Good day.
After reviewing your message, I believe the question can be summarized as follows: you want to understand yourself and, at the same time, determine the best approach to choose and interact with your future partner.
I will now proceed to share my views on these two aspects.
Facing oneself can sometimes feel like "not knowing the true face of the mountain." It would be beneficial to have a tool that can objectively evaluate oneself or obtain a professional evaluation.
It is important to note that the only person who can truly understand oneself is oneself. The desire to understand one's current self is often driven by a desire to understand how others perceive that self.
It is human nature to want to be seen as perfect by others.
It is therefore essential to gain an understanding of oneself and one's own capabilities.
It is not uncommon for the mind to create contradictory and conflicting psychological conditions, which can result in discomfort.
The source of this pain is typically rooted in one's life experiences and cognitive patterns, which are shaped by upbringing and worldview.
To gain self-understanding, it is essential to confront one's own emotions.
If you wish to effect change, it is essential to start from within. The first step is to become aware of your thoughts and to understand their origin. Once this is done, you can accept them. The next step is to love yourself. Once you have achieved this, you will be able to love others and understand and accept them.
It is a lengthy process, and an essential one for achieving happiness.
How do you approach the other half of your future business partner?
In the book "Inferiority and Transcendence" by the renowned psychologist Adler, the following description of marriage and love is provided: "Love, and its result, marriage, is the closest devotion to a partner of the opposite sex, which is expressed in the mutual understanding of the heart, physical attraction, and the common desire to have children." It is evident that love and marriage both entail a cooperative aspect, and that this cooperation is not only for the benefit of the two individuals involved, but also for the betterment of humanity as a whole.
The key terms in this description are "dedication" and "cooperation."
How do you select a suitable partner?
The suitability of a prospective partner depends on their willingness and ability to cooperate. Naturally, compatibility is enhanced when there is a mutual desire to work together.
This will also be determined through a period of getting to know each other and adjusting to each other's styles.
How do you ensure compatibility and a positive working relationship throughout this process?
I will now present the method of consistent communication.
The specific approach is as follows:
First, it is essential to determine what information you wish to convey to the other party and to ensure that your emotional state is stable before communicating.
In order to facilitate effective communication, it is essential to adhere to the following guidelines:
1. Only convey the facts, refrain from forming judgments.
2. Only express your feelings and wishes, and refrain from making any complaints or accusations against the other party.
3. Allow the other person sufficient time to express themselves. Concurrently, listen carefully and be aware of your own feelings.
4. Provide the other party with feedback regarding your feelings, and adhere to rules 1 and 2 in subsequent communication.
This approach facilitates deeper mutual understanding and enhances mutual respect.
I hope this information is helpful.
I wish you the utmost success.
This is to confirm that the meeting scheduled for May 11, 2022, will proceed as planned.


Comments
I can relate to feeling lost in such a complex situation. It seems like you've been through a lot, and it's understandable that you might feel unsure about your identity. You come across as someone who has faced adversity from a young age, leading to a strong desire for security and acceptance.
It's clear that you're seeking growth and change, which is already a significant step. With effort and support, anyone can evolve and learn new ways of handling emotions and relationships. Therapy or counseling could provide guidance and strategies for personal development.
Expressing your thoughts to your partner can be challenging, especially when you feel ignored. Perhaps setting up a calm and private conversation where you both can speak openly without distractions might help. Try using "I" statements to express how you feel rather than what he's doing wrong.
When you're together, adopting an attitude of mutual respect and understanding would be beneficial. Make sure to listen to him as well, showing that you value his input. This reciprocity can encourage him to do the same for you.
Your experiences have shaped you into someone who craves stability yet struggles with expressing needs. It's important to work on building selfconfidence and learning assertiveness skills so you can voice your thoughts effectively.