How do you deal with the outdated information and knowledge of most psychological counselors?

Hello, question asker! It's so lovely to see you in person!

I'd like to thank the original poster for asking this question. It's given me the chance to participate, and I'm really happy to do so! I'm not a consultant, but I am a psychology enthusiast and parent of a post-2000s generation. I'll be sharing my views on this topic from several different angles.

First of all, I understand that the counseling services provided by psychological counselors are based on theoretical knowledge and professional skills combined with the actual situation of the counseling group. Things are constantly evolving, and here we need to sort things out and distinguish between the constant and the changing. I know it can be tricky to define, but I believe we can appropriately classify it, indirectly improving the professionalism of counseling and responding to change with constancy!

Second, we can research the information of the group being consulted through various methods such as questionnaires and industry-enhancing learning. This helps us to accurately identify the characteristics of different groups of people in different times, group characteristics, and individual cases. This makes our consultation more down-to-earth and easier for everyone to accept.

I truly believe that the third purpose of a psychological counselor is to provide guidance with professional knowledge. However, there are specific types of problems, such as depression, that require a different approach. Most people don't necessarily want to solve the root of the problem. They just want to open their hearts and accept themselves when they encounter practical problems. This allows them to step out of the shadow and see their best selves through the guidance of a psychological counselor. This can only be achieved effectively through a combination of the counselor's professional knowledge and experience.

In short, through this period of studying psychology, I have come to the conclusion that it is a highly specialized science and a relatively fast-developing field of study. This means that learning, understanding, thinking, acting, and continuous improvement through PDCA is a long-term task, but it is also a magic weapon for success!

I'm a Zen tea for life, and I really hope my answer helps you out! I wish you all the best!

You said the counselor you saw had different views on marriage and love than you. You felt they couldn't help you, which made you disappointed.

You say the post-00s are very different from the post-80s and post-90s. I agree! The younger generation is full of vitality and has diverse ideas. The older generation can hardly achieve that!

Older people can't learn or accept information as well as the new generation. If you expect them to think the same as you, you'll be disappointed.

If you want your counselor to share your values, look for someone closer to your age.

The original poster asked today's question because they want to find a suitable counselor who understands them.

You need to be understood and recognized. In the past, many counselors made you feel that their values and ideas about love and marriage were very different. You felt that your own values were suppressed.

But you still hope for one senior's approval. I think this is natural.

As teenagers, we had new ideas. We wanted our family and friends to accept and encourage us. But not everyone is ready to accept new ideas. Family members may reject them, which makes us doubt ourselves.

You may have been looking for an older counselor who understands you.

2. You said some adults need to be coaxed like children. It must be tiring if the adults around you never grow up!

If you're tired and feel angry, it's because you're being accommodating and appeasing your parents and grandparents. If you're a child and your parents and grandparents don't understand you, you'll feel angry.

This reverses the roles of the young and the old. It makes it hard for children to live their own lives.

This is just my random thoughts on the issue.

Hello!

I am a heart exploration coach. Learning is the body's treasure.

From your description, I can tell you're doubting, confused, worried, and want answers.

You're troubled by the old information you've gained from many counselors. I won't go into detail, but I'll give you three pieces of advice:

First, accept your current state.

This will make your heart feel slightly easier, which will help you think about what to do next.

You said that most counselors' information and knowledge are outdated. You are worried that if post-90s boys and girls go to counselors with outdated knowledge, they will be misled. You also want to know where you can find counselors with up-to-date knowledge. You have met many counselors whose information and knowledge are outdated, and you feel that they cannot help the post-90s generation. You have personal experience and really have more to say. So you have to try to understand and accept yourself. This will give you extra mental energy to think about other things.

If you understand and accept yourself, you can change the situation. It may sound strange, but it's true. Change is based on allowing for no change.

Secondly, think about the situation rationally.

Rational thinking helps you understand yourself and reality.

To do this, you need to:

The facts you see may not be the whole picture.

Many psychological counselors have outdated information and perceptions, but this is not true of all of them. There are many with up-to-date information and perceptions. Your experience is limited.

A good counselor keeps up with the times.

Many counselors have not outgrown their knowledge and understanding. They focus on improvement and growth. They will gain an in-depth understanding of the post-00s generation and adjust their counseling methods.

Some things never change. Things like human nature, what makes a good love relationship, and what makes a good marriage.

When you understand this, you may feel better.

Focus on yourself and think about how you can feel better.

You can find information and knowledge that you think is suitable for you.

For example, you can go to the Yixinli platform to find a suitable psychological counselor. Many well-known, experienced counselors are here. Their information and knowledge may not seem outdated to you and can also help you.

You can also go to the official accounts or apps of well-known psychological counselors and make an appointment. For example, there are Wu Zhihong, Li Songwei, Chen Haixian, Hu Shenzhi, and Zeng Qifeng. They are all very authoritative and belong to different schools. They can likely help you.

You can also ask relatives and friends for help in making introductions. This may help you find a suitable counselor. You can find counselors with up-to-date information and knowledge.

Taking action helps you deal with negative emotions.

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The topic of the original poster is quite interesting. I will contribute to the discussion by sharing some of my own views for the original poster's reference. As to whether my perspective can address the original poster's concerns, it is yet to be seen.

In order to respond to the question posed, it is first necessary to define what is meant by the term 'perception'. In the field of psychology, perception is understood to be the process through which individuals process information from their external environment. This process not only encompasses the reception of external stimuli, but also the interpretation and understanding of these stimuli. This definition can be extended to encompass the perception of external things by all living organisms, including animals and plants.

