I feel that I am too kind and have no principles. I can't make friends. What should I do?

Hello, you are always hurt and focused on negativity.

You didn't mention any early experiences, so I won't guess.

The previous example has three problems, varying in degree.

The first is neglect.

You said:

I was talking to a guy I knew, but he suddenly stopped responding. I felt like he was being rude and disrespectful.

You want to be valued by the opposite sex. If they ignore you, you'll go after them, feeling hurt.

Any action we take is related to our early experiences. Maybe your parents also neglected you emotionally, making you value what others think more.

Second, negative expectations

You said:

It seems like he thinks I'm less valuable than he is. Can't a guy and a girl just be friends? Does the guy on a blind date have to make the relationship clear?

If he thinks there's no chance, he'll end it. Why do I feel like we're always arguing?

If you're always tense, anxious, and uneasy, it's easy to have negative expectations.

You may be immature.

There are different levels of relationships. The first is intimate, the second is close, the third is friendships, and the fourth is social. If you meet someone of the opposite sex, it is basically a social relationship, and it is normal for a person to ignore you.

He doesn't understand you, but you want to talk to him first. There's a process of getting used to each other, and his ignoring behavior makes you feel worthless.

I can't judge my best friend's behavior right away. I have to see her nonverbal state.

I'm too kind and have no principles. How do I set boundaries?

How do you set boundaries?

Be more aware.

For example, relationships: first is intimacy, then a close relationship, then a friendship, and finally a social relationship. Lower your expectations for different people, even if they are of the opposite sex. Don't hold out too much hope when you haven't confirmed a relationship.

You won't feel neglected or worthless.

If your best friend is being mean, stay away. You deserve better.

Good day, my name is Strawberry.

From the description, it appears that the distress experienced by the questioner stems from unequal treatment, which has led to a perception of disrespect from the other individual. In the case of the childhood friend, the questioner provided genuine praise, but the response indicated that the questioner was negating the praise, and neither the length nor the style was perceived as favorable. Given the context of a childhood friend, it would have been more appropriate to express the questioner's displeasure directly or to provide constructive feedback in a more lighthearted manner, such as suggesting that the friend consider a career in hairstyling.

If a childhood friend is able to identify a suitable hairstyle for the individual in question, it would be preferable for them to provide a solution rather than adopting a didactic tone and ignoring the mood of others.

There is a pattern of getting along that we need to understand.

The individual in question appears to be accustomed to not expressing their emotions when they are incorrect. Instead, they generate emotions when they reflect on the situation afterwards, which traps them inside their emotions and depletes their energy. This has an impact on their physical and mental health in the long term.

If you have an opinion about this mode of operation but do not express it, other individuals will remain unaware of the need for change. Over time, they will continue to operate in this manner.

The questioner is resistant to this mode of getting along, so why would you rather let this emotional drain on yourself than express it at the time? In the meantime, the questioner has some concerns, perhaps worrying that if they express themselves immediately, it will make the other person unhappy, or that it will make the other person think they are petty and nitpicking over trivial matters. When we think too much about others, it hinders effective communication and may cause misunderstandings.

Adhere to your principles.

It is important to note that test results should be used as a reference only. They are not 100% accurate, and even if the results are calculated, they cannot represent that we will always remain with such a personality. As the saying goes, "You are what you are at 3 years old, and what you will be at 7 years old is your wife." Many people believe that the personality that has been shaped is fixed, but in fact it is not. Our personality can be changed through the environment, the people we come into contact with, and learning.

The questioner believes that he is overly kind and lacks principles, and that he is unable to protect himself when confronted by others. However, there is no correlation between a lack of principles and kindness. This is more of a reason for one to avoid problems. Some individuals are kind, but they are also adept at protecting themselves and are clear about their objectives.

When you become aware of your emotions and thoughts, it indicates a desire to extricate yourself from the situation. This is an initial step towards change. It is not possible to become our ideal selves overnight. In the presence of others, we can initially attempt to establish a new position, adhere to our principles, and demonstrate our bottom line and persistence.

It is important to accept yourself.

When faced with unequal treatment by others and the inner resistance that comes with it, the questioner may suppress the emotions that arise and refrain from expressing them to the other person. This can lead to feelings of discomfort and self-consciousness. Many individuals encounter this challenge due to underlying fears, such as the potential loss of friendships or the concern about how others perceive them.

