I love someone so much, I don't want to be too far away from her for too long, and I miss her just after we part.

It is not uncommon to experience intense feelings of longing during a period of intense love, especially when there is a long period of separation. These feelings reflect your commitment to the relationship and your deep feelings for your partner. Here are some tips that may help you cope with these intense feelings of longing:

1. Accept your feelings: It may be helpful to recognize that these intense feelings of longing are a sign of love. There is no need to feel ashamed or uneasy about them. It can be beneficial to allow yourself to feel these emotions, while also learning to control them.

2. Consider engaging in other activities to keep yourself occupied. This could include work, study, sports, hobbies, or social activities.

I believe that when you focus on these things, you will find that you don't have as much time to miss each other.

3. Stay in touch: You might consider using modern communication tools such as phone calls, text messages, and social media to stay in touch with your partner. It may be helpful to share your daily life, feelings, and thoughts, and to hear her voice and stories.

4. Consider making a plan. Envisioning the scenario and mapping out your reunion can help you maintain a positive outlook and look forward to your time together in the future.

It might also be helpful to make plans with your partner for the next time you see each other, so that you both have something to look forward to.

5. Develop independence: While spending time with your partner is undoubtedly enjoyable, it is also beneficial to cultivate an appreciation for spending time alone. By nurturing your independence and engaging in activities that are unique to you, you can enrich your life and become a more well-rounded individual.

6. Seek support: If you find it challenging to cope with the intense feelings of missing your partner, it might be helpful to seek support and advice from friends, family, or professionals. They can offer a different perspective and suggestions to help you through this difficult time.

Above all, have faith that the bond between you and your partner is strong enough to weather a long separation. Treasure this time together and look forward to creating more beautiful memories for each other's future!

Huge congratulations to the questioner for falling in love with someone they love! A two-way love is a truly beautiful thing to think about.

It's been less than 100 days since you established your relationship, and you're in the heat of love! It's only natural that you want to be together all the time and don't want to be apart for even a day. You're not the only one who feels this way; many people in love also suffer from the pain of separation. But don't worry! This is only temporary.

If you're in a long-term relationship, it's not about being together all the time. Love has more than just intensity—it has duration too!

Sometimes, if the feelings are too strong, they can burn the other person, and that can make the relationship last even less. The holidays are here, and you've let her stay close by, but she won't go home. Her parents will miss their daughter, and they'll have a bad impression of your daughter. Your parents will also miss you. But don't worry! This is a great opportunity for you both to have some fun and make some memories. You can make the most of your time together while she's staying with you.

So, the short separation is actually a great thing for your future! There's so much more to life than just love. You've got family ties, friendships, things you want to do, and your own interests and hobbies!

Life is so much more than boyfriends and girlfriends! You're still a child and a student, so it's important to make the most of your time. Give each other space to grow and thrive!

Absence makes the heart grow fonder! Separation is for a better reunion. The pain of separation will teach you how to cherish the time you spend together.

With the pain of parting, you know your heart and understand the meaning of each other to yourself. This is how you'll be able to understand and help each other when difficulties arise!

Make the most of your time apart by spending more time with your parents, doing things that will help you in your future studies and work, and doing things to improve yourself and make yourself better! Give each other a better and more stable future. Even though you're not together, you're still getting closer!

There's nothing more beautiful than working hard for your future!

Hello, I'm a heart coach. Life is a beautiful journey, not about appreciation, but about blossoming.

I feel the sweetness of being in love and the bitterness of longing for someone. I envy and resent you from across the screen, and your words not only bring back fond memories for me. Let's share and discuss.

First, it's important to understand the key stages of intimacy.

As you mentioned, you love her so much that you don't want to be apart. You already miss her a lot on the first day we're apart.

It's clear that the "halo effect" is at play in your relationship.

People are attracted to each other for a variety of reasons, including personality, appearance, and inner qualities. Whether they are similar or complementary (as the saying goes, "a good wife has no good husband, and a good husband has no good wife"), this attraction brings the two together.

Then comes the appreciation period, when the "halo effect" kicks in because of hormones. At this stage, you only see the good sides of your partner and easily overlook his shortcomings and deficiencies.

For instance, in real life, when you appreciate a "stinky man," you'll see his "stinkiness" as his "manly charm" (manly spirit). When you don't appreciate it, though, it becomes annoying.

The intense love period usually lasts about six to 12 months, followed by a longer "habituation period." It can be tough for couples to adjust to each other's good and bad points and to maintain a loving relationship without getting tired of it.

The fairy-tale love of Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang, which everyone envies, was also maintained by both of them putting in the effort.

