo. It is a series of actions: spending time together, laughing, looking at each other, giving each other things, and more. Love is simple and beautiful.