A narrow interpretation typically denotes an individual's comprehensive understanding of their immediate sensory experiences, encompassing visual, auditory, tactile, and kinesthetic perceptions. To illustrate, consider the following scenario: an individual observes a roast suckling pig at their own domicile, perceives its golden-brown hue and aroma, and mentally conjures images evoking a sense of its palatability. This cognitive process may be prompted by a combination of factors, including prior exposure to similar stimuli, olfactory cues, or personal experiences with the dish in question. In this case, the individual's perception of the roast suckling pig is shaped by their existing knowledge and experiences, leading to a judgment of its identity as a roast suckling pig.

However, this momentary perception contains part of the past perception information. The subject has previously encountered the stimulus, whether visually, olfactorily, or gustatorily, and this experience is stored in memory. This stored memory allows the subject to more quickly interpret and process the information of the current stimulus, generating a new perception based on the original perception, thus reinforcing the subject's belief in their judgment.

Some posit that experience can be detrimental, while others maintain that it can be beneficial. Which viewpoint is more accurate? It is likely that the answer depends on the circumstances. The same experience can have markedly different consequences depending on the time, place, and individuals involved.

Similarly, if an individual is already satiated when presented with the image of the pig, it is unlikely that they will experience a desire to consume it, let alone do so immediately.

To illustrate, the concept of love as delineated by the original poster differs significantly between generations born after 1970, 1980, 1990, and 2000. This discrepancy can be attributed, in part, to the influence of familial, social, and educational experiences at varying points in each age group's life, which has resulted in a spectrum of attitudes towards love. Even individuals of the same age cohort within the same era exhibit disparate perspectives on love.

To illustrate, during my third year of junior high school, I would deliver notes and engage in conversation with the girl I was interested in. However, I never held her hand, let alone embraced her or kissed her. I felt that such actions would be too bold and inappropriate. Nevertheless, one of my classmates and his girlfriend would engage in intimate behavior within the classroom after school, including hugging and kissing. I was able to observe this behavior because I happened to return to the classroom at that time. Upon seeing me, they immediately separated, but I could discern that they were visibly embarrassed.

In my day, parents and teachers taught us that it was not possible to fall in love at school. The rationale behind this was not made clear, but nevertheless, it was simply not permitted. Nevertheless, the confused and restless heart of adolescence could not be suppressed. It was still necessary to fall in love if one wanted to, but one had to be considerate of the time and place. This is still not outdated even in today's society. Some students may fall in love at school, but some may not. They may fall in love outside of school, not completely recklessly without considering the consequences. These ideas about "not being able to fall in love at school" can also be said to be part of the understanding of love.

With regard to the value of dating, it can be observed that in the present generation, dating and sexual intercourse generally occur after the age of adulthood, that is, in one's twenties. It is notable that there were also instances where students engaged in sexual intercourse while still in school. This occurred at different times and in different locations, and it was not possible to make a generalisation. This is also the case in the present day. The reason for this situation can be attributed to a sense of "awe" towards dating.

It is my personal opinion that love is a matter of great consequence that requires serious and responsible treatment. It is not a trivial matter or something to be taken lightly. Respect and value should be accorded to love and the person one loves. In contrast, some individuals become bored after engaging in sexual intercourse with their partner for a few days and subsequently terminate the relationship. This causes significant physical and psychological harm to the other person, yet they can simply leave without any responsibility or consideration of the other person's feelings. Such actions have resulted in tragic outcomes.

Such a relationship evidently lacks sufficient respect, seriousness, and responsibility, not only towards others but also towards oneself. As is widely recognized, an individual who is irresponsible and lacks commitment is likely to be viewed as a playboy, and as a result, may find it challenging to maintain relationships.

It is my personal belief that regardless of the era in question, even in the context of today's society, where materialism is pervasive and individuals are increasingly open about their romantic relationships, there will always be a subset of individuals who adhere to a correspondingly serious and respectful attitude towards romantic relationships. It is only through demonstrating sufficient respect, admiration, seriousness, and responsibility towards oneself and others, by adhering to the relevant rules and norms, and by refraining from actions that may negatively impact oneself, the other person, or others, that one can gain the corresponding respect, admiration, seriousness, and responsibility, and thereby achieve the satisfaction they seek.

Some individuals believe that pursuing frivolous and arbitrary actions and disregarding established norms can also result in the desired level of satisfaction. This is a valid perspective, yet it does not negate the possibility of attaining satisfaction through a more respectful, reverent, serious, and responsible approach. The contrast between these two attitudes will become evident over time. Treating a relationship with respect, reverence, seriousness, and responsibility tends to foster long-lasting and robust relationships.

Conversely, if there is not sufficient respect for a relationship and it is treated as a game to be played without being treated seriously and responsibly, it will be challenging to maintain a long-lasting relationship. This perception of the value of relationships will never become outdated and is a cognitive model that is consistent with the development of relationships, whether in the past, present, or future.

The definition of "outdated" is not a fixed concept; it is contingent upon the context and circumstances. To illustrate, in the past, people utilized firewood for cooking and heating. However, with the advent of natural gas and electricity, this practice has shifted. Nevertheless, in instances where there is a scarcity of natural gas and electricity, people resort to firewood as a substitute. This raises the question: Is the use of firewood for cooking and heating a form of obsolescence?

It is not uncommon for individuals at this age to have these thoughts and confusions. Their experiences, including what they have seen, heard, and been exposed to, contribute to this. At times, they may question certain concepts from the past, which is a normal and beneficial process. Without questioning, there would be no thinking, no learning, and no progress. For questioning these concepts, I commend the questioner.

The questioner views historical changes through the lens of the entire historical context, including the post-80s, post-90s, and post-00s generations. These groups, defined by birth year, represent a form of simple "labeling."

Every life is rich and full, and each person brings their own personality and perspective to the historical stage. Counseling is a professional service that's tailored to each unique individual.

Does this mean that people born in different eras have no common ground?

Of course not. The idea isn't to get rid of commonality, but to make sure individuality isn't forgotten when commonality is highlighted.