There are a few more stages after this, but we won't get into them here. The above should give you an idea of why you're so obsessed with and miss each other. Apart from her own good looks, it's also because you're in the "appreciation period" of your intimate relationship.

It's also important to have some distance in a relationship.

"Missing is better than meeting," and "absence makes the heart grow fonder" – these sayings show how distance can be a good thing. Apart from being intimately connected, a couple, including a married couple, also has its own independence (both physical and psychological).

You have to take a temporary break from each other due to vacation or work. This is undoubtedly a difficult situation for men and women in love.

So, you'll be going back to your own lives for a while. Everyone's got lots of different things going on in their lives, and love isn't the only thing. Family, friends, your own interests and hobbies, and your original circle of friends are all part of it.

You can still stay in touch while enjoying the benefits of living alone. As they say, "If the love is long-lasting, it is not in the morning and evening." This way, you can both get used to living without the other person.

At the same time, you can take a step back and reflect on your relationship and how you interacted with each other. This will help you move forward in a positive way when you meet again.

I hope this is helpful to you. Best regards, The World and I

If you want to keep in touch, you can check out my personal website, Heart Exploration Service.

Hello, I'm Zeyu, and I'm thrilled to be here!

"I love someone very much, and I don't want to be apart from her for too long. What if I miss her as soon as we separate?" The questioner's appeal is to be able to get rid of or overcome not missing the other person, which is a great goal to have!

Reality: To do this, we can try to first accept the fact that we miss each other, and then try to understand why we miss each other and what we can do instead or what we can do. First of all, in the honeymoon period, there are countless examples of wanting to spend all day with your partner and not being apart for even a second. In this state, what we perceive is the infinite beauty and longing for each other. In this state, separation will naturally arouse our emotional separation anxiety and make us reluctant to break away from this state. On the other hand, our physical hormone levels will also make us reluctant to break away from this state.

We briefly touched on why we're reluctant to part ways and miss each other, but there's so much more to explore! Let's use this time apart to reflect on our experiences getting along with each other and the feelings we've accumulated. We might even discover some details we've overlooked, and that's okay! We can either fix them or pay attention to them.

In a relationship, "being in love" is part of the whole relationship, and separation is also a necessary part of the relationship. The good news is that we can try to accept reality and actively adjust to this change. We can also adjust the focus of attention. The purpose of this is to develop the relationship better. There are actually many things we can do during this time. The best part is that our connection with the other person is not broken, and we have not lost each other.

Finally, we can view this experience as an incredible opportunity for learning and reflection. It's also a chance to reflect on the relationship and think about how to make it even better.

Hello.

You know you're in love. You want to be with the person you love all the time. You want to become Siamese twins.

However, life will continue, and there will always be many things that will cause the two of you to temporarily part ways. At this time, you have to make the time apart different and turn it into a good time to deepen your relationship and express your love. So, you need to talk about this long-distance relationship.

First, you and your partner must agree to do the same thing at the same time. For example, you can watch the same movie or drama at the same time, just in different places.

This way, you'll have something to talk about. Discuss the plot holes or flaws of the characters. You'll instantly feel closer. Play a game, read a book, or study together. You'll share an emotional experience.

Second, you must agree on a time to share what you have seen and heard that day, as if you were together in the same place. Set a regular communication schedule to ensure you don't miss important communication moments and give you time to plan for each other.

Third, share some immediate feelings, beautiful scenery, and so on. When you see something fun and interesting that you want to share with your partner, take a photo or shoot a video, send it to your partner, share your feelings at the time, invite your partner to participate in your life, and make your connection even closer.

You should also write a short composition for your partner, send it to them regularly by email, or hand-write it and show it to them when they return.

Fourth, prepare a surprise for your partner. Make a gift for your partner yourself, calculating the time your partner will be back, and do a little bit every day, just like being together.

Discuss with your partner how you can maintain the relationship despite being in different places. Use the time apart to get to know each other better by sharing experiences.

Let distance enhance your feelings.

I am a psychological counselor who is often depressed and sometimes positive. The world and I love you.

Dear author,

You seem to have strong feelings of love and longing. This is normal. Love is a basic human emotion.

We also have to learn to deal with being apart.

First, let's talk about your mindset. What is true love? Is it only possible to prove your love for her by being together all the time? If so, your current situation is unpleasant.

You still love her, even though she's not around.

Our brains can make us feel worse than we should. We need to give ourselves time to adjust.

Try to distract yourself with something you like, new things, or friends.

Finally, remember the good times you had together and how you supported each other.

This will help you remember how important she is to you. Remember that she loves you, and you love her.

