I hope he is happy. I want to see someone happy. Is this love?

Hello. From your description, it's clear you're feeling loss, helplessness, and resignation.

You say you don't have high expectations of him, but I see a sad girl brooding alone late at night.

You are torn between conflicting emotions.

You can't live without him. He has to be happy, have someone to rely on, and be innocent and childlike.

You can't live without her, and you're desperate for her love.

You silently hoped he would mature and become affectionate.

You have too many feelings of loss and injustice that you have nowhere to turn to. You ask if this is like love, but it's more like the despair and helplessness of not wanting to face reality.

The obsessive repetition of childhood experiences is a clear indication of this.

I believe that, in your childhood, you also felt the same way about your caregivers.

As a child, you expected attention, care, and affection from your caregiver. You knew how to behave in a sensible, well-behaved, and understanding manner to get what you wanted.

However, this did not work. They never saw you or took your feelings into account, as if you did not exist.

You've experienced repeated failures, which have made you feel insecure about winning their love. However, to survive, you must endure and accept it.

You feel undeserving of love and good treatment, and you think it's normal for them to treat you this way.

However, you must understand that you are now an adult and can live independently.

You must also understand that what happened in your childhood was not your fault. You are a good person, and you deserve to be loved.

Let the other person know how you feel.

Tell your partner your true feelings and expectations of him when the time is right. Listen to his thoughts and feelings too.

This honest conversation will help you understand yourself better, so you can make a more rational and appropriate choice.

Girl, you are already very good. You deserve a good relationship. You deserve to be loved and treated well. You deserve all the good things in the world.

You can and will make yourself happy.

Hello, question asker! I'm Jia'ao Buxun.

I saw the problem you described on the platform. You said that your man doesn't understand relationships very well, that he has hurt you in the past, and that you have now made up, but that you don't have many expectations of him anymore and you hope that he can be happy. From this description, I can tell that you are suffering from a loss, grievance, and a confused and confused state of mind about your relationship with him.

Tell me, do you like him or love him in your current state?

I'm just chatting with you.

1. The person who takes the initiative suffers.

From your description, it's clear that things between you and your boyfriend haven't been going well. He's childish and doesn't understand emotions. He's also hurt you by being perfunctory in many ways. You've made up, but you haven't completely let go. You've given more in this relationship, while he's taken. The more you give, the more likely you are to be drained.

2. Whoever suffers changes.

The one who takes the initiative for a long time will always be very tired. You've chosen to quietly watch him, simply hoping that he will mature sooner and become more affectionate than before, and that he will be happy. However, in terms of relationships, you no longer have many expectations for him. This change in attitude of yours is indeed a kind of helplessness.

3. Define true love.

Love is not control or demand. It is respect and acceptance.

You know whether you love him or like him. Love and like are not the same thing. You've given a lot in this relationship, and you love him. It's been slowly worn away, but you choose to watch and wish him well. You hope he's happy and more mature. You still care about him and hope he's doing well.

4. There is a kind of love called letting go.

It's important to remember that relationships are never just about one person. If you truly love someone, you will want to give them more, you will want them to be happy, and you will be willing to tolerate and understand them. Most importantly, you should be willing to let go for their sake. This is a form of growth and understanding for yourself. People who know how to love will always live more peacefully and freely than those who don't.

5. The essential difference between boys and girls

Boys are inherently less mature than girls. This is not something that can be changed overnight. You don't have to push too hard or interfere with him too much. Give him enough time to grow and mature on his own. Don't emphasize his childishness. Regardless of whether he matures or not, you should have already given up your initial expectations of him. Choose to be happy with each other.

Follow your heart and go with the flow.

I hope my answer helps. The world and I love you.

Dear Question Asker, After reading your text, I empathize with your inner confusion and doubt. I extend a supportive gesture of affection. "I want him to be happy, I want to see him happy, is this love?"

In response, it can be stated that this is indeed the state of loving someone.

In your initial account, you stated that the individual in question had caused you emotional distress, resulting in the dissolution of your friendship. However, he subsequently initiated a reconciliation, which you accepted. From this narrative, it is evident that both parties retain a profound emotional attachment, indicating a reluctance to disengage and a dependency on one another.

Secondly, I have learned to accept that I cannot expect too much from him. My hope is simply that he is happy. When I am with him, I enjoy seeing him smile; at times, I also appreciate seeing him cry, and I am able to provide support in those moments.

I previously maintained daily contact with him, but I am now able to accept a lack of communication.

I would like to express my admiration for the image in question, which I found to be particularly affecting.

It is evident that you are undergoing a process of growth and transformation. You have no expectations of him, merely hoping that he is content, and that your own happiness is contingent upon his. This aligns with the adage that "When you were thin, you moved into my heart, and when you got fat, you got stuck and couldn't get out."

This should be your current state.

Furthermore, it is evident that those who merely appreciate flowers will inevitably lead to their demise, observing their deterioration. Conversely, those who truly cherish flowers will tend to them with care, ensuring their continued flourishing.

Ultimately, authentic love is a form of sustenance.

Ultimately, reframing the experience of heartbreak can yield insights. In some instances, the dissolution of a relationship may not be inherently negative. Instead, it can facilitate a shift in focus toward self-reflection and the identification of potential issues in past relationships.

The process of growth is invariably accompanied by a certain degree of discomfort. However, upon successfully navigating this challenging phase, one can ultimately find that the outcome is beneficial.