In order to maintain what we are afraid of losing, we are internally consuming while persuading ourselves to accept it. From a different perspective, if others can accept all of our actions, there is no reason why we cannot do the same. If we cannot accept the real us, then there is no point in maintaining that relationship with the other person.

It is not realistic to expect that we will be universally liked. Attempting to do so will inevitably lead to fatigue. It is therefore preferable to choose to be your true self without causing harm to others or yourself, and to express yourself when you want to. The questioner is encouraged to embrace the advice that "you are the answer". Learning enables us to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves, to identify our aspirations, to accept ourselves, and to be our unique selves.

I hope this response is helpful to the questioner. Best regards,

Hello, I'm Kelly.

Today, I read your question about kindness. Let's discuss it together and have a chat.

I have experienced these kinds of confusion too.

My childhood friend came to my house and asked me to go for a walk. When I saw her, I said, "Your skin looks better and smoother than last year." She said, "Your long hair doesn't look good, and short hair doesn't look good either."

I replied, "Really?" After that, I thought more about it and realized I'd been bullied. I didn't express how I felt.

From this passage, it is clear that the questioner is a person with love in his heart and beauty in his eyes. When you see that your friend's skin has improved, you will take the initiative to tell her how you feel.

Your friend says you don't look good with long or short hair. What do you think?

Do you really think that neither long nor short hair looks good on you?

You think you don't look good with short hair when you grow up. Has anyone else said that to you?

If my childhood friend says this, I will have my own opinion.

1: It's possible that you're better than your childhood friend in every way, and she's jealous of you.

2: You have a gentle temperament and rarely attack others. Your childhood friend is in the habit of saying this about you, and you have always accepted it and approved.

3: Is the childhood friend emotional? If you are better than her in every way, she will find her own sense of existence by criticizing you.

4: Is your childhood friend someone who doesn't know how to praise and appreciate others? Do they always say things like that, or just occasionally?

5: You've been friends since childhood, but that doesn't mean things won't change. People grow up and lead their own lives, and your thoughts and aesthetics will evolve along with them.

She's wrong.

6: We can choose freely. For example, I have a childhood friend whose marriage is not going well. When we met before, she expressed her jealousy a few times and belittled me. I understand that she is unhappy, and as her childhood friend, I have been tolerant of her. However, I would choose to have less contact with her.

7: Jealousy is common among childhood friends, some girlfriends, even close sisters, good classmates, good colleagues, etc. It arises from the gap between one party being good and the other being bad, and it often occurs because they will feel very familiar and the environment is similar.

We simply don't feel jealous of people who are very distant from us.

I will not defend myself if someone attacks me.

I am too kind and have no principles. I need to set boundaries in my relationships. I don't know myself well. Is the psychological platform test accurate?

Know your strengths and weaknesses.

The questioner is unable to protect himself, and I want to know if there are many people attacking you.

I firmly believe that being gentle and kind makes people like you. If you're facing a lot of attacks, it's time to grow.

You don't need to change yourself if it's a childhood friend or an individual.

This personality brings you more gains than losses.

Kindness is a good quality. Most people like it. If you are attacked, it's not your fault. It's the other person's problem.

You can learn without principles and boundaries. There are many ways to grow yourself, such as reading, spending more time with people who encourage you, and exploring yourself more.

You should also find out if you were an obedient and sensible person in your family of origin, someone who listened to your parents.

Some people believe that there are limits to what you can do and say. They believe that boundaries are a protective wall for personal growth, and that a sense of boundaries is the best way to cultivate a person.

Some people also believe that you have to break through the status quo to create greater value.

We must be good to ourselves, protect ourselves, and distinguish between our own affairs and those of others.

[Another thing. You need to understand what values are.

Values are different for everyone. They are about what you value more, what is more important to you, and your own choices.

It is not always the case that couples and family members share the same values.

Values are deep-rooted and long-lasting. They directly influence and shape our ideals, beliefs, goals, and pursuits.

You should ask yourself what kind of person you like and what your values are.

You can choose to become whatever kind of person you want, and you will attract the same kind of people.

I was having a great conversation with a friend of the opposite sex, but then he suddenly disappeared. I sent him several messages but he didn't respond. His behavior was rude and disrespectful. It made me feel like my value is inferior to his. Is it true that guys and girls can't be friends? Does the guy on a blind date have to clarify the relationship?

He'll only chat with you warmly if he thinks there's a possibility. Otherwise, he'll just keep his distance. I feel like relationships are confrontational.

