I dreamt that after being sexually assaulted, I met someone I admire, and he didn't even look at me.

Questioner: Hey there!

Reading this dream, you can empathize with the pain and sadness it represents. In the dream, you went to a physical education class that you shouldn't have taken on your own, and you were sexually assaulted and killed by the teacher.

Later, when you meet the person you confessed your feelings to, he still ignores you, and you feel sad and even belittle yourself. My understanding is that the questioner and he should never have met, but they formed a link. You were hurt, so you were angry and cut him out of your life.

The truth is, the questioner can't forget him. In order to make himself feel better, he belittles him to make himself feel like this person isn't worth being so devoted to.

But deep down, I feel like I'm at least partly to blame for the other person not accepting me. And I also feel like the other person should accept me.

So the questioner is stuck in this paradoxical thinking.

So, how do you get out of this situation? The questioner is unable to accept that the person they like does not like them back, which damages their sense of respect.

Then I want to forget the other person to heal myself. He doesn't like me, so I'm punishing the other person by forgetting him.

It's tough to fall in love and forget it easily! When you imagine a beautiful picture, it's important to recognize that those beautiful things are your expectations.

Not everything you expect can come true, and it's okay to let it stay beautiful if it doesn't. Just because the other person doesn't accept you doesn't mean you're bad. Maybe the other person thinks he's not good enough for you, and that's why he rejected you.

Or maybe he's not ready for a relationship yet. He has his own plans, and the questioner is not in his plans. On second thought, there are actually many answers to the question of confession, not just like and dislike.

I really like you, and I wish you all the best!

Hello, dear question asker!

From what you've told me about the dream, it seems like you might be feeling guilty about something and are trying to ease that guilt by punishing yourself.

It's totally normal to feel a bit guilty when you think you're going against social norms or your own expectations. We all make mistakes! It's just a matter of learning from them and moving on.

In your dream, he never even looked at me, so deliberately. I laugh at myself for being disappointed, and I'm really hard on myself for being so incompetent and timid.

I can see that you have a lot of conflicting feelings about this. It's totally normal to have a range of emotions when we think about someone we've loved and lost. It's been over a year now, and you've been trying to move on. You've been telling yourself that he's not that great, but every time you think of him, you still have that fluttering feeling and question whether you are qualified to like him and feel unwilling. This shows that you still have some feelings for him, and it's okay to have those feelings. It's natural to have a range of emotions when we think about someone we've loved and lost. What aspects of you show that you are unqualified?

In the dream you mentioned sexual assault, and it's clear you think this is awful. You believe the perpetrator should be punished. Have you let this incident affect you in the same way? Do you think the victim also bears responsibility for being victimized?

Let's put aside this dream for now and take a look at the facts.

After the college entrance exam, you confessed your love to the person you admire, but they rejected you. It's been more than a year, and you still haven't forgotten him. You try to forget him, telling yourself he's not that good, but you're still doubting yourself. It's okay to doubt yourself! We all do.

——His rejection has become a hurdle in your mind, but in fact, his rejection of you does not mean that you are not worthy or not worth it. Rather, everyone has their own preferences for their romantic partners, and these preferences come from personal experiences growing up in a family and the influence of social environmental factors. Love does not simply depend on the equivalence of external objective conditions. A good person and an unexceptional person can also have feelings for each other.

He's become a tool for you to prove yourself and build your confidence, which is totally normal! You're trying to reverse your subconscious negative attitude towards yourself after a few disappointing events, but you might need to adjust your attitude towards this matter. He might not be as good as you think, and it might just be your own romantic fantasy. Don't judge your self-worth based on just one person's attitude. Your value exists in itself, the key is that you don't see it. You choose to rely on one person's attitude to see your own value, and you don't have the habit of seeing your own value from an objective perspective, which is totally fine!

I just wanted to share my thoughts on the current issue, in case they're helpful!

Warmest regards!