Your relationship will grow stronger with time. The winter break will end, and you will be together again soon.

Hope this helps. Best regards!

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, your coach. I'm here to help.

You seem sad about the girl, want to be with her all the time, and like her a lot.

You've only been together three months, but you already want to be with her forever.

You two get along well and she makes you happy. But you have to be apart for more than 20 days and you're scared because you're anxious.

What's your daily routine like?

Are you attached to your girlfriend? Or is it because you have to be apart that you're having a hard time?

Has she said what she thinks? Does she accept it or does she feel a bit suffocated?

You are both independent, so your girlfriend may have to go home to take care of things. You may also have to be apart for business trips or other reasons.

It's good you brought this up. Let's get this anxiety out of our hearts.

You're focusing all your energy on her. Why are you reluctant to let go of this relationship?

You worry about the impact of this separation because you feel she's perfect for you. Or maybe you and she are soul mates and feel uncomfortable when you don't see or talk to each other for a day?

If you can't talk in person because you're soul mates, can you use video, phone, or voice to feel better?

Talking about things is more important in a relationship. You may be uncomfortable and haven't told her.

Talk to her about your feelings. See if she can agree to talk longer. This will help you feel better.

Now that she left for a day, you can't stand it. Practice mindfulness and write to heal.

Write down what you want to say. It doesn't matter if you send it or not. Don't suppress your emotions.

Repression can also cause bad behavior. Many couples miss each other and act out of emotion instead of feeling.

Why did you take so long to reply? I'm worried about you.

You didn't miss me today? Things like this happen.

You need to find a way to relieve your separation anxiety. Try the tips I gave you. If they work, or if you want more help, click on my homepage to ask me questions. I will try to help you.

I'll wait for your reply and wish you well.

Hello, question owner. You say you've been in a relationship for about three months. Yesterday, you sent your girlfriend home on the high-speed train. You were very reluctant to part with her, and you couldn't help thinking about her already. It's only been the first day, and you already can't concentrate on your own things. You want to do whatever it takes to see her again, and your heart is constantly in turmoil. What would you recommend doing during this difficult time of being in love? She won't be home for at least 20 days, and now it's only been the first day, and I'm already like this.

From what I can gather, the questioner is quite infatuated. It is understandable that he misses her. He is still in the throes of infatuation, which makes it difficult for him to be apart from his girlfriend.

However, it is the Chinese New Year holiday, and although you would like to stay with your girlfriend and go to her, you still have to go back to your hometown. For this kind of dilemma, you might like to try the following ways of relieving it.

One possible solution is for the questioner to have a video call with his girlfriend every day at a fixed time for meals or at a certain time. During the call, they can talk about what happened in their hometowns, relieve the pain of missing each other, and make this moment belong to the two of them.

Secondly, the questioner might consider enriching themselves, finding something interesting to do to distract themselves, and perhaps planning what they will do when they meet after the new year. Alternatively, they could use the holiday to learn a new skill. This could be a good way to impress their girlfriend.

I hope these suggestions are helpful. At Yixinli, the world and I love you ??

Dear questioner, I can feel your heart filled with longing and anxiety, and I want you to know that this is totally normal! Love is always both sweet and painful, especially for those in love. The moment of separation seems to make time stand still, but it's also a chance to reflect on all the amazing things you have to look forward to when you're reunited.

But here's the best part: missing someone is actually a kind of happiness! It proves that you care about her and the relationship.

Here are some awesome tips on how to deal with those feelings of missing someone! You could try keeping a "miss you" diary, where you record your thoughts about her every day.

Or find some interests you share! Games to play together or music to listen to together are great ways to stay connected even when you can't see each other.

And there's more! You can also plan some fun surprises. For instance, send her a small gift or write a love letter the day after she gets home or before she boards the high-speed train to express your thoughts and love.

A gift doesn't have to be expensive, but it should be heartfelt and a reflection of how you feel about her and your happy memories together!

I've got some great tips for you! To control your emotions, I suggest you try some relaxation techniques, such as meditation, yoga, or simply deep breathing exercises. These methods can help you calm down and better handle your emotions.

And remember, this is just a little hiccup. It won't last forever, and you'll have more amazing times together before you know it!

Finally, I encourage you to have confidence! Every beautiful love needs to go through some trials, and distance is just one of them. But you can get through it together!

As long as you love and trust each other, nothing can stand in your way! I hope my advice helps, and I hope your love will be sweet and happy!

Best of luck! You've got this!

Hello, question asker! I can see the confusion you are facing right now, and I give you a big, warm hug!

I think this may be related to your attachment pattern, which is totally normal!