The same goes for consultants as service providers.

It's not possible to find a counselor whose knowledge is not outdated by following a standardized process like that of a company. This is essentially the same question as "how to find a counselor who is a good match for me," and there is a track record for this.

The questioner has tons of experience in psychological counseling and can be described as having "seen countless counselors." Unfortunately, though, these counselors are already "outdated in terms of information and perception" in your eyes, which has helped you screen out some of them.

So, what are the things these screened-out counselors have in common? They could be a great way to find information that's not outdated.

From what people have said, it seems that the thing they have in common is that they weren't born after 1990.

Based on how counselors have grown professionally, the current core of the counseling community doesn't belong to the post-2000s generation. The post-2000s or the post-1995s are a new group of up-and-coming counselors, and they make up a relatively small proportion.

The good news is that less doesn't mean "none."

If age is the questioner's main concern, then it might be best to look for a consultant who's been around since the 2000s or later. This way, you can see how they approach things compared to those who started in the 1970s, 1980s, or 1990s. Practice will help you understand what's universal and what's specific to each era.

On top of that, you could also look for a counselor who's up to date with the latest info and thinking. But this can be tricky because it means the counselor has to bring the latest ideas into the counseling room. But this can go against the idea of being value neutral in counseling. A counselor with strong personal values may be able to match the client's values, but they might not be able to help the client as much as someone without those values.

Everyone has different levels of limitations based on their own experiences and the external environment. Those born in the '80s and '90s who don't understand the emotions and views on love and marriage of those born in the '00s are quite unable to understand the darkness of night from a common perspective.

But how can we see these limitations within this limitation and not let them become obstacles in the work? Instead, we need to embrace each real, rich, and vibrant individual with an open, inclusive, and diverse perspective. We should co-create a unique consulting experience with this individual. "The darkness gave me black eyes, but I use them to find light." This is a greater test of one's work. It's also an important factor for every visitor to consider when choosing a counselor.

I hope this sharing is inspiring for you.

I'm a clinical psychologist, not a human behaviorist. I'm here to help you with your emotional problems. I wish you well.

Hello, my dear friend! From your description, I can see that you are worried about something. Before we discuss this issue, if you allow, I would like to give you a big hug first, hoping to give you some warmth and support!

You've asked a great question! When people are confused, they often want to find someone who can understand them and talk things over. A psychological counselor is often the first person many people will turn to for support. If the counselor's attitude is not open and neutral, it can really worry them, even more than the problem itself. It's totally normal to encounter a counselor whose views differ from your own!

You seem like a very thoughtful person, who thinks calmly and acts cautiously when facing challenges. These qualities will surely help you avoid the things you're worried about.

When looking for a suitable psychological counselor, you can get to know the counselor by learning about relevant information, such as age, training background, counseling school, etc. Then, you can meet with the counselor a few more times to choose one that is a better match.

If you're looking for a psychological counselor with professional competence, I'd highly recommend checking out the Yixinli platform. It's a great way to connect with multiple counselors at the best cost-performance ratio, which makes it easier to find the perfect fit.

I just wanted to share my thoughts with you, but please don't take them as fact. Take care of yourself, my dear friend! ?

From your account, it appears that you have encountered an issue where the counselor's approach to the relationship between the two sexes of the post-90s generation differs from your own perception.

In your opinion, the majority of counselors possess outdated knowledge and information. I am unaware of the specific counseling services you have utilized and the number of counselors with whom you have interacted.

However, based on your account, it seems that you are somewhat dissatisfied with your counselor.

Let's examine the initial question you posed. It is evident that counselors often possess views that are no longer aligned with current thinking.

As a general rule, counselors maintain a neutral stance during counseling sessions, which is a fundamental aspect of the counseling profession.

No matter how they view things, it is just their opinion. The fundamental ethical obligation of a counselor is to respect the client. In light of this, regardless of the counselor's perspective, what is the client's perception?

A counselor with sufficient professionalism will refrain from allowing their own perceptions to conflict with those of the client, ensuring that their work is not affected.

If it is a consultant in the cognitive genre, how does he determine whether a person's cognition needs to be changed? Consultants generally adjust unreasonable cognition.

Unreasonable cognitions typically exhibit three characteristics: absolutization, generalization, and worst-case thinking. Absolutization often manifests as the use of labels such as "should."

Overgeneralization is the tendency to interpret isolated phenomena as being universal. Catastrophizing is the tendency to see things as always being very bad and to lose hope.

If only one of these three characteristics is present, we typically recognize that such a perception is unreasonable. It is only when a perception is unreasonable that we adjust it.

In addition to irrational perceptions, there are also some that are clearly erroneous. An erroneous perception is generally one that does not align with the established rules of perception.

To illustrate, our planet revolves around the sun, with the sun rising in the east and setting in the west each day. This is a verifiable fact. If someone asserts that the sun rises in the west and sets in the east, they are misinformed.

In regard to your comment about the outdated perceptions of most counselors, may I inquire as to whether you are referring to the majority of counselors you have met, or the majority of counselors you know about?

It is possible that the counselor you met gave you the impression that they were out of touch with current thinking. I am unsure as to which period of time you believe to be outdated.

As a general rule, most counselors are well-versed in the latest developments and trends within their field. This is because counseling is a profession that requires constant learning and adaptation.

The counselor's age is irrelevant; it is the profession's requirements that matter.

Regarding the second question, you stated that the majority of individuals under the age of 18 in the current era have engaged in multiple relationships and have had sexual experiences on more than one occasion. Consequently, if a male born in the 2000s seeks a romantic partner, he may encounter challenges in forming a relationship if he does not accept the sexual history of the prospective partner.

To be frank, this is an open era. The phenomenon you referenced does indeed exist.

It is not typically the role of a counselor to pass judgment on such deeply personal choices.

