How to deal with recent issues in life and psychology regarding the virtual and reality?

Good day. I am pleased to see that you have requested assistance, and I hope that my input can provide you with some support and guidance.

From your description, it can be seen that the image of the perfect goddess in your novel is actually a projection of the image of the perfect opposite sex in your heart, or more precisely, a projection of your narcissism.

You have indicated that you have not chosen to pursue romantic relationships in recent years. However, your focus on self-improvement and creative work suggests that you may be avoiding these connections. This avoidance may be driven by a lack of self-confidence and an internal inferiority complex.

Your reluctance to accept your true self leads you to believe that others will not accept it either. To avoid being hurt by your true self when establishing relationships with others in real life, you create a false self to establish relationships with others. This allows you to control the pace of the relationship and gives you the impression that you are a perfect being.

Please provide your thoughts on this matter.

Once you have clearly identified that this idealised figure is a perfect fantasy created by you because you cannot accept your true self, it becomes evident that such a self does not exist. However, the underlying needs associated with these fantasies are to be affirmed, recognised, respected, worshipped, appreciated, worthy of being seen, accepted, and responded to. These needs are real and can be fulfilled through your own learning and growth.

As a result, you will gradually begin to envision yourself in this way: accepted and understood, without the constraints of a sense of shame. What is your opinion on this matter?

The prerequisite for change is acceptance. It is important to become aware of how you would like to be treated in relationships, especially intimate relationships. Once this is understood, you can learn to treat yourself and others in this way, as this will guide and suggest the way others treat you.

In the face of fear, it is important to take the initiative to build relationships with others.

It is also important to develop the ability to accept yourself and your shortcomings, while also recognizing your strengths and self-worth. When you can fully accept yourself, you will be better equipped to make decisions that align with your values and goals, without worrying about what others think.

One way to improve self-acceptance is to create a list of strengths that contribute to this quality. Include at least ten strengths on the list, with a description of an action or achievement for each. Additionally, it is beneficial to record one positive aspect about oneself or an affirmation from others on a regular basis, such as before bedtime.

It would be beneficial to consciously learn some social skills in order to improve your ability to manage intimate relationships.

I suggest you read "Embrace Your Imperfect Self" and "Live Your Unique Self."

Hello, I'm Zeyu.

The lecture recently has been about writing novels with great care, treating the heroine as my own daughter and wanting to shape her like a god. The problem is that the goddess in my brain seems to have sucked away some energy in reality.

We'll look at how the description affects our body and mind. Then we'll see why the ideal female protagonist in the first article affects our mentality. We've put a lot of effort into the novel, which uses up our energy and brain power. This is why we feel tired. Our attention also makes us aware of this feeling.

The heroine of the novel is like a goddess to us. To make our creation better, we bring her into our lives to make her more alive. This makes her the ideal self in our minds. We know it's not real, but we feel powerful, so we think it is. This makes a gap between what we want and what we have. We can try to accept this and move on.

The author describes his journey of self-discovery and his concept of love. We can see "her" in the novel as an ideal girlfriend or the best kind of love. We cannot find someone like her, so we will always remember her fondly. She is even more of an ideal country. Now that the author knows what is happening, we can accept that we miss her.

If we want to get out of this situation, we need to stop getting involved in the drama and accept reality. We all have perfect selves and perfect partners in our hearts. It's not scary.

In reality, we can lower our standards to match the situation and pursue qualities we admire. We may also need to accept that we will like some parts of a person more than others. We need to try to understand and respect this feeling.

Dear questioner,

Hello!

From what you've told me, it seems like you're feeling a bit confused about imagination and reality. It's totally normal to have these kinds of thoughts! Recently, you've been imagining some scenes in your mind, but your rational mind is telling you to return to reality. However, in reality, you can't help but think about "her" all the time. It's totally understandable to feel this way! You're feeling a bit conflicted, and you're looking for a way to find peace within yourself. Here is my understanding:

1. You treat the heroine of the novel as your own "darling daughter" and want to mold her like a "goddess," with the theme of "the growth of a goddess." But you find that this "perfect imaginary heroine" has a great influence on your state of mind. You are a university student, so you are not lost for the time being, and you have things you want to learn and things you want to do. But now, with a perfect goddess in your head, it seems as if your focus is not on yourself, but on her. (It feels as if she is sucking the energy out of you.)

It's so great that you have these thoughts! It shows that you have a rich imagination and that you are very involved. You are completely immersed in the scenes and characters of your novel. This involvement makes you realize that it greatly affects your state of mind, which shows that you are also very rational and clear about your current state.

2. It's so lovely to see that you like someone because she has qualities that you admire. You even use her as a beacon to inspire you to improve and become as good as she is! And even if you can't be with her, you don't feel any regret.

Oh, but the problem is that the heroine of my novel is a bit of a "proud phoenix" type, like having killed countless people and millions of fans bowing down at her feet...and so on (it feels like such a cool girl), but I can't possibly achieve these things in reality.

Your view of love is so inspiring! You're a positive person who likes beautiful things and can inspire yourself to be such a good person. This is so wonderful. Even more precious is that even if such a beautiful and good person cannot be with her, you will not feel sorry.

These are your dreams for a beautiful love, something truly special inside, and something you want to work towards. But you also realize that these are difficult to achieve in reality, and you seem to be facing a challenge. I wonder what kind of emotions these thoughts bring up for you.