This is totally normal! It usually goes back to a relationship you had with your mother when you were a child.

It's possible that your mother left you for a long time before returning home.

From then on, you'll have the opportunity to learn how to accept separation from others very well!

But there's one more thing you should know!

That's right! Your girlfriend is not your mother, so even if you are apart, she will come back.

If you really miss her, you can write to her on WeChat!

When communicating with your girlfriend, it is a great idea to start with the word "I" rather than "you."

If you really miss your girlfriend and can't take it anymore, you can also give her a WeChat video call!

It's just like meeting her face to face!

When your girlfriend comes back this time, you can tell her how much you want to be together!

If you think it would help, you can also seek the support of a professional psychological counselor. It would be great if your girlfriend could come with you!

When your girlfriend knows how your family of origin affects you, she'll be able to help you in a way that's even more effective than before!

I really, really hope that you can solve your problem soon!

Now, all I can think of is the above!

I really hope my answer is helpful and inspiring to you! I'm the answerer, and I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, the world and I love you! Best wishes!

I'm so excited to see what happens next!

Hello, questioner! I'm Jia Ao, your Heart Exploration coach. I'm not looking for anything.

I read your post on the platform and I see you're having some relationship issues. It seems like you've only been together for about three months, and you sent her home on a high-speed train yesterday. You were reluctant to part with her, but on the first day, you couldn't stop thinking about going to find her. You felt like you couldn't do anything else and were eager to do whatever it took. You were torn between conflicting emotions and feeling distressed. You're in the heat of love and having a hard time, thinking she'll be away for so long (more than 20 days). You're feeling this way on the first day, so what should you do?

It's normal to feel this way when you're in love. You want to be with your partner every day and can't stand the thought of being apart. If you don't care at all, there's a problem. Try to distract yourself a little bit and don't think too much. She's just going home, she's not going to do anything. Just contact her more often and call her more often.

Help you analyze and sort things out:

1. Be open and communicate positively with each other.

It's important to understand your mood. She's not by your side right now, but you can take the initiative to communicate with her about your thoughts and feelings about not being able to let her go. Talking and connecting with each other can help you feel better. Keep the lines of communication open at all times – chat, call, or video chat – and share the interesting things you see and encounter. Sharing your feelings is the most advanced form of companionship. Then look forward to the next time you see each other. Having something to look forward to will help you not dwell on your thoughts.

2. Take care of yourself

It's natural to think about her when you just broke up. Find a way to keep busy and distract yourself. When you're busy, you won't have time to dwell on the past and you'll be able to focus on your partner. Go shopping, eat something you like, or exercise regularly. Exercise can lift your mood and help you move on.

3. Find something else to focus your attention on.

If you can't help missing someone, try to distract yourself. Go on a trip or a hike with three or five friends, talk to them about topics that interest you, and of course you can also talk about the unhappy things. They can comfort you, give you advice, and also distract you from doing the things you like. Don't let yourself stay alone for long, because it's easier to daydream when you're alone. Missing someone is still quite difficult. If it's something you like to do, you can do it, as long as it distracts you from thinking about her.

4. Keep a level head.

Of course, you'll always think about your girlfriend when you're apart! If you feel sad and can't eat or sleep because of it, then contact her more often, call and video chat more, and adjust your mindset. She isn't asking for anything from you, and you're only temporarily apart. If you can adjust your mindset, you'll realize that you still have to live your life, right? So, don't think about it, just let things take their course.

So, don't overthink it, just let it happen.

I hope this helps. If you want to talk more, you can find me on my personal website. Just click on the Heart Exploration service and send me a message. Warm regards, [Name]

Hello, my name is Coach Yu from XinTan, and I would love to chat with you about this topic.

Let's start with the topic of separation. We all have seven emotions-be-genuine-is-the-honeyed-tongue-full-of-lies-1556.html" target="_blank">emotions and six desires, and these are connected in a special way. We need to feel connected before we can feel separated, and this desire is with us throughout our lives. We are born and separated from our mother's body, we are weaned and separated from the breast, we grow up and separate from our parents, marriage is a separation from the original family... If we are afraid of separation at any stage, it can make it harder for us to move on to the next stage of life.

Let's chat about security. In Maslow's theory, "security" is explained as follows: a feeling of confidence, safety, and freedom from fear and anxiety, and especially a feeling of satisfaction with one's current and future needs.