You have even expressed the opinion that these consultants display the mentality of children. In this regard, it is clear that the consulting profession requires more experience to attain a higher level of competence.

However, this is not a universal rule.

You inquired as to the location of a counselor whose knowledge is not outdated. I believe that, given your inquiry, you may be able to find a counselor whose knowledge is not outdated on this platform.

There are numerous highly qualified consultants available. However, there is still a challenge in finding the right fit between the consultant and the client.

Even if the consultant's qualifications are satisfactory, a poor fit with the client may result in suboptimal outcomes. The selection process should involve mutual evaluation and a two-way selection between the consultant and the client.

I hope this information is useful to you.

A great many people have responded! It is certainly the case that controversy can lead to lively discussions, and the consultant is no exception.

It's as if the shy girl expects the gentleman on the other side to teach her the dance steps, take her to dance, and become the brightest star on the stage. And he is so knowledgeable and charming that he captivates her heart. However, the gentleman on the other side suggests, "I'm your dance partner. Perhaps we could learn to dance together, and I could help you learn what you want to learn."

The two of them stood there, feeling a bit embarrassed. They hadn't quite succeeded in making you the brightest star in the crowd, and they hadn't managed to save you from embarrassment either. I have to say I was a little disappointed. The young girl decided to move on from this gentleman, who unfortunately wasn't quite up to the task.

The young girl went for a walk in the garden and met a wise man! The wise man had extraordinary insight and said, "#¥$+|/@—," and the young girl said, "?"

The nobleman says, "I am a wise person in the field of alien languages. Which wise person do you want to find? I will take you there." The young girl says, "I would like to find a wise person who can guide me and is wiser than I am."

The nobleman suggests that perhaps you would like to meet a wise man who invests money, or perhaps someone with expertise in ancient literature.

Perhaps a wise man of physics or a wise man who teaches children would be more appropriate.

The young girl said, "I would like to find someone wise who can offer guidance and insight, and who is wiser than I am."

I feel the story above may be somewhat offensive to some readers, as I am also a competitive young girl. I believe that the people who guide the way forward and take you down the path of life are the noble and wise people, although you may or may not encounter them in your life.

The advisor is the traditional figure who offers guidance and support. He or she can assist you in learning the dance steps you desire, whether it's classical, modern, rumba, or paso doble.

Once you have a clear idea of what you need, you may encounter the right wise person in the garden of life, who will take you further and further down the path you have chosen.

It is possible that the omnipotent wise man does not exist, and that the wise man who can comprehensively overwhelm you also does not exist. You are such a thoughtful and self-aware individual, and the wise man on the other side may be very good at making money, but he may not have the ability to sink a single basket. He may not be as successful as he seems, and he may not even have a girlfriend.

It would be wise to first find your own path and then meet the people who can guide you along the way. As for the person who can show you the right path, it might not be a wise person, but perhaps a prophet.

Hello, question asker! I just wanted to share this Q&A I came across by chance. I'm not sure if the analysis of so many people has resolved your doubts, but I have captured some different information that I think you might find helpful. Let's explore it together!

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It seems like the questioner thinks that many counselors' ideas about love and relationships are a bit out of date and don't reflect the views of the post-00s generation. This has led them to believe that current counselors don't have the latest knowledge and that you're more like talking to a child during counseling. It's true that the topic of sex and love is one that only adults are qualified to discuss in depth.

But the basics never change. The law of personality development is the same for everyone, no matter how old you are. A counselor who can be value-neutral will be open-minded about everything, without judgment or preaching. I think the counseling relationship you experienced did not give you this feeling of acceptance and unconditional positive attention, which is why you felt that the other person was too naive. Mature people have the tolerance to embrace all things, and that's what you need in a counselor!

I'm so glad you brought up this important point! It's so important to have a unified approach to knowledge and action.

The truth is, there's still so much to learn! It's a long journey from knowledge to wisdom. What really stands out in a counselor is their ability to empathize.

You'll be totally at ease when you're with a counselor who can read your emotions, understand your thought process, give you a warm, empathetic response, offer clear, objective advice, and provide reliable support.

You're absolutely right! It's possible that your counselor hasn't been able to empathize with you. But don't worry! In half a year, you'll probably feel like you've gained a lot of empathic experience. All your doubts will disappear, and you'll understand people much better.

Hello! I'm Zhang Huili, also known as the Sunshine Dolphin. I really hope my answer has been helpful for you!

Dear Sir/Madam, I have carefully read your question and I understand that you are looking for a counselor who can keep up with the times in terms of information updates and cognitive changes in terms of emotional issues. I am also aware that you are seeking advice on how to find such a counselor. As someone who has been in counseling, I fully understand your feelings and I am willing to help you analyze and answer questions together. Best regards, [Name]

I concur with your assessment that some counselors adhere to their own preconceived notions and fail to evolve with the times. Just as educators and parents may not be able to keep pace with their children's cognitive and emotional development, there will be periods of lag. This is why counselors must continuously learn and grow, adapting to the changing landscape.

It is therefore important to consider the degree of value match when seeking counseling. If, during the counseling process, it becomes apparent that the counselor's values are not aligned with yours, for example, if a counselor does not accept premarital sex or same-sex relationships, this should be brought to their attention. It is not necessary to suppress your own feelings, and you can also prompt the counselor to understand that further training would enable them to do a better job. This achieves two goals at once, so it is a worthwhile course of action.

I advise you to seek out a counselor who is up to date on the latest techniques and who has a strong background in emotional counseling. Regular sessions lead to greater acceptance. During the pre-consultation, you can discuss the core issue with the counselor you choose and express your concerns and worries. This allows the counselor to understand your needs better. It also saves time and energy. If you feel the counselor is not a good match, you should end the relationship. A good counselor-client relationship is beneficial to the client. It gives the client a greater sense of trust and security, which makes the counseling more effective.