I'd love to know how you'll feel when this happens. Will you feel lost, unwilling, disappointed, or will you not feel any negative emotions?

If it doesn't make you feel bad, and you still have a vision of a beautiful love, while also accepting reality, then you're doing great! But if it makes you feel bad, then try to think about what kind of negative emotions such thoughts will trigger, and what kind of behavior or reaction such emotions will cause in us.

In psychology, this is called the cognitive triangle, which refers to thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Let's say you think that the beautiful love you long for is impossible to achieve in reality. That's your thought. If you feel disappointed when you have this thought, that's your emotion. The sense of loss will make you lose interest in doing things, which is a behavior triggered by emotions.

Cognitive behavioral theory says that our thoughts affect our behavior, and that we can change our thoughts to change our behavior. So, if you think about what you can do instead of what you can't, you'll feel less disappointed. And when you feel less disappointed, you'll be more interested in doing things, and you'll probably be more positive and proactive, too!

So, when you have negative thoughts, it can really help to record your thoughts, emotions, and actions at that time and then analyze them yourself.

3. Your rational mind thinks, "You should return to the reality of the struggle." But in reality, you're always thinking about "her," and that's okay!

Do you want to come back from that wonderful, creative place you're in to reality? Then try mindfulness! Just pay attention to your breathing and feel your current sensations.

When we find ourselves lost in the past or caught up in a daydream, mindfulness is the perfect way to bring us back to the present. I highly recommend the books "Mindfulness, the Moment is a Flower" and "The Power of the Present Moment." They offer detailed and helpful methods for returning to the present.

I really hope this analysis and these suggestions will be helpful for you!

Hello. I am a heart exploration coach, and I am here to give you advice.

From your description, it's clear that as a boy who writes novels, your inner world is extremely rich. You have a beautiful world in your heart that you want to write for everyone. I'm certain that through your content, everyone can enter and enjoy the sense of happiness it brings.

As you continue writing and shaping the character, you will find that the real and the fictional worlds begin to overlap. It will become difficult to tell which is real and which is virtual.

In reality, you miss the virtual her. In the virtual world, you feel that you may have to face reality. You have asked this question in response to this state of mind.

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You have been working hard on this novel recently and treat the heroine as your own daughter, portraying her as a godlike being.

We can be certain that writing novels is our hope for a better world and a beautiful setting. This feeling brings happiness to ourselves and a very comfortable feeling to the hearts of those who read it.

Your protagonist is a character you have created. To create means that you have certain ideas about this goddess in your heart, and you will consider her perfect for yourself. Whether she is your romantic partner or just someone you hang out with,

This means you recognize the character, which is why you created it. You feel like an old father creating a portrait of his beloved daughter.

Your work is your child, and there's nothing wrong with that. You've put a lot of effort into portraying her in great detail, vividly, and in three dimensions.

This all represents a projection of your inner self. If you portray her as a goddess, for example, then it's likely that your heart is pursuing perfection in some things.

Or are you demanding?

You also hope that others in your inner world will admire you as a great person. I want to know if you have such thoughts in your heart.

This is a reflection of you through the character you have created, and I can analyze it to get a picture of you. Then there is this perfect female protagonist you have imagined, which greatly influences your own state of mind.

You would treat her as your own daughter and as a perfect partner. You realize there is no such person in real life.

You also want to meet someone outstanding to inspire you to progress. However, your protagonist is more in line with the past era.

You are a hero. You are a martial arts expert. You are admired. You have a killer instinct. This reflects your personality.

I truly believe there is such a person who can right all the injustices in the world. I also believe your heart can lead others, and that you will seek help from others when needed. You may feel insecure and uneasy sometimes, but I know you will overcome these feelings.

Based on the information you have provided, I have formed these impressions of the girl you have described and have analyzed them.

Your setting of this girl means you're pursuing a state of life in the virtual world. It's beautiful, but it's unrealistic.

But through this performance of yours, we can optimize the real you even more.

You realize your definition of the heroine is unhealthy because you love her a little too much.

This love may feel like an old father's love for his daughter, or it may feel like the love between you and a fictional character.

This love is loving your virtual self. That image is what you fantasize about the most, and you wish you could become like that.

Real life just doesn't allow you to achieve it, and real life isn't the era you set.

I strongly recommend that you continue to improve this character and enjoy the fleeting sense of happiness in the virtual world of fiction.

This sense of well-being may not last long, but you will experience flow during it.

The events that happen in this are liberating. They allow you to escape from the world and provide a sense of comfort that is worth feeling and remembering.

Don't be too hard on yourself. You can't blame yourself for choosing love, the virtual, and the real.

We can and should combine the virtual and the real. If we encounter difficulties in real life that we really cannot solve, we can use the way of writing novels to shape characters and shape this uncomfortable feeling into an image, and use this image to achieve some of your goals.

Your novel will resonate with more readers this way. In real life, everyone is helpless or has experiences they can empathize with.

Second, we can relieve the pain in our hearts by focusing on real life. Writing novels is a great way to express your emotions.

You don't have to choose between reality and virtual reality. You need to sort out your own situation. Otherwise, if you lose the virtual world, you'll find that in reality you're still thinking about her.

If you lose sight of reality, you'll realize the virtual world is too perfect and the environment you've set up isn't achievable now. You'll be disappointed again.

Let's read it together!

This is how you can express your emotions, accept reality, and gain many fans who share your feelings. There's no reason not to do it.

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I look forward to your reply.

