I fell in love with someone else's boyfriend, and now I regret it. How can I get over it as soon as possible?

Hello, question asker!

Thank you for sharing!

You showed a lot of courage in sharing this story from your heart. I can sense your kindness. You like a guy who has a girlfriend, and this guy also likes you.

You feel guilty and think you've stolen someone's boyfriend. You don't know what to do.

You're blaming yourself and anxious about the future of your relationship. Anxiety is about the future. Has the thing you're anxious about happened yet?

It hasn't happened yet, and what hasn't happened can certainly wait. What needs to change is our present.

There is a clear distinction between a boyfriend and a friend. He may have simply said that he likes you as a friend with whom he can chat more easily.

I firmly believe that having an extra friend you can chat with is not a bad thing.

You said you had a brief entanglement for a while. I want to know if he pursued you.

Or were you both involved with other people, and you couldn't let go of him, and he couldn't let go of you? You can decide whether he is the person you want to spend your life with.

You need to find out if it's love that you're rushing into.

You need to confirm his thoughts. It's simple. Just ask him directly.

If he loves you, he'll give you a definitive answer. If it's ambiguous, you need to make a clear decision and move on.

This is how things are. When you're torn between doing something or not, it means your subconscious doesn't want to do it. It's the same for guys: he likes a clear answer.

Parting is painful, but it's also a chance to grow. You've got this. This is a great opportunity for self-growth and awareness. You've got this. The world and I love you!

Dear Sir/Madam, I have read your confession and I am aware of your concerns. Let us discuss them together. Best regards, [Name]

1. You have formed a romantic attachment with a man who is already in a relationship. Perhaps at the time, you lacked sufficient information about him and simply developed an affinity for him. He may be concealing something from you, and you became emotionally invested and fell in love. This is a comprehensible scenario, so do not place undue pressure on yourself.

2. You have been engaged in this situation for some time, which has led you to recognize the issue, experience feelings of remorse and guilt, and strive to extricate yourself from it. As long as you maintain this mindset, it is indicative of your desire to make personal changes and achieve positive outcomes.

3. In some cases, relationships can be challenging to navigate. It may be difficult to determine the best course of action when the other person is unreasonable or overbearing. However, it is possible to assess the current state of your relationship with the other two individuals and explore the possibility of maintaining the relationship. If this is not feasible, or even if it is, but you still feel a sense of obligation to the other person, it may be helpful to keep the idea of ending the relationship in the back of your mind while focusing on your own needs.

4. To terminate a relationship, it is also advisable to seek emotional support from other sources. During this period, it would be beneficial to spend time with friends, socialize more, and engage in new activities. It is possible that you may meet someone new and gain new insights.

5. With regard to the matter of karma, it is not necessary to dwell on this issue. In fact, you have already identified the problem and taken steps to resolve it. Even the Buddha emphasized the importance of recognizing one's shortcomings and taking steps to improve, so it is important not to be overly critical of yourself in this regard.

Please refer to the above for further information. Thank you.

It would be prudent to consider the implications of encroaching upon another's territory. This has undoubtedly resulted in a degree of burden and distress.

However, the fact remains that what has occurred has occurred, regardless of the initial intention. It is now a matter of the past.

Please define what is meant by the term "love."

Love is a special social behavior based on personal conscious initiative, purpose, and the need to give personal time, space, and energy. (This concept is not complete, but it is sufficient here. I don't want to overcomplicate the explanation, so please understand.)

You are acting in a conscious manner and have valid reasons for doing so. If you are unable to provide a satisfactory rationale, what is your motivation?

It is not necessary to provide an explanation of goals and needs, as some cannot be put in writing and only the individual in question is aware of them.

It is crucial to actively provide personal time, space, and energy. This is the most essential aspect of love and its external manifestation. Given that the relationship has ended, this part of the dynamic is akin to idleness, which is not permitted. Ultimately, this can result in a sense of loss, which is the current experience.

To conclude this relationship, it is essential to address these aspects.

Determine the final result.

To resolve a dilemma, it is essential to have a clear understanding of the external factors involved. For instance, if you choose to end the relationship, it is important to recognise that future contact and emotional entanglement are not aligned with your personal moral awareness, ethical requirements, or expectations for healthy growth and relationship development.