Hello, my name is Strawberry.

In light of the author's confessions and troubles, Freud proposed that dreams are the output of the subconscious. Let's consider what this implies about the nature of dreams. Some have suggested that what we think about during the day may manifest in our dreams at night. When we have nightmares, others have observed that the dreams appear to be reversed, and this observation seems to have some merit.

It is possible to gain insight into one's innermost feelings through the medium of a dream.

After being rejected by the person they admire, they did not contact them again. Before falling asleep, they doubted themselves because they were rejected, wondering if they were really that bad. They wondered if they were not worthy of being loved, which may have led to being rejected by the other person. The questioner dreamed of being sexually assaulted, which is the opposite of self-doubt. Only if they are usually noticed will this teacher have the opportunity to find sexual assault. The location is at school, and they usually spend more time with the other person at school. P.E. class is also representative here. For example, was it him who attracted her in P.E. class? There are a lot of people coming and going in P.E. class. If something like this happened, more people would immediately notice it. It is also possible that it was seen by the person who rejected them. Seeing it does not mean that no one noticed them.

It's understandable that being rejected is an outcome the questioner would rather avoid. It's possible that in reality, they have accepted the rejection calmly, but the attitude of the other person may have made them feel more strongly about it than they initially intended.

In our youthful ignorance, it seems that secret love is a common phenomenon. Looking at each other from a distance, being drawn to the other person's every move, after the questioner confessed, the other person rejected him. He had already made his feelings clear. Perhaps he had fantasized about many beautiful things before mustering the courage to confess. In this behavior, the questioner is admired by many people. After all, when it comes to secret love, many people are afraid to try to express their innermost feelings. The questioner dares to face his own heart, which can also help him to move forward with less regret.

It might be helpful to accept the reason for the rejection.

It's been more than a year since this incident, and the questioner has been trying to move on from it. It's understandable that suppressing your feelings can make them more intense when you can't take it anymore. Sometimes, letting go of the past and treating it with indifference can be a good way to deal with it.

It's important to remember that everyone has their own ideas and plans. For example, during their studies, they may not be ready to get involved in a relationship. Others may be slow or clumsy when it comes to relationships, and they may feel hesitant about pursuing one because they're not sure how to handle it.

The object of our secret love often seems better than reality because it is full of fantasies and beauty. Not getting the best is sometimes the best. The questioner may have missed out on spending time with the other person and getting to know them better, which could be why the good side of them has always been in the questioner's heart.

The questioner expressed a desire to move on from this past, yet the dream suggests that this repressed emotion has manifested in another form. The questioner is concerned about his attitude, his opinion of himself, and the underlying reasons for his rejection. It's important to note that the other person did not provide a clear explanation for the rejection. Instead, it seems that he may have encountered the wrong person at the wrong time, which is not a reflection of his worthiness or desirability.

How might I best move forward and find a new love that is truly mine?

1. Empty chair therapy: Find a quiet room and make sure no one will disturb you while you are doing it. Set aside about an hour and a half for this, put two chairs, one for you and one for the person who rejected you at that time. After you ask the question to this person, try to imagine how they would answer you at that time. Answer calmly and rationally, and avoid answering in a way that attacks yourself. This back-and-forth interaction may help you find the answer you're looking for, and in time, you may be able to move on from this past situation.

2. Consider opening up to someone: This past experience may have been kept hidden for a long time. Seize this opportunity to express your feelings and thoughts about it. Find someone you trust and share your thoughts with them. You can also express your emotions towards the other person. In front of the listener, you can feel at ease sharing your thoughts. The listener can also see the issue that the questioner has been avoiding, which could provide guidance and perspective, leading to new ideas and solutions.

If you're still struggling to move on after more than a year, it might be helpful to take a courageous step forward and explore ways to find a solution that aligns with your needs. When you're ready, time can often help us heal and move forward.

I hope my answer is helpful to the questioner. Wishing you well.