I hope you find this information useful, and I wish you the best of luck.

I'm grateful for the invitation. This is a fascinating topic, and it's valuable to engage in open dialogue about it.

The development of the times has entered the unprecedented fast lane of a postmodern society. China's current young people are the first generation of modern people in China. They are not attached to either tradition or modernity. They are a great generation of empty seekers.

The generation that is laying the foundation for the future has paid a high price. There's no doubt about it: it will indeed bring us a lot of love/intimate-relationship-confusion-how-has-my-language-hurt-my-husband-2893.html" target="_blank">confusion.

But confusion is good because it means we are thinking and exploring ourselves. Our life goal and mission is to live out ourselves.

The world is fundamentally about our experiences, and the mind is just a tool. It's that simple. Experiences create feelings, feelings determine perceptions, and perceptions construct our world.

This is why our world seems paradoxical, seemingly real, and yet illusory. What matters is not what the world should be like, but what it is like in your perception.

As we live, we accept the absurdity of the world and the process of lonely individuals moving forward in it.

We have entered an era of rapid development, where everything is ever-changing and fast-food style, and love is no exception. Love in our generation is very, very difficult.

There is no reference standard for views on love, and there is no template to learn from. Some people refer to the ancients, some to modern people, and some to the West. There is no common reference standard. Everyone's reference concept standard is different, as are their values. They are all divided and fragmented.

Life is full of unexpected changes, and I understand why you're feeling confused.

As the old saying goes, "Learn as you age."

I think so.

You must have a capacity for learning.

Maintain a sense of curiosity.

⭐ Maintain an open mind.

Expect new things from each new day.

A mentality of new learning points.

Keep your mind active!

Stay young.

This is something everyone needs to learn, especially those of us who are entering middle and old age.

Young people must learn and practice more experience, thinking, reflection, and critical thinking.

I'd like to know which era the original poster belongs to. I'd also like to know your views on the current era, views on marriage and love, and information and knowledge in all areas.

Tell us your thoughts.

Hello, questioner. From what you've said, it seems like you're a middle-aged guy who's done well for himself, and you're questioning why most psychological counselors are outdated and where you can find a counselor whose information is not outdated.

We need to get a few things straight. 1. You say that most consultants have outdated information? What information do you think that is?

What exactly is meant by "outdated"? And what is "timeless" information?

You gave an example to show that young people born after 2000 have mostly had more than five relationships before the age of 18, and double-digit percentages have had sex. Your example makes it seem like young people are so casual.

When I ask this kind of question, it's in line with what you said, right? Is this outdated information? I'm curious, where did you get this data?

Which official data are you talking about? Regardless of whether this data is accurate, I can see from your example that it's not actually outdated information, but rather a change in attitudes.

I get the feeling that your conversation is mainly about what we might call "sexual openness." Is the post-00s generation really that open? At 18, they've already had five relationships. I thought that in Western countries, where sexual freedom is advocated, it's not necessarily the majority?

So, are you generalizing and substituting concepts?

2. As a consultant, I think it's important for people to study and understand the official social and economic data. So, when you say that their information is outdated, you're really saying that their ideas are outdated. You use age to divide people into generations: the post-80s, post-90s, and post-00s. It's clear that age and era are linked, and the thoughts and ideas of people in each era will differ. But ideas and concepts themselves are inherited. As time passes and humans reproduce, there is vertical development, and so is the inheritance of ideas.

No matter what generation of people they are, and why they have such a heritage of thinking, it all comes from the previous generation. While there may be some changes in line with social development, the basic ideas, concepts, and core values are pretty similar, I think. For example, everyone should be sincere in love, loyal to one's marriage and lover, have a sense of social responsibility, have professional ethics at work, and follow social ethics in order to survive in society. Everyone's values, morals, and views on love and marriage may differ, but there must be a common understanding in society, which will form social ethics.

From what you said, it seems like there's a kind of social and moral decline going on. Are young people really so casual? Do they not take themselves or others seriously?

I've learned a bit about the post-2000s who are studying in school, and they're also surprised by this situation you described. They said that if there were people like that, the vast majority of people would stay away from them. It's because trust can't be easily established.

Young people aren't frivolous or weak.

3. You said that the post-2000 generation is emotionally rich and that counselors are like children with incomplete minds. I know you were just making an analogy, but I still get the feeling you're not happy with counselors. You said you've been doing psychological counseling for many years. Are you a counselor yourself?

Have you ever sought help from a counselor? If you're a counselor yourself, are you one of those children with incomplete minds?

If you're looking for help from a counselor and you bring up this example, I'd like to know if you've had a similar experience that made you form such an opinion about the post-00s.

No matter what the issue is, it's still important to look inside yourself and figure out your beliefs.

4. Generally speaking, people who seek psychological counseling have problems in all areas, and emotional problems are only a small part of it. Most of their help-seeking is also related to emotional fluctuations that arise from establishing or maintaining intimate relationships or the breakdown of intimate relationships. Some of the more serious ones may affect social life or physical functions, so they turn to counselors for help. Their help-seeking is, first of all, to relieve emotions, gain understanding and acceptance, and then find the root cause so that the problem can be solved.

It's possible that some people may experience a confusion of values in the process, which may lead to the situation you describe, where there is a mismatch. Some people are emotionally rich, but some are as pure as a blank piece of paper. However, most people who seek help aren't looking for ways to gain rich emotional experiences. They're looking for inner peace, the power to achieve fulfillment, and self-healing. So what you said about looking at psychologists like idiots basically won't happen.

5. Where can I find a counselor who's up to date with the latest thinking? I think you'd be better off saying "understanding the emotional richness of the post-2000s generation" rather than "not behind the times".