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This passage shows the confusion of the questioner. You are having a heated conversation with a member of the opposite sex. The topic is uninteresting to him or he feels unable to answer you.

If he quits, will anything else happen?

If you have an emergency and your phone battery is low, wait a little longer.

The questioner knows how to respect others and expects to be respected in return. We must start by respecting ourselves.

You can also gain respect through your actions. If a friend flakes on you, it's because they don't know how to respect others, not because of you.

You gain respect and recognition from others through certain things. A teacher, for example, gains respect and recognition through their teaching ability.

The doctor relies on his medical expertise to help the patient and receive help from the patient.

You can't change other people. Based on what you said about your blind date, we can learn about ourselves by reflecting on our interactions and those of others. We can identify patterns and avoid repeating mistakes.

Everyone has their own thoughts. We understand each other through communication. It's mutual. We choose to continue a relationship if it's suitable or part ways if it's not.

You can't change others, and you can't be changed by them either.

You respect his choice, and he respects yours. This is a mutual agreement.

You are also welcome to continue exploring and communicating, and grow together.

Congratulations on your well-being!

If you want to continue communicating, click "Find a coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom. I will communicate with you one-on-one.

From the description, I can see the kindness of the questioner and her desire to grow. She chats with her childhood friend politely and considers the other person's feelings, but the other person speaks disparagingly in return, making her feel disrespected. She senses that she is not taking care of herself, and wants to establish boundaries in her interpersonal relationships. She also has similar concerns when interacting with friends of the opposite sex. I can't help but think of my younger self, and I would gently encourage the questioner to remember that she can be the person she imagines herself to be, as long as she wants to.

It may be helpful to consider ways of enhancing self-confidence, respecting yourself, expressing your emotions and feelings, and embracing the idea that you are a unique and precious being.

It could be said that self-knowledge is the key to knowing one's place.

It would be beneficial to gain an understanding of oneself. Without this understanding, it can be challenging to fully comprehend the needs of others or to know how to maintain the appropriate distance in a relationship.

It would be beneficial to prioritize mutual respect in interpersonal relationships. When I was younger, I came across a saying that resonated with me: "People must respect themselves before others will respect them; people must value themselves before others will value them." I wrote it on the front page of my diary to serve as a daily reminder.

Laozi said, "He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened." Perhaps we can work together to become wise and interesting people!

I believe that confidence can lead to freedom.

It may be helpful to set short-term and long-term goals for your own growth plan. People who want to achieve their goals often have a strong internal driving force, which can lead to self-confidence. It may be beneficial to make the goals as clear as possible, with as much detail as you can provide, to help you focus and eliminate external distractions.

Spiritual teacher Louise Hay's well-known "mirror exercise" is a helpful approach to healing from within. It involves repeating positive affirmations to yourself in the mirror. Hay believes that "your relationship with yourself affects everything in your life." This exercise can be challenging to implement, but with practice, it can be beneficial.

In my opinion, self-confidence is a sense of self-acceptance, an optimistic outlook, and a sense of responsibility. It is a source of energy that contributes to a sense of well-being. It is a reflection of one's overall ability.

It is always possible to learn new things.

It is often the case that knowledge is more easily gained through the collision of ideas. It may therefore be helpful to read more, learn new things, and communicate with outstanding people. Over time, you may find that you are able to see people's hearts. It is possible that more communication can reveal people's hearts.

While various psychological tests, such as the Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), have their own limitations, they can serve as a useful reference for exploring and analyzing oneself and others. I hope to leverage my strengths on the path of self-growth, gradually develop a balance in my weaker areas, and become a better version of myself.

It is believed that people are born with the potential to balance and adapt to change. It is thought that the more we learn and explore, the more wisdom we will gain.

I believe that values are important.

In my opinion, the most important thing in life is "values," which play a significant role in shaping our identity and the way we live our lives.

Values are the most fundamental principles and concepts for individuals in dealing with others and things. They may seem abstract, but they are always present in life. Different values lead to different modes of behavior. For example, "care" may encourage people to care about others, understand their plight, and empathize with them. It might be helpful to list a variety of values, select the ones you want from them, and repeatedly talk to yourself to explore and learn deeply within. This could help strengthen neural connection circuits to imprint them in your mind, so that you will not lose your way in life.

Louise Hay once suggested that if we want to change our lives, we should consider changing our thoughts. This could help us to become less victimized by our circumstances.