I am confident that you will succeed.

Hello, I am Jokerev, and I am blown away by the richness of your emotions and the depth of your thinking!

I just had to tell you how much I admire your passion and commitment to your work! It's so inspiring to see you regard the heroine of your novel as your own "darling daughter" and try to portray her as the growth of a goddess. It's a truly creative and artistic pursuit!

However, when fictional characters have a strong influence on real life, or even feel like they are draining your energy, it's time to make some exciting adjustments!

It's true that imaginary perfect people can bring us infinite inspiration and motivation, but the real you is also very important! You should know that you learn and grow in the real world, and every progress is a real self-realization—it's an amazing journey!

You can use writing fiction as a mirror to reflect your innermost ideals and aspirations! Just remember that you are the one writing the story, not a character led by the story. Pay more attention to your own needs while writing and find a balance so that ideals and reality can complement each other rather than consume each other.

Your understanding of love is both profound and mature. Falling in love with someone is because the qualities they possess that we aspire to have shine through in them, and this can become a driving force for self-improvement—it's a wonderful thing!

But that's the beauty of reality! No two lives are alike, and there's no need to try to fit into a mold.

While it is certainly cool to be as powerful as Feng Aotian, there are also so many different beauties and strengths in life waiting for you to discover and experience!

Your thoughts on the pursuit of "love and beauty" are so healthy and profound! And you're absolutely right—possession is not the only source of a sense of completeness. The process of self-improvement and perfection is inherently valuable!

You are currently focusing on personal growth and creativity, which is fantastic! When you feel that reason is telling you to return to the real world and fight, try to find things or people in the real world that can stimulate your creativity and make your heart beat faster. Look for things that can resonate with your inner world and together they can build a more three-dimensional and rich self!

In short, keep your vision of the ideal and your awareness of reality. Let yourself explore and feel in your creation and life, and I absolutely believe you will find a path of your own! On this path, there is both the goddess in your writing and the real world of yourself.

Hello there!

Pat on the shoulder, my friend.

[Regarding the virtual and the real, recently there have been some problems in life and psychologically]

I'm not sure if the questioner has published a novel yet, but I'm excited to find out!

If the answer is no, don't worry!

I can see that you're having a bit of trouble with characterization. It's not something that just comes from imagination. You also need to think about life and observe people. When you do that, the character will have a stronger foundation. She can be both gifted and flawed at the same time. That makes her more complete and helps you create a more vivid character.

If you've successfully published a novel,

I'd love to know how you would evaluate the character of a novel! And how would you evaluate her emotions, values, and worldview in the story?

I'd love to know what her motivation is and what she's really trying to express.

For instance, in your description, she's like a goddess with millions of fans at her feet. I'd love to know why that is! Why do people admire or fear her?

I'm sure she has other options! If there aren't any other options, I'd love to know what made her choose to be who she is now.

I'm sure she'd love to be the person she wants to be, but is her behaviour really helping her to achieve that?

If you think about these issues clearly, you'll see that the world of fiction and the real world are related, even though they're different. As a writer, how you view your life and emotions, as well as the world, will affect your work and show some of your true feelings and motivations in life.

This is a wonderful journey of self-discovery and growth. It's so important to challenge ourselves and expand our thinking.

But, you know, all these recent events in the world have made me think in a more realistic way. I should get back to facing the challenges of life head-on. But, to be honest, I always find myself thinking about "her."

Regarding your inner conflict, if you have sorted out the above information, you should realize that the way you strongly reject the existence of a particular relationship reflects your imperfect understanding of relationships. For example, the goddess in a novel undoubtedly has a strong personality that will attract many people, including you. But is she the one you really like? Or is it just a certain trait?

It's so important to be able to tolerate and accept her "defective" parts. It's not enough to just make her feel like her needs are being met — we need to actively work on establishing a true intimate relationship.

In other words, it's about becoming your own other half, just like the original poster mentioned!

While a relationship can help someone heal after a loss, it's not always possible for an intimate relationship to fix everything. If someone has experienced a traumatic event, it can be even harder for their partner to meet their needs. This is something we all have to work through. The good news is that by taking care of ourselves, we can better meet our own needs and support our partners too.

Let's go back to the novel for a second. The character you created may be perfect, but that doesn't mean you've got the ability to solve real-life problems. In real life, you might still feel frustrated or find it tough to build a perfect relationship. So, this conflict is a chance for you to gain a true understanding and acceptance of the situation. You'll gradually complete the process of personality growth and accept real relationships (your other half, which is just a title here, doesn't represent the requirements of a perfect partner).

I hope you're having a lovely day!

Warmest regards!

Good day, Black Boy.

She is aware of your confusion and understands that you are troubled by the fact that your "perfect imaginary female protagonist" has taken up too much of your attention. The deviation of your focus in life has affected your normal life. Let's explore together to identify the underlying issues.

"The act of writing novels evokes a sense of creativity and inspiration."

Freud's classic psychoanalytic theory posits that the instinctual sexual energy of human beings is the source of all human creativity. You express your emotions through writing novels, allowing your internal motivations and instinctual impulses to be released, so as to eliminate the pressure, tension, anxiety, and restlessness caused by frustrations in reality, and thereby achieve psychological balance and satisfaction.

This is a type of psychological defense mechanism known as "sublimation."

It is normal to employ psychological defenses; what is abnormal is excessive repression. In real life, you excessively repress your emotional needs for love and beauty, as well as the physiological needs of repressed sexual instincts.