I think the consultants at the platform are a great fit for this role. They're hard-working and have a lot of experience, so there's always someone who's a good match.

I hope this is helpful.

Good day, question asker.

Your question is quite intriguing, and I will provide a comprehensive answer to each of your statements below (there is a considerable amount of psychological profiling, and there may be some discrepancy with the facts).

The author's general current situation

From the questioner's description, it can be reasonably inferred that the questioner is a male born in the 2000s.

The questioner is currently in a passive position with regard to their romantic relationship, while the woman in question has considerable experience in this area.

In the previous consultation, differences in perception and the unprofessionalism of the person being consulted resulted in communication difficulties and the desired emotional advice was not obtained.

A comprehensive psychological analysis of the questioner

As previously stated, the author of this relationship problem is in a passive position. This involves admiration and a willingness to pursue the woman, but due to the difficulty of pursuing her or some special circumstances of the woman, he is currently in a state of worry.

The majority of the previous consultations provided the questioner with practical advice, such as discouragement and the recommendation to give up, which the questioner found unsatisfactory.

This indicates the questioner's attitude toward love is relatively optimistic and positive, and he is reluctant to abandon the relationship.

The question begins with a statement that is not closely related to the questioner's own experience. This is an unconscious attempt to find support and prove that their views are not wrong, a common phenomenon of the times.

The questioner begins the question with a statement, listing objective facts that are not closely related to themselves. This is an unconscious desire to find support and prove that their views are not wrong, a common phenomenon of the times.

This also implies that the questioner lacks sufficient self-confidence and is particularly susceptible to emotional manipulation.

The questioner stated, "The focus of attention is on the period following 2000." This is an example of self-affirmation intended to enhance self-assurance.

The subsequent text repeatedly emphasizes the gap in concepts of the times, with the apparent intention of guiding the discussion towards an academic format. However, it is more accurately described as a mode of handling the situation that is reluctant to openly discuss one's own emotional problems with strangers due to a fear of embarrassment.

The logic and wording of the question indicate an overall tone of immaturity. In order to be objective without personal emotion, it can be reasonably assumed that the questioner is the party with the immature mentality mentioned in the question.

It is evident that there are individuals who exhibit a mindset akin to that of a child. Those who are unable to provide psychological counseling with an objective and impartial attitude are even less deserving of commendation.

The questioner's willingness to engage in critical thinking is commendable and should be encouraged. When faced with a decision, individuals should be empowered to make choices without regret, and to gain experience and growth through the process of making choices.

I extend my best wishes for a happy life to you.

I think you're absolutely right! The founder of psychology, Sigmund Freud, is an incredible figure from over a century ago.

We post-70s and post-80s counselors are still learning from the old-timers! It's so exciting to see what new insights we can gain from their wisdom.

On top of that, it looks like you're hinting at something big: a sexual awakening and a vibrant, open-minded approach to love. It's likely that you're one of the few people in your life who thinks this way.

It's a rare and wonderful thing to find someone who truly understands you. Even counselors can't always grasp the nuances of your experiences.

In our traditional Eastern country, sex, love, and marriage are all given significant meanings such as morality, etiquette, and family mission. These are all things that the post-00s generation hates and tries to abandon. Therefore, you think that the post-70s and post-80s generations, who have already accepted this old knowledge, are unlikely to be able to truly help the post-00s generation with their psychological distress in terms of sex and love. But there is hope! The post-00s generation is destined to surpass the post-70s and post-80s generations. They will be able to help the post-70s and post-80s generations with their psychological distress in terms of sex and love.

I think you're absolutely right! The post-80s generation is destined to be surpassed by the post-00s generation, and the post-20s generation is also destined to surpass them!

Your questioning of the group of counselors is absolutely fantastic!

It would be so incredible if you could stand in the shoes of the post-00s generation and explore the value of your own life, the meaning of intimacy, and the meaning of sex. Then, you could share with us the new perspectives you discover!

I'm really excited for it! I can't wait!

I believe there is a term in psychology called a stereotype.

Stereotypes can be defined as a generalized and fixed view that people form of a certain thing or object. In some cases, this view may extend to the belief that this thing or the whole has a particular characteristic, while individual differences may be overlooked.

The host, based on his many years of consulting experience, has come to the tentative conclusion that "it may be the case that most current psychological counselors have outdated information."

This conclusion is based on the experience of the counselor that the host has had the opportunity to observe, and it may be a valid interpretation.

It might, however, be a stereotype to say that most current psychological counselors have outdated information.

It is a generalization based on partial information, which may not be entirely accurate.

It could be said that psychological counseling is not only about technique, but also about personal experience, life experience, emotional experience, and the counselor's own values and perceptions.

It would be beneficial to consider whether a counselor's casual criticism and judgment of a client's attitude toward life and views on love and marriage, imposition of personal values and perceptions, or guidance based on personal moral standards might be perceived as acting in a parental or counseling capacity.

Could it be that there is some countertransference towards the client during the counseling process?

It could be argued that the presence of moral judgment and countertransference indicates a lack of professionalism and the need for further personal development.

I believe it is important to note that this has nothing to do with age. It is not a matter of generational differences.

It is also important to note that this is not outdated knowledge or information.

It is often the case that counselors of all ages will adopt a client-centered approach and analyze the psychological core behind various appearances without judgment.

It would be beneficial for the client to gain insight into their true self and needs, which they can then choose to adjust according to their own needs.

It is important to consider that no two people are the same when providing psychological counseling.

It might be helpful to consider that psychology originated in the West, and that when we provide psychological counseling, we could benefit from considering the national conditions and combining them with history.

It would be beneficial for them to keep up with the times and broaden their horizons.

Similarly, when counseling a post-80s or post-90s generation about their family of origin, it may be helpful to gently guide them in understanding that their parents were born in a time of hardship, rather than simply placing blame.