It would be beneficial to understand your own strengths and to take control of your own destiny.

I hope you will find this information useful to consider.

May I respectfully propose that we consider the possibility of achieving peace of mind?

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, and I'm here to help.

From what you've said, it seems like you've experienced some hurt in your relationships with others. For instance, in a casual interaction with a childhood friend, you showed sincere respect and consideration, but the other person rejected you abruptly.

Furthermore, when you are with the opposite sex, the other person's avoidance and sudden disappearances may make you feel that the sincerity you have given in return has been met with indifference. This could lead you to question your own actions and beliefs. For instance, you might wonder if your kindness makes you vulnerable to attacks from others and if you are not worthy of respect.

Let's take a moment to embrace each other and explore the challenges you're facing.

It is often helpful to consider a situation from multiple perspectives in order to gain a deeper understanding of the truth of a matter.

Perhaps we could consider your childhood friend as an example. It seems that your real experience and strong feeling is that she verbally "attacked" you. This may have made you feel that you are too kind, have no principles, and don't know how to maintain your sense of boundaries.

I believe there is nothing wrong with being kind. Even if you are attacked by others, it is not necessarily a reflection of your kindness.

From a purely textual perspective, it could be interpreted as meaning that the other person is not as mature or well-behaved as you are. Despite being childhood friends with a deep friendship, there is still a need for the necessary etiquette in interpersonal relationships.

I wonder if this is how Xiaoping usually gets along with people. It seems that everyone is eager to receive affirmation, praise, and recognition from others.

If that is the case, there is no need to worry, as this is simply her usual way of being and not a reflection of you personally.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the confusion that being with the opposite sex can sometimes bring. It can be beneficial for friends, whether they are of the same sex or the opposite sex, to examine the values of both parties.

It's natural for us to form opinions and connections based on our own values and feelings. People with similar values tend to gravitate towards each other, while those with different values may find it challenging to connect.

Your experiences with friends of the opposite sex may be influenced by more than just values. It's possible that methods and skills of getting along with others play a role as well. You mentioned that the other person suddenly disappeared, and you sent several messages but received no response.

It might be worth considering whether your enthusiasm and initiative could be perceived as pressuring the other person.

There are methods and techniques to love. For example, there is a reason why girls should remain reserved. It can be challenging for a man to woo a woman, and it can be challenging for a woman to woo a man.

If circumstances are not aligned, the outcome may not be as desired.

It might be helpful to consider things from a few different points of view, to gain a deeper understanding and more options.

2. Consider ways to enhance your own growth and the quality of your social circle.

Each person who enters our lives offers us the opportunity to learn and grow. By reflecting on our experiences and relationships, we can gain insights into our own patterns and ways of interacting with others.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether your kindness is something you show to everyone, or if it is reserved for a select few.

I believe that kindness without wisdom is limited in its ability to create and maintain long-lasting relationships. These relationships require us to invest time and energy in learning from them, maturing, and growing.

You might find it helpful to read and learn, especially about psychology, and to try to shift from seeking outside to cultivating within. It seems that a person who is rich within is also rich and abundant externally, and that the whole person is full of strength and confidence.

He is not overly concerned with what others say about him and is able to perceive himself well through awareness and connection with others. When these changes occur, he is able to experience joy in his relationships. A high EQ can contribute to the formation of good relationships, and at the same time, his circle of friends can also be optimized.

It may be helpful to consider blocking those who drain you and attracting and drawing close to those who complement you.

I hope these words are helpful to you. I wish you well in all your endeavors.

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If you are experiencing feelings of intimidation or despondency, please do not hesitate to seek comfort.

Firstly, with regard to your communication with your childhood friend, this is simply a matter of habit and a method of how people interact with each other. There is no absolute right or wrong.

It is not uncommon for individuals to have different communication styles. One person may be more assertive, while another may be more passive. It is important to recognize that everyone has their own unique approach to communication.

It is recommended that you focus on developing your communication skills. When interacting with others, you may lack the ability to respond quickly or to organize your words effectively. This can be addressed by exercising your thinking and response skills. For instance, when your childhood friend comments on your hair, you can respond humorously by pointing out that she has similar shortcomings.

This is an appropriate and effective method of communication.

Secondly, with regard to your communication with your blind date, the same principle applies.