"Demonstrates a strong inclination towards writing novels."

You are in your late teens and early twenties, and both physically and mentally, you are ready for a relationship. However, you have not had any thoughts about dating in recent years, which suggests that you are not refraining from dating because of setbacks in reality, but are consciously repressing your emotional needs. The reason may be that you are seeking a "perfect partner" and believe that only if you are good enough can you "deserve" an outstanding other half, so you are focusing on improving yourself.

These are some of the manifestations of the "inferiority complex." Everyone has a different degree of inferiority complex, but no one can withstand it for a long time. When the tremendous pressure brought about by the inferiority complex cannot be released, it will be released through a sense of superiority. This is also the reason why you are preoccupied with writing novels instead of addressing the issues in reality. [What does she represent]

The idealized image you have created is your "perfect goddess." This phenomenon is described by Adler as the pursuit of superiority, which glorifies the goal in a reasonable way. According to Karen Horney, the primary function of an idealized image is to replace real self-confidence and self-esteem.

She seemed to provide a sense of resolution to the internal conflict you were experiencing. Jung postulated that a fully developed personality would manifest a harmonious balance of opposing tendencies. When individuals place undue emphasis on specific aspects, it can lead to challenges.

I believe the fundamental conflict at play is between the "conformity tendency" and the "alienation tendency."

The "conformist tendency" is defined by a desire to be close to others. What is needed most is a figure who can serve as a "beacon." At the core of these needs is a desire for intimacy and a sense of belonging.

The "alienating tendency" is characterised by a preference for independence and freedom, and a tendency to alienate others. This manifests as a reluctance to form emotional connections with others, including those based on love, struggle, cooperation, or competition.

Accordingly, the goddess in your idealized image possesses the qualities you desire, as well as the coldness and aggressiveness that alienate people ("the characteristics of Feng Aotian").

Idealized images can mitigate internal conflicts, but they cannot eliminate them. "Ideal" is dynamic and can inspire people, while "idealized images" are fixed ideas that impede growth.

As her importance in your life increases, so too does the intensity of your inner conflict. This may result in a detachment from reality and the formation of an attachment complex towards her.

What is the recommended course of action?

You are now consciously returning to reality, which is an excellent first step. You can learn some psychology to explore yourself, understand yourself, and open your heart. The above psychological theories are mainly from two psychology books: Karen Horney's "The Conflict Within Us" and Adler's "Inferiority and Transcendence." I highly recommend you read them.

Furthermore, the dissolution of idealized images can result in a state of profound confusion. From your statement, "returning to the struggle of reality," it is evident that your outlook is predominantly negative. It is recommended that you seek assistance from your social support system, including your parents, classmates, and friends. Additionally, the university counseling center offers guidance and professional counseling services.

It may be challenging to engage in active socialization at this stage, but it is essential to maintain courage and express emotions to genuine individuals, whether it's regarding friendship, love, or family. Genuine love can facilitate the development of genuine self-confidence and self-esteem.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

I am your neighbor, Potato Maling, who has grown up with you. Thank you for your attention.

Hi, I'm Max. Based on what you've told me, I get the gist of what you're going through, and I'd like to offer some advice.

1. It's normal to create a perfect virtual character, but being too involved in it can affect real life. I suggest you moderate your imagination of the heroine and not let it become the focus of your mind.

2. It's normal to want love and beauty in your life. But it's not realistic to expect it from fictional characters, who may not reflect reality.

You can meet this need in other ways, such as through art and music.

3. You have a mature view of love, but in reality it is difficult to find such a perfect person. I suggest that you keep an open mind, learn to appreciate more types of people, and not limit yourself to ideal standards.

4. Keeping your priorities in real life, such as your studies and interests, can help you rely less on fictional characters. You can try to satisfy your need for human contact through real interactions such as socializing.

5. If you feel like you're stuck, you might want to talk to a counselor. They can help you figure out what's going on and find a healthier way to handle it.

Overall, you have a great grasp on human needs. However, you need to find a way to distinguish between reality and fiction and develop a healthy psychological structure.

I think with a bit of practice and communication, you'll be able to find a balance. If you have any questions or need any help, just let me know.

Good day. I am pleased to have this opportunity to respond to your inquiry. I hope that the suggestions I offer will prove useful to you.

In this case, we must consider two possible approaches.

The first step is to clarify one's personal views on love.

It is important to understand your own views on choosing a partner. Having self-awareness is a valuable asset. However, it is essential to develop this quality further by forming your own ideas and concepts about how to view marriage and love, how to find a partner, and how to view the opposite sex.

The second aspect is to distinguish between reality and fantasy.

It is important to understand the distinction between reality and the world of fiction, whether one is writing or reading novels. In real life, our focus is on maintaining good health, staying warm, and obeying the law, among other things.

In the context of two-dimensional characters, it is sufficient to simply have a positive regard for them. The character's moral alignment, whether benevolent or malevolent, and their impact on the world are irrelevant.

It is essential to maintain vigilance at all times and to be able to differentiate between reality and the preferences of an alternative reality.

Furthermore, you possess an accurate self-awareness. Even if the characters you create or admire are not particularly positive, you will not seek or become similar in real life when selecting a partner or determining your personal aspirations. This is the fundamental distinction between reality and fantasy.

In this case, it would be beneficial to disengage from the fictional worldview presented in the novel.