In the event of a failed marriage, it is common for individuals to seek to replace their former partner. However, this can be a dangerous and unproductive approach.

In the event of a failed marriage, it is common for individuals to seek to replace their former partner. This is a risky strategy.

First, it is not possible to ascertain whether this individual is the optimal choice for the role in question.

Secondly, when an individual is in a vulnerable position, the sudden intrusion of another party can result in a dependency that may cause harm to the individual in question.

Third, if the individual still harbors feelings for the former partner, they may unconsciously transfer those feelings to the new person, which could result in unequal treatment.

Fourth, the individual lacks the capacity to initiate a new relationship.

In such instances, it is advisable to prioritize activities that safeguard personal safety, such as pursuing personal interests, engaging in reading, and advancing one's career.

It is important to note that this kind of replacement cannot be a complete substitute. A slow, gradual process is necessary to prevent changes that are too drastic and unacceptable, which could cause secondary harm.

It is important to recognize the need to break away from unhealthy situations.

Do not underestimate the strength of your willpower or the tenacity of your resolve.

For those who have not achieved the desired results, it is essential to alter one's environment and distance oneself from the previous one. This necessitates the dissolution of ties with the former environment and a refusal to be influenced by or actively monitor the actions and lifestyle of the individuals involved.

This process is challenging and serves as a consequence for your impulsivity.

Once you have addressed your past and come to terms with it, you will be in a position to embark on a new relationship.

I will refrain from evaluating your actions or describing the impact they have had on another individual. I will not consider the motives or emotions of the aforementioned individual.

I hope you can become a person of good character.

I wish you the best of luck.

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, Coach Fei Yun. I understand your concerns, guilt, and discomfort.

Falling for someone else's boyfriend makes you feel nervous and scared, but you know you're not to blame.

Let me give you a warm hug first. You have the right to love and be loved. Just don't violate moral principles. Let's take a look at the problems that trouble you and the solutions:

1. Falling for someone else's boyfriend makes you feel uneasy, but you know you're not to blame.

1) You need to be more specific about what you mean by "a moment of weakness." Did you just develop feelings for each other, or did something more substantial happen, such as a sexual relationship?

2) You say you're "upset" and "obsessed" because you're attracted to him. Do you think you shouldn't like a guy who has a girlfriend? Or do you think that by dating you, he is being unfaithful to his girlfriend?

3) You feel regretful and guilty because you "don't deserve" his affection, or because you feel sorry for the girl or the boy.

Love between a man and a woman is something that happens when you both want it and you both like each other. This is a beautiful thing. But the premise is that the guy has a girlfriend, which makes you feel guilty. You feel guilty because you've "stolen" someone else's boyfriend.

The boy has developed a liking for you as well because of your liking. He has to bear the guilt of being "unfaithful" to his girlfriend and to love.

Reason and emotion. Reason now prevails, allowing you to regain your composure and look back on what happened. You feel deeply remorseful.

Ask yourself two questions:

1) They aren't married and are in the boyfriend-girlfriend stage. Everyone has the right to pursue happiness.

2) You both like each other, and you didn't "steal" him by trickery. You didn't maliciously destroy someone else's emotions.

It's clear that he has developed feelings for you too. This means there are already problems in his relationship with his girlfriend. He needs to consider what to do next.

?2. Self-affirmation and self-acceptance: You deserve better.

In life, we are often too restricted by some rules and standards that we think we have, and thus suppress our emotions. This is why humans have worries—because we have minds.

Your worries stem from the fact that "someone else's boyfriend doesn't belong to me." The appropriate response is to respect the relationship and give your blessing, but love is unpredictable.

It may seem melodramatic, but it's simply falling in love with your best friend's boyfriend/girlfriend. If emotions can be restrained, fewer people would crave romantic love stories.

You need to establish the correct self-awareness, either by continuing to develop with him or wisely withdrawing from this invisible "love triangle." Know that you are worthy, have the right to love and be loved, and that you have not destroyed their relationship.

You must also be prepared to accept the consequences. If the guy really wants you, he'll accept your love and take responsibility for it. That's the kind of love you can't help but love.

If the other person is reasonable and stops there, just like you, it means that both of you still have a sense of responsibility and are responsible for each other and for his girlfriend.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you, and I love you.

