I feel that there is a problem in our relationship. He avoids communication and doesn't want to talk.
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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
My husband and I met online in May last year, and we just got married in January this year. We are planning a wedding banquet for January next year. His family lives in another city, and we work in different units. We usually live separately in the dormitories, and we don't have our own house yet. We usually go back to my parents' house on weekends, and occasionally go out for fun. We have very little savings. In December last year, my parents-in-law paid the down payment for the house, and we will take possession of the house next year. My parents always think that I am suffering because I have chosen a bad partner. They often nag me, saying that I am too good to him. In fact, the feeling is mutual. I am only good to him because he is good to me. But recently, I had a big fight with my mother over a trivial matter. This week, I was very busy at work and under a lot of pressure. One day, I didn't receive my husband's call, and I got back to him a bit late. He took it out on me for a few days because of this. Naturally, I didn't take it well either, feeling that he doesn't understand me and is intolerant of me. I feel that there are problems in our relationship, and that he is avoiding things and not willing to communicate. I don't know what to do anymore.
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Comments
I can totally relate to the pressure you're feeling. It's tough when you're trying to balance work, family, and a new marriage. I think it's important to sit down with your husband and have an honest conversation about how you both feel. Maybe set a time when you're both not stressed to talk things out.
It sounds like you've been through so much already, from meeting online to getting married. Life has thrown a lot at you in a short time. Sometimes we just need a break to breathe. Maybe planning something fun together, even if it's small, could help ease the tension and remind you of why you fell in love in the first place.
Communication is key in any relationship, especially when you're facing challenges. It might be helpful to express to your husband that his reaction hurt you, and share how you felt when he didn't understand your situation. Let him know that you want to work on this together.
Family dynamics can be really tough, especially when they involve your inlaws and parents. It's great that you have support from both sides, but it's also important to set boundaries. You might want to gently let your parents know that you appreciate their concern, but you and your husband are working on building your own life together.
It's clear that you and your husband care deeply for each other, which is why these issues feel so significant. Consider seeking advice from a counselor or therapist who can provide neutral guidance. Sometimes having a third party to mediate can really help open up lines of communication.