It is important to maintain a healthy balance between your personal and professional lives. While you may engage in creative pursuits such as writing or reading novels, it is essential to ensure that your daily responsibilities are not compromised. You should plan your time accordingly, allocating specific periods for novel writing and other creative activities, just as you would for attending class. Outside of these designated time slots, it is crucial to prioritize your daily obligations.

Should you experience difficulty in detaching yourself or self-reflecting effectively, we advise you to seek the assistance of a qualified psychological counselor.

It is our hope that self-reflection or assistance from a professional will help you better organize your studies and creative work without affecting your daily life.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my love and appreciation for the world and for you.

It seems like you're trying to mold an idealized character, but you've started feeling detached from your real self, especially when you become obsessed with creating a perfect, unrealistic character. This may lead to your energy being overly focused on your "goddess heroine," which affects your daily life and self-development.

First, you need to recognize that this behavior may be a way to escape from reality. You may feel powerless or lost in reality, so you create an ideal character to escape from this sense of powerlessness.

However, this might make you more detached from reality, as you're creating a perfect character instead of accepting and developing your real self.

Second, you need to understand that your "goddess heroine" is not you. Even though you may feel that the character reflects something inside you, that doesn't mean you should treat her as if she were you.

You can use her as a fictional character to explore and develop your imagination and creativity, rather than as a substitute for yourself.

Finally, you need to take another look at your view of love. The qualities you like in someone can be a source of inspiration, but they can't be the whole of your self-identity.

It's important to remember that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and that true love is about accepting and respecting these differences.

Overall, you need to adjust your mindset and focus more on your real self and your development. You could try spending less time writing novels and putting more energy into learning and personal growth.

At the same time, you might want to think about finding other ways to express your creativity and imagination, such as painting, music, or other forms of writing.

Hello, Thank you for your question. I am ZQ, a heart exploration coach from the Yi Xinli platform. From your question, I can see that you have been thinking about the boundaries between virtual and reality, self-annihilation, and the inability to ground your views on love during the process of writing a novel. Our human imagination is very rich.

From around the age of three, we all have the capacity to engage in imaginative activities and to create both tangible and intangible realities. It is perhaps fair to say that we are less able to imagine things that do not exist. Our ability to imagine is shaped by the material reality that we experience.

So even if you create a very perfect image of a girl while writing a novel, it is important to recognize that the image you create is actually related to reality. While we may be in reality, our laws and regulations, and some of our practical actions may not fully align with this image.

While it may not be entirely possible to fully restore the situation, it's worth noting that the elements you've mentioned are present to some extent in our society. It's also important to recognize that there is a clear distinction between our reality and the virtual, and that the image you've created may not be easily achievable in reality.

It might be said that because she is not a real person, she is unable to stand in front of you like a living person to encourage you or accompany you along the way. It could be perceived that your attention is focused on this virtual image.

This may require a significant investment of your time, energy, and attention, particularly given your current responsibilities as a university student. Your primary objective at this stage is to excel in your studies and pursue self-improvement. You also mentioned that if you admire someone, you find inspiration in that person to motivate yourself to make progress. Your novel's heroine has a vast following, and there are certain admirable qualities that you admire in her.

It can be challenging to implement in our society, where the rule of law often plays a role. Otherwise, it may be more harmonious. You may have your own views on love. You may not want to possess the other person, but rather, you may want to progress with them. This could be a more mature point of view. At the same time, it's important to recognize that even if you care deeply about this person and this virtual image, real life still requires effort. Even if this kind of person, who may not be particularly refreshing or appealing, does not appear in your life at the moment, you can still cherish your dreams.

It's understandable that you care a lot about this virtual image. We also need to realize that real life requires effort. Even if you don't currently have that kind of refreshing, haunting person in your life, it's still worth dreaming.

It might be helpful to consider whether one's expectations are realistic or if there are ways to achieve one's goals with greater ease. Setting expectations that are too high can sometimes create a perception of others that is not entirely grounded in reality. This can make it challenging to connect with others in a genuine way.

This may also be a reflection of your perfectionist tendencies. If you have already identified a challenge in your current situation, it would be helpful to distinguish between what is virtual and what is real. Gradually, you can then anchor some of your imagination or attention in your real life.

As an alternative to allowing certain potential concerns to arise within yourself, you might consider taking some time to immerse yourself in novels. Within novels, you can explore and create. However, it is important to remember that real people are the foundation of our existence. You may also wish to recommend that you chat with a friend you trust more, or discuss each other's worldviews and views on love. I wish you the best of luck!

Could I ask you something, ZQ?

In fact, I am a writer myself, and I create protagonists that reflect a variety of characteristics. However, my protagonists are generally based on my own experiences and then enhanced with different elements to assume different forms. This approach differs from yours, where you have created a protagonist that is quite distinct from yourself. Despite this difference, I still find the process of developing these stories and exploring various possibilities highly enjoyable. While I recognize that this activity requires significant time and attention, I am willing to accept this trade-off.

Additionally, there is the issue of energy being depleted. It could be postulated that the world of fiction is more alluring to you than your reality. The situation you describe is a consequence of your having dedicated all your energy to your work. Some professional writers may not be able to achieve this state, but you are not a full-time writer; you still have your university life, so it is understandable that you feel this state is a hindrance.