If we grew up in an environment where we never felt secure, where there was a lot of dislike, hatred, annoyance, accusations, punishment, neglect, etc., and where we could not rely on or trust anyone, and where there was a lot of hostility, then we will always feel insecure and hostile in relationships. It's totally understandable! These experiences will often affect us until we grow up, and they will spread to all kinds of other relationships, making us worry all the time and even feel that the environment around us is full of insecurity and hostility.

We can ask ourselves, have we experienced a lot of separation and also a lot of connection along the way?

We can also ask ourselves, after separating from my girlfriend, what we can do to keep our relationship as hot and passionate as it was before.

Let's chat about emotions! Emotions are made up of unique experiences, external signs, and physical sensations. Each emotion might be a need in our hearts that makes us want to go to her when we can't help thinking about her. For example, when we miss the chance for a promotion or raise, we feel sad. When we lose a special thing we've kept for a long time, we feel angry.

As the questioner said, if you love someone very much, you don't want to be apart from them for too long. It's always a bit of a heartache, isn't it?

We can ask ourselves, what is it in our hearts that makes us want to go to her when we can't help thinking about her?

We can also ask ourselves, what is it in our hearts that makes us want to do things we don't necessarily want to do, and to go against all odds?

We can also ask ourselves a little something that might help us feel better. If we were our own best friend, what would we say to ourselves if these feelings could talk?

We can try to get back in touch with our emotions. When we feel a little uncomfortable, we can take a deep breath and ask ourselves, "What am I worried about? What does this remind me of?"

When we start to accept our emotions and let them flow, we'll find it much easier to avoid engaging in behavior that distorts our emotions due to suppression. We can also try recording what our feelings are at the moment, which can be really helpful.

You are the only one who can read your writing, so please feel free to write about your feelings honestly. This will help us understand the origins and effects of our emotions and help us to clarify the root of the problem.

We can also ask for help because if this thing is bothering you, it can be tough to overcome it on your own. Try to find a family member or friend you trust and who has always given you positive support to talk to. If you feel the need, you can also find a counselor or a support group because it's so important to release those emotions to relieve the heaviness and blockage in our hearts.

The questioner is aware of her emotions in a timely manner and has very clear values. Then, let's start by caring for ourselves, allowing ourselves to be true, and allowing all separations and connections to happen.

We can even greet our girlfriends through social media software and connect with them over the phone!

And of course, we also need to enrich our knowledge and enrich our inner selves. When our core is strong, you will be more confident, and the people around you will also feel closer.

I'd highly recommend reading "Intimacy: Finding Your Soul Mate"!

Hello there, question asker!

There's nothing quite like falling in love and loving someone, is there? It's such a happy thing!

I'd love to share some personal views with you that I think will help you sustain this happiness.

I just wanted to share that the concept of self-selection in love has some pretty interesting psychological effects.

The choice you made three months ago led to the difficulties you're facing today, and the direction of your relationship three months from now will also be influenced by the choice you make today.

And once a person makes a choice, such as "not wanting to do anything else and wanting to go at it full steam ahead," they'll find it's hard to change their minds. It's so easy to get stuck in a rut like this! It can really affect our love lives and lifestyles.

So, my advice to you is to try to separate your emotions from your choice.

It's totally normal to feel desperate in a relationship. But it's important to be careful when making decisions about specific matters. Try to analyze and predict more comprehensively from the start, and choose and be responsible for your choice.

If you take a closer look at the psychological reasons, you might realize that you're just a bit too concerned and sensitive in your relationship with this person you like. It's totally normal to feel "unwilling to let go," "worried," and "uncomfortable" when you think about being away from her.

It's possible that this anxious attachment personality trait may have started with an insecure attachment pattern when you were a child.

However, the Franklin effect in psychology also shows that, emotionally, people often think that the more they give to the other person, the more love and respect they will receive from the other person.

But here's the thing: the person who is truly willing to give to you is also more willing to love you. So, your active giving might make the other person feel entitled, which we don't want!

So, my dear friend, if you truly want to find lasting happiness, I suggest that you don't think that just because you take the initiative and show her how good you are, that it will be okay. Instead, you have to wait until she is willing to make the same effort for you.

So, it's a great idea to start by trying to calm your mind and make a few little changes, like talking to yourself.

Take a moment to ask yourself: Do you care too much about how you feel in the heat of the moment, and ignore the other person's real response? What factors in this relationship might be preventing you from trying new approaches, and do you always insist on the pattern of being the one to make the effort?

You can also seek support and help from a professional counselor, just as you would come to this platform for help. We're here for you! If you are determined to have an attachment style, it will affect your future intimate relationships.

And the great news is that there's lots of room for improvement when it comes to your attachment style. Making a few simple changes can make a huge difference to your happiness in love and in life.

I really hope this helps!