If you want to continue communicating, click "Find a coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom. I will communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Dear Questioner,

My name is Kelly.

From the information provided in your question, it is evident that you have developed feelings for another individual's romantic partner.

At the inception of the relationship, were you aware that he was already involved with another individual?

It is reasonable to conclude that both parties involved had the right to pursue love. It is assumed that the individual in question was unaware of the other person's relationship status and that they were pursuing a romantic interest in this individual. Therefore, there is minimal fault to be found in this situation.

Another assumption is that the man is unmarried and the woman is not married. It is assumed that he is single and not in a marriage, while you are single. It is therefore expected that you will take responsibility for this relationship and for yourself. You accept this beginning and also bear the consequences.

[He has a girlfriend and returns to you?

If one were to posit that there is something amiss with the gentleman in question, one might suggest that he and his girlfriend did not part ways and then proceeded to pursue a romantic relationship with you.

The aspect of his conduct that was misguided was his decision to pursue a relationship with two women simultaneously, as this would inevitably result in distress for all parties involved.

The responsibility for this situation does not lie with you, but with him for his inability to handle a relationship of this nature or for his lack of knowledge regarding how to navigate such a relationship.

If he has a romantic interest in you and his current partner is not legally married to him or the relationship is otherwise untenable, he has the option of terminating the relationship and pursuing a romantic interest in you.

[Guilt]

It is evident that the original poster is someone who dislikes conflict.

I am reminded of a good friend of mine who experienced a similar situation. She had developed a romantic interest in a man who was already in a relationship, and the relationship subsequently ended.

Following the dissolution of the relationship, she consistently perceived herself as inadequate and unkind, and she deliberately undermined the bonds of other individuals' partnerships. During her formative years, she was frequently admonished by her parents to embody benevolence, yet she persistently questioned her own actions when they resulted in negative outcomes.

Since childhood, she has also been subjected to parental disparagement, which has fostered an inferiority complex. Consequently, she is inclined to prioritize parental approval.

Therefore, when a male individual has a romantic partner who is visiting him, it is not the fault of the female individual in question, and she should not be punishing herself.

I discussed her upbringing and the resulting character traits with her.

If love is a fair and equitable force, then it follows that one has the right to fight for it. Therefore, the original poster has done nothing wrong.

You are analogous to my girlfriend; both of you are excessively benevolent and consistently assume culpability for the actions of others.

It is imperative to acknowledge that the blame does not lie with the individual in question, but rather with the boy who did not handle the relationship well before embarking on a new one. It is he who is responsible for the pain inflicted upon you.

[Karma]

Dear girl, You are kind and considerate of others. One might posit that kindness is a choice, but it is also a matter of principles.

During this relationship, one can explore one's own identity and characteristics. Why are you afraid of karma? What kind of education did you receive during your upbringing?

[Summary of this relationship]

Throughout our lives, we engage in relationships that shape our development. Even when a relationship concludes, it often leaves behind a legacy of positive and negative experiences, along with opportunities for personal growth.

One may also choose to summarize the lessons learned from this relationship. Additionally, one might consider the reasons behind the sense of meaningfulness derived from this relationship.

1. It would be beneficial to gain a deeper understanding of the next relationship, and to gain an understanding of the emotional situation of the individual before entering into a romantic relationship. It would be advisable to avoid repeating the same mistakes.

2. The conclusion of a romantic relationship will inevitably recede with the passage of time. Some matters are left to the vagaries of time.

3. The relationship concluded in a straightforward manner, and you have the satisfaction of having maintained your personal integrity.

4: Self-love. The general consensus is that self-love is a prerequisite for loving others, and that those who love themselves will be loved in return.

5: Express gratitude for your experiences, as they represent a valuable asset, a source of knowledge, and the foundation for personal growth.

6: It is recommended that you read more. A book written by Mr. Leung Wing-on is suggested for your consideration.

Leung Wing-on: Reading, Travelling and Love

Professor Leung Wing-on advised women to pursue the spiritual value of self-knowledge, emphasizing the importance of acquiring knowledge about the world, oneself, and life itself.

I am sending you this quote, dear girl, because I believe it is particularly apt for you.

I extend my warmest wishes to you on this special occasion.

My name is Kelly.

The world and I extend our best wishes to you on this occasion.