I am unable to offer any advice that would be of assistance in this situation. One possible course of action would be to identify a period of uninterrupted time in which to write and thereby satisfy your creative needs. Alternatively, it may be more beneficial to cease dwelling on the specifics of the novel. While this may initially seem challenging, it may prove to be a more effective strategy in the long term.

It would be prudent to redirect one's attention to the tangible realities of life, rather than dwelling on the abstractions of fiction. The pursuit of literary creativity should not be at the expense of one's engagement with the world around them.

In conclusion, the question of "love" can be replaced with the metaphor of the red rose and white moonlight. Writing often reflects a person's innermost feelings more profoundly than their own thinking. There is a discrepancy between your perception of love and your suppressed, reflected desires.

You are aware of your circumstances and do not have excessive expectations, yet you still have a desire for perfection. Therefore, it is possible to accept that you are seeking a specific type of girl, even if you do not have a compatible personality or lifestyle. This desire may be a reflection of your inner aspirations, and addressing this issue could lead to a sense of emotional relief.

Hello!

You're a college student writing novels. You know what you want and you're good at it. Keep up the great work!

You're here for help because you've put too much of yourself into writing the novel. You've made the heroine into a goddess, like Feng Aotian. The more effort you put into writing the novel, the more involved you'll be. It will affect your perception of reality. You can say that the image of that goddess is all you can think about. If you can't do that, the novel won't be vivid.

It's hard to be a writer. The writer of Harry Potter lived in a rented hotel and wrote novels with a sense of direction. He laughed and scolded with joy, and his emotions fluctuated with the plot. It's normal to have these emotions when you're a writer, especially when you're just starting out.

I don't know what you mean when you say you should return to reality and fight. My experience is that you should consider practical issues like finding a job or taking exams.

If that's true, you can think about yourself while writing your novel. You know yourself and can come here for help. This shows you're thoughtful and intelligent. Having such thoughts shows you've left your novel.

Your title is not accurate. Virtual and reality may be indistinguishable during the time of writing, but your reason has prevailed.

I have a feeling that there's a girl who makes you feel moved, but she reminds you of Feng Aotian from your novel. This can be confusing. If you really have these emotions, you are really suffering. Hugs!

I think it's okay to have these thoughts. We can write about love in the novel and then try to be more realistic during the day. When we don't go on a date, our brains will imagine freely, filling our image of Feng Aotian with what we couldn't get during the day.

You might think I'm being silly, but I think you should give it a try. Life is full of paradoxes. What you think is impossible might be the best solution.

Take your Feng Aotian and fly between the virtual and the real. Believe in yourself and you can bloom in both. The world and I love you!

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to you today to discuss a few points regarding your recent query. Firstly, I would like to reassure you that I am aware of your situation and I am here to help. Secondly, I would like to suggest that you readjust your focus back to real life. Thirdly, I would like to suggest that you pay more attention to your own learning and growth. Fourthly, I would like to suggest that you participate in more social activities. Fifthly, I would like to suggest that you communicate more with your friends. I hope you will find these suggestions helpful. Please do not hesitate to contact me if you require any further assistance. Kind regards,

Your question is thought-provoking. I have always advocated for the reasonable fulfillment of wishes. For instance, your aspiration to become a perfect goddess is a wish, but you have placed it in a novel, which is a reasonable fulfillment. However, your desire to "kill countless people and have millions of fans fall at her feet" is obviously unacceptable in reality and even violates the law. This is an unreasonable fulfillment of wishes, and of course we cannot commit crimes to fulfill these wishes.

The heroine of your novel appears to embody an idealized version of perfection, which may have influenced your state of mind. This is a common phenomenon. We often project some of our aspirations onto the characters we create, particularly ideas that we cannot or are reluctant to pursue in reality.

This is not inherently problematic. Creativity is a form of emotional release and satisfaction. The issue arises when this projection becomes so dominant that it begins to affect your own life. In such cases, it is important to recognize the need for attention.

You have indicated that you have been thinking about "her" a great deal recently. This may be due to a number of factors, including pressure in your personal life or unmet goals. It is understandable that you might seek an escape from these challenges through the character in the novel. It is important to recognize that creative endeavors can provide a form of emotional release and temporary respite from the difficulties of real life.

However, it is important to recognize that we cannot indefinitely avoid the demands of real life. It is essential to find a balance that allows us to derive satisfaction from our creative endeavors while also making progress in our professional lives.

Regarding your views on love, I believe you are a very rational person. You understand that love is not about possession, but about improving yourself through appreciating and learning from the other person's strengths.

This perspective on love is beneficial and constructive. It places emphasis on personal growth and progress, rather than on control and possession of the other person. It is a perspective that is worth learning from.

You also mentioned that you have been thinking about "her" a lot recently, which may be due to a lack of focus on your immediate reality. I suggest that you refocus your attention on your current situation, prioritize your own learning and growth, engage in more social activities, and communicate more with your friends.

Additionally, you may wish to consider reducing the amount of time you spend on creative work in order to allow yourself more time to experience real life. This may help you to achieve a better balance.

Hi, Black Boy.

I'm Muyu. I hope my answer helps.

The questioner seems to have entered the character's creation and is confused about how to deal with it.

You treat the heroine of your novel like your daughter and want to mold her like a goddess. However, this "perfect imaginary heroine" has a significant impact on your state of mind. You are a university student, and you have things you want to learn and things you want to do. But now, with this perfect goddess in your head, it seems like your focus is not on yourself.

