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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! First, I just wanted to send you a warm hug from afar.
I'm glad you've asked for help. I hope my input can support you. Why do you worry so much when you learn your blind date is married?
It's because the person you met on a blind date got married, which made you feel abandoned and upset. Even though you and the person you met on a blind date didn't communicate or get to know each other better after spending time together, no romantic feelings developed between you. This shows that you might not be the best match for each other and that you haven't truly fallen in love with each other.
Even though you're not together because you don't love each other, you feel a lot of resentment, discomfort, and grievance when you learn that the other person is married. On the one hand, it's out of jealousy, and on the other hand, it's more that you cannot accept and face the fact that you have not found intimacy yet. In other words, you unconsciously compare yourself with your blind date again, and you regard yourself as the loser in the comparison. At the same time, you also unintentionally always attribute it to yourself, and the reason why you have not found your ideal other half is because you are really bad and terrible.
What are your thoughts on this?
So, you need to face it and accept it with an open mind. When you find out that your blind date is married, you'll feel a certain amount of jealousy, resentment, and anger. Even though you and your blind date didn't end things formally, you still feel like he's your boyfriend. When he suddenly got married, you felt a strong sense of abandonment.
It would be helpful to understand why you didn't feel love during your time together and why you didn't choose to be together. Once you understand the reasons why you're not together, you'll be able to accept and understand your current situation better.
What are your thoughts on this?
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I understand how you feel, it's really upsetting when someone you care about hides something this significant from you. It seems like trust has been an issue here. Maybe it's time to reflect on what kind of friendship you want moving forward and if it can be rebuilt.
It sounds like the secrecy has hurt you deeply. Perhaps it's best to take some time for yourself to heal. If he truly values your friendship, he will wait until you're ready to reconnect on your terms.
This situation is making you question the respect and honesty in your relationship. It might be worth having a heartfelt conversation with him about your feelings and see if there's a way to mend the trust that was broken.
The fact that he added you back shows he still cares about the connection between you two. But it's important for you to decide if you can forgive him and continue the friendship or if it's better to move on.
You're right, getting upset won't change what happened. Sometimes we need to let go of things outside our control. Try focusing on your own wellbeing and maybe over time, the pain will lessen.