In counseling a post-2000s generation, it might be helpful to avoid dwelling on the hardships of their parents' lives, as this could potentially lead to a sense of unfair comparison. Instead, it could be more beneficial to focus on the positive aspects of their parents' experiences and the opportunities they have today.

They were born in an era of greater awareness and opportunity. They tend to approach life with a free-spirited attitude, seeking to break free from constraints and pursue the freedom they desire.

They are able to let go and allow life to unfold naturally, without concerning themselves with the opinions of others or the potential consequences of their choices.

They are a free-spirited generation, and naturally have different perceptions and behaviors than previous generations when it comes to love and marriage.

If they choose not to marry and have children, the counselor may perceive this as an unusual decision and may attempt to influence their perspective during the counseling process. This could potentially be seen as excessive involvement, a lack of neutrality, or even countertransference, such as expressing concern about their own children.

From the perspective of a counselor, it is of the utmost importance to remain neutral and avoid any form of moral kidnapping, which is the most basic ethical requirement.

A mature counselor may be able to identify problems and find solutions by avoiding countertransference, rather than falling into countertransference and judging and guiding the client based on personal values.

I believe that it is not simply a matter of age, information, or cognition. Rather, it is a question of professionalism and non-professionalism.

It is possible that there are psychological counselors among those of any age who are aware of the latest information and knowledge.

It would be incorrect to assume that simply because information and knowledge are not outdated, this automatically makes counselling a good practice.

Perhaps the best way to help visitors is to be as professional as possible.

It is also possible to find a professional counselor among counselors of any age.

There are many consultants on the platform, so you have the opportunity to get to know them and make a selection.

I hope my answer is helpful to you.

My name is Yan Guilai, and I am a psychological counselor. I hope this message finds you well.

Hello, I am Meng Xiaoxiao. After reading your description, I can appreciate the complexity of your emotions. I hope that my response below can offer some assistance and relief.

When I read your words for the first time, I sensed your disappointment and indignation at the perception of some outdated counselors. I guessed that you may have had some unpleasant experiences, which led to your generalized doubts about the level of counselors. I understand and sympathize with you in this regard, as I can relate to your experiences and feelings.

I can also read your concerns, which I believe may be rooted in expectations. It's possible that you're hesitant to believe that counselors currently don't have the knowledge to handle post-00s cases. It's also understandable if you're hoping to hear an answer you feel is satisfactory through this platform.

I appreciate your courage in expressing your thoughts in writing. Finding a suitable counselor can often depend on a number of factors, including chance. In the process of building an alliance with the counselor, it can be helpful to consider the impressions and feelings that both parties have of each other, as well as the counselor's level and the client's trust and reliance in the counselor. After an unfavorable experience with a counselor who may not be up to date with the latest approaches, it's understandable that doubts might arise.

This is a normal psychological phenomenon. Similarly, it's possible that the phenomenon you describe in your writing may exist, and this could serve as a helpful reminder for some novice consultants who are still refining their skills.

It is only when you meet a satisfactory consultant that you will be able to put your doubts about the professionalism of the occupation to rest. It is natural to hope that your views will be recognized and supported.

I hope my words have been of some help to you.

Hello! Thank you so much for your question. I'm Wang Yufei, a listener at Yixinli. I think your question is fantastic and really worth thinking about.

We all have different ideas depending on our age, don't we? For example, the post-00s, post-90s, and post-80s all have their own characteristics. Some consultants may have been exposed to more things, and they'll try to understand the thoughts of people from different eras. They'll try to think about problems from the other person's perspective and era.

I agree with you that some consultants might judge other people's behavior based on the ideas of their own generation.

At the same time, I think the consulting industry also has people of all ages. It's so great that there are so many consultants born in the 1980s, some born in the 1990s, and consultants born in the 2000s are also emerging!

I think you can choose a consultant who suits you based on age and area of expertise. Age is something to think about. For example, a consultant who is a little older may not understand the thoughts and mentality of young people, and there will be a certain generation gap.

For instance, a consultant born in the 1960s or 1970s might have a wider generation gap with our post-90s and post-00s generations. There might be a little bit of a generation gap with the post-80s and post-90s generations, but it'll probably be pretty small since we've already entered the information age!

So, we can choose the perfect counselor for us based on their age! Most counselors are slightly older because they have more experience and have been counseling for longer periods of time. But don't worry, there are some younger newcomers among the listeners, so it's great to find some young counselors for counseling!

Another thing to think about is the counselor's areas of expertise. For instance, a counselor who specializes in marriage and family may have seen more cases related to family and marriage. This could mean that they've had counseling experience with marriages and families of people born in the '90s, '80s, '70s, '60s, and even the '00s. This could make them more understanding.

If you say you'd like to talk about family and marriage, it's important to find a counselor who is good at that area and has experience with those issues. Another thing to look for is a counselor with a lot of personal experience. Someone who has worked with lots of different people is more likely to be understanding and open-minded.

I just wanted to mention that this is also something to think about.

Hello! Thanks so much for your question. I really appreciate you reaching out. I think there are many counselors out there, and not all of them will understand you, and not all of them won't. But I truly believe that you will meet a counselor who is a great fit for you.

I love you, and so does the world!

We can talk about two things. First, changing how people see psychologists.

Second, know how to choose a counselor that's right for you.

1. Change how people see psychological counselors.

A counselor analyzes the client's information, identifies the problem, and guides the client to identify and change their thinking.

You seem to have some prejudice against some psychological counselors. You said, "Today, the post-80s generation has reached middle age and has a stable life."

The post-90s generation is also entering their thirties, settling down, and fading from view.

Today, it's the post-00s generation.

However, most current counselors have outdated information.

As long as a girl born in the 00s has the right personality, she will have had more than five relationships before the age of 18.