It is not possible to force others to think in the same way as you. You are hoping to be friends with him without falling in love, but the other person's intentions may be very clear and they do not want to waste time and energy on the opposite sex without any room for development or opportunities. Therefore, there is no need to feel neglected. Everyone is an independent individual. While respecting yourself, you should also let go of or respect other people's choices.

Third, while kindness is a virtue, there are other skills that are equally important for success in business. Learning how to get along with colleagues and customers is a key part of developing a successful career.

This is to inform you that I, Qingnian JIA2020, am looking forward to maintaining communication with you.

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Dear questioner, I'm so excited to answer your question!

I see your question and I want to give you a big hug! You're sending a kind signal from the heart, and that's great. It's normal to feel lost when you feel that your kindness is not returned with the same kindness. But here's the thing: is our kindness meant to be exchanged with others? Many times we may have to reduce our expectations of others. If you sincerely praise your friend, then don't care if she will treat you in the same way. You're not releasing your kindness because you want to get her kindness back, right?

When we are hurt by those harsh words, it's time to understand why she can hurt you in the first place. If she has never spoken to you nicely when you are together, then it's time to think about why we choose to continue this relationship. If she is usually very nice and this kind of topic makes you uncomfortable, then it's time to discover our own boundaries!

For people we know who encounter this situation, we are all in the process of interacting with each other. In interpersonal interactions, we can learn to take the initiative. The other person's way of interacting is theirs, and we also have our own way of interacting. Do you agree? Weixin has many professional teachers on interpersonal relationships who you can talk to!

You will absolutely get better and better! Believe in yourself!

Hello!

Why does the questioner feel that "kindness" is an obstacle to interpersonal relationships? It's not like being kind is in conflict with expressing thoughts and feelings. In fact, the two go hand in hand. The only way to get the other person to give us feedback is by correctly expressing what we can "bear" and "cannot bear."

What should you do if you think you're too kind and unprincipled to make friends?

My childhood friend came by my house and asked if I wanted to go for a walk. When I saw her, I said, "Your skin looks better and smoother than last year." She said, "Your long hair doesn't look good, and your short hair doesn't look good either."

I replied, "Really?" After that, the more I thought about it, the more uncomfortable I felt. I felt like I'd been bullied, but I didn't express that.

When someone attacks me, I don't defend myself.

If you think you're too kind and have no principles, how can you set boundaries in your relationships? I don't know myself well. Are psychological platform tests accurate?

It's important to know your strengths and weaknesses.

In the first step of the text, the questioner immediately dismissed "kindness" as the reason why he cannot make friends, because he is too kind and has no principles. But is that really the case?

There's a story about a man who lost a match, so he started looking for it. But no matter how long he searched, he couldn't find it. During this time, he complained and lost his temper countless times, constantly complaining. In the end, when he met someone else, the other person asked him why he was so full of complaints.

He couldn't remember what had made him so grumpy.

He finally remembered that he'd just been looking for a lost match and told the truth.

This is just a story, but it's pretty easy to see that the main character in the story doesn't know how to make choices or take care of negative emotions. This creates a negative energy that affects the way they think and act. It's like a restaurant with mediocre food and poor hygiene. If it doesn't satisfy me, why would I keep going there?

The questioner's behavior is similar to that of the protagonist in the story, and also like the person who constantly seeks pain and patronizes the substandard restaurant without getting tired of it. The root of the problem is not kindness. When we feel pain, sadness, grief, or disappointment, but constantly place ourselves in painful situations, we are actually forgetting to help ourselves and choosing not to say "no." Instead, we should take the initiative to change the situation that is not beneficial to us.

In a relationship, it's important to have your own principles. This lets the other person know when you're uncomfortable. If they don't understand and keep pushing your boundaries, you have to set a clear limit. This is like a red line in a relationship. You can negotiate within the red line, but you can't cross it. This is about protecting yourself and rejecting bad relationships.

I told her, "Your skin looks better and smoother than last year." She said, "Long hair doesn't look good on you, and short hair doesn't look good either."

I replied, "Really?" After that, the more I thought about it, the more uncomfortable I felt, like I'd been bullied, but I didn't express this uncomfortable feeling.

It's not clear what the actual dialogue situation was like, but the way the questioner greeted the other person would have made them feel uncomfortable. The friend didn't show any weakness at this time and kept rejecting the way the questioner responded. It's also possible that the other person's emotional intelligence was low and they didn't understand the questioner's true meaning, so when they felt uncomfortable, they lashed out.

What should I do when there's a conflict between my values?