Your thoughts show you have a rich imagination and are very involved. You are immersed in your novel's scenes and characters. This involvement makes you aware of your state of mind, which shows you are rational and clear.

You seem to want to become a better person and be admired by others. You are motivated by the ideal partner and heroine in your novel.

Your heroine is a "princess" type, like she has killed countless people and millions of fans are at her feet... (I feel like this kind of girl is especially cool), but these things are impossible to achieve in reality. You may not be able to become a "princess" in reality, but you can become a great protagonist in the real world.

Becoming your best self is a wonderful thing. Keep trying and you will succeed.

I hope you can stay positive and focus on real life. The virtual world is fun, but real growth comes from real life.

Hello, question asker!

From your description, it's clear you're struggling to reconcile the psychological needs of the virtual creative world with the real actions in the real world. You're also aware you're overly perfectionistic and need to return to the real world. As the original poster, you've taken the courageous step of coming here to ask questions and working with us to understand and analyze yourself. I commend you for this. Let's discuss the three points you're confused about:

From your description, it's clear you're held back by perfectionist thinking. You have goals and aspirations, and they don't align with the demands of perfectionism. This is why you feel drained. You're too perfectionist, and your standards are reflected in the goddess character you created. This is all superficial. What's the underlying need driving this behavior?

You've been putting a lot of effort into writing a novel recently. You treat the heroine as your own "darling daughter" and want to portray her like a "goddess." The theme is "the growth of a goddess." Looking back on your growth experience, have you ever felt inferior and underperformed?

You need to face your inner demons. Do you always feel rejected, criticized, and on the receiving end of negative comments? Do you long to be as good as a "goddess" and be recognized and admired by others? This hidden inner need is worth exploring. Find a professional counselor to help you collaborate and guide you to understand your inner needs and know the real you.

From what you said, it's clear that this "perfect imaginary female protagonist" has a significant impact on your mindset. It's evident that you've recognized the limitations of perfectionism and have started actively questioning and challenging yourself, prompting personal growth.

You're aware of this, which is great.

Second, your views on love and the heroine's halo-like role in the novel show that you have expectations of yourself. You want to become better and be recognized and admired by others. You rely on the ideal object and the heroine of the novel as motivation to strive to become a better person.

Your heroine is a "phoenix" type, having killed countless people and having millions of fans bowing down at her feet. This kind of girl is especially cool, but these things are impossible to achieve in reality. This is your expectation of yourself. You can become a great self in the real world and be the main character of your own reality.

You can become your favorite self—a self that shines with brilliance. It's a wonderful and worthwhile goal. Be determined in your efforts and believe that you will become such a self one day.

Third, you said that even though some of your thoughts are unhealthy, they also contain a sense of "love." It's clear that you feel your thoughts are unhealthy in one way or another.

Mental health is dynamic and subject to fluctuations. Adjust your approach when necessary and avoid labelling your state too easily.

You have been focusing on self-improvement and avoiding romantic relationships for some time now. It is clear that you feel you are not good enough to embrace the need for love. You have some overly high self-expectations.

Combining the above two points, it ultimately involves perfectionist thinking. And now with all the recent events in the world, you have realized that you should return to the reality of the struggle, stay close to real life, but for the time being, you cannot escape the influence of perfectionist thinking.

I believe I understand the situation you are confused about.

You need to adjust the degree of perfectionism. Return to reality more often, integrate it, and let yourself adjust your pursuit. You're not perfect, so don't try to be. Do what you want to do, even if it's not perfect.

The questioner's excessive pursuit of perfection likely stems from deeper inner needs. It's crucial to explore these needs independently, and if necessary, seek professional counseling to gain insight into the hidden aspects of oneself.

This is my opinion, and I stand by it. I hope it will inspire you. Best wishes!

Hello, I can appreciate your confusion and concerns after reading your question. First of all, you have a very creative and imaginative mind, which is a very valuable thing.

Writing novels can be a wonderful way for us to express our thoughts and emotions, and to take a break from the pressures and troubles of reality. However, it's important to be mindful of the difference between the virtual and the real, and to ensure that the virtual world doesn't affect our real lives.

Regarding the heroine you wrote about, it's possible that she represents some kind of ideal within you, or perhaps an expectation of the female image in your subconscious. However, it's important to remember that fictional characters are just characters in our imagination, and they should not become the protagonist in our lives.

In real life, it may be helpful to focus on oneself, one's own life, and one's own growth, rather than on a fictional character. If you find yourself attracted to the heroine of a novel, you might consider thinking about what qualities and values she embodies and then working to achieve those qualities and values in your own life.

I believe you have a good grasp on your views on love. Perhaps it could be said that love should not be about possession and control, but rather a relationship of mutual achievement and growth.

It is also important to recognise that nobody is perfect in real life. We should accept each other's shortcomings and strive to improve ourselves and become better. If you don't have the idea of falling in love right now, that is okay too. Everyone has their own timetable and lifestyle.

I believe that if you can focus on your own improvement and growth, you may one day meet someone similar to you, and together you may be able to move towards a better future.

It is possible that when we devote too much time and energy to the virtual world, we may lose focus on real life. In this case, we may feel lost and restless because we have focused our attention on fictional things and neglected our real needs and goals.

To return to real life, it would be helpful to recognize that the virtual and real worlds are different and that striking a balance between the two could be beneficial. The virtual world offers the opportunity to create, imagine, and escape from reality, while real life is where we truly live.

It would be beneficial to face the challenges and difficulties in reality, communicate with people, establish real interpersonal relationships, and achieve our goals and dreams.

I appreciate your admiration for the heroine in your novel. It's natural to be drawn to characters we find inspiring, but it's also important to recognize that they exist in a fictional realm. While we can certainly learn from and draw inspiration from her, it's essential to maintain a healthy distance and not let her become our expectations and standards for the real world.

Everyone is unique, with their own dreams and achievements. It might be helpful to pay attention to and pursue your own voice and heart's desires, rather than being swayed by fictional characters.

I would also like to mention that your need for love and beauty are common human emotions and desires. While love is a beautiful and magical feeling, it should not be the only way we seek a sense of completeness.

In addition to love, we can also seek and experience beauty in all aspects, such as art, nature, and interpersonal relationships. It would be beneficial for us to learn to feel beauty in real life and create beauty through our own efforts and pursuits.

Ultimately, I hope you can maintain a balanced and positive attitude, and find joy and fulfillment in the real world. While the virtual world can be enjoyable and inspiring, personal growth and fulfillment often come from our efforts and dedication in the real world.

Dear Question Asker, My name is Evan, and I am a consultant in the field of fine division.

From the questioner's description, it seems that the questioner has entered the creation of the character and is experiencing difficulty disengaging. I can discern the questioner's confusion and how to address their situation.

The confusion you feel is not uncommon. Many writers or actors encounter similar situations when creating characters. It is common practice to treat the character as a "darling daughter" or "god." This emotional investment can help you understand and shape the character more deeply. However, excessive investment may also cause you to become disconnected from real life.

From the questioner's perspective, the individual in question possesses the qualities the questioner aspires to and serves as a source of inspiration for personal growth and inner progress. This is a commendable approach, as it demonstrates a focus on self-development and intrinsic fulfillment rather than mere external gratification.

What prompted the question asker to encounter such a situation with the character they created? As this question was posed on the platform, we are unable to provide a detailed response. However, we can offer some straightforward suggestions to assist the question asker.

It is important to maintain a balance between creativity and reality. The questioner should be clear about the boundaries between the two. When engaging in creative activities, the questioner has the freedom to shape and imagine the heroine to their heart's content, giving her all kinds of characteristics and stories.

In practice, however, it is important to return to oneself and focus on personal growth and objectives. While creation is a means of expressing oneself, it is life itself that provides the raw material for such expression.

It is possible to incorporate elements from real life into your creations, thereby enhancing the richness and authenticity of your work.

It would be beneficial to consider your original creative purpose. Why did you create this character? Was it to express yourself or to influence others? Clarifying this will help you adjust your mindset.

In addition to returning to your original intentions, it is also important to focus on self-improvement. The questioner mentioned that in recent years, you have placed a strong emphasis on personal growth and development.

It is beneficial to focus on self-improvement as a means of achieving personal growth and progress. It is important to ensure that external factors do not impede the path to self-improvement.

It is important to consider emotions in a rational manner. The questioner has identified a need for "love and beauty" and a dislike of achieving a sense of completeness through possession of another individual. This is an entirely healthy perspective on emotions.

It is important for the questioner to consider their emotional needs rationally and identify a healthy way to satisfy them. While the questioner's view of love is unique, it is essential to recognize that love encompasses more than merely admiring and pursuing the other person's positive attributes. It also entails mutual understanding, support, and companionship.

It would be beneficial for the questioner to understand and accept this, as it may result in a new perspective on love.

It would be prudent to return to reality. From the questioner's description, we can see that the questioner's rational mind is telling you that you should return to reality, which is correct. Challenges and experiences in real life will bring you more inspiration and material, making your creation more abundant.

The question asker may wish to consider establishing a balance between creativity and other aspects of their life. One approach could be to set aside a fixed amount of time for creativity and to focus on other activities during the remainder of the day. This could help the question asker to manage their time and energy more effectively.

I encourage the questioner to adhere to their personal perspectives on creativity and emotions while prioritizing self-development and enhancement. By cultivating growth and improvement, the questioner can more effectively disengage from the role they have created. I believe the questioner will identify an effective approach to navigating the confusion in their emotions and creations.

It is my hope that this response will prove helpful to the questioner.

Hello! Writing novels is a great way to express your creativity, and there's nothing wrong with letting your imagination run wild. It can help you create a whole new world! Focusing on writing is also a wonderful thing, but as social beings, we also need to be closely connected to the world around us. It seems like you're trying to figure out how to balance the relationship between novel writing and personal development in reality. You might be worried that you'll neglect the real world.

The heroine of your novel has become an embodiment of your ideal self, but in real life you are not that good, so there is a psychological gap. Don't worry about it! The character you create may be a vehicle that carries your inner yearning for truth, goodness, and beauty. You can work hard to get closer to the personality you want, starting with the things in reality that you hope to achieve and that you hope can be achieved. If there is someone similar in real life, you can also use her as a role model, whether it is a family member, friend, teacher, public figure, etc.

Also, think about all the amazing things you're good at. You're not a failure if you can't become someone like that. You're great just the way you are! Try to find something else you're good at, focus on things you can do, and there will also be more life experiences that can become the material for your writing. Prioritize the things you want to do, pay attention to changes in your emotions, and adjust your thinking.

You can absolutely set aside time for writing novels and other things, like school, your social life, and family.

I really wish you could become the ideal person in the real world, find the ideal love, and satisfy your pursuit of love and beauty.