A counselor doesn't try to influence their client. They help the client think about themselves so they can improve their thinking and achieve a positive, healthy state of mind.

A counselor can help with many things, not just emotions. These include family, mental illness, and relationships.

How do you choose a psychological counselor?

As the psychological counseling industry has grown, some unprofessional people have entered it. This has had a negative impact on the industry. The government has also introduced policies to address this.

When choosing a counselor, choose a formal platform with a rigorous entry audit. The Yi Xinli platform, for example, has strict requirements.

When seeking psychological counseling, it is recommended to seek advice from a professional platform like Yixinli. This can prevent laypeople from misleading themselves about their physical and mental health.

You're confused about choosing a counselor and distrust most because you think their knowledge is outdated.

As you said, this approach will make post-2000 men and women treat these counselors like fools.

An adult may still try to coax a child, but what if the adult is only as mature as a child of 9?

How do you find a counselor with up-to-date information and knowledge?

To solve the above problems, we need to pay attention to three things.

1. Effective communication at the start.

When choosing a counselor, communicate well.

Effective communication means that after you have raised your core issue, you see if the counselor's response can solve your problem. If it's just platitudes,

You won't choose him.

If the other person gets to the heart of your problem, you need to talk more.

Don't focus on objective info like qualifications and fees when choosing a counselor.

Choose a counselor who can solve your problem.

Different fields deal with different psychological counseling issues.

As a visitor, be clear about the problem you want to solve. If you don't understand your problem, explain it to the counselor.

You can find out if they can help you in the first conversation.

2. See if the counselor is good at what they do.

The Yi Xinli platform has articles and a Q&A section where psychologists answer questions.

By reading their text messages, you can learn about their abilities and thinking patterns. If you find that the other person is agreeable, you can consider them your psychological counselor.

3. Find a psychological counselor who suits you.

Post updates on the Yi Xin platform to indicate the problem you're facing.

State your demands and wait for psychotherapists who can help you to get in touch.

Visitors often have difficulty expressing themselves clearly, know where to start, and avoid core issues when clarifying their psychological problems. This can interfere with psychotherapy and waste time.

Here are some tips for clarifying your own problems.

1. State your main problem.

?2. Explain what you want to achieve through counseling.

3. Think about why you have these problems.

4. Think about whether you avoid certain issues. Also, tell the counselor if you have secrets.

Describe the parts of the consultation you find hard to accept and talk about them.

To find a counselor who can help you, first organize your thoughts, then search with a purpose, and finally choose the right counselor.

If you're worried the counselor is out of date, you can make that clear.

If a peer gives you counseling, you probably won't worry about the age difference.

My friend, I think it's important for you to understand that there is a generation gap between the post-80s, post-90s, and post-00s generations. While it's true that older psychological counselors often have more experience and are therefore more advantageous, it doesn't mean that young counselors won't have a market.

The post-80s generation will have more experience than the post-90s generation, but only if they have a strong psychological constitution. It's so important to keep an open mind and see the amazing changes that are happening around us. The times are really changing!

Let's chat about this epidemic. Don't all the post-80s team members, or even older consultants, go out to fight the epidemic and provide counseling to those suffering from psychological problems?

For example, crisis intervention, parent-child communication, disasters, panic, pathological counseling, negative psychology, burnout, and high work pressure. Do you think the post-90s and post-00s generations could do this kind of work?

It can be done, but only if you have the mental strength to treat them like a super typhoon. Do you think that's possible? I know you can do it!

Let's take a moment to think about the generations born in the '90s and '00s. It's so sad to see how many people are struggling with psychological issues, isn't it? But why are there so few folks from the generation born in the '80s?

Also, the post-80s generation has already started their own families, married, and had children. It would be so lovely to see the post-90s generation take over the family line! I'm sure you'll agree that the post-90s and post-00s generations are not at all unfilial.

It's interesting to note that young visitors are more likely to seek counseling from older counselors than adult visitors. Have you ever wondered why that might be?

Because in communication and understanding, there will be more experienced skills, conversation skills, emotional comfort, and guidance, which will be very helpful for resolving and releasing. There are many young people's views and language forms that younger counselors don't quite understand or care about. If they play games, they may play together. Do you think this is the case? How can you mislead people? This is impossible, unless you encounter someone who grows watermelons and gets beans.

We all face the same challenges in today's competitive world. It's not helpful to compare yourself to others and think that they're rich while you're poor. It's important to understand that many older generations have worked hard for a lifetime, or even several lifetimes, to achieve a comfortable lifestyle. They have a long-term perspective and a different mindset. If you leave your assets to your younger generation, who may not be as experienced, they may not be as knowledgeable about how to manage them.

Even if you have a lot of assets, you'll always be a local tyrant if you don't put in the work with your own hands.

It's also great to see more and more online consultations, with people often choosing to talk to older consultants born in the '80s rather than younger ones. The only downside is that there are more online, so it can be tricky to choose!

Some folks just don't want to share their secrets, and they'll choose someone older to keep them safe. But there are also people who will open up to someone younger.

There are no fixed criteria for success in this industry, which makes it really exciting! Unlike my profession of traditional Chinese medicine, success depends on diligence and an open mind, conscientious note-taking, and clinical practice. Apart from a senior title, experience and qualifications are more convincing, which is great because it means there are so many ways to get there!

The world is changing every day. Whether it's the post-90s or the post-80s, the post-90s and the post-80s, the gap is still very large. But don't think for a second that people aren't working hard! There is no comparability between the two. This society is moving forward. Nothing is outdated. Only greater professionalism can solve the needs of visitors. How can this be a step backwards?

Every day is a wonderful day! Those memories we made in our 80s won't be forgotten decades from now in the 90s and 00s, either.

My dear friends, don't just look at the beautiful world with a twinkle in your eye. Look at it with a broad smile and endless praise!