I'd also like to discuss what values are. I was engaged in a heated discussion with a male colleague, but he suddenly disappeared. I sent him several messages, but he didn't respond. I feel that his behavior was rude and disrespectful, as if my value was inferior to his. Is it true that men and women can't be friends?

Should the man on a blind date be upfront about what he wants from the relationship? He's had a good chat with you, but if he doesn't think it's going anywhere, he'll just lose interest.

I've been thinking about relationships as a kind of confrontation.

Values are a person's understanding and overall evaluation of the objective (people and things). So, different people may have similar or different values depending on how they perceive existence and what that makes them think and feel.

From what the questioner has said, it seems like they have a very conscientious way of thinking about relationships with other people. They treat others very carefully and politely, trying not to offend them by making mistakes. However, it's important to remember that although relationships require mutual respect and understanding, they don't demand a response from the other person. Instead, they encourage a more natural approach to communication that comes from the heart. It seems like the questioner hasn't understood the flexibility of relationships and the importance of respecting each other's thoughts. In life, we often call people who "follow the rules" "obedient" children, which is how adults usually raise their kids.

But is "obeying" really the best way to help someone grow?

The answer is no. While obeying can help you avoid some dangers, it can also slow down your growth. Think about learning to swim. You won't really learn how to swim if you never go into the water. So, as you grow up, it's important to challenge what you're told and follow your inner guidance. Pursue things that make you happy, especially forming close relationships. It's not about letting others control you. Being agreeable is nice, but you should also try to have an equal relationship. Speak up about what you want and express your desires.

My advice is to not rush into an intimate relationship with the opposite sex. Instead, focus on growing yourself first. Work on your self-esteem, increase your awareness, and build true inner confidence. Only then should you enter into a mature relationship. At this point, you'll be able to more freely enjoy an intimate relationship and be able to tolerate each other's shortcomings. Keep moving forward.

I hope this is helpful for you in some way.

Wishing you the best!

Good morning, young lady. I observed your query this morning and wish to extend a morning embrace, with its connotations of warmth and sunshine, in response.

From your description, it is evident that you possess a kind and gentle disposition, rather than a strong or haughty one. You are essentially pure and innocent at heart, and your interpersonal relationships are not characterized by a multitude of intricate and convoluted thoughts. You prioritize emotional authenticity and sincerity in your interactions. Consequently, when your sincerity is met with indifference, it evokes a profound emotional response within you.

The question of how to be kind and have boundaries is a pertinent one, as it demonstrates an understanding that one's authentic self requires a robust protective mechanism, rather than merely tolerating circumstances. This mechanism can be established and gradually clarified through the recognition of one's self-worth.

In this manner, even when one is offended by another's actions, one's own sense of self remains intact. One may perceive the other person's behavior as rude or ill-mannered, but this does not lead to feelings of inferiority. Instead, one may choose to let go of the situation and find humor in it, as one maintains a belief in one's own value and the existence of one's own merits. One does not allow external evaluations to define one's sense of self, but rather allows one's own merits to shine.

The aforementioned advice provides a solution to the question of how to ascertain one's self-worth. A professional psychological assessment can be utilized to identify one's strengths and weaknesses. It is not advisable to dwell excessively on one's weaknesses, as nobody is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. Once one is aware of one's weaknesses, it is essential to confront them directly and strive to improve oneself gradually. It is crucial to remember one's strengths, as they will not be undermined by one's weaknesses. One's strengths are inherent and will not be diminished by the actions of others. When faced with the unpleasant behavior of others, it is beneficial to recall one's strengths and encourage oneself, such as "I am fine and do not require concern about the comments and actions of others."

When an individual becomes more self-aware and objective, they realize that external comments, such as a friend's remark about their appearance, will not significantly impact their emotional state. Instead, they may perceive the friend as having a blunt manner and limited emotional intelligence. Similarly, when someone abruptly ends a conversation, it is perceived as an isolated incident rather than a personal attack. Furthermore, when a potential romantic partner prioritizes immediate confirmation of the relationship, it is not seen as a cause for concern, but rather as a natural pace for getting to know each other. This ability to remain calm and adaptable in various social situations stems from a clear understanding of one's own strengths, weaknesses, and value.

People value self-knowledge, and those who possess it are regarded as wise and clear-thinking. Those who are self-aware are often considered the most powerful individuals.

From the moment you began to inquire, you have commenced a quest for self-awareness. May your journey be a pleasant one! You